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Insults from my mother
Once when I was dancing to a song from a kids show, my mom came in and watched me. I wasn't doing anything but what the people from the show were doing (it was a Scooby Doo movie) and my mom told me I was dancing like a slut. What do I do to make her less mad at me. Because if I ever object at anything then she says she bets that if i ever were offered drugs, i would take them. She does an impression of me that sounds whiny and really really mean. I wouldn't do that but she doesn't seem to understand that.
She compares me to my "perfect" siblings and If they yell at me she always blames me for it.
My question is: what should I do to gain my mother's approval?
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Your mother loves you and probable just hates that her daughter is growing up and nobody is perfect I think you should sit down with your mother and talk with her about this and she will respect you for taking time out of your day to talk with her because it is your mother that you love and don't want to disappoint ...... Hope this helps (:
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no one is perfect in the world.don t mind what your mother s think do what you love and like .in life you should not be able to influence others.please love your mom even if she made curse
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Well, from what I see here is that, you're mom is kind of against you. With too little information, is there something you've done for her to hold a grudge? I've been through what you're going through. To get your mother's approval is just be yourself. If you stand up for yourself and say what you feel and tell her that you're not going to tolerate then, maybe she'll understand. You're probably a free spirit who likes to share things about yourself, you don'tt care what people think. Look, make changes and if your mom really thinks you dance like a slut, maybe she's just saying that. Some, parents say things they don't really mean. Bond with your mom. Ask her what you did wrong, if you know already apologize and ask to restart and turn over a new leaf. You're goal is to gain that respect, and trust from your mom, which you need to give to her first. It might take a while, but it'll be all worth it. Hope this helps.
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This is really a hard question to answer as there is too little information to go on. What I see is mom playing one child against the other, which to my mind is very wrong and can and will harm your relationship with your siblings well into adulthood.
You use the words; "my "perfect" siblings" in your letter. Do I take that to mean you are somewhat of a free spirit, the wild one of the siblings.
As a parent, depending on just how wild you may be, I see nothing wrong with being a free spirit. It is the free spirit, the non conformist that has proven to be the great discoveries of are past and present. I wouldn't want to totally stifle a free spirit. Though I would advice that as a young adult, under 18, there are times and places like it or not you must conform and perform to the rules in place. School is one of those places.
How mom equates dancing to a children's movie will make you a slut which by the way is a word I truly hate, is well beyond my realm of reason.
All I can advise you to do is to sit down with mom and try to have a talk with her. Tell her who this child of hers truly is. Tell her that you are more of a free spirit, if that is what you are, then your so called "perfect" siblings and why you feel this way. That being a free spirit will not make you a drug addict or anything else. Do some research if you want on some of the great discovers to find out what they were like and use that to prove your point if you want.
Will it help? I don't know, as I said I Would need more information then what you presented her. What it will do is make you feel better about yourself and that is my goal.
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