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I have a feeling a guy will ask me out but
Sorry this will seem very vague, but I want to be in fear the guy in question ever finds this.
There's a guy and I think he might ask me out. The only problem is, I know for a fact it will only be so he can have sex with me, or he will try to pressure me into sex.
Now, I'm not asking whether I think this is what he wants. After all I'm being vague, that would be stupid. I'm pretty sure these are his intentions.
Usually I'd say no, but the only problem is I sort of like him. So should I say yes and give him a chance and if he tries to pressure me into it I say no and dump him? Haha help!
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Honestly, I wouldn't even get involved with him. "I know for a fact it will only be so he can have sex with me,"- well then that tells me it's for NOTHING but sex; he doesn't care about your personality, he doesn't care about anything but the thought of having sex with you. That's wrong, and I'm glad that you have thought this through, but honestly, I advise that you don't date him. There are plenty of guys out there who will date you WITHOUT wanting sex. You just have to be patient ;]
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Up to you.
In all honesty, some guys just need to be slapped. Teenaged boys are like puppies. You have to rub their nose in their shit.
My only question to you arises from the word "pressure"
What does "pressure" mean? Will he beg and whine and plead and convince? Or will he put hands where you don't want them to go and start trying to remove clothing.
If you think hes harmless and honestly want to date him, go ahead. Lay your limits down firmly and clearly, if you have to state exactly what he's allowed to do and not allowed to do, do so.
If he exceeds your bounds, slap him. Verbally. If he repeatedly begs for sex and is annoying, dump him.
You have a good head on your shoulders. You'll know if hes going further or doing things you dont want. Dont let him. Period.
In a worst case scenario, I've not met the man who can withstand a woman stabbing her fingernails into his balls and twising hard. Laughing about his tiny penis while doing it sweetens the pot.
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If you know for a fact he is after something you DO NOT want, then no, you shouldn't date him at all.
Let me put it this way: I know that I don't want to have children. Period. For various reasons in my life that I won’t be specific about, I shouldn't have kids. Since I know that is a non-negotiable point in my life, I don't date people I know really want to have children. Now that I'm in my twenties, it wouldn't really be fair to get into a serious relationship with someone who really wanted to have children, when I know it is extremely unlikely that I will agree to that.
If you know that you don't want to have sex, and you know he really does, then no, you shouldn't date him. Period.
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Hi,
I think you already have your answer. If you would usually say no to this type of guy, why are you changing your standards now?
Ask yourself why you like him. Maybe that would help you out.
I don't think you need to give him a chance. You already know who he is. If you choose to go out with him, like they always say "buyer beware"
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I personally think that you should be careful.
You could go out with him, but if he starts insisting on you two having sex, and you're not ready then tell him no. Don't let yourself get pressured.
Sometimes people change.
Once my friend knew that this guy was gonna ask her out, and she was 98% sure that he was asking her out just to do sexual stuff. Turned out he said to his friends but actually he had no intention of doing anything if she wasn't ready or didn't want to.
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So If you do like him, give him a chance but don't do anything you're not prepared to do or don't want to.
Good luck with him :)
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I think that if you like him and trust him enough to give him a chance you should, but make it clear to him that you wont do anything you don't want to do, including having sex. Or, if you feel confused if he asks you out, tell him you want to get to know him more. Doing that might be able to help you see what his intentions are.
Good luck :)
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