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Hello. I am 18 years old and also have a boyfriend that is 18. we are engage now and want to start working on plannin our wedding but have no idea where to even start at. Has anyone else plan their own or somebody else wedding and know where to start, we really need help because we are totally lost. Thank you in advance for all the advice, you are really helpful.

http://www.youtube.com/user/BrideDeForce

This is a young woman who's in the process of planning her wedding with her sister who happens to be a wedding planner.

They upload videos at least one a week or more often, explaining how to get started, how to plan it and so on.

The girl herself is a great youtuber anyway, and this channel seems very helpful and they have a blog site alongside it.

This should most definitely help you with the planning! And I'm sure you'll enjoy watching the videos.

Good luck! Let me know if this is helpful to you!

I need a really good waterproof (drugstore) mascara. I don't have a whole lot of money to be buying a bunch so I've been going off reviews, but that hasn't helped all that much. My main concern is staying power, as most mascaras and eyeliners tend to smudge on me throughout the day, even those that I've tried that are "waterproof" (though to be fair I've only tried 3). Of course, as far as mascaras go, I also don't want something clumpy, messy, or too dry. Any suggestions?

I can say that from my experience - and I've been through COUNTLESS mascaras, I think I currently have about 7 of them which I use regularly, the best waterproof ones - and by best I mean that I can take a shower, and if I don't rub my eyes, the mascara will still be in place, and perhaps a minimal smudge below the eyes..
But this is after a shower.
So, the ones I would recommend are
L'Oreal Lash Architect Carbon Gloss - Waterproof False Lash Effect.
http://www.amazon.com/L-27Oreal-Architect-Carbon-Waterproof-Mascara/dp/B004K8UCHY
This one is a little clumpier but gives your eyelashes a really nice look if you want a more dramatic effect on the lashes :) It's not too much though.
It is sold in almost any drugstore, as it is L'Oreal, I paid about 12 euros for it, but as the Amazon link shows, it is about 12 dollars in the US.

The second I can suggest is Maybelline Colossal Volum' Express Waterproof.
This mascara has been very well rated for years now, and it is always in my handbag, no matter what.
It is about the same price as the L'Oreal, but it is very smooth, stays on perfectly and is very natural looking. You will really have to pile it on if you want thick and unnatural doll-looking lashes.
If you use this and an eyelash curler, you will have stunning lashes that look quite natural and full and it will also stay put endlessly - unless you rub your eyes all day...

Hope this helped you :)

I'm looking for something like Hard Rock-ish. Not too heavy, similar to Breaking Benjamin's "Saturate" album, and Chevell's "Wonder What's Next" Album. Where it's not too dark but kind of angry, with singing and a scream or two hear and there. I'm not into the screaming metal. But I like a single scream or two after mostly singing normal and or soft. Any similar bands. It'd be great if they're not that popular too.

Alongside Three Days Grace, as mentioned, I'd also suggest Bayside, Skillet or Spineshank; here are my favourite songs by those three bands :)
Bayside might not be quite it for you, but worth a shot!

Spineshank - "Smothered"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXbZN701HJw&ob=av2e

Skillet - "Monster"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1mjlM_RnsVE&ob=av2e

Bayside - "Blame it on the bad luck"

This is also a great site I've been using for years:
http://audiomap.tuneglue.net/

You enter a band name, and it will show you similar bands :) And you can keep going on and on in a web of bands. So if there's bands you like, the website is very useful in helping you find new stuff.

Let me know if you liked any of the suggestions!

My grandmother passed away about 4 months ago now. She left behind a small will, but many possessions that were not listed in the will. Currently, most of these things (decor, books, jewelry) are sitting in our house. With several items, people have just expressed interest in them and my mom or dad will just generously give them away, as we don't really need them, and it seems like what my grandma would have wanted.

There is one box, however, that has remained untouched. This is all of my grandmother's jewelry. We aren't sure of a lot of the value, and so we haven't really decided what to do with it. Recently though, I was made aware that my grandma's wedding and anniversary rings are also in this box, and she hadn't left them to anyone in her will.

Here is my question- I am getting married next year, and currently my boyfriend and I are looking at rings. Honestly, I would really love to have my grandma's ring, but it seems a little rude to ask for it, because I don't want to seem like I am trying to profit off her passing or anything...

Is there anyway I could bring this up without coming across like I am using my grandma's death for my own benefit?

I am sure your parents would be touched and would love to let you have her ring for your wedding. As mentioned before, it will bring a part of her back into your life & wedding.
Approach your parents and ask them how they would feel about you receiving the ring as a sort of a 'gift' or memory form your grandmother.
Surely they will understand that you wearing this ring every day is definitely not worse than it being kept in this jewelry box :)

Especially as you mentioned that you have yet to decide what you will do with it, and as they were not left to anybody in the will there should be no problems for you to inherit at least the wedding ring.

How do I get the network password for wifi?

I am tring to set up wireless internet and nobody in the house seems to remember the password for the network. I need to know how to either retrieve the password or reset it somehow. I reset the router. Will resetting the router do anything?

If there's a windows computer in the house that's connected to the wireless, just open up wifi settings, and someplace within "properties" you can see the password.
Quite simple :)
Resetting the router would have no effect at all on the password...

if you dye your hair with kool aid how long will the color last?

This has been asked countless times on this website already...

And if you would use Google you would have you answer faster than typing your question.

Either day, about 2 to 4 weeks. Depending on your hair and how dark or light it is.

Well i don't masturbate and I haven't really done anything sexual but for some reason, when im doing my casual daily chores, i can feel something wet in my pants and i always find out that i had an orgasm and its really embarrassing. i don't know how to stop it and i get really embarrassed and some times it even happens at school and i cant sort it out cuz the teacher wont let me go to the bathroom so i just have to put up with it and im tired of it. How do i stop it?

I don't think you mean that you are having orgasms. Those you would feel, rather than "find out".

Instead, most likely, you're just having discharge. It's a natural process and it is good for your vagina.
However, if you are concerned about it, it would be a good idea to see a gynecologist.

I'm going on a Royal Caribbean cruise in August and I will be old enough to use the teen club (13) and I'm confused about it. Which teen club is for my age group? WTH IS FUEL?

http://www.royalcaribbean.com/findacruise/experiencetypes/category.do?pagename=onboard_cat_kids_teens_and_families

Click on the tab "Teens (12-17)"

According to the website:
"Get active with rock climbing competitions, dodgeball and Dance Dance Revolution, then take it down a notch at BBQs and movie nights. Plus, the chance to let your star shine with open mic nights, talent shows and Scratch DJ Academy."

"Teen-only Hang Outs:

Whether you want to chill out or all-out dance, drop by teen-only spaces where you can hang out late. Start at the teen lounge, a laid-back hideaway, and then amp up the energy at the teen-only nightclub."

There are different clubs and activities for teens aged 15-17.

Hope this helped you a little :)
You could always get some more information from a travel agents or brochures if you have any for this cruise.

How do I get those kind of curls?

Like this: http://www.hairfinder.com/celebj/jaime-king3.jpg

or

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_p0Kt28QRU1I/TSx02UhoExI/AAAAAAAAG6U/SEHgxhQyBaU/s1600/curls%2Bringlets.jpg

You have to get a very thin curling iron.
Get section of about 1-2inches of hair, wrap them tightly around the curling iron, hold for some seconds and then let go.
Repeat with all of your hair in sections and then spray hairspray to hold.

This video isn't the best example, but you should get the idea:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrR3F0TRdLY

:)

I am getting a macbook and i am wondering what applications come free with it?

http://www.apple.com/in/macosx/whats-new/features.html

There you go!

I'm looking for a black dress similar to these. What are they called?

http://intheircloset.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/alexander-wang-one-shoulder-goddess-dress-lbd-black.jpg

http://i900.photobucket.com/albums/ac207/ttivy/oneshoulder.jpg

http://cdnb.lystit.com/photos/2012/04/12/alice-olivia-black-oneshoulder-goddess-dress-product-1-3197472-073053029_medium_card.jpeg

http://media.onsugar.com/files/2010/04/16/1/422/4224411/277fe2d86a2c91bb_charlotte-russe-one-shoulder-cinched-short-dress-.jpg

And can you tell me where I can find it if you know? Thanks

I found some nice links for you :)

http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12706920

http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12214791

http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12752450

http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12620149

http://nelly.com/eu/womens-fashion/clothing/party-dresses/oneness-1115/one-shoulder-june-dress-600731-14/

http://nelly.com/eu/womens-fashion/clothing/party-dresses/honor-gold-937/amy-open-back-dress-120467-14/

A lot of clothing stores do them right now so perhaps it would be easier to go to shops and look/ask around or then online websites.
Hope this helped!

I bought this self tanner just under a year ago from sephora. I used it once and didn't really like it (first ever time self tanning) but I figured I'd give it another try after using other products. I got it out from under my bathroom sink and the first few pumps the foam came out green! after some research I found that this tanner has green pigment to prevent from turning orange. my question is, has my tanner expired? I tested it a bit on my leg but it seems like there is a greenish hue, but I'm not sure if it's just my imagination. help please! I feel so awful that I've only used it once. the bottle is still so full:(

Usually creams, make up and the sort have a little label somewhere on the back where that looks like a little pot with a lid half off, and next to it will be a number. This signifies the number of months you can keep the product for, once opened. After that, it is highly recommended that you do not use it any more. I imagine that self tanner does not have a long life once opened.
So check for that symbol :)
Below is the symbol I am talking about.

http://www.google.be/imgres?um=1&hl=nl&sa=N&biw=1276&bih=634&tbm=isch&tbnid=rQD0LgSSitvWZM:&imgrefurl=http://all4women.co.za/fashion-and-beauty/beauty-articles/the-dangers-of-expired-face-creams.html&docid=nwr9H7vUyeMRIM&imgurl=http://all4women.co.za/files.php%253Ffile%253Dcosmetic_expiry_date_symbol_943537709.gif&w=298&h=320&ei=eq_AT62zHc6cOurPkfQJ&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=305&vpy=294&dur=358&hovh=213&hovw=198&tx=121&ty=118&sig=114711578949955038786&page=1&tbnh=135&tbnw=122&start=0&ndsp=17&ved=1t:429,r:7,s:0,i:84

When I buy a song on iTunes the picture shows up of there cover. But if I buy a cd in a store and then import it to iTunes the album cover doesn't show up when I listen to the songs it's just white with the music sign. How do I get the picture to show up! It annoys me so much. Is there anyway to get the photo and drag it to the song or something?

Just to add to Sherry's answer, if iTunes does not find the album artwork for you, just Google the image, and drag it to the white space :)
Or if you need to do so for an entire album, select all the songs in the album, right click and choose "Get Info" and then drag paste the cover art into the white space provided for album cover.
:)

18/f
I have a weird brown/reddish discharge that's not constant for the passed few days. My period ended a little over a week ago and I started birthcontrol exactly.one week ago. I also had a bladder infection about 2 weeks ago. I am very sexually active with my husband (we have sex at least once a day) The information I found on the internet was very vague and not helpful. The only thing I saw was that it could be uteral lining that did not come out when I was on my period. This has never happened to me before. Can anyone help me with this? I know no one is a doctor but I don't have the money or time to run to the doctor for no reason. Thanks!

I had the same problem, but my doctor told me that it is a normal side effect of birth control- spotting or similar.
She told me that if it lasts for a few days, it's normal, but if it lasts for longer than a week, I should go back.

So I'm guessing that if this lasts longer than a week for you, you should go to your doctor- s/he'll probably prescribe a new pill for you which should make this problem go away.

Hope this helped :)

I am not fat by all means but i have a "pooch" on my lower tummy. Its not toned at all and i really dont have time to exercise. I am a full time students and work part time. So far i have stopped drinking cokes but im not really sure what some healthy snacks i can eat are? Somneone give me advice of what to do to make my stomach more toned. Thank you!

First of all, stopping fizzy drinks is a great first step.
Make sure you drink at least one liter of water a day.
Healthy snacks would be any fruits, nuts, seeds, brown breads.
My personal favourite is carrot and cucumber sticks with hummus :) Fills you up but very, very low fat.

I know the feeling when you're so busy with everything that you don't have time for exercise. However, if you did 10 sit-ups in the morning, just after getting out of bed and another 10 in the evening, every day, you will soon see that your stomach is becoming more toned :) This is what I have been doing for a month now and it's working out well, now I've even increased it to 15 sit-ups.
This exercise doesn't take long, a couple of minutes, therefore it doesn't get in the way of your already busy schedule.

Enjoy :)

Is there a website with sex positions on it?

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/

Should inspire you enough ;)

I'm in Europe for vacation over the summer, but I live in the US. I have the Iphone 4. My phone still works internationally, but i'm not using it as much because it is really expensive. I haven't talked to some of my friends in a while and would really love to talk to them. I got the app TextPlus which allows you to text other numbers for free (so it claims). I am just really confused on how this all works.. I'm outside of the US- will it cost me money to text using the app?

My dad tried to explain it to me but i'm still confused. He said as long as i have WiFi, I can use it and it won't cost money. But he said if I don't have WiFi (and something about data roaming???) then it will be expensive.

I'm just so confused haha. Can someone please give me a straight-to-the-point answer on when can I use the texting app without it costing money? When should I not use it?

thank you!

Just a header, considering I reside in Belgium but travel around Europe myself very often.
Do not ever use Data Roaming unless you are in a critical situation and need to use the internet/whatever.
It could cost you up to 15 Euros a megabyte.

Even though I have a Belgian phone plan, and I'll be off in Germany which is a neighboring country, if I end up using data roaming it costs incredible amounts.

In general you shouldn't have a problem getting access to wifi in public places. For instance, McDonald's in Belgium, France, Holland and Germany will always have free WiFi.
Hotels vary, but mostly they'll offer it for free or then for a fee. Be aware of the fees though, sometimes they are just stupid and outrageous. If you really want to check up on Facebook or similar, it would make more sense to find a cafe that offers free wifi ;)

Hope this helps!

I was really angry when I was shaving and SHAVED off this huge chunk of skin near my ankle!

Down to buisness here, I had to wait a long time after putting on some pressure to stop the bleeding and then sprayed on some Poly on the Go. An hour later I stuck a bandage on.

Every day when i'm about to shower I take off the bandage, shower, dry it and place on a new bandage.

It's been a weke now and today really sucked because I was removing my bandage and the whole wound stuck on it so i had to peel the bandage off and of course it was bleeding again and looked the exact same as the first day!

This sound as if it's the first time I've goten hurt or something but honestly I haven't gotten hurt since I was like 10? And even though the diameter is about the size of my thumb it hurts so bad and I feel like i'm dying! I don't know what else to do!

I managed to do the same thing to my knee, and I know how bad it hurts.
If you keep cleaning it every day, but then if you're just sitting at home relaxing, try to keep the bandage off, when it isn't bleeding to give it some air. That helps with the healing.
It will take some time, and if in a couple of days it isn't getting better, then go see a doctor who can suggest something.

Otherwise from what you've told us now, it's just natural because it was a deep cut. I think my knee healed in about two or two and a half weeks, and the cut was pretty big too.

Just be careful so you don't hit the wound/scratch it against other things and don't forget to clean it :)

Making out with my boyfriend is romantic and nice and all, but I'd like to know what can really drive him crazy and have him itching for more action. Any suggestions on what to do during?

Not all of these might be for you, but there's some pretty good tips. Some of them have worked wonders for me in the past ;)

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/tips-moves/sexy-kissing-techniques-0408?click=main_sr

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/tips-moves/best-foreplay-tips-1109

Have fun!

I'm looking for a site with free full episodes of Vampire Diaries and I need to watch all the way up to the current episode before the new one on Thursday night since I just started watching! I watched all of episode one and I was cut off halfway through episode two because of the stupid 72 minute limitation that I forgot how to bypass... Are there any sites out there, please?! And I rather not use YouTube, reeeeeally bad quality there ):

Google isn't hard to use..

But here you go;
http://tv.blinkx.com/show/the-vampire-diaries/EKRF7ZzuPX_DLiq7

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