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i am not sure if it was flirting considering the nature of the initial relationship (he was my teacher in a course that i just took over the summer... no school problems attached here and that is what is confusing me because he is not a professor in college just a language course i am taking) but i am really kind of interested in this guy and i want to push it...
i don't know if he is a sleezball or if he is nice or if he's even as smart and unique as i'd like him to be... but i know he kind of understands my background... all i know is that i want someone and that someone could potentially be him...
in any case he seems interested in my background. in fact he asked me about myself on more than one occasion and he seems to see me under a different light after he realized we share a similar background with cultures that have similar norms (i am not sure for good intentions or for bad) in any case i can't seem to get a chance to be alone with him (with exception to this one time and we both had to go back inside and he pretended to step out for fresh air when he saw me go out distressed after a phone call... he asked what was wrong and offered to help me with studying... but being in such a foul mood i am not sure what signs i gave him................)
i will be seeing him monday... and it is probably the last time i will unless something happens... a girl i know from that class is coming along because we need to give in an assignment... how do i take advantage of this situation???? she is leaving with me so i can't wait for her to leave before me... and if in case that happens what do i say.... and how do i know if he is just caring or if he actually is interested!? any suggestions would be fantastic!!!
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You're old enough to date a man his age.
You aren't his student, and he has no say over your grades, it shouldn't be an issue for either of you.
Though, I would avoid his work e-mails.
Go talk to him. Be a bit up front. Ask him if he'd like to take you to a movie.
Anything else either won't work or will have you two dancing around the issue. Wasted time in my opinion.
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Well first off - a few questions: How old is he/how old are you? Will he only be your teacher for this summer course, or will he be teaching you again at some point after this? What grade are you in/are you in college?
All of those factors are vital. Also, most importantly, were there any definite signs he might have been flirting/you could tell he was into you? Did he ever treat you differently than any of the other students? You said you never really had the chance to be alone with him, which would have helped you to tell if he liked you or not based on how he is alone with you. Before you jump into asking him out or anything, make sure there are some more definite signs.
As for talking to him, try and get your friend to give you two a little alone time. Then when you're talking to him, maybe just tell him that you enjoyed his class and his insights and what not. Maybe say that you appreciate his understanding of your background, and that it's nice because he's the only one who does (it's okay to stretch the truth a bit if you want to.) Then ask if maybe you could exchange e-mails so you can have someone to talk to, or maybe just to seek help from on other topics. If all goes well, maybe he'll ask you for your e-mail first! Then just try to converse with him a bit and see how he acts. I wouldn't advise asking him out right then and there [unless he does first], but you could keep talking to him later over e-mails and see how the correspondence progresses. Get to know him as a person instead of a teacher, and see if any relationship can form.
Good luck, and I hope everything works out! =]
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you could casually say that he has been a big help to you and ask for his email address or something, and then start talking to him more and see what happens from there, because from what you described it sounds like he could either be interested or as you said just caring but to no for sure if you don't want to just ask him is to talk to him more
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