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Grandma's Ring

Question Posted Thursday July 5 2012, 7:32 pm

My grandmother passed away about 4 months ago now. She left behind a small will, but many possessions that were not listed in the will. Currently, most of these things (decor, books, jewelry) are sitting in our house. With several items, people have just expressed interest in them and my mom or dad will just generously give them away, as we don't really need them, and it seems like what my grandma would have wanted.

There is one box, however, that has remained untouched. This is all of my grandmother's jewelry. We aren't sure of a lot of the value, and so we haven't really decided what to do with it. Recently though, I was made aware that my grandma's wedding and anniversary rings are also in this box, and she hadn't left them to anyone in her will.

Here is my question- I am getting married next year, and currently my boyfriend and I are looking at rings. Honestly, I would really love to have my grandma's ring, but it seems a little rude to ask for it, because I don't want to seem like I am trying to profit off her passing or anything...

Is there anyway I could bring this up without coming across like I am using my grandma's death for my own benefit?

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orphans answered Wednesday July 11 2012, 7:11 pm:
I would at least bring up the subject by asking if there are any plans for the box of jewelry, and then you can determine how to proceed from there. It is a nice idea to pass down jewelry, but this can cause some family rifts if other family members want it as well. You should also be able to find out the value of jewelry by taking it to a local appraiser, if that is something you are interested in.

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sivarocky answered Monday July 9 2012, 9:34 am:
yes you will discuss with other main members in the family and express your will steadily and calmly.make them influence to your words .

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adviceman49 answered Friday July 6 2012, 9:29 am:
I see nothing wrong in asking your parents if you could have your grandmothers ring. I see no difference in asking to have it as a remembrance of her or to have it as your wedding ring.

I also see having your grandmothers ring as part of your wedding as a way of including her in your wedding. So no I do not see this as you trying to benefit from her passing. In fact I see it as a great gesture of inclusion in your wedding so ask your parents.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. May you have a long happy life together.

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Disconnected answered Friday July 6 2012, 6:58 am:
I am sure your parents would be touched and would love to let you have her ring for your wedding. As mentioned before, it will bring a part of her back into your life & wedding.
Approach your parents and ask them how they would feel about you receiving the ring as a sort of a 'gift' or memory form your grandmother.
Surely they will understand that you wearing this ring every day is definitely not worse than it being kept in this jewelry box :)

Especially as you mentioned that you have yet to decide what you will do with it, and as they were not left to anybody in the will there should be no problems for you to inherit at least the wedding ring.

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innocent_angel answered Friday July 6 2012, 5:50 am:
It isn't making profit off of her passing away, it's a lovely way of keeping a part of her close to you :) just ask and explain that you loved your grandmother and the sentiment would mean the world, it's almost like having her at the wedding :)

Your parents are sure to understand as many people have used their parents/grandparents rings for weddings. Besides, a wedding ring is something you keep forever, You aren't going to sell it and I'm sure your family knows that :)

Good luck and congratulations x

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Drewb13 answered Friday July 6 2012, 4:14 am:
Just ask your parents for it. Let them know that you want something to remember her by.
I hope this helps.


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