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this girl
Ok so theres this girl at my school. (i'm going into the 11th grade by the way) Well, she use to be friends with my two best friends and me. Let me tell you about her. I meet her in the 9th grade. I thought she was nice and innocent you know nothing bad but in the 9th grade I noticed she would lie. I thought nothing of it of course because i really didn't know her that well. In the 10th grade things all changed. She LIED even more. About things that she didn't even have to lie about and this one time she lied to one of our friends and he thought I was the lier. She cheated on her boyfriend with his best friend. She calls her 'best friend' a bitch behind her back. She copies EVERYONE. She trys to be preppy one day then skater the next and she steals my words. She lies to our faces. (we know this for sure) She makes fake profiles on myspace and talks to her 'friends' on there. Shes immature. She'll laugh at the word toliet really loudly. We didn't like how she was like this so we decided to tell her the truth. We didn't go all crazy on her, we just had a talk. She tells us that shes glad she told us. Then she goes and says that she didn't ask for our opinion and blah blah. Well you would want the truth right? She started hiding from us even though we still wanted to be friends. So we decided to have another talk with her and i told her a couple hours before it happened that we were going to have a talk and there she goes and trys to run away. We all went into a group and had a talk. My best friends and me aren't friends with eher anymore but even though we aren't shes still a problem. She still copies us and she doesn't even like us either. Shes pretty pathetic. Oh yeah, and i don't want to hear that coping is good because it isn't AT ALL. If your trying to be unquie it doesn't help if someone is taking it away from you and your credit for it. We were over her about a month ago until we started seeing stuff that she had written of us. She doesn't know how to get over things. Shes a obessed person. Not only with us but with ex-boyfriends as well. Shes also friends with some of our friends and because of what has happened are friendship with them has chaged. What should we do?
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Ignore her. She can obviously see that by copying you guys it bothers you. She probably thinks she's being funny about it. If you ignore what shes doing & don't let it get to you guys, she'll probably drop it. It is almost like dealing with a child. She is acting like one & being completely immature about the whole situation. Maybe she felt that even though you guys talked it out, you ganged up on her without meaning to?? I mean, it obviously is all of your friends & yourself against her. I'm not saying she has any reason to lie or betray your trust, because she doesn't, but she might actually need help. Not everyone is able to make friends easily and be sociable. She might have trouble making friends & feels that she needs to lie. It would probably be a bad decision to even try talking to her about it. Let it go & move on from the situation. You all tried to be her friend & it didn't work out. Not saying you do this, but don't trash talk her either. It would be better & a lot more mature for you guys to just ignore it & not say anything about her. That would show her & others that you are over the situation & are being adult about it. The whole ex boyfriend thing is ridiculous though. They are ex's so just let it go. As long as she isn't chasing your recent bfs, let it go. Revenge is always fun, but definitely not the mature way to go about things. So just ignore it & let her do what she wants. She's her own person & if she feels that she needs to copy people, then that's her decision. Not yours & you won't be able to stop it, so ignore it.
-hope that helped!♥
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Hey, im going into 11th grade too, and i had a similar problem, but not as bad. i had been friends with this person since 1ST grade..and as soon as we got into 9th grade its like she was imitating everybody and lieing ALLLL the time. Like, one time she brang in this kind of tea..and said it was alcohol, and she was saying how ''tipsy'' she was a sh*t..it got really annoying and she lost a lot of friends that we're my friends too. But only cuz she got out of control. Which sounds like the girl your talking about. It sounds like she has nothing better to do then try to screw around with your life and make it worse. Its immature and the best thing you can do is ignore it. Because when you get angry or pissed off, thats where she gets her feedback from. She probably thinks it fun. Her talking sh*t and writing things about you guys and just being completly pathetic, is her way of trying to annoy you. Dont even let it bother you, because you know her problem, and you know your the better person.
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