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Wayy to Young
I am a 14 year old mother.
Please do not judge me, i am judged enough.
I am still in school and planning on finnishing.
My story is, my friends father raped me, obviously he did not know what the word protection ment, and knocked me up. He is in prison, my parents grief every day, and people stare like they think they are God and its judgment day. It is very hard, i couldnt give the baby up, i just didnt have it in me. I am 7months and huge. I am scared, i have watched tons of videos on wat is most likely going to happen to me when the twins arrive. Yes, i said twins. One boy and one girl. My mother has called adoption agencies and etc, but i have turned them all down, truly i want to keep my children, granted the father is an asswhole. When i feel them kicking to the sound of my voice it rips me apart to think i would give them up. ANY ADVICE??!
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Im so sorry for what you have been trough but look im gona give you this advice and i hope you take it the right way. im 16 years old im an adopted child. My mom was also raped when she was 14 and unlike you she didnt had the support of anyone but herself. She gave me to adoption to these wonderful people and i thank her everyday for giving me to such a wonderful family. Your only 14 how can you take care of child? its really hard your a teen and look you have a lot to experience! dont give up your teenage years!
you havent lived your life! having kids must be such a wonderful joy but after you have lived your life to the fullest!
have you ever fallen in love? gone into dates? have a guy give you chocolates and a big teddy bear with roses? have those late night conversations with your bff? gone for a midnightwalk with your bff and or bf? went to those crazy teen bash parties? done stupid funny stuff? have you ever driven to the beach with your bff?
YOU HAVE A LOT TO LIVE!! let your kid be with some wonderful family! at the end they will thankyou!!
I THANK MY BIRTHMONTHER FOR GIVING TO SUCH A WONDERFUL COUPLE! <3
my parents(the ones who adopted me) have taken me to soooo many places when i was just a little girl! <3 they have taken me to many countries to visit they have given me the best things any child can have. my dad always bought me a toy everyday...but look im trying to say is that let your kid be with a family that can provide them things they need..i dont think at the age of 14 you can provide money for 2 kids..
PLEASE THINK ABOUT ADOPTION! LET YOUR KIDS HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE JUST LIKE I DID!! think about it
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I agree, you are a very strong girl to have gone through with this. Naturally, this is your choice as you are the mother, but your parents do have an influence on you as you are still a minor. Just remember your not the only one that has gone through this, you can talk to people such as the kids help line and plenty more places who are willing to help. I fell pregnant at a young age also and am still a single mother today, it helps to talk it out straight with your family, they need to know that you have no interest in giving up your babies and you would appreciate their love and support in your future. Don't worry about what other people think of you, they don't know what's going on with you even though they think they might, pay no attention to them. Good luck for the future.
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I got raped when i was little but i didnt have my period(i was nine) but all i can say is you are a strong woman and i know you can deal with the twins.Maybe talk to your parents about it?
GOOD LUCK!!
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sweety, it is all right. it is not the end of the world, but i have to say that you will have a hand full to deal with in the future. Twins are a lot of stress and babies need love, constant love and watched. I am very proud that you did not have an abortion. I wouldn't be able to give up my babies either so i know you can be strong and ask your parents and friends that you have and i am sure at least one will be willing to help and support you. Have faith and pray that jesus will bless you and your two little ones and everything will be just fine.
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Wow!! So sorry that you had to experience such acts, especially at your age. No one has the right to judge you, you didn't ask for this. I do admire you for wanting to take on the responsibility of motherhood. It is a good feeling having a bond with someone who isn't here yet!!! Perhaps you can sit down with your parents and explain to them you don't want to give up something that is a part of you. Ask for help and support in raising these children. But be sure this is what you want. once you decide to be a parent, it's for a lifetime. Keep me posted and good luck!!! God bless you.
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