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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
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Personally I feel ,you better go with your mom to grandma s house and you find the job there mainly for your security . Your mother is mentally ill so dont take it personally .talk with your sister and tell her about your situation. Explain to your mother when she is in good mood. After while once you well established in ur job, you can stand alone.
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I have a very strange question and I am seeking answers for this is possible to have anal sex then to switch to viganl without giving her an ifection cause of this and the reason I'm asking is cause I'm confused and so is my wife (link)
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Switching from anal to vaginal there is no risk ,but to oral there is risk of enteric infection.
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Dear Vikki
I'm 24 and from South Africa. I have been in a relationship for almost 7 months now and before that we were only friends. I love him a lot and care about him a lot, but at times I feel that my insecurities gets in the way and it ends up in us having an argument about something small and stupid. See we have a long distance relationship at the moment and it is mostly when he cannot have decent conversation at night because his busy and then I start thinking "maybe he doesn't want to talk to me" , "maybe he doesn't find me interesting anymore and he will leave me for someone else" and I do know that he cares for me a lot and that he loves me and as soon as I think I have these feelings under control, it creeps in again. I don't want to lose him, because I was insecure and clingy. I never was like this in the beginning. I was cheated on before and most of the times it is when I'm away from him, when we are together, I don't have it and because of this it makes things hard for me. I care about people real fast and they can actually hurt me with words. How do I get past this? How can I get past my insecurities and not be clingy when I feel like these emotions are creeping in? I'm not jealous when it comes to being his girlfriends, because I know what type of guy he is. I know he will never cheat on me, but because I don't always see myself as beautiful, I'm sometimes afraid he will leave me for someone more beautiful than me. The guy that cheated on me used to say to me, that I shouldn't think that someone can love me, because there feelings will change. I was so deeply hurt.
Is there any advice you can give me? Guess I'm just looking for someone to talk to that I don't know personally!
Thanks!
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Only tunnel vision people will see the beauty not considering your various parts of your personality . Dont take personally about words told by your ex he is only a single person and there are billions of people in this world will have various opinions .even though you LL have faults , there should be interesting and lovable nature present with in you which you may not identified at present . Have some confidence in mind that even if relationship breaks I LL survive .
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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Your friend had only obsession with you which is not real love .accepting his love spoils both of your life in future . Concentrate on your life goals.
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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Dont get panic the risk of HIV is very much lower . HIV diagnosis is done through elisa blood test . First test your partner if he is negative there is no need to worry . There is a risk of transmission of certain other std through oral sex . Elisa takes 2 months after sex to get positive result .
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1st date of conception: 16th of September
Last had sex: between the 19th-25th of August
Had sex: 22nd of September
Is it possible that my conception date is wrong? Am i pregnant from the time I sex between 19th-25th of August or the 22nd of September. I know my conception date can't be wrong - or can it? Midwives up here are pretty goddamn accurate. ARGH.
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there may be a possibility . the sperm may alive in the uterus for 7 days .you did nt mention about the regularity and flow of your menstural cycle.
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i am a 24 yr old female. i live in a small family with my father and mother. my problem is that my father is a very aggressive person. he gets annoyed in everything and treats my mother very badly by abusing and cursing her. he is like this with everyone. he does not talk much with people and criticizes everyone. he has a very high ego problem because of which we have very less social link ups. although he has never put restrictions on us for spending money. financially he has given me and my mother all the authorities to use money that he earns but his behavior has depressed me and my mother so much that we sometimes think of dyeing. i have tried so many times to tell him that whatever he does is not good for his health and he must try to adjust with people around but he always refuses to do this by saying that he is never wrong and he do not need anyone in life as he can take care of himself. and he don't even allow us to talk to people those he does not like... we try very hard to keep him happy but a minute mistake leads to big quarrels in our home...because of his nature only my 19 yr old brother committed suicide in 2003.although he went in a bad company but my father, instead of helping him to come out of it, asked him to leave the house because of which he left this world... please suggest me what can do so that we can live happily in our small family and how can i make it easier for my mom and me to live with papa peacefully. i want to do it as soon as possible because i will get married in 1-2 yrs and i cannot leave my mother alone with him as m scared that he can also physically harm her by beating her. please help me (link)
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personally i feel that you cannot be able to change your father s behaviour .so better is to you have to adjust with him. make your mother and you strong even if every thing goes wrong .dont expect anything from him or dont take it personally.dont involve deeply in any quarrelsome with your father .take every thing easily
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Once when I was dancing to a song from a kids show, my mom came in and watched me. I wasn't doing anything but what the people from the show were doing (it was a Scooby Doo movie) and my mom told me I was dancing like a slut. What do I do to make her less mad at me. Because if I ever object at anything then she says she bets that if i ever were offered drugs, i would take them. She does an impression of me that sounds whiny and really really mean. I wouldn't do that but she doesn't seem to understand that.
She compares me to my "perfect" siblings and If they yell at me she always blames me for it.
My question is: what should I do to gain my mother's approval? (link)
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no one is perfect in the world.don t mind what your mother s think do what you love and like .in life you should not be able to influence others.please love your mom even if she made curse
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My grandmother passed away about 4 months ago now. She left behind a small will, but many possessions that were not listed in the will. Currently, most of these things (decor, books, jewelry) are sitting in our house. With several items, people have just expressed interest in them and my mom or dad will just generously give them away, as we don't really need them, and it seems like what my grandma would have wanted.
There is one box, however, that has remained untouched. This is all of my grandmother's jewelry. We aren't sure of a lot of the value, and so we haven't really decided what to do with it. Recently though, I was made aware that my grandma's wedding and anniversary rings are also in this box, and she hadn't left them to anyone in her will.
Here is my question- I am getting married next year, and currently my boyfriend and I are looking at rings. Honestly, I would really love to have my grandma's ring, but it seems a little rude to ask for it, because I don't want to seem like I am trying to profit off her passing or anything...
Is there anyway I could bring this up without coming across like I am using my grandma's death for my own benefit?
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yes you will discuss with other main members in the family and express your will steadily and calmly.make them influence to your words .
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hi...i got married to this guy in 2011. now i know that he is bisexual... i came to know this by reading his messages in a gay community in his phone.i love him a lot... when i asked him he told me he was a bisexual , he is not involved with any guy after he got married , and he will be with me forever.i dont know if i can trust him or not. i hav't told this to my parents either as they would never get what bisexual is.
can bisexuals be loyal to a women... he says he had sexual relation with more than 50 guys. how can i trust him, he will not do it again.
now he wants me to get pregnant...please help me, i don't know have anyone to talk to.. i love him a lot, i feel like committing suicide nt able to decide what to do.please please please help me. (link)
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based on my opinion if your husband is true loving and truthful to you and personally if you like him very much then you can go with your husband.but your husband had relationship with 50 guys which seems that he wont stop his homosexual activity.if you are able to handle the stress after bereavement,then you can divorce your husband.please talk openly with your husband before taking any decision
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hi...i got married to this guy in 2011. now i know that he is bisexual... i came to know this by reading his messages in a gay community in his phone.i love him a lot... when i asked him he told me he was a bisexual , he is not involved with any guy after he got married , and he will be with me forever.i dont know if i can trust him or not. i hav't told this to my parents either as they would never get what bisexual is.
can bisexuals be loyal to a women... he says he had sexual relation with more than 50 guys. how can i trust him, he will not do it again.
now he wants me to get pregnant...please help me, i don't know have anyone to talk to.. i love him a lot, i feel like committing suicide nt able to decide what to do.please please please help me. (link)
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based on my opinion if your husband is true loving and truthful to you and personally if you like him very much then you can go with your husband.but your husband had relationship with 50 guys which seems that he wont stop his homosexual activity.if you are able to handle the stress after bereavement,then you can divorce your husband.please talk openly with your husband before taking any decision
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Does taking pills and getting really drunk, while over a bridge sounds like a good idea to kill myself? I have two options drown or die from the drug over does. I know that I have a mental health issue (depression. I have asked for help and have been take antidepressents. They somewat help. I also learned that I have another mental health issue that came with the depression.....Socail axiety. Everyday I feel like their is no point to my life. I have a good job, good family, but I have no meaning/nothing. (link)
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be confident and positive .try relaxation technique like yoga,meditation and exercise .consult one psychiatrist and take medicine because it may be due to chemical change in your brain.you discuss with me or you can mail me about your thoughts and behaviour or with your close friends ,family members.have some fun and help others will keep you from negative thoughts.dont be alone.dont lose hope
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Do you know how to get rid of a sore throat really fast? I have to sing in a couple days and my throat is really, REALLY sore! (link)
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usually it will be better in 5 to 7 days.antiseptic or analgesic mouth wash can help.you may require oral antibiotic if there is bacterial infection
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i've had headaches for nearly two weeks now. they start of mild and easy to ignore but gradually progress into sharp pains. its mostly the front of my head that suffers. i've took normal paracetomals, strong paracetomals yet nothing seems to work.
should i make an appoitment with my doctor about this? (link)
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i think you need to consult a doctor.check your bp,visual acuity.there may be a chance of sinusitis.if it is unilateral it may be a migraine.if you have so much worry also it may cause headache .
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So this weekend I went swimming at a indoor pool with a friend and when I got home the next night my eye started to hurt at the bottom whenever I blinked. This morning I woke up and it was red and swollen underneath... Any ideas what it is? How did this happen? How do I fix it? HELP! (link)
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you didn't mention about your pain ,visual acuity,discharge.consult an opthalmologist if there is pain .hygiene is important,eye should be kept clean.if there is no improvement over few days you may need topical antibiotics.if it is allergic you may require antihistamine tablets and sodium cromoglycate eye drops.
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That is right... I got myself a massive dose of poison ivy for the first time in my life and for all the things I have learned in my couple decades on this Earth I find I have no idea how to treat poison ivy! I had always heard calamine lotion, but there HAS to be a better way!
So, can anyone help me out with this or do I just have to suffer through it?
My itchiest thanks to you all! (link)
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assess irritants or trigger factors with a view of avoidance.emollients like oilatum,aqueous cream moisten dry scaly skin.topical steroid may help in reducing inflammation.secondary infection should be treated with topical antibiotic.an antihistamine like alimemazine 5 mg tds may help in reducing itching.if needed do one patch testing.
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Okay, so I've had quite a few cold sores and lip infections.
Today I woke up with a cold sore, and I made sure to start drinking a lot of water, eating super healthy to aid those white blood cells in fighting them off, and popping in l-lysine tablets.
Anyway, so I looked in the mirror and it's pulsating. Not only can I feel it pulsing, but in the mirror it actually looks to be flashing white and red constantly.
I checked this morning and it's continually happening. It's SERIOUSLY like a siren.
Anyway, I just wanted to know if that means the virus is continually growing/spreading or if it's starting to dye down because of the white blood cells. (link)
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usually the cold sores heal within 2 weeks.use analgesics either orally or topically.acyclovir cream 2 g apply 5 times a day for 5 days. if lesion is severe take valacyclovir tablet 500mg bd.these antiviral speedup the healing .apply antiseptic to prevent secondary infection.wash frequently with soap and water.apply cold or warmth .
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I am about to be a sophomore in college. My whole life I have made fairly good grades up until high school. I started a bad habit of procrastinating and getting things done only at the last minute. My grades suffered a little, but ultimately I finished high school with good enough grades to get into a pretty big university. Anyway, this past year (as a freshman) my grades suffered a great deal. I couldn't focus in class, I couldn't motivate myself to do any of the work, even the night before it was due. And it's not like I party much. I hardly every went out. But when it would come down to doing my work, I TRIED to get focused and I couldn't. The week of finals, I had to write a huge paper, and sat in front of my computer for literally 6 hours and wrote a total of one paragraph. It's not that I find the work boring, and deep down I love learning.
Since my grades dropped so low, I was put on academic probation. And I know that all I need to do is focus. I just don't know how to get motivated. I know the consequences, I just can't make myself have the will to complete things. What I am wondering is.. how do I make myself focus? (link)
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i think you bored up with your studying.read and understand the concepts and find its application. relate what you have studied with your previous knowledge.think about you and your future and goals .this may make urself to read .remove the real and imagined barriers for studying .realise knowledge is power.force yourself to read .wish you all the best
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Ok my boyfriend and I have been trying to have a baby for the last two months now and we aren't having any luck...what things I could use or do to help me get pregnant? (link)
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confirm regular intercourse during the fertile period.the fertile period is from 8 to day 17 in a normal 28 day cycle.90 percentage of women will conceive within 12 months,soinvestigation are not necessary up to 12 months.if necessary do semen analysis of your boy friend and confirmation of ovulation for you
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Well I have know this guy for 3 years he was there for me when I lost my kids and helped me get back on my feet I had a nervous breakdown last year and I lost everything and he was there but I keep accusing him of cheating well his a tatoo artist and a ex biker and stuff like that I hear from his friends that he can't just be with one woman I lived with him for 4 months untill he had a girl come over and would not leave so I left and now she's pregnant and she don't want anything to do with him well that's word I don't know if its true or not he is 40 and I'm 31 he hit me because I lost it a few time and told him to his face he was cheating on me and come to find out he never was it was all in my head why??? (link)
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this is my personal opinion.you will be a idiot if you take him back.he will did the same again and again .better is to forget him and move on.dont confront him without proof,plan and purpose .
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