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marriage
im just curious how long should you wait before you get married. For some reason ive been thinking aout marriage alot lately with my boyfriend weve been going out for about six months and i already know hes the one. I cant explain it i guess you just know
20 f
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Hey, I am 20 years old, have been dating my ONE (that man is the best that has ever happened to me) for going on 3 years, and we have been living together for almost 2.
My advice to you is this:"Time will tell". I don't know how many long term relationships that you have been in, and you might just feel like,"Oh wow, 6 months, and we are both still so happy, he HAS to be the one."
And that may be true, but just to be sure, seriously think about my advice to you.
1). Live with him. I'm serious! You two get a small apartment together and see what happens. Honestly, you will find out so many things (big and minor) about your significant other that you very likely wouldn't have know about them until you came back from your honeymoon otherwise. And after the wedding is NOT the time to learn that your new hubby likes to play his music really loud during the evening (my man doesn't do this, but the jerk next door does.) PLUS, it will give you a "wake up call" to the real world of being husband and wife, and having to pay the bills together.
2.) Why NOT wait?? Personally, I know FAR TOO many girls from my senior class that are married, some right out of high school. I think they are nutts!! I love my man, and we have such a great relationship. And I want to put some "age" on our relationship, to give it a better chance of surviving in the long run. I refuse to marry my man until I am 23/24 years old (he will be 25/26).
Because I will have a steady job/starting my career, gotta save up some money!, have some years of college over with, and did I mention have more money saved up for my dream wedding? :)
Anyway, I say wait. I know, I know, I need to follow my own advice! 'Cause I can not stop myself from going to wedding planner/ album/ shopping websites and it's driving me crazy! But believe me, If you two want to spend the next 70/80 years together, another 1/2/3 years before you get married wouldn't hurt, would it? :)
(btw, sorry! I didn't mean for my reply to be this long! >.<)
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People will tell you a lot of things in response to this question. I am going to give you an answer that isn't diplomatic.
DONT DO IT! Not because you're too young.
It's possible that you're more mature than 50% of americans because half of all marriages in America end in divorce.
Okay fine, you and your BF are destined to be together forever. If that's a fact, then waiting to get married for two years as a litmus test for the remaining eighty years of your life should be no trouble at all.
Think about your best friend in the world, besides your BF or course, and how much you've learned about him or her in all the time you've known them. Give your boyfriend the same opportunity to show his true colors.
I do hope that one day the two of you tie the knot, but wait so that you can discover yourself and him.
Best of luck
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Depends on numerous factors, such as age and maturity of both persons, backgrounds, mental and emotional well-being, financial stability, life long goals, religion, education, family and lots more. Love is feelings right now and has little to do with reality. You can't really know him in six months and at your age you really barely even have begun to know yourself. Betting that you would both be happily married two years from now would be stupid. Enjoy the love feelings and build on them slowly. Leave room for lots of growth and get to know the most important person in your life....YOU.
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Well, my great aunt got married at 18, after knowing her boyfriend for only 2 months. They were married for 57 years! Of course, it all depends on the couple though.
Here's what my dad told me: Imagine a couple as two columns standing side by side. If the columns are strong and can stand on their own, they'll be able to support whatever you place on top of them. But if one column is leaning against the other, or if they're both leaning on each other, they won't be very sturdy; if you put something on top of them, they may collapse.
So yeah... if you and your boyfriend are both at a point where you can stand on your own, and you decide to be together because you WANT to, and not because you NEED to... then your marriage will have a better chance of surviving whatever comes along!
Good luck!
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you want to wait at least six months before deciding to get married. The engagement period should be at least six months as well. I would suggest getting pre-marital counseling. Getting married is a big step and you are so young, the counseling will help straighten the rough edges out. Have you talked about finances, children, religion, expectations? There are a lot of issues to discuss when making this step. Good luck!
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It's all based on personal preference.
He's gonna have to ask you though.
I would actually think about a year and a half would be about the minimum amount of time to decide to tie the knot.
Hope it works out!
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