I had a very rough childhood, I grew up in a household where my mother left at a young age as she decided she didn't want us and my father was left to raise 4 boys and 1 girl jobless. I fell pregnanct at the young age of 16 and have had many struggles throughout life, I'm here to help!
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Location: Australia
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Age: 18
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ok so i just got my braces put on yesterday, and may i say i am in PAIN!!! they didnt hurt the first day i got them but now my teeth are so sore and my lips are all cut. the wax has helped my lips from getting cut my teeth still hurt real bad. how long is it going to take for the pain to go away??? (link)
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dont worry, the first few days are always the worst, once they stop moving the pain will go away, you can take panadol (i did that to help me sleep better at night, works a charm!)
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this is my situation,
im 16 years old, 4 weeks pregnant i know i have options and i have been thinking about them a lot.
adoption is just out of the question if i did that then one of my family members would adopt my child and i wouldn't be able to deal with that. So im not putting my child up for adoption.
i have always told myself that i was against abortion not just because i think of it as killing a baby but because it can cause physical and emotional harm to you also.
if i kept the baby i know i would have sooo many people behind me my mom has 4 sisters and all of them including her had there first baby at 17 so i know they would understand i know they would all help me, but im sooo scared. Im a Jr this year and the baby wouldnt be born till late july early augest so thats summer i mean .. i want to go back to school after i have the baby i would do that.. but i dont know.. i mean im not sure the father will stick around my best friend is his sister i know she would help me but i dont know what to do... i really dont want to be someones mother right now and i know its my boyfriends and mine fault that this happened but .. HELP!
what would you do in my situation, tell me why and what you think I should do!... please help any advice will help me (link)
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I was the same age as you when I fell pregnant, and I was in exactly the same situation, I'm against abortion and putting my child up for adoption would leave a huge whole in me for the rest of my life. I felt that I had to raise this baby, like you I was fortunate enough to have a strong family that was willing to support me 100% (as the father had left me), when deciding whether or not to keep the baby you must take many things into consideration. When I decided to have my baby I made the choice to give up my schooling to raise him, I got a part time job and worked until I physically could, I pulled out of school and got homeschooled by my dad where I eventually ended up finishing my year 12, I may not have had the greatest education but my life is wonderful at the moment, I am in university studying teaching, working part time as the local grocery and raising one of the most beautiful boys I've ever seen in my life, my adivce would be go for it, but make sure your willing to make alot of sacrifices socially, emotionally, intellectually and physically.
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Ok,
So hi its sayah again,
uhm, so i am not pregnant
but i kinda want a baby now.
I am sad and disapointed
evern though im only 14
but still, i was thinking
and should i try and prego again ? (link)
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Hi there. I am 18 years old and became a mother at the age of 16, right now I feel completely blessed for having such a healthy, strong son and even though he has no father anymore I feel that has made me into a better person. Although I love my son and couldn't think of any other way to live my life, my advice to you would be to wait. Your only 14 and at such a cruitial age, I think you should finish school, go to univeristy and start a good career and set your self up financially before you think of having a baby. I know it may not seem like it, but it is a huge deal and a big responsibility, party and have fun while you can because once you have a baby you must learn to mature quickly and become a mother.
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Well when i was 14 i got raped and i decided to keep the baby thing is though he is now 1 nearly 2 and i am having second thoughts of whether i should of had an abortion or not. I know it's abit late but i don't know what to do to make me love him the way i did when he was born.
Melissa
x~~~~~x (link)
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My advice would be just take it easy on yourself, you've done well to have the little guy for almost 2 years, being a young mother myself I know how hard it is to raise a child, and there are times where you wonder why on earth you did it, but the results are always rewarding. To me, having this child has been a blessing, I get to see what I have created and watch him grow up into a strong little boy and eventually into a young man, I know that in the future I will be proud of my son. You need to stay positive and if you can't handle it anymore, talk it out with someone you can trust.
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i hav a 16 yrold daughter who has been living with me for 2 mth,and she tells me last nite she is 5 months preg.she is a below average student,with out a plan for the future.she wants to keep the baby and i am against it,i have told her my reason.i also told her she cant live with me with a baby.was i to hard on her? (link)
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As good as your intentions were, yes you were too hard on her. I fell pregnant at 16 years old and my then partner left me to have this child and raise it all on my own, I could never have done it without my family. The 1 thing that your daughter needs right now is the love, support and compassion of her mother. You need to both have a good talk, plan out what she wants to do with the baby and talk about plans for the future, you both might have different things you want but she needs to know how hard it will be to raise a child and plan it all out.
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im having a party tomorrow.. im not sure if im pregnant lets say theres a good chance.. um if i was i would only be 1 week ha because i had sex last sunday and tomorrows sunday.. is it ok if i drink? i dont even no 100% if i am or not.. but if i was it would only be a week so could that harm it if i did (link)
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Definatly not, especially if you are not 100% sure, even the tiniest drop of alcohol can have a big consequence on how your baby will be after bith. Alcohol can harm a baby at any time of pregnancy.
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Okay Im a 19 year old female. I just moved in with my boyfriend (who still lives with his parents) in july and im pregnant. We live in a small town there is nothing to do and I dont know anybody here but his family. I dont work because there isnt any jobs around here and my boyfriend doesn't want me to because Im pregnant. He does work and his brothers go to school and everybody takes off everyday and im here at home by myself everyday with no car and nothing to do. I've been getting really depressed lately i cry for no reason and I think Im homesick. I miss my family but I don't want to hurt his feelings please help is it something i'll get over or am i depressed I don't want to be and i've heard it's not good for the baby..any advice will help thank you. (link)
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You have to think positive, you can't just sit at home all day doing nothing, come up with things to do. My advice, go for a walk, when you go for regualar walks (especially when prgnant) it can really help boost your confidence, self esteem and you 'pregnancy figure', maybe while you go on walks you'll meet some new people. Go for a walk into town and check out things that they have there, groups you can join or other new people to meet.
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I am a 14 year old mother.
Please do not judge me, i am judged enough.
I am still in school and planning on finnishing.
My story is, my friends father raped me, obviously he did not know what the word protection ment, and knocked me up. He is in prison, my parents grief every day, and people stare like they think they are God and its judgment day. It is very hard, i couldnt give the baby up, i just didnt have it in me. I am 7months and huge. I am scared, i have watched tons of videos on wat is most likely going to happen to me when the twins arrive. Yes, i said twins. One boy and one girl. My mother has called adoption agencies and etc, but i have turned them all down, truly i want to keep my children, granted the father is an asswhole. When i feel them kicking to the sound of my voice it rips me apart to think i would give them up. ANY ADVICE??! (link)
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I agree, you are a very strong girl to have gone through with this. Naturally, this is your choice as you are the mother, but your parents do have an influence on you as you are still a minor. Just remember your not the only one that has gone through this, you can talk to people such as the kids help line and plenty more places who are willing to help. I fell pregnant at a young age also and am still a single mother today, it helps to talk it out straight with your family, they need to know that you have no interest in giving up your babies and you would appreciate their love and support in your future. Don't worry about what other people think of you, they don't know what's going on with you even though they think they might, pay no attention to them. Good luck for the future.
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17/f. i'm seventeen, and i've never really babysitted before, maybe like once when i was 15. i mean i have little brothers, but i never had to do anything, yano. & now i have to go babysit a little two year old tomorrow, and i have no idea what to do. what do you do with a two year old? (link)
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It is best to do physical activities with them, each child is different in how they are raised (you may have children that watch too much TV or some that watching is a privilege), play some outdoor games with them like tiggy, or if weather doesn't permit then play with their toys, their dolls and what ever they have, make their old toys seem interesting, perhaps you could draw with them and then later on put on a movie as a treat.
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I wear make-up sometimes and just a little, my mom will only allow that much and says that i shouldn't wear it while baby-sitting. I have lots of stuff in my closet that my mom says is "inappropriate" for baby-sitting too. What should i wear to be a good example? The parents probaly wouldn't want there kids to see there baby-sitter as an example if that is an example that has their naval showing and tons of make-up on. (link)
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I agree, there is a standard of what baby-sitters should wear when looking after other's children. If I had a babysitter come around in a short skirt and showing their belly button with tons of make up on it would be safe to say I wouldn't want her back. I think what you wear depends on when your babysitting, if its during the day you want to wear just jeans and a tshirt or maybe some nice track pants, something you can still move in to play with the children. If it's at night and the children will be going to bed then track pants would be the way to go, you don't want to look too much like a 'slob' though, also make sure if you do wear make-up that it looks natural, nothing too over the top.
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I have to babysit my little brother whos 10 what else can he do but sit around all day. (link)
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A 10 year old is going through rapid development change, he will need consistancy to optimise his physical, social, emotional and intellectual development. Get him outdoors, take him to the playground, go to a themepark, on walks, do things together. Or maybe go see a movie or the aquarium, there are many options you can do outside the family home. But if your financially unable to (as well as transport) you may result to things like playing backyard cricket or football, or getting out board games to try or maybe he can have a friend over while your parents are out.
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I'm looking to make some extra money and I have noticed that there are lots of toddlers in my neighborhood. I am going to take a babysitting class where I learn the heimlich maneuver, etc.
Other information:
I am in 10th grade. (Straight A student!..but that probably doesnt help)
16 years old and a girl.
We live in a middle class neighborhood
How much should I charge? I was thinking 8 dollars per hour, + 2 dollars per hour with any amount of friends over. Is that too much?
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It all depends on how long your there for, if you're babysitting during the day then I would say $5 per hour for all children, that way your not charging too much and the parents will be happy to have you back, so instead of lots of money just one time, your getting regular amounts. If it's at night, do the same, $5 for all children and then perhaps more after midnight, say an extra $5 - that is of course providing your not staying there the night.
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Hey i babysit 1 infant baby and she crys ALL THE TIME !! its a pain.. ive tried everything.. i feds her her bottle gave her a nap, Changed her diaper.. changed her clothes took her out for some fresh air let her crawl around. WUT MORE COULD I DO!!?? Please helppp!
Signed,
wut do i do!? (link)
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I would say that this little one just needs to be around people. After you've changed her diaper, sit with her for a bit, cuddle her, get a toy out and try to distract her, slightly bounce her so she can feel a bit of movement. If this doesn't help perhaps asking the parents what she likes and doesnt like, or what you can do with her to make her stop crying. Best of luck.
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My hair gets greasy really fast and no matter what I do, by the time the middle of the day comes my hair is all oily!
Sooooo is there anyone here who can tell my how to make hair less greasy without washing?
I can't be the only one, right? (link)
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I have exactly the same problem and sometimes it can just look bad! What I have is a dry shampoo I simply bought from the chemist, if your hair feels greasy just spray it on in the morning and it should look as good as new.
I used to wash my hair everyday but now I have broken it down into every second day and eventually it will be every third day. It's a test too see how long I can go without washing it before my hair goes greasy to save money on shampoo and conditioner but still have healthy hair, dry shampoo is a delight! Also, try and get shampoo and conditioner for oily hair rather then regular.
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What exactly are Braxton Hicks. I have been having them for the last like four days. I have only had them really bad twice. I am 33 weeks pregnant. Is it true it means you are going to have your baby early? Is it true it thins you out so you can start dialating. (link)
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Hi. Braxton Hicks are also known as practice contractions, you can usually start feeling them in the second or third trimester of the pregnancy.
They help the body prepare you for birth. There are some things that can trigger them (such as dehydration). Lying on the left side can help ease the pain and sometimes a slight change n movement can help ease the pain also, it may also help to go to the toilet as a full bladder may be the cause.
No this does not mean your baby will be premature, it is simply just preparing you.
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