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I love them both, but I can't take it anymore!
15/f (sorry, might be long)
My b/f and best friend hate each other!!!
My b/f, Tyson, is extremely corny and sweet. He's a giant goof ball and I love him soo much! He is very good to me and is constantly talking to me (even right now through txt). I can't last a day without him.
My best friend is such a funny guy. We're always laughing when we are together and he makes me feel happy. He's a sweet heart and I can't imagine life without him.
They used to be friends two years ago and stopped hanging out (I don't know why) and this year I started dating Tyson. At first, they were fine and even trying to get along for my sake. Now, all they do when ever I bring another up in conversation is talk about how much they hate each other. It hurts to see my two favorite people fighting each other like this!
I don't know what to do, I love them both and will NOT chose between them. I wish they could see that. I know Tyson doesn't want me to hang out with my best friend, and I know my best friend doesnt want me dating Tyson (even though they haven't told me themselves, I know). I just want them to get along! What do I do?
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You do nothing. Both know they are important to you and should not want you to choose between the two. Don't try to force them on one another. Eventually thet will work their problems out or deal with the way things are. Make it clear that they both will be a part of your life and stand strong behind what you feel.
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They both want you, they both know it, and thats the foundation for their issues. You cannot fix it or solve it, all you can do is pick between them.
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You can't make them get along.
You absolutely can tell them to shut the hell up when they are nasty and that you've heard enough about thier immature hating.
The next time either of them starts to tell you how much they dislike the other, tell them this:
"I really don't want to hear about this anymore. We all know where everyone else stands, and I don't need you two to get along, but I do need both of you to respect that I am going to matain my relationships with both of you, and I don't want to hear any more bitching."
The fact that they haven't told you to choose between them, means they probably have basic respect for your right to choose your relationships regardless of how they feel. Now you need to demand a bit more respect from them: Enough respect that they not be constantly whining about the other person to you.
That's probably the best you are going to get, so insist on that, and they can continue to hate one another in respectful silence.
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