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Baby? Sure ? Maybe ?
Ok,
So hi its sayah again,
uhm, so i am not pregnant
but i kinda want a baby now.
I am sad and disapointed
evern though im only 14
but still, i was thinking
and should i try and prego again ?
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Hi there. I am 18 years old and became a mother at the age of 16, right now I feel completely blessed for having such a healthy, strong son and even though he has no father anymore I feel that has made me into a better person. Although I love my son and couldn't think of any other way to live my life, my advice to you would be to wait. Your only 14 and at such a cruitial age, I think you should finish school, go to univeristy and start a good career and set your self up financially before you think of having a baby. I know it may not seem like it, but it is a huge deal and a big responsibility, party and have fun while you can because once you have a baby you must learn to mature quickly and become a mother.
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i love babys.
but u and i are only 14.if you had a baby i would have a huge responsibility.thin about school.ur parents.and yourself.
try taking up babysitting(if that came out the wrong way i didnt mean for it to be):)
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having a baby is a big responsibility to take on!! i know i have felt this way before(wanting a baby) but thinking about it I was like thats to much for me as a 14 year old to take on...yes im 14. you probley think that its not gonna be that hard but I know from watching tennagers (my age) raise kids. It's not gonna be an easy task so I would suggest waiting till you at least 20. If you have a baby at the age you are now you wont be able to live a normal life... your not only going to have to be responsible for yourself but for your child that means getting a job. Having to find a babysitter and paying the babysitter. there's ALOT ALOT ALOT of hard responsibilities that go with having a child... like I said I personally think you should wait till your at LEAST 20.
hope you make the right decision
-cuttechick24<3
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That is a very big decison to make alone. I agree that a baby is a great part of you in life but its alot to take on. You would have to get a job and raise this baby. Does the father know? It's very important to include him not only because this baby would be raised not knowing who it is but also because it would help you out major. Your only 14 and thats not even old enough to have a job and if you have a baby your going to need the money. I would ask myself if i wanted a baby or if i wanted to live my childhood until i was sure of this answer. You would be responsible for a whole other life! Are you sure your ready to be a parent?
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No. I do not think you should try again. I do understand your urges, because they are normal believe it or not.
I love babies so much, and there is nothing in this world that I want more than starting a family. But you know what? I'm only seventeen years old. Though I may think I can take care of a child now, the truth is I probably couldn't. Not without the help of my parents and boyfriend; And I don't want to put that kind of burden on my family. I'm graduating this year and plan on going to college and making something of myself. It's hard knowing that I still have 4+ more years of school left before I can start a family, but I think of it this way: I am making a good life for my FUTURE children. I want my babies to be happy. I want them to have their own home, and I want to be able to provide for them without the help of my parents. Don't you want that for your kids too?
I know it's hard, I do. I get jealous as can be when my friends (which seems to be happening more frequently) get pregnant. But I just use my head and say "You know what? I'm not ready for a baby. My boyfriend certainly isn't ready for a baby; And my kids are going to have a great life." That's my goal. And it should be yours too.
One day before you know it, you will be pregnant. You will get to enjoy the wonders of having a baby and being pregnant and you will be able to give them a GOOD life. Since you want children so badly, do what I do. Push and motivate yourself to do well in school, start a good life, find a great guy who will make a fabulous father and husband someday, and start preparing yourself for a baby now. Before you know it, you'll be starting a family =]
You know you aren't ready at fourteen I think. Please, don't be selfish. I know having a baby sounds great, and one day it will be. But not now. <3
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ABSOLUTLY NO!! please girl what are you thinkin? this might be just cause your 14 but please believe me is not THAT great when your 14, you still have SOOOOO much more to enjoy before this time comes to you , dont try to lice other stages you arent suppose to be going through im 19 and couldn't be happier not being pregnant (3 of my firends got pregnant this past years) and they say all the time how they wished they've waited and could enjoy more their "freedom" as an adult (here legal age's 18 , so they just where about to be legally adults and now they are mothers) absolutly not a good idea, also what about the fahter? seriously do you think that your 14 year olf realtionship boyfriend will be there for your child in 5 years? prbably your thinking this way cause your so in lovee etc but believe me every girlf feels this at a moment, and its very unlickly you'll end up with this guy...also think about your child...how much will he -she suffer from not having a father around , that really damages them ( i have 2 cousins who've grown jup without a father figure..) also YOUR BODY ISNT READY common your body isn't even fully developed yet!!! you still have so much of your youth to enjoy ! :D so try to stop this feelings by thinking about other stuff and really understnading that this is not the stage your suppose to be living at 14, it might seem cool to have a baby but absolutly isn't ! try to do some volunteering in helping kids or babysitting! but nooo having babies its not a good option when your still a child ! :D please give it a very VERY good thought hope you make the right decision
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listen i know from personal experience...you shuld wait!! im 15 and my son was born 2months ago. you may think you know what your getting yourself into...but trust me, you have no idea. Its hard...because its not all about me anymore, its about my son and what he needs and wants. wait til your older..you wont regret it at all
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no.
No.
NO.
And a resounding NO.
Two very good reasons why.
1) You are not capable of taking care of a baby on your own at 14. Its that simple. You cannot afford to provide for the child and you won't be able to do so alone while maintaining any kind of a decent lifestyle for some years. Theres no reason to put a baby or yourself through that when you can wait, get married, do it the correct way and have a stable family that you yourself help provide for.
2) You are incapable of providing a role model for your child.
This is more detailed. In this world, children take their first lessons on how to relate to people, how to behave, etc from their parents and how they are raised. At 14 you are not old or mature enough to provide an example to a child. Thats not a strike against you, or saying you aren't were you should be at 14. NO 14 year old is capable of doing that.
Hell, I'm 23, intelligent, caring, and still in my opinion NOWHERE NEAR being able to be a good parent and role model like I believe I should be to provide a role model for a child.
You need to be mature and old enough to be able to provide a role model for the kid. This includes being an example of providing for yourself. You need to be able to show the kid how they should behave by your example. Having a kid isnt just a commitment to taking care of them, its a commitment to being a decent and mature enough person that they can look at you, emulate you, and make you proud.
My suggestion, get a pet or something. Seriously. A kitten, a puppy, hell a gerbil or hamster. I had a friend who at 18 had the "baby bug" urges and went out and bought herself a Chinchilla. Snoopy is adorable, and gives her something soft to hug and play with when she wants to take care of something.
Until you meet the above criteria, do everything you can to avoid pregnancy. Get on BC, use condoms, etc. That is, if you can't avoid sex (I dont think someone your age and maturity level is really ready for sex in the first place, personal opinion)
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I would WAIT until you are old enough to actually take care of another life because right now you are still a teenager and you have plenty of time before you even need to think about that. Babies are a lot of work and need a lot of effort and you cant take care of another life when you are still in middle school or highschool. Please think about this long and hard because people think that babies are cute and cuddly which they are (the first 5 minutes). Then it just turns to Chaoss. Hope this helps!
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WHAT are you crazy. Of corse you shouldn't have a baby at 14. you are WAAAAAY 2 young. There's a time for everything you know. Right now it's time for you to be thinking about your future and your life. PLEASE PLEASE think this through cause having a baby is hard work. No more sleeping late or going out with your friends. PLEASE make the right decision.Let me know if i helped.
princessita
xoxoxoxo
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no, no, no, 14? gawd dam chick, take it easy. i know you might feel that you want a child now. but you gotta think of the things you have planned for the future. having a child will make those plans 100x's harder. really. finish school. look forward to making things perfect for your future baby. the more you wait the more you'll be prepared. i know saying that you want a baby and really feeling like you want one could make things so much better but it just wont help. your too young. its not ok. really, please wait at least till your outta school.
good luck in your decisions
Jill =]
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Your body is quickly maturing so a lot of hormones are rushing around. They are very intense feelings right now but you will learn to control these urges a bit as you grow.
My cousin, who was 15 at the time, really wanted to become pregnant. She talked about it constantly and how much she really desired it. I've noticed that as she's matured these urges have died down some and she isn't as centered on them. Her hormones have balanced out moreso and they aren't trying to run her body as much as they were.
Having a child a 14 can really do some major damage on your body. A baby takes a lot from your body while you're pregnant and in it's infancy. It gets all of it's nutrients from you and can deplete you of your own--which can cause you not to mature completely (stunted growth, weak bones, depression, etc).
Also, a baby takes a lot of time and energy. The baby needs 100% of you all of the time. They need all of the emotional support you can give them and, face it, you're not quite up to that yet. Try thinking about balancing child rearing, a full-time job, paying on hospital bills from delivery, and homework all in one day. You'd get so burned out quickly that you couldn't provide a decent life for the baby.
Having a baby means you're sacrificing all of you for another being. You have to alter or give up your future dreams to ensure that they will have a future. Forget having decent relationships with guys too if you're unmarried. They will know how much responsibility you hold and may even fear of getting you pregnant again; even if you stay with the guy that impregnated you he may become nervous of producing another child and there will be a lot of stress on the relationship--more reason of a break-up. The baby becomes your entire life, your world revolves around him/her.
Here are some facts you want to consider on pregnancy:
"...you thought the home pregnancy test was expensive! The costs of raising a baby to age 18 costs between $125,000-$250,000 and that's not including college tuition! In your baby's first year alone, you can easily spend between $9,000-$11,000..."
"...childcare can cost as much as $3,000-$4,500 in your baby's first year, not to mention the higher insurance premium for adding an additional person."
"Don't forget about the delivery! It easily costs between $5,000-$8,000 for a normal vaginal delivery, up to $12,000 for a cesarean delivery and much more if there are complications."
"...plan on spending between $1,600-$2,300 by the time your baby is potty-trained. Expect your baby to go through at least 7-8 diapers a day on average and spending $80-$130 a month on diapers alone (especially in the first few months, when changes are more frequent.)"
"For formula (up until your baby is one-year-old), expect to spend between $1,000-$2,300- depending on whether you use powder in a can or ready-to-pour liquids. Plan on spending at least $40 a week on infant formula."
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It's quite impossible that you can give a child a good life at this point in your life. You need to think of raising a healthy, happy baby instead of giving into your own desires.
Think of it this way:
If you have a baby, you're being selfish when you should be doing everything you possibly can to ensure your baby grows up well. You simply are not thinking of the possible child right now--you're only thinking about you. Be selfless. Don't reproduce yet. Give your children the best you can.
Give it some time. Let your body mature and grow a few more years before decided if you are able to raise a child. It's okay to feel motherly but it isn't okay to give into your desires right now. It's nature to want to reproduce but it's best to wait right now.
So, in short, it's your hormones trying to balance out in your body still. Relax and enjoy your youth while you can. You have plenty of time to be having children when your body is more mature and you're more stable.
I hope your urges calm down and you can relax a little about the issue so you don't feel you need to jump into things. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Absolutely. Your too young to be having sex at all. Let alone getting pregnant. At 14 years old, it may see FUN to have a baby, but you have NO way of supporting a child. Did you know the average cost of a baby for the first 5 years is $50,000. At 14 years old, you can't afford that. Plus, your body is not ready to support a baby yet during those 9 months. And at 14 it would be hard to stay in school while pregnant. Also people will talk about you behind your back just because of it. Think about it... Wait until your ready...
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I think the best answer would be no.
Yeah babies are cute and all, and I've even contemplated having one [I'm 20] but it's not just the baby you have to think of, it's everything that comes with it. Do you know how much money it costs to raise a child? How could you afford that? Getting a job today is difficult, and it's going to be hard getting a one that would pay well enough to handle that -- especially at your age. Not too mention it would pretty hard to handle a baby as well as your education and a social life. Would the father have an active role in raising the baby? Or would it just be you? All of these factors are important. Plus not just finances, you don't know how you'd be able to handle all the stress emotionally.
Thinking about all of that freaks me out if I were to get pregnant -- and I'm 20. You're only 14. That's a lot for you to handle. Plus you'd need help, so not only would it be a burden for you, but for your family and anyone else involved as well. Babies are great, and having one is an amazing thing -- but when the time is right, and when you're mature enough to handle it.
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