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when to break it off...
I have had way too many boyfriends to count. It's my problem too. Boys like me, and I like boys... but as soon as we start dating its like I pick out all their imperfections without meaning to. I'm now with my 12th or 13th boyfriend. He's really nice, but he never calls me or asks me out places, and when I call him or I invite him places, we never have anything ot talk about. He's kind of boring... I hate breaking it off with guys when they didnt do anything wrong. Is it my fault for wanting a certain type? Should I stay with him and see if things get better?
Thanks
Elise 15/f
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I would talk it out one day when you do spend time together. Because maybe the reason why you don't talk is because you have all of these potential, negative thoughts running a marathon through your mind at any other time.
Once you get through the hard stuff, it becomes natural to everything else. But give it more time, discuss how you feel that he never calls or asks you to go places.
A lot of the time, boys/guys need to have these things pointed out to them. They don't ever really know about girls/women. Other than we seem impossible and hard to please.
But guys our age, WOW...sometimes it is just a wait-a-while-then-try type of game." But honestly if this doesn't work out...I would take a break from guys and think about getting myself established for the future [[school]]. So I have a place to show my man when I'm older ha ha...Well if I EVER find him ha ha!
-KD/f/15
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i feel like you should give it at least a little more time. even if you think he's boring now, he might actually just be really nervous or shy. once you two hang out more and talk, he'll get more comfortable with you. if you break it off too early you'll never really get to know the true him and you might actually like the true him.
but then again if your gut tells you that he's just a normal boring guy..then break it off. always trust your gut. its almost always right. and theres more than just one fish in the sea.
Best of luck
Jill =]
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Elise,it's not a bad thing to have a lot of boy friends at your age.I even did it when i was your age.Crushes come and go when you're young that's just how life is.But...picking out boys imperfections is not good but can be easily fixed.Everyone has imperfections you,me and every person you'll ever come across.The key to a strong relationship is to look past the imperfections,instead look at the good quailties this boy has instead of the bad.Try and remember why you went out in the first place and think of the good things he does for you.Every girl has a certain type of guy they like to date and going out with a bunch of boys is just one way to find what type of boyfriend you would most likely to be happy dating.Ask yourself does he remember things you tell him?Does he respect you,your family, and friends?Or does he make you laugh amd he's fun to chill with or to talk too.And one reason why he may not call you as much as you would like or ask you out is because he may be a little scared that he's not good enough for you.Calling you may frighten him and going out on a date may just freak him out.Next time you ask him to go out, go with a group of friends you both share that way there will always be something to talk aboutand he won't feel so much pressure.~good luck rae141307
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I'd like to suggest that your problem is not ending a relationship too soon, it's starting them too soon.
Not every guy you date once or twice should be called a boyfriend. Most of the guys I've dated never got to the boyfriend stage with me! Give yourself permission to take some time to find out if you want to see someone exclusively and you'll find that your number of 'boyfriends' is drastically reduced.
It's not your fault for wanting a certain type, it's your fault for rushing into a 'relationship' when what you are actually doing doing is just dating about and finding out what the type you want is!
So, change the way you are looking at boys. Dating is one thing, a boyfriend is something else. Seperate the two.
As for this praticular guy, just dump him now. It is difficult to dump someone when they have done nothing really wrong, but you have to remember that the perfect guy might not be the perfect partner for you. It's all about compatability and dating this person isn't working, so end it.
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hmm
the best thing i could suggest is u talk 2 him about it
but if you do decide 2 split (fingers crossed you dont) but in future get to know a bpy a lil more maybe be friends for a year or 2 get to know what they like what their feelings are like.
hope u succeed
bye and good luck (Y)
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Well, if he bores you, and you're not interested in him, you should break it off. Its not that either of you did anything wrong, its more like you guys don't click together. Most people have their "type". It's not uncommon at all. Just figure out what you want in a guy and look from there.
Good luck :)
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