Hmm, about myself. Well, I'm sixteen years young and for my young age I've been through quite a lot. I can relate to many different people. Giving advice is one of three things I'm very good at. I'm a Junior in high school and i love being with people. I'm the drum major at my high school for marching band, and a starter on our varsity softball team. I hope to be a psychologist when I'm older, so I really enjoy giving advice. Ask me anything and i'll do my best to help :)
E-mail: ditzychiky13@yahoo.com
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Age: 16
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my kind of boyfriends dad passed like a year and a half ago and i think they r having a memorial for him this weekend.
he said he may ot be able to hang bc he has a tough weekend. and i asked me if i knew about his family (which i did) and i just feel so bad. and i want him to know im here for him but i dotn want to be annoying like eveyrone was to him. what can i text him or say to him so he knows im here for him? and he knows im legit, not just hav pity on him? (link)
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Well, losing your father is the hardest. Four years ago I lost mine. This weekend is my birthday, but it would also have been his. So, i'm having a tough weekend. I personally loved it if someonewould ask me how i was. When you talk to him, just tell him that you're there for him. Tell him its out of love, not pity. Dont be mad if he snaps at you at all this weekend, because that could unintentionally happen. Also tell him if that if he needs to talk about anything, you'll listen. Death is the hardest thing to overcome. Its always nice to know someones there for you.
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i'm 16 and about to start my jr. year in high school.my whole life i've played sports everything from tennis,soccer,basketball, and lacrosse.i had this dream ever since i can remember to play a sport in college and to repersent the U.S. on a national team.i've been playing lacrosse for three years now and i want to play in college D1 or D2 i also want to be on the U.S. 19 and under team for women's lacrosse but i don't know how to get there or the people to talk to about following my dreams.my city just got lacrosse as a sport so we aren't that good and our coaches don't really know the game so we don't win a lot.on the bright side i'm really good at and lacrosse and it saved my life so not playing in college would be like not living.everyone that i've talked too has told me that i can't play lacrosse at a D1 or D2 college bc i come from a bad team and they think i'm not good enough.but they are wrong i have the drive the heart and talent to play at this leave bc i've played against girls who went D1 and D2 and had no problem scoring or defending them.i'm scared that coaches will not even consider me for their team because my team is really really bad.i don't want to give and i know i won't but i need to know who i should talk to so i can follow my dreams.i think that sometimes coaches in college may over look bad teams even though there might be a few players on the team that could make and break records,win NCAA titles and become all-americans if they were ever given the chance too.i play on a travel team during the fall and summer and scouts are there but i need to know how else i can get coaches to see me for the player that i am and not my high school team's games.(please help me,everyone has dreams and not everyone follows them.i don't want to be the person that makes that same mistake) (link)
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If you want to talk to people who can help you, look up the NCSA. They helped me. I'm starting my junior year and I want to play college softball. They sent me stuff that I need and its really helpful. Also, go to a summer camp this year and talk to the coach of the college you go to at that camp.
It really helps, trust me on this.
Good luckk :)
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I have had way too many boyfriends to count. It's my problem too. Boys like me, and I like boys... but as soon as we start dating its like I pick out all their imperfections without meaning to. I'm now with my 12th or 13th boyfriend. He's really nice, but he never calls me or asks me out places, and when I call him or I invite him places, we never have anything ot talk about. He's kind of boring... I hate breaking it off with guys when they didnt do anything wrong. Is it my fault for wanting a certain type? Should I stay with him and see if things get better?
Thanks
Elise 15/f (link)
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Well, if he bores you, and you're not interested in him, you should break it off. Its not that either of you did anything wrong, its more like you guys don't click together. Most people have their "type". It's not uncommon at all. Just figure out what you want in a guy and look from there.
Good luck :)
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I'm the shortest girl in my grade im 4'8 and people make fun of me because i need to be in a booster seat i really need some tips on ways top grow fast (link)
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You can't grow fast, but who cares if you need a booster seat? Short people are probably the most amazing people I know. I mean, if you watched the olympics, most of those female gymnasts are five feet and under. Hell, our own Shawn Johnson is your height and she's sixteen years old. Take pride in your height. Personally, I'd rather be four foot eight than be like six foot three, not that i am lol. But if people make fun of you, make fun of them for being so tall. Just be glad to be who you are.
Short people are amazing, just remember that.
:)
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okay so tomorrow i have volleyball tryouts. i'm in 8th grade currently and took this volleyball class thing with the jv coach for a week in 7th grade. well i took it for 2 days because the second day i broke my wrist. i only noticed it at home. i know your wondering how do you break your wrist in volleyball? well i have no idea. but anyways that was in april and now its almost september. im all healed and ok to play. but i havent played since april. i mean yeah tonigh i'm definitley going to practice. and i mean i'm definitley not the worst at it. volleyball is not a big sport at my school, they only established a middle school volleyball team this year and i dont know anyone who is going to the tryouts. so i guess what i'm asking is:
what should i do to get ready for tryouts??
any advice on what to do during tryouts?
** please only answer this if you play volleyball or if you arent on a team but you know a lot about it
thank you sooooooo much! =] (link)
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Well my really good friend just got a college scholarship for volleyball. To get ready, make sure you stretch tonight really well, especially the wrist you broke. No matter what sport you play, if you had an injury, take extra care of that. Mentally prepare yourself tonight and tomorrow before tryouts. Put yourself in the mind frame that you can make the team and that you're going to try your best and keep pushing. Tonight, do some drills, like setting and bumping, because of course that will probably be part of your try out. If you can try running/jogging a little. Conditioning is a big part of volleyball.
Most importantly though, have fun. If you play a sport and don't have fun with it, then your performance will show that.
Good luck. Hope you do well. :)
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I'm a 18 year old Female.
I think i may be pregnant, and i really do not want to raise/give birth to a child. There is no abortion clinics around the area i live in, and i have no ways of getting to a close one(the closest one is 4 hours away). Me and my boyfriend are really not expecting a child, we both how alot of our life ahead of us. So getting to my question, since theres no way i can get to an abortion clinic, are there other ways that i can "abort the child", or "cause a miscarriage"? I'm too scared to confront my parents about this, and don't really know if it's possible i can make an appointment with my family doctor without my parents finding out.
Any answers are appreciated, and i know, i shouldn't be hving sex, because i know this is a consiquence of it, and i also am agaisnt abortion myself, but there is no way i can go on with this pregnancy,(if i am infact pregant) i know for sure i will not be able to raise it, and i would not be able to give it up for adoption.
Thanks. (link)
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Well, since you're eighteen, you can go to your family doctor and talk to them about this. Ask them if you're pregnant and talk to them about your concerns. Your doctor can't tell your parents if you don't want them to because Doctor/Patient Confidentiality. I think the doctor is your best bet. They can fill you in on risks of abortions and miscarriages and anything else you need.
I hope things work out for the best for you.
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Sorry this will seem very vague, but I want to be in fear the guy in question ever finds this.
There's a guy and I think he might ask me out. The only problem is, I know for a fact it will only be so he can have sex with me, or he will try to pressure me into sex.
Now, I'm not asking whether I think this is what he wants. After all I'm being vague, that would be stupid. I'm pretty sure these are his intentions.
Usually I'd say no, but the only problem is I sort of like him. So should I say yes and give him a chance and if he tries to pressure me into it I say no and dump him? Haha help! (link)
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I think that if you like him and trust him enough to give him a chance you should, but make it clear to him that you wont do anything you don't want to do, including having sex. Or, if you feel confused if he asks you out, tell him you want to get to know him more. Doing that might be able to help you see what his intentions are.
Good luck :)
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how can i like....play with myself....
im a girl...and this like like super embrassing...lol
please and thank you.
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Haha, its nothing to be embarrassed about. Its called masturbation. When you're in..."That mood" shall we say, to play with yourself, you simply finger yourself. That's all. For most girls its quite pleasurable.
have fun :)
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I'm 13 and i pop my fingers. I really want to stop, but my finger get stiff. Is it really unhealthy to pop them? And is there a way to stop? Please help? I don't want to be old and in pain all the time! (link)
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Well, a lot of people (mainly elders) say that its bad. Really, i'm always told that its just letting the air out of between your knuckles. I crack my fingers all the time, and they're just fine and i've been doing it for like ten years now. lol.
If you have concerns, talk to your doctor.
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I have this guy friend. He used to be one of my best friends, and then we dated. It didn't go so well and we broke up. We stopped talking for almost, maybe even, a year. Now we are talking again, but it's not like it used to be and now whenever I visit, he's either working or if he is home, he seems to not want to hang out with me. I don't know if it's because he feels awkward or what and I don't know how to ask him. What should I do? (link)
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Well, next time you visit him try to hang out with him again. If he blows you off, or if it seems he doesn't want to hang out with you, you just have to come out and ask him if there's something wrong, did you do something to make him mad, something like that. Don't give up on your friend. Give it a shot.
Good luck, i hope it works out :)
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what do i do to take a good yearbook photo!!! im getting my photo taken on wednesday and im scaredi ALWAYS END UP LOOKING UGLIER! =[
help?? =] (link)
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Well, my year book pictures use to be horrendous. I hated make up and fake smiles and all of that. But then I started covering pimples and anything else that needed to be covered. I put on eyeliner to bring my eyes out. And right before I went to get my picture taken, I either told my friends to tell me a funny joke, or i'd think of a comedian that always makes me laugh, think of their jokes while i was getting my picture taken so it looked natural. Try doing that, it usually helps.
Smile big for the camera :)
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So there's this guy I've been crazy about for like 3 years. We dated twice and even been fuck buddies. He's a total ass to me and no matter how he treats me I can't get over him. I'm seriously in love with this guy. But everytime we broke up, he dumped me and started dating some other girl like right after. I want to get over him, since we both saw it best we stop talking to each other, but I also want to keep talking to him because I don't want to lose him again. He says he still loves me, but I don't know if I can believe that. What do I do? (link)
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Well, personally, I think that you need to talk to him. Even if you both agree that its best that you guys don't talk, I think you guys need to sit down and have a long conversation of how you both feel. Ask him questions like, If you say you love me, why do you leave me for other girls? Things like that. You have a right to know, especially because you're in love with him. Just try and talk to him. It may turn out for the better.
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ok i am totally blushing right now. so i was at a local video store, but in a different branch than the one i usually go to... anyway so i met this guy at the cash and i kind of think he's cute... and i guess he thinks so too... well to cut a long story short as i was leaving after i paid the bag i had started ringing so i brought it back to him and he ran it through the magnet but on my way out i think he said "it won't ring again,,, but if it rings then i'll take you to dinner" or something like that... now i am not sure just because i was getting out of the place and my back was turned to him and i was trying to hear what my best friend was saying... i was toooo shy to turn around... but i really think he's cute... he looks a bit older and i don't want to act like an idiot or immature infront of him... what do i do next time... i am reallllly reallllly reallly shy... anyone? i mean i don't want him to like me for just the way i look... i'd rather we click on the same wavelength... any advice or how-tos with older guys?
ps i'm 19 and he looks like he's 27...? maybe a bit older (but not like toooo old) (link)
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Well, go back to the video store another day, walk by and see if he's working. If he gives you the same signs he just gave you, try striking up a conversation to start. Maybe it will end with him asking you to dinner or something.
Good luck :)
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I haven't had any sex for a couple of weeks now and I have no bf or gf to do anything with and masturbation doesn't really work for me. I have a lot of stress and no friends to be fuck buddies. What should I do? (link)
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Well, I can relate, masturbation doesn't work for me either. I have a girlfriend, but we don't see each other often. The last time we were "together" was a few weeks ago. And if you ask me, fuck buddies aren't the answer. Try either when you're going to bed, but not really all that tired or when you get up in the morning if you dont have anything to do, to close your eyes and picture yourself with someone intimately. Picture it like it were happening. Sometimes you can actually feel like it was happening. Try it, you may like it. :)
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Dear AskRhiRhi,
I think i'm going through withdrawl. I haven't had sex in about 3 weeks, and i'm going crazy! Even at night when i try to masturbate, either it doesn't do much, or i don't finish. And i don't think she realizes how much i want her...We just got over a huge fight that lasted longer than i'd expected, but things are all good now and back to normal, thank god =] I get to see her tomorrow, and i wanna try to make up for the time we were fighting....You see, she likes it rough....REAL rough ;] Which is hot, i mean, it turns me on too, but i'm not quite sure how to initiate it...I really wanna "apologize" for being so incredibly naughty...Any suggestions? ;]
Trying hard,
IllEraseItSoItDoesntGoOnYourPageWhenYouAnswer (link)
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Well, maybe your girlfriend doesn't want you to apologize in that way. Sex doesn't solve everything. Maybe after a big fight sex is the last thing you want to have happen. Whether you're going through "withdrawl" or not, I mean, think about what's best for your relationship.
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theres this guy i hung out with alot during the summer. we had ssex a couple times but not every time we hugn out. he told me he like me, but he also liked someone els, and that was at the begininng of the summer. Now he alwasy IM's me, and we talk on the phone and he asks me to hangout without other people. i cant tell if he actually likes me or is just trying to keep me around for sex. I knwo hes a nice guy but its hard to tell sometimes if he only wanst sex. (link)
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My best friend is in your position. what you need to do is talk to him. Express your feelings. If you don't want to be just bed buddies, then you need to tell him that. You said he's a nice guy, so I'm sure he'd understand you wanting to know if this was going anywhere. Communication is important, especially in this type of situation.
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I'm a female & 15.
I wanna try to tease my boyfriend and get him hard, but I don't really seem to know what to do. I have given him a lapdance before and I could feel his hard penis on my ass as I was giving him a lapdance but I don't feel like giving him another one :). I also play with his jeans close to where his penis is but I'm not completely sure if he's turned on or not.
Well, my question is, what can I do to turn him on and get him hard without oral or actual sex.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Well, when i wanna get my girlfriend hot, i usually straddle her when she's sitting down. So, try doing that. While you're sitting on him like that, play with his hair and whisper things in his ear. Try kissing him on the neck and collar bone. Chances are, you'll get him hot.
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Does anyone reccomend a good shampoo/conditioner that won't weigh down my waves and accentuate my curls? Please reccomend from experience, not commercials. (link)
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I have naturally curly hair, and i love using V05 moisture milks. That stuff really works. It doesn't weigh down my hair, and it makes it smooth and kind of glow when it dries. I really like it and it works for me. Its also really cheap. So, try it. you may like it :)
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So ive kinda been seeing my ex again,and well the other night i was supposed to see him because i havent seen him for over a week (my parents won't let me see him that's why we broke up).Anyway,the night he was supposed to see me he texted me.He could'nt see me because one of his good friends killed himself the night before,and he couldn't get a ride to my area,he said it was unexpected.I told him im sorry and how sad it was,that i can see him some other time.He texted me back and said i still want to see you can i see you tomorrow? i said ill try my best.Well he never texted me yesterday (the day i was supposed to see him,and he always texted me everyday) and i did'nt want to text him because i did'nt know if i shoudl have or not.I don't really know how to deal with death.I want to text him though and ask him how he's doing.But i don't know if i should because i don't know if he wants to talk about it,or if he wants to talk to me im confused.Should i ask him how he's doing?
thanks! (link)
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I definitely think you should text him asking him how he's holding up. Death is a real tricky thing to deal with. I know from experience. What's always helped though, is having someone there to help me deal. So, maybe he needs help dealing. Asking him might mean a lot to him.
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I'd like to have a sweet sixteen party. I turn sixteen in september, but I don't know what to do. I have a lot of friends, and I'd feel terrible if I left anyone out, so I would invite mass people most likely. My house isn't big enough to do that, and I can't spend a lot of money. Please help! (link)
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Well, I feel you there. I'm turning sixteen in september also. Money is very tight right now with me because i'm moving. The house i'm moving to is very small. I want to invite the marching band, softball team, and my other friends, but i know i can't. So, Make sure you invite your best friends first, then make sure you invite the people who will make your party the most fun. Don't feel bad if you don't invite everyone, but invite as many people as your budget will hold. Shop at the dollar store for stuff, that helps a lot. I do it all the time :)
Have a good party
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