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I'm 19, my boyfriend is 20. I'm not religious whatsoever, but my boyfriend is muslim and his family is very religious. He's met my whole family and they love him. He's forbidden from dating outside the race/religion, and me, being white and very un-religous makes it worse. His family has no idea of us & he's not even worried about it, saying "we'll take care of it when it comes down to it". I worry constantly because I think we have a future together! What am I supposed to do? Never meet his family? (link)
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Have the courage to force your boyfriend to live the truth of his faith...leave him.
I know you love him and he, in all likelihood, loves you very much.
If you leave him, and demand that he introduce you to his parents or else you will not be with him as his girlfriend, then it will force him to make a decision.
BUT YOU MUST BE STEADFAST.
Prepare yourself for some difficult emotional pain by surrounding yourself with friends, families, and activities that will help you take your mind off of him. It's okay to be friends with him, but do not be intimate, don't spend more than 5% of your time with him and don't go out with him alone period.
Force him to choose so that you can have the relationship you deserve.
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im just curious how long should you wait before you get married. For some reason ive been thinking aout marriage alot lately with my boyfriend weve been going out for about six months and i already know hes the one. I cant explain it i guess you just know
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People will tell you a lot of things in response to this question. I am going to give you an answer that isn't diplomatic.
DONT DO IT! Not because you're too young.
It's possible that you're more mature than 50% of americans because half of all marriages in America end in divorce.
Okay fine, you and your BF are destined to be together forever. If that's a fact, then waiting to get married for two years as a litmus test for the remaining eighty years of your life should be no trouble at all.
Think about your best friend in the world, besides your BF or course, and how much you've learned about him or her in all the time you've known them. Give your boyfriend the same opportunity to show his true colors.
I do hope that one day the two of you tie the knot, but wait so that you can discover yourself and him.
Best of luck
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I think I have found mr. Right, but he just broke it off with me because he needs to search himself. The other day I let him know that I was going on a date and he told me later that it hurt him. He alluded to us getting back together after he figures this out and asked if I would move with him if he left after graduation. I said yes. I left the conversation feeling optimistic about us getting back together. The problem is I don't want to wait for him becuase he may never come around. I am dating this other guy, but I know it hurts him and I don't want to be with anybody, but him. He still comes over and it feels like he does this to keep me from spending time with other guys. should I be a bitch and demand that he stop coming over or basque in his presence when he comes over? I miss him. (link)
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Tell him that you respect him and his desire to improve himself, that, in fact, you understand it and wish him the best in finding out who he is.
BUT...in the meantime, you too have to live your life and cannot wait for anyone.
I don't reccomend getting back with him regardless. Perhaps, this is an opportunity for the two of you to become better friends. It's been my experience that people need to become themselves independently of others so if he's expressing this need, it's real and you shouldn't put pressure on him to be in a relationship with you if that's not in his best interest.
You are NOT being unreasonable by asking him to call before he comes to visit or by saying no if you have other plans.
The last thing I'll say is it's highly unadvisable for you to be physically intimate with him if he can claim single status to other women.
Anyways, best of luck.
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okay so i love attention. so is it weird that i want to be a slut? i mean, ive done kind of sluttish things before but not to get the reputation of being one but i want to? is that normal or totally strange? and if not then what can i do to get it? (15/f btw.) (link)
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Don't be a slut, be yourself and attract the attention of guys without giving it up. Trust me, that kind of attention is far more pleasing than the bashing you'll get from both girls and guys at your age if you become promiscuous. AND...it's not going to be enjoyable for you, most guys your age are clueless...
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okay me and my X went out like a year ago and still very good friends. we hang out and talk about our love life and stuff. now i still like him a whole lot and i heard he still likes me well now hes a big flirt and i wanna see if its ferr sure that he likes me but all my friends say i cant cause if he says no i will look like such a loser. && that would rele suckk 2. but hes not making any moves. just calling every single nite and flirting with me nonstop and school. what should i do?!!
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Don't flirt back and don't pick up your phone BUT...don't be mean. Just treat him like he's a human being, but you're not interested in him...this will put him in the position of having to approach you more aggresively if he's interested. If he doesn't, then you know he's not interested. If he does, then you know he is interested and...you hold the cards. His flirtation is bait...to encourage you to make the first move so that he can have leverage.
It's important to be nice to him without being flirtatious, essentially you want to make yourself unavailable to him.
Good luck.
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she's liked this boy for.. idk.. forever, but they've been talking FOREVER and then they finally started dating, and then before he went on vacation to Mexico, he told her that he would never leave her and that he loves her so much, but then when he came back, he broke up with her, which obviously means he didn't mean it.
but he's the ONLY guy she's cried about.. and now she sees him everyday
and i'm worried because she gets really upset and angry when she sees him..
and i don't know what to do..
i pretty much hide her, like when he walks passed, i step in front so that she can't see him, but I can't do that for much longer.. :[
what do i do?
p.s. she was talking to me the other day, and she was telling me "i'm scared i'm going to lose EVERYONE.. i've already lost my BEST friend.. and then she lost her mom.. and then my mom died.. and now I lost *nick" i'm scared. (link)
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Tell your friend that you love her very much and that you don't want to see her continue to put herself out there with someone who clearly doesn't understand how special she is. Tell her that, no matter what, you'll support her regardless of what decision she makes, but it's difficult for you to see her in such an unhealthy relationship.
Then...listen to her without interrupting her and don't judge anything that she says.
It's highly likely that your friend wants to leave but is very attached to this guy. It's going to take some time.
After you have this conversation with her, DO NOT INTERFERE because it's really none of your business unless she asks you for help or advice.
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my little sister is 11 and she really wants to be an actress and we live in a small town about 40 miles from rockford what should she do?? (link)
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stay in school, participate in school plays, study dance, language, and do lots of community service where she's exposed to lots of different people in safe environments. In high school, try to get her involved in the best community theater programs available and take acting classes at your local community college. Go to college, study acting in a larger city, preferably NY or LA. Or attend an Ivy League, they have great drama programs, Harvard or Yale. While in college, use the resources to go out on auditions and audition for plays within the college. After that, it's up to her and hopefully she'll have learned about the business while also developing a great sensitivity for people which will enable her to become a great actress.
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