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What can i say I'm an 18 year old girl that loves to talk. My answers come from my personal experiences. I try, so be gentle with your feedback. I'm single and I really like the ''freedom'' i guess you could say. I'm a senior, and i plan on going to school to become a film producer. I set high goals for myself. But come on, I'm young and I will party until i cant no more. I like to give advice. And it looks like I came to the right place. :]
Jill
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Okay, I'm a 20 yrs old and I adore a guy who is 30. ALSO, when I first met him I couldnt stand him to save his life. Well I've know him now for about 9 months now and CLEARLY these feelings came out of nowwhere for him. From what our co-workers say they all know that he likes me and I like him. (But I dont work there anymore) He dosen't act 30 (cause he still acts young, but is extremely responsible and truly push people to be the best that they can be) and I am 20, a college student who dosen't accept failure AT ALL but I am extremely mature. ANYHOW, I've noticed that when there was a full crew at work, he's quiet, reserved and keeps to himself, but when it's just me and him there at night, he talks to me and flirts with me and acts completely goofy. I was the manager of where we work and I used to get off of work late so just to ensure my safety he wouldn't leave until I am driving out the parking lot. But the thing is, it's like we look into eachothers eyes and there's both something we need to say but we dont know how. We've both been hurt really bad and we both are very try when it comes to this dating stuff. We had awesome chemistry and we are taking things very slow (which is good)... I'm already falling for him but I can't help it... I mean, when we're together, he always finds his way to stand close to me, and he touches me in non-provcative ways (like pokes my waists, and massages my shoulders), anything I ask him to do he does for me, he's a gentleman but isn't afraid to be himself around me... and I just truly appreciate him. He listens to me and asks me how I'm doin and always tells me to have a good night. What should I do? I mean what's holding us both back? The age difference? The race differences (cause I'm black and he's white)If I go for him, how do I get him to open up... like I text him to let him know I am thinking about him but he dosen't reply... I'm thinkin cause he's sooo shy. So please any advice, thoughts, feelings and emotions would be helpful to see whether I should pursue this him...
thats so cute. im sorry that paragraph totally reminds me of like a romance movie or something. the whole time i was ready, i kept saying in my head, aww..aww....awww. hah, anyway. to tell you the truth im kind of dealing with the same situation. given the details, i feel that things between you two wont be secret for long. you both want to be with each other. so make it obvious that you do. ask him to go places with you. like out to eat, or something corny like that. haha just dont be too corny. return the simple touches. and the communication might take a while but maybe thats a good thing. you dont want to rush into things if you dont really know his true feelings for you. things will turn out well. just play it right.
Alright.. basically me and my boyfriend have been together over a year, then he moved to florida to go to college, i lived here still in new york.. we tried to be together, he couldnt put forth the effort to even talk to me, and this was us trying to work our a long distance relationship. then we broke up, ididnt talk to him for a few weeks, then a couple weekends in a row i got drunk with his friends that still lived here, and ended up texting him and talking to him on the phone.. so ya, then he ended up getting into two car accidents down there, made me care for him completely, on account last year i lost my best friend.. i dont ever wanna let anyone out of my life i care for. he recently a month ago ended up coming home cause things didnt work for him there, we're together again. My feelings are different.. i think its cause i am really hurt, by him just leaving, the little things he did.. before he left things were basically perfect though. anyways... when ever we dont hang out, i want to fight with him, like iwant to. Even about nothing, its not healthy i know.. we've kinda talked about things..but i think in me, i feel like i fight with him cause the things he did to me, he deserves it, but hes treating me good..
idk really, what should i do?
if you really don't feel things between you two are going well, than follow your gut. nothing is more true than that gut feeling. and if all you want to do is fight with him when he's not around, its just going to lead your life into stress. that's not worth it. just don't let go to fast if you think you guys could work. i know its confusing but your decision will come to you in time.
best wishes,
Jill
My 16 year old daughter has been diagnosed with and is being treated for depression. Over the past two months she has missed a lot of school because of being sick, which she recently confided to me was self-induced. She says she wanted to stay home so badly that she willed her body to become ill. Is this possible? I want to help her but I don't know how. She's already on medication and has been seeing a counselor. She used to self-harm (cutting & burning) but to my knowledge has stopped. With the schools new attendance policy, her grades are being docked for every day over the attendance limit she misses and I can't put her on homebound if she isn't really sick.
its not easy being in depression. and its definitely not easy being the mother in the situation. you've done what you can by helping with medication, and a counselor. Although, try not to shower her with love. She knows that you love her. You need to give her space, and time. This is coming from a 17 year-old girl who was in depression 2 years ago. Don't shower her, just let her know that your there, and you will never leave. it is possible that because her absences are so high that she could fail every grade. and could be held back. but this will be a stepping stone for her. i know no one wants to stay in the same grade for 2 years in a row. she needs to know that if she stays home, misses school, fails her grades, and stays back, that she will not only loose her friends her age, but will also affect her future life(as in college). I have also heard that if the mind constantly thinks over and over that it's ill, it will become ill over time. and could very well cause extreme harm the body because of the stress. it is not good for her to think this way. try to keep her in a good environment. and away from the bad things in life. but remember you cant shield her from the world. she's a teenager and all she wants to do is be left alone. just remember this. i know you were a teen once. :/
best wishes,
Jill
I made some little boxes for my family (mum, dad, sister who is 13) and I was planning on putting some of their favourite chocolates etc in there for a christmas present for them. I was thinking about it and I don't know whether that would be a sensible present anymore because we will be eating chocolate and lots of food on christmas anyway. The boxes look really really good (about the size of a little chinese takeaway container) so I still want to us the boxes, but what can I buy them instead? :S
maybe like a gift card to their favorite store.(?) with the chocolate( cause everyoneee loves chocolate :])
Jill
15/female
well i've always been surrounded by gay people, my moms gay all her friends are gay and most of my friends are gay. I have this boyfriend but i'm not very attracted to him, hes great sweet romantic the whole package but i dunno he can drive me crazy but its by touch not really by him. At school i used to check out girls with my friends, lesbians and straight guys, as a joke, except now i'm really noticing them. I really wanna grab some around the waist and sometimes i do but not for long so it won't seem gay. I love the curve from the back to the ass and the boobs and the legs the face and the way whenever they kiss someone their hair hides their faces.... i never saw myself as gay and i'm totally open minded about it but being gay would make my life so complicated, especially since my boyfriend is someone i really care about, what should i do?
please help me
you could very well be. but you could never really be sure. you might just be bi-curious. a lot of people have this problem, especially in your case, where there's people around you that are comfortable to express their sexuality. whether you think it or not, the subconscious is telling you that women are attractive because of your home, and school environment. whats funny is, I've recently had this problem. and i found out that I'm bisexual. to me there's no problem being gay, straight or bi. the way i look at it is, there's too sexes; female, and male. why not love em both? of course I'll leave you to your decision because nobody can make it for you. but you have to realize, if your feeling is only through sexual attractiveness, that could lead to problems.
About your boyfriend. before you break off any relations between you too (if you decide to) realize that he may have very strong feelings about you. and you cant be selfish, you need to be upfront and honest with him. hiding things can only lead to worse, and worse, and worse problems. this is my heart speaking. think about it. and maybe test out your feelings.
any questions let me know. and good luck :]
I was diagnosed with fibrocystic breasts (sp?). A couple of months ago I had noticed a few new lumps that haven't gone away, but haven't really changed size or shape either.
I'm assuming they are also cysts, but should I and get them checked out just in case? Am I supposed to do that with each new lump I get?
And also, when I was diagnosed, all the gyno did was give me a breast exam using her hands. I never had a mammogram or a needle aspiration done. I'm 17 so I'm pretty sure its not cancer, but should I request to get a mammogram or aspiration done, or should I just trust the doctor knows what she's doing?
Oh and I have completely eliminated caffiene from my diet, because I know it causes you to get more lumps, and I also know these lumps aren't menstrual cycle associated because they haven't gone away.
I would go see a doctor for each lump if it doesn't go away in a few days or so. Just because you are 17 doesn't mean you aren't still vulnerable to diseases such as cancer. it is very possible. so yes, get them checked out if it doesn't go away, and i would suggest a mammogram. You cant always trust your doctor, they make mistakes just as easily as we do. good luck :]
what does DISCLAIMER mean? i've looked it up on dictionary.com and everything but the definition they gave me doesnt really give me an exact idea of what it means.
:)
denial of any connection with or knowledge of :]
So my boyfriend loves sex, i mean what guy doesn't don't get me wrong i love sex to hah, a lot. Lately i have been thinking though i mean i love sex but i watch these movies and shows and stuff and the movies have the people 'making love' not having 'sex'. I've been thinking about it more and more and i want to make love so bad. My boyfriend is the kinda guy that talks dirty and stuff during sex, i don't know how to explain what im trying to say but i guess i just want to be more romantic then it is i mean the sex is great its just i want to feel that romantic connection that i see on movies and such with making love. My boyfriend likes doing everything and anything and he just doesn't seem like he would be the romantic kind during sex he's more like the 'porn star' kind. IM sorry i don't know how to explain this.. i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me i just want to feel more connected when we have sex instead of just fucking and then thats it, like we don't really say much after we just put our clothes on and thats it hah. How can i get my boyfriend to be more connected? What should i do about this? Any advice?
you need to tell him. trust me hiding this emotion will only lead to breaking the relationship. all you need is a little tender love and care from your man. and you need to tell him in a way that would let him know the sex is great but you want that connection. that sometimes you'd rather make love, than just fuck. make sure you tell him the sex is great..they like that haha. just dont hide your emotions. its funny cause my cousin just broke up with her boyfriend for the exact same reason. he just didn't get it. theres more to having sex than ''the motion in the ocean'' . tell him to not talk during sex hah..unless you like it. haha and make sure its on a night where he can sleep over(or someplace you can sleep over) and actually TELL him he's spending the night, just the two of you. i dont know, make it seem romantic.
i've seen too many love movies :/
Jill :]
theres this boy that has been trying to get with me for a long time now and every time i turned him down, all his friends kept trying to hook us up. but finally yesterday i told him that i liked him and now today he is acting all cocky saying stuff like "everyone loves me" and "not sure about her anymore" its really starting to piss me off, the thought that he could of used me.
its sounds to me that he's very into the girls that are hard to get. since he thinks (or thought) that you didnt like him, that triggered something in his little dumb guy brain that makes you seem like a challenge to him. im not saying your not a challenge, i just think you should maybe try to seem not interested in him to show him that not everyone is in love with him. (im not :D) haha
let me leave you with this. guy's play mind games. sometimes worse than girls. since i dont know your age i couldn't say..well...you know what?..i'll say it..ALL GUYS ARE IMMATURE. and they think their superior to women. so dont fall for his games. your smarter than that.
jeez i feel like a mother. haha hope i helped :]
so for the past 2 weeks ive been eating completly healthy. all fruits, veggies, protein only. anyways this weekend i wanted to have a bad weekend since it was thanksgiving. i ate so much food at thanksgiving and when i got home i felt like i just needed more?! so when i got home i ate 4 of my moms home made brownies even after i had tons of food and deserts at our thanksgiving dinner! i just indulged completly! the next day, well tonight anyways, i went out to lunch and out to dinner with my friends and afterwards just about an hour ago i was watching movies eating candybars and chips all night!!!
am i going to be a fat cow tomorrow morning from all of thiss?? am i going to gain any weight??
i mean i did eat a tonnnnnn!?!?!?
haha no you wont gain it all at once but if you continue to eat like this all the time, then yes. you will gain. just work it off. exercise is key, and its just as important as a good diet.
btw i have a similar diet and i pigged out on Turkey Day too. come on, its Thanksgiving you gottaaaaa eat a lot. its mandatory. haha :]
I don't really know about what category to put this in...
i hope it's alright as it is.
ok,
I don't like masturbation at all.
It doesn't make me wet.
It doesn't even turn me on.
Is this weird??
Is something wrong with me?
P.S: some people say it's healthy... is that true?
P.S.S: yes. I've had sex.
[don't know if you needed to know that, just thought i'd put it out there.]
no its definitely not weird. im a chick and i dont like masturbation either. i guess its a selective thing?
Jill=]
I have had way too many boyfriends to count. It's my problem too. Boys like me, and I like boys... but as soon as we start dating its like I pick out all their imperfections without meaning to. I'm now with my 12th or 13th boyfriend. He's really nice, but he never calls me or asks me out places, and when I call him or I invite him places, we never have anything ot talk about. He's kind of boring... I hate breaking it off with guys when they didnt do anything wrong. Is it my fault for wanting a certain type? Should I stay with him and see if things get better?
Thanks
Elise 15/f
i feel like you should give it at least a little more time. even if you think he's boring now, he might actually just be really nervous or shy. once you two hang out more and talk, he'll get more comfortable with you. if you break it off too early you'll never really get to know the true him and you might actually like the true him.
but then again if your gut tells you that he's just a normal boring guy..then break it off. always trust your gut. its almost always right. and theres more than just one fish in the sea.
Best of luck
Jill =]
Ok,
So hi its sayah again,
uhm, so i am not pregnant
but i kinda want a baby now.
I am sad and disapointed
evern though im only 14
but still, i was thinking
and should i try and prego again ?
no, no, no, 14? gawd dam chick, take it easy. i know you might feel that you want a child now. but you gotta think of the things you have planned for the future. having a child will make those plans 100x's harder. really. finish school. look forward to making things perfect for your future baby. the more you wait the more you'll be prepared. i know saying that you want a baby and really feeling like you want one could make things so much better but it just wont help. your too young. its not ok. really, please wait at least till your outta school.
good luck in your decisions
Jill =]
ok im gunna be straight forward..when i put a tampon in i have really bad pains in my stomach n side..y do i have these pains? it really hurts! please help
your probably putting it in wrong. and if your nervous about putting it in that could cause the pains also. when your worried about putting it in right, you get nervous and put it in at the wrong angel. i know it sounds weird but just relax and just put it straight up. =/ i used to have this problem. just relax. and if that doesnt help you might be using the wrong size. and if that doesnt help, its time to visit your doctor.
hope i helped!
Jill =]
Ok well, this isnt excetly under the right category.
There is no Film category.
Well. This is for all you film fanatics out there.
I watched a movie. On Film 4 I think its was. In like May time...
I cant remeber the name, its driving me crazy!
It had the word lies in it. If that helps.
It was about a few teenagers at a college/university campus. It went around looking through the eyes of 2 or 3 different teenagers
in the film.
One of them was obsessed with his ex-girlfriend and f***s any girl he can, although it dnt help him. He also tried to kill himself, he tries hanging for his light cord - it just breaks. He tries med overdose, he jus falls asleep and wakes up with a wet bed...
Oh he also says (when his ex-gf finds him f**king another girl "I was only f***ing her because im in love with you" (if that helps).
Ill try to ask any questions if youve got an idea of what the film is.
Sorry to be awkard by the way.
Thanks!
Vikki
oh shit! i saw this movie a little while ago too. im really sorry but i dont remember the name. is it the movie where, when he wakes up from attempting suicide he puts fake blood on his neck and stuff? i dont know why but ''rules of attraction'' keeps popping up in my head. i know what your talking about but i cant remember. sorry. now this is going to bug me too. lol..if you find out let me know!
ok me and my best friend dated the same guy and now we like really hate him and i need a song that i can play for him that will tell him how much i hate him plz help!!!!
xpoetx
Im thinking of so many songs but this is the best one i can come up with''hate''-Plain White T's.
I smoked weed about 6 weeks ago and today I took a drug test. It was my first time to ever do it. Do you think it's still in my system or not? I have a fast metabolism and I drink a lot of water, I heard that makes it get out faster. Thanks.
It only takes about a month to get it out of your system. And drinking a lot of water or cranberry juice clears out your system.
>>>Jill
I need some really GOOD, HATEFUL songs about someone betraying you! THANKS. :)
--Pain-Three Days Grace =]
--Ya'll want a single-Korn =]
--Foolish-Ashanti =]
idk wut kinda music you like so..yea..just some suggestions.
>>Jill
IS it possible for someone to fall in love in over 4 months of dating???
P>S we knew each other for a year in school
it deffinitaly is possible. i knew this dude before in school and i really liked him and he liked me, but we both didnt know it! until he moved..but we started goin out an after like 3 months i knew he was the one. So it is possible, just be careful, and dont get hurt.
Ok so theres this girl at my school. (i'm going into the 11th grade by the way) Well, she use to be friends with my two best friends and me. Let me tell you about her. I meet her in the 9th grade. I thought she was nice and innocent you know nothing bad but in the 9th grade I noticed she would lie. I thought nothing of it of course because i really didn't know her that well. In the 10th grade things all changed. She LIED even more. About things that she didn't even have to lie about and this one time she lied to one of our friends and he thought I was the lier. She cheated on her boyfriend with his best friend. She calls her 'best friend' a bitch behind her back. She copies EVERYONE. She trys to be preppy one day then skater the next and she steals my words. She lies to our faces. (we know this for sure) She makes fake profiles on myspace and talks to her 'friends' on there. Shes immature. She'll laugh at the word toliet really loudly. We didn't like how she was like this so we decided to tell her the truth. We didn't go all crazy on her, we just had a talk. She tells us that shes glad she told us. Then she goes and says that she didn't ask for our opinion and blah blah. Well you would want the truth right? She started hiding from us even though we still wanted to be friends. So we decided to have another talk with her and i told her a couple hours before it happened that we were going to have a talk and there she goes and trys to run away. We all went into a group and had a talk. My best friends and me aren't friends with eher anymore but even though we aren't shes still a problem. She still copies us and she doesn't even like us either. Shes pretty pathetic. Oh yeah, and i don't want to hear that coping is good because it isn't AT ALL. If your trying to be unquie it doesn't help if someone is taking it away from you and your credit for it. We were over her about a month ago until we started seeing stuff that she had written of us. She doesn't know how to get over things. Shes a obessed person. Not only with us but with ex-boyfriends as well. Shes also friends with some of our friends and because of what has happened are friendship with them has chaged. What should we do?
Hey, im going into 11th grade too, and i had a similar problem, but not as bad. i had been friends with this person since 1ST grade..and as soon as we got into 9th grade its like she was imitating everybody and lieing ALLLL the time. Like, one time she brang in this kind of tea..and said it was alcohol, and she was saying how ''tipsy'' she was a sh*t..it got really annoying and she lost a lot of friends that we're my friends too. But only cuz she got out of control. Which sounds like the girl your talking about. It sounds like she has nothing better to do then try to screw around with your life and make it worse. Its immature and the best thing you can do is ignore it. Because when you get angry or pissed off, thats where she gets her feedback from. She probably thinks it fun. Her talking sh*t and writing things about you guys and just being completly pathetic, is her way of trying to annoy you. Dont even let it bother you, because you know her problem, and you know your the better person.