Member Since: June 17, 2012
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Last Update: June 17, 2012
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Hello,
Does the person I am now or the person I use to be define me?
What about the person I want to be?
Does how others view me have any effect in who I am as a person?
Can I be the person I want to be?
Am I bounded by my limitations?
Can I only grow so much?
Does my family define me?
Does my friends define me?
Everybody has their own perception, should I cut those out of my life that have a view of me that I find repulsive - I don't particularly like those people even though few are family.
Sometimes I feel that I wouldn't like a person if they liked me - at least whoever I was at that time. I end up despising those people.
Is it worth putting my life on hold until I come to be the person I want to be? (link)
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Hey =).
Ultimately, the only thing that defines you is yourself. Sounds a bit cliché I know, but you are who you are and nobody and nothing can change that without your own consent. Yes your family made you into who you are today, as well as all your past experiences etc. But you can't go back in time, and you can't change those things. So it's up to you to decide how you handle what has happened, and approach what is still going to happen in your life. As for other people's views, friends etc. you need to handle each case independently. At the end of the day, you should surround yourself with people who you are comfortable to be around. That's a lot easier said than done I know. But just remember as well, in a world with nearly 7 billion people, there are always new people to meet and replace those people who are insignificant in your life. And as for your last question, no. You should never put your life on hold. You will never get back that time lost. Life is about living, loving, growing, getting hurt, and getting over it. This cycle is permanent. So live your life and grow and adjust as you go through it all.
Enjoy =)
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18/F Australia
My bf and I were playing in bed and were naked. He was rubbing his penis against my vagina, and I was wet, he came and it felt like cum seeped down toward my opening. Im a virgin and he didnt go inside me at all. Advice please? (link)
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The above answer is totally accurate. The chance that you're pregnant is practically zero. You have more chance of being killed by an old person in a wheelchair =). However, you shouldn't let this happen again without some sort of protection. I'm all for playing and having fun. You've got hands and a mouth for that, and so does he. If you're going to experiment with both so close to actually penetrating, then make him wear a condom, or go on the pill. Yes, you wont be pregnant this time, but what about next time? One tiny little push, and he'd have been inside you, and then it's a different story.
Enjoy =)
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During foreplay when I go down on my man, I never know if you're suppose to blow him until he comes, or just stay down there for a couple minutes to get him warmed up before we start to have sex. I've gone down on him until he finished, but once he entered me, he was already tired and couldn't pump anymore which made me get nothing out of it. So my question is, what do the guys expect to receive when girls go down on them begore intercourse? Please help! (link)
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All the above answers are legit. The only addition I have to add is that there are different circumstances in which the result should be different. If you want to have sex with him afterwards, then your blow job should be slow and sensual, turning him on and getting him more pumped up to be inside you. In this case it's not about getting him close to climaxing. The second situation is where you just want to please him. In this case you will do a full effort job, and continue until he cums for you. So ultimately it depends on the situation. Sometimes it feels really good when out of the blue you just do it for him all the way and expect nothing in return.
Enjoy =)
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How can i get the girl i want, when i freeze up every time i see her (link)
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Hi there.
I was in exactly your position most of my school life. I always felt like I could never be myself around a girl that I liked because it was so crucial to create a good impression, so that I stood a chance. However, as soon as you leave school, and you realise how big the world is, how many millions upon millions of people there really are out there, it makes things a lot easier. I'm not saying it isn't still hard, but it does become a bit easier. What you need to realise is that unless you make the first move, most likely things will stay stagnant, and nothing will ever happen. You also don't want to be that person who confesses their love in your first proper conversation with her. A relationship is one block higher than a friendship. So that's where you need to start. Try and find a way to get to know her. The tricky part is finding something random to have your first proper conversation about. After that, your second conversation can start with something that relates back to the first one, if you know what I mean. Then just take it from there. Remember, if you never try, you've already lost. As for the freezing up issue, you just need to realise that it's not a matter of life or death if it fails or succeeds or not. Maybe it feels now like she is your 'dream girl', and maybe she is, but just think, would you rather watch her live her life without you from afar, or would you rather take a chance, and see where things go if they are meant to. Sorry about the essay hehe.
Good luck
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