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Im looking for a movie that has a woman who works in either a museam or art place, she's blonde i believe, and it married and has a nineteen year old daughter. She starts having an affair with a blonde haired man, hair down to his shoulders, who lives in an art studio/mansion type place. Well the woman feeling guilty calls it off but the guy is nuts for her and goes to the place she works and tries to attack her then chases her around the theatre type area and pushes her to the ground and rapes her. She doesn't go to the police and doesn't tell anyone. Her husband and her decide to go to their vacationing spot and their daughter comes too bringing her new boyfriend: The mothers rapist. The mother confronts him and he says ' Your better in bed you know.' and she slaps him. latter she tries to tell her daughter about him and her and she doesn't believe her and the rapist and the father/husband go out hunting. The rapist shoots the husband in the back and chaces the daughter and mother into some sort of light house and attacks the mother in an attempt to rape her while the daughter is there saying " you suked in bed. ' or something like that. Anyway the daughter shoots the rapist and they call the amublence.

Does any one know the name of it? Big help if anyone does:)

Thanx:)

I'm not sure what the name of the movie is, and I've never seen it but I tried searching and couldn't come up with much. But I did find these two websites that might help:

http://www.lmn.tv/movies/browser.php

http://www.anaphe.org/Lifetime_Movies.html#23


Hope this helps! =)

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what does it mean when people say "thats what she said"

It's usually said after someone says something that could be mistaken for a sexual innuendo.

It became a big line because of The Office. Check this out to see what I mean:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-wf2pP7T0Y

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how can i check who goes onto my facebook?

Actually, there are quite a few myspace trackers that really do work, such as mixmap or trakzor. However, there has been no proven fool-proof facebook tracker to come about. The closest there is is trakzor for facebook, but it only tracks people who also have the trakzor application, and it allows those people to see when you're looking at their page as well. So, it's not really worth it, but if you are still intersted just look up "trakzor" or "trackers" on the facebook app page.

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okay so many people or teens these days are having sex. and me and my boyfriend had been dating for almost 3 years now but I feel as if I don't show him I love him enough. he knows I love him and we've been talking about having sex but we're sure that we wanna do it and we wanna be safe and it's our first time. so will it hurt or feel good during the first time you had sex? will the condom slip off?

I'm just trying to be safe that's all.

All of those questions really depend on the person. Most likely it will hurt the first time. If you want it to be more enjoyable of an experience, then take some time exploring yourself or ease into it gently with some foreplay with your partner. If you get used to each other's bodies it shouldn't be as bad or as painful.

And as for the condom slipping off - well that can happen to anybody. No one can really forsee that happening. All you can do is make sure he gets the right size condoms and that he applies it properly, and hope for the best.

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Okay


I opened up the volume settings hmms

I got the master volume application opened, My front, subwoofer and center seem to be invisable and I can't seem to click it and I'm not sure if it's muted or not... however the first too like the volume is all the way up and I need help to figure out how to make it so I can click the openes to the following three..


Thanks so much!@

Hmm...that's bizarre...I think you're best bet would be to click on the volume help button. Hopefully it will say there somewhere what the problem is.

Also, make sure you're looking at the advanced volume controls. Not sure if that makes a difference but it might.

Sorry I'm not too much more of a help.

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Hey!

For some reason my computer sound hasn't worked in like a week now.. and my computer isn't on mute. I plugged my speakers in and out and it still doesn't work I even restarted my computer. I can't seem to find the volume control on the bottom right hand corner since I restarted my computer... and is it possible I may have blew the speakers? :/

Please Help!


BahaiMa22

The same thing happened to me a few weeks ago! It was a pain in the butt. But I found that for some reason the balance wave volume would always go all the way down to low on it's own and would therefore turn the sound off completely.

(Assuming you have a PC) Go to the sound icon on your computer. When you open up volume control, make sure you can see the five different volumes. Make sure the bars are all at about the same level (the closer the the top the better) and pay special attention to the second one, the wave volume. Make sure it's not all the way at the bottom.

Granted this might not be the issue, that's what it was on my computer, and no one had really suggested that until I figured it out on my own. If not you might want to go to your computer's settings or press the help button and try out some step-by-step tutorials on volume control and troubleshooting.

I hope this helps =)

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well, i am 14 years old, female.

i've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for the past year and nothing has happened. i went to cuba in july until august 4th.
while i was there i got my period on the 20th.. which is normally when i get my period. but i got it again on the 14th ... i think thats kinda odd.
what could this mean?

Your period's probably just irregular still because you're ONLY 14. Or you're spotting which can happen before pregnancy.


Do yourself a favor, don't chance it anymore. Use a condom. At any age that's smart - not just for pregnancy either, for STD's and all that fun stuff.

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ok. to start off. me and my boyfriend are very sexual. we do alot of stuff. but the one that i am so self consious about, is when he eats me out. i dont smell like "fish" and i do clean down there. he just said its a sweet and sour taste which he doesnt like. i was just wondering. what can i do to make it taste good. i do clean it and take care of it. so all i need is how do i make it where he wants to eat me out all the time.

To be honest, I don't think there's much more you can do. That's the way girls smell and taste, and even douching or using anything like that can't really change it. I guess using certain kinds of sweet smelling douches can help make it smell even nicer - but I wouldn't advocate using those too often. But even still, the taste would be the same.

A quote from the Vagine Monologues sums it up the best: "Don't believe him when he tells you it smells like rose petals when IT'S SUPPOSED TO SMELL LIKE PUSSY."

That's just the female body, and guys have to deal with that. (We deal with a lot of their gross-ness anyway!)

The best you can do is just keep cleaning it with good ole soap and water!

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right, i love kissing girl(tung) but i dont no if i do it wrong or if they dont like it. can i get some tips please!??

Too much tongue = not good.
I'm only one girl so I can only tell you how I like it, but I guess that's a start. For me I like for it to start of simple and sweet. Some soft kissing before any tongue is inserted. Then you can start to use tongue - just gently though. When she reciprocates with hers you can use it a little more. Just go along with what she does. If she starts using a lot of tongue - go with it. It all depends on the mood and how intense the kissing gets.

But remember, shoving your tongue down a girls throat on a first kiss is never a good idea - not saying you did that, it's just a good thing to rememeber lol.

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Ok,
So hi its sayah again,
uhm, so i am not pregnant
but i kinda want a baby now.
I am sad and disapointed
evern though im only 14
but still, i was thinking
and should i try and prego again ?

I think the best answer would be no.
Yeah babies are cute and all, and I've even contemplated having one [I'm 20] but it's not just the baby you have to think of, it's everything that comes with it. Do you know how much money it costs to raise a child? How could you afford that? Getting a job today is difficult, and it's going to be hard getting a one that would pay well enough to handle that -- especially at your age. Not too mention it would pretty hard to handle a baby as well as your education and a social life. Would the father have an active role in raising the baby? Or would it just be you? All of these factors are important. Plus not just finances, you don't know how you'd be able to handle all the stress emotionally.

Thinking about all of that freaks me out if I were to get pregnant -- and I'm 20. You're only 14. That's a lot for you to handle. Plus you'd need help, so not only would it be a burden for you, but for your family and anyone else involved as well. Babies are great, and having one is an amazing thing -- but when the time is right, and when you're mature enough to handle it.

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ok well my boyfriend ask me to choose between one of my best guy friends and him and i choosed
my friend because i knew him way longer and then my boyfriend broke up with me....... was i wrong to choose my friend? also take in the fact that me and this guy friend use to date i still love him but he has a girl friend he's been dating for like a year

You weren't wrong for choosing your friend. Your [ex] boyfriend shouldn't have made you choose like that. Anyone who puts you in a situation like that isn't worth your time. And the fact that you dated your friend and that he's dating someone else now, and it hasn't impacted your friendship with him negatively shows that you guys should stay friends. You made the right choice. Never let a guy compromise any of your friendships.

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16/f..i'm about to be a junior in a week. and well..my wardrobe hasn't changed much. i did buy a few new clothes but found that i had enough from last year...and they're pretty good-in-quality-clothes so i thought eh. what the hell? i'll just wear them next year.
also, our family's on a budget right now..so i can't get around this. would you be embarrassed to wear the same clothes next year (in addition to a couple new) ? =\ it worries me. like what people would think...

I don't see anything wrong with that at all. It's not as if you're wearing the same outfit two days in a row, it's just clothes you had from last year. I always do that, mainly because sometimes I still really like the clothes I wore the year before. It's definitley not embarrassing at all, and if anyone has anything to say that's too bad for them. They need to get out of their shallow little world.

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so my boyfriend and I goof around a lot and yesterday he was asking me like lets just try to have sex and if it hurts i'll stop
the thing is im a virgin and he isn't and hasn't ever taken anyones virginity away so would it pop my cherry right away?

In short: most likely yes. Maybe not immediately but if he gets in deep enough it can. If you bleed after that would be a definite sign that he broke your hymen. However, it's possible you've already "popped your cherry" just by other activities.

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15/F Chinese

I'm not very hairy in general and I've never shaved in my life. However my legs have become bumpy (nothing disease like). Also my knees are bumpy. Is there a way to smooth out my legs? P.S. Lotion doesn't really help.

It could also be stubble. Sometimes you can't see it, but you can feel it. Once you shave (and use a good razor - I suggest the Venus) those little suckers should be gone =).

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What's the difference between an ipod and a Zune? I'm thinking about buying either one but I don't know what's the diffrence? Like how are they diffrent?

I've had them both, and both have their positives and negatives. Overall I'd say I like the Zune better though. The two main problems with the Zune are that the battery dies out farely quickly, so it has to be recharged often (not super quickly, but faster than the ipod's) and the search is a little more difficult, since you can't just manually enter in the name of the songs. However, it holds so much more, has great picture and video quality, and has many more awesome functions, such as networking with other Zune members and choosing different backgrounds and even a radio.

The problems with the ipod for me was that (well, aside from mine being only a 2gb so it didnt hold enough of my music) it froze up very often, and many times I had to restart it. If I looked through songs too quickly it would turn off, or sometimes it would just keep skipping songs on shuffle until it went through every song on the ipod. Ipods definitely have way too many glitches, the Zune barely has any and the price is more reasonable.

Hope this helps =).

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what font is that?

The font is called "olympiques".

If you're planning on using that on a picture, then edit the photo at picnik.com. Go to "create" then "text" and the font is there, along with many other really cool ones =].

Picnik is awesome.

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there's this song i'm trying to find. but i've looked like crazy and can't. in the beginning it goes like this:
don't stop won't stop go get it girl everyone in this galaxy just wants to see you twirl

it's a techno song.
if you could help that'd be awesome!:]
thanks

It's "Rocketships And Radios" by Nickasaur =]

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i am not sure if it was flirting considering the nature of the initial relationship (he was my teacher in a course that i just took over the summer... no school problems attached here and that is what is confusing me because he is not a professor in college just a language course i am taking) but i am really kind of interested in this guy and i want to push it...

i don't know if he is a sleezball or if he is nice or if he's even as smart and unique as i'd like him to be... but i know he kind of understands my background... all i know is that i want someone and that someone could potentially be him...
in any case he seems interested in my background. in fact he asked me about myself on more than one occasion and he seems to see me under a different light after he realized we share a similar background with cultures that have similar norms (i am not sure for good intentions or for bad) in any case i can't seem to get a chance to be alone with him (with exception to this one time and we both had to go back inside and he pretended to step out for fresh air when he saw me go out distressed after a phone call... he asked what was wrong and offered to help me with studying... but being in such a foul mood i am not sure what signs i gave him................)
i will be seeing him monday... and it is probably the last time i will unless something happens... a girl i know from that class is coming along because we need to give in an assignment... how do i take advantage of this situation???? she is leaving with me so i can't wait for her to leave before me... and if in case that happens what do i say.... and how do i know if he is just caring or if he actually is interested!? any suggestions would be fantastic!!!

Well first off - a few questions: How old is he/how old are you? Will he only be your teacher for this summer course, or will he be teaching you again at some point after this? What grade are you in/are you in college?

All of those factors are vital. Also, most importantly, were there any definite signs he might have been flirting/you could tell he was into you? Did he ever treat you differently than any of the other students? You said you never really had the chance to be alone with him, which would have helped you to tell if he liked you or not based on how he is alone with you. Before you jump into asking him out or anything, make sure there are some more definite signs.

As for talking to him, try and get your friend to give you two a little alone time. Then when you're talking to him, maybe just tell him that you enjoyed his class and his insights and what not. Maybe say that you appreciate his understanding of your background, and that it's nice because he's the only one who does (it's okay to stretch the truth a bit if you want to.) Then ask if maybe you could exchange e-mails so you can have someone to talk to, or maybe just to seek help from on other topics. If all goes well, maybe he'll ask you for your e-mail first! Then just try to converse with him a bit and see how he acts. I wouldn't advise asking him out right then and there [unless he does first], but you could keep talking to him later over e-mails and see how the correspondence progresses. Get to know him as a person instead of a teacher, and see if any relationship can form.


Good luck, and I hope everything works out! =]

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well my best friend went on a mission trip and met this guy and now she really likes him. and then today they went out together and he asked her out and she said yes! they have only known each other for a week and a half and shes only a sophmore while hes a senior!! im really upset. i think it was really stupid. shes never had a boyfriend because shes usually smart about guys but now shes making bad decisions. they started holding hands and stuff before they even dated! and i wouldnt care but THEYVE ONLY KNOWN EACH OTHER A LITTLE OVER A WEEK! and shes said YES whan he asked her out!! i just cant be happy for her because now i know shes gonna start kissing him and im upset because i want to be happy for her when she gets her first kiss and when she has her first relationship but i feel like shes giving everything up for a guy she barely knows!!!! i of course will talk to her about it but what should i do? he does seem genuine but neither of us hardly know him! if shes thinks hes right shouldnt she at least wait a little? especially before she gives up her first kiss and who knows what else!! please help :)

Honestly, I think you're really overreacting. He's asking her out on a date after spending a week with her -- I really don't see what the problem is there. People get asked out on dates after only knowing the other person for a day or less. It's all about taking the chance. Maybe they really got to know each other on that week they spent together - you can't be the one to judge that and assume otherwise. And him being a senior while she's a sophomore really isn't that big of a deal at all. It's only 2 years - nothing to get crazy over by any means. It's up to her to decide who she wants to date and by "not being happy for her because she's gonna kiss him and make bad decisions because she's only known him for a week" isn't the best on your part. You're her FRIEND, and you should be happy that she's found someone she's happy with. You don't know him, so you can't say that she's making the wrong choice. And all she's done is hold hands with him - how is that "giving everything up".

To be completely and totally honest, she doesn't have to wait. That's for HER to decide, not you. And I really don't think you should say anything, except just be happy for her. What are you going to do, call her stupid because she's found someone she really likes? That's a bad move on your part of the friendship. If they relationship goes on and you see that he's not treating her well or they're rushing into things, then maybe you can say something. But honestly, unless it directly concerns or affects you, this is none of your business. And saying anything will just make you come off as being rude, not happy for your friend, and even kind of jealous (even if you're not.)


In short: Don't say anything, you shouldn't be judging your friend like that. Just be there for her and be happy that she's happy.

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right now im overdosed. i probably wont even remember that i wrote this. but i took like 10 advil, some pepto bismol, an anitbacteria pill. i had an ingrown toenail taken out today, so ive had shots of like morephine and adreneline? soo i think im overdosed. i feel like passing out and my pulse is a bit fast. my cast fell off of my toenail and blood everywhere. my period started again today, horrible, horrible cramps. what do i take for alllll the pain???????? i cant take anymore, im already overdosed.
15/f/usa

If this is completely serious and you really want to know what to do next, I'd advise this:

GO TO THE HOSPITAL IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!

I'm completely serious. If you're reading this right now get away from your computer and call 911. You should at least check yourself in before anything gets worse. You could most definitley overdose. I don't think you are now because you've been able to compose this whole message, but if you're totally serious about this then you need to get help ASAP. Please, before anything worse happens...

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