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Hey everyone. My name is Rachel, and I am fourteen, fifteen in June. I need help. Well, I have a HUGE crush on a guy at school. He's incredibly handsome, and hilarious. (My two need-haves, when it comes to guys.) But, here’s the problem. I'm a freshman he's a junior. He's 17 in May. It's not a problem for me, and he has a few Ex's in my grade, so it's not a problem for him either. But my mom is a whole other story. Well, I had transferred to my school at the beginning of the school year, and my mom had casually asked if I had any boys on the brain. I told her about... Well let's call him "T", and she said, "Well, you know he's too old for you, right?" I had no reply to that. That made me a little mad. I mean technically there's only a year in between us. ALSO, my mom and dad are married, and my mom is 42, my dad 48. Don't you think that's kind of hypocritical? I mean, I'm not being disrespectful, or I don't mean to be anyway, but I don't think that's very fair. If you ask me, I don't think T and I have that big of an age difference. But, if mommy says, Rachel does. If she tells me I can't date him, I won't, no questions asked. But if I convinced her otherwise and she said I could, I'd be content in doing so. So, lying and sneaking around is absolutely out of the question. But, I need a few tips on how to convince her that the difference isn't that large. Any ideas? Or even if you think the difference is big, give your opinion please! I will not judge or anything. Any advice will be accepted. Thanks~! J (link)
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Im 15 and me and my boyfriend are 5 years apart. So I kind of have an idea what you are talking about. My parents dissaprove about this and make big deals all the time that im dating him but they know I love him!(: You just just tell her that hes a nice boy and that before shes going to be judgemental she should get a chance to meet him ; he could be a good guy (:
Shes probably going to say something like well why would a 17 want to date a 14 year old anyways? Just explain to her that she cant judge you guys being together or him without meeting with him and talking to him about his future plans and stuff. So she knows he's going somewhere with his life! Hope I helpeddd!
If you need anymore help at all im here ;;
send me a message so I can talk to you personally(:
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i feel stupid saying this..but what are the bases. like when you get to first base or second...? thanks i rate high! (link)
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Haha it depends relationship bases are as I understand it
1- kiss/ makeout
2- like a little bit of touching
3- sex ?
Ha I think thats it.
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I am 13 and a girl. I really like my best friend, we went out but i still have major feelings for him.He knows but really doesnt care. How can i stop or get him to like me again ? (link)
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Well I mean if he doesnt like you than you cant really force him to like you. Things like that just happen. Maybe you should just give him his space you guys are bestfriends remember you dont want to wreck a good friendship for a relationship chances are it wont work out and your going to miss having that person as your bestfriend(: You said he doesnt really care, if he doesnt care maybe you should try and realize that you need to move on and find someone that actually cares that you have deeper feelings for them(:
Goood Luck! (;
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Like when im at the mall, i see hot guys and stuff my age,and i do look older then my real age (13) and like, how can i get them to talk to me? are they like shy? (they dont look it) i mean, should i talk to them what should i do? (link)
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15/F
Well usually for me I let the guy come and talk to me. I usually never talk to a guy first(: It makes it fun and sometimes hilarious when you watch how they approach you and the things they say. But I mean if you want to approach a guy you should just be yourself ; just start casually talking to them or flirt a little bit from a distance (; Like touch all over your stomach and wink and act like you dropped something(:
Haha it makes them go crazzy.
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okay thing is, this Guy whoe I think I have feelings for, but thing is that I blew it and let him go, He wanted be with me over the summer, thing is that i been advoding him, and we always be best friend, and been 3 weeks he haven't even call plus he want me call him sometimes but i don't know what to say, how to have a casul coverstion, he hase gf and i don't feel wel lu know. (link)
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You seem kind of young so my best advice is not to stress it. Hes a guy there is many other guys out there and alot of growing up for them and you too do!(: And if he has a girlfriend then I would just let them be as hard as it might seem. You will move on eventually and find someone betterrr! (:
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what are you pooping when people say you popped your cherry (link)
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Your hymen ; its on the inside of a vagina.
It doesnt pop. It tears when a you lose your virginity.
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Have you ever seen someone and felt like wow i want to go talk to them partly because of looks but then again parly because it is just this strong feeling and you dont know why. Well, im feeling like that and im shy and dont have any idea what to do. i really really like beyond belief want to talk to his kid. what should i do to talk to him. his sister is on my sisters soccer team and thats where i see him. what should i do to talk to him i dont want to just walk up to him and be like "hi whats your name?" because to me that would just be weird. Aslso hes always around his mom or dad because he doesnt know anyone there he only talks to them too and sometimes his other sister when shes there. How do i get him away from them for time to talk without it being awkward? im really shy and scared to look like and idiot in front of him and him think im a loser. please help me!!! (link)
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If im really into a guy and I dont want to look like an idiot just walking up too him I usually wait till noone is really around and then I creep up and just say something like Hey! you are a really good soccer player. Guys like it when you give them compliments no matter what you say they liked to be praised even if your lying. Kind of like they always Have to be right! Dont be shy hes just another kid if he doesnt laugh along with you or start up a convo. then give it time dont let it get akward ask him questions like
1)how long hes been playing soccer
2) what school he goes too.
Simple things. If you feel it getting akward you should just be like well it was great meeting you good luck on your next game ;or something like that. Dont act nervous guys like confident girls(:
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ok so theres this guy that i went out with this summer and we brokeup. i still really really like him and i talk to him still and were fwb(friends wiht benefits)and everything and he tells me how much he really really likes me and im all he thinks about and he says he wants to be wiht me but his sports, work, and school get in the way for him to have a girlfriend. and he doesnt want to hurt me again well the past week or so he hasnt really called and when icall him he is always hey can i call u back and he never does and ya i dont know if he still likes me or what but i dont know if i should wait for him or i should move on!!
please let me know soon i have wanted to knoe for awhile (link)
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15/F
If I was you I would give him space maybe text him or write him a message on myspace or facebook and just be like Hey! when you arent busy we should hangout sometime. Or something like that. He probably likes you ; you said hes always busy with sports and work and school maybe he is really busy. If I was you I would wait till I know I can get him alone and he cant be busy. Maybe around 10:30 - 11 ish call him or text him and just be like hey! how was your day or something. Ask him how everything went you dont want him to stop likeing you because your clingy all guys like a chase. Give him the chance to call you or write you when hes not busy. Even if it takes a couple days if he really really likes you eventually he will make a move(:
Hope I helpedd!
Im here if you need anymore advice
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ok so like i have this boyfriend i've been with for awhile now. i've noticed whenever we're making out he'll lead my hands down the like his junk, and like i can feel that its really hard against my hips but i always rush my hands back up to his shoulders. i dont really know what i should do, i'm more or less clueless. like i dont wanna go in his pants but i wanna like do something that'll feel good for him. i'm afraid i might like hurt him and that would be so embarrasing or i'll do something and he wont feel anything at all...i could use some pretty detailed advice here (link)
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Well if your ready you said you have beeen with him for a while now im sure you guys are comfortable with eachother then this is what I do with my boyfriend ; I move my lips from his mouth to his neck I just slowly kiss and suck on his neck while at the same time im undoing his zipper and button. Im not saying you have too do this but I mean he obviously wants you too do something with his dick not just rush your hands back up to his shoulder if hes moving your hands down to his junk. you know? And then you should just be tell him you dont want to hurt him because its your first time doing this so he should take it out and then just give him a handjob while you are kissing either his neck or his mouth! (:
Just have funn! Laugh as you go along so
it doesnt seem akward(:
I went into detail so you kind of know
exactly what too do!
The guys really enjoy itt too(:
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Ugh. He was perfect, but ended up cheating on me with his ex.
I just can't get over him. I broke up with him last Saturday and EVERY night I dream about him-- us getting back together, arguing, or being happy together. I know he doesn't want me back because he HASN'T called or anything. I can still smell him (in a good way, lol), I can't get his kisses out of my head or the way he held me or the laughs we had, and especially his smile. This is my first heartbreak it SURE hurts a lot. I'm SO SICK of love songs, every song reminds me of him. I'm athletic and try to stay busy, but nothing is working. I do NOT want to talk to any other guys because I'm not over him/I'm scared of getting hurt again. I don't know what to do!
What should I do? I just want to be done with him. (link)
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If you want to be done with him cut yourself off from him for good. Delete his number, his myspace, his facebook, messages you guys had together, pictures you had together. Dont let yourself change because of this guy. Go out and enjoy yourself do what you normally do. Act strong around him even if you are about to break. Act like you are better then him and you are obviously he cheated on you, you cant get worst then that. Hes low. You need to go on with life,do things that keep your mind off him ; there is other fish in the sea(;
Hope I helped(:
If you need anymore advice im here
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i've always been a really shy and quiet person. people who don't even know me think i'm weird because of it, am i? i'm not unfriendly or antisocial, i talk when people talk to me, i'm just not always the first one to speak up. i'm not very confident but when you get to know me i open up to people. i'm afraid of how other people percieve me and it makes me shy sometimes. is there something wrong with me? am i weird because of this? or is it their problem if they don't like me? (link)
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You are not weird. Dont let anyone tell you that you are weird because you are shy. I have kids in my school the same way. You just need to find a group of friends that you can trust and be completely open with. Dont let others ever put you down(: Everybody has their own special quailities! Like I said find a group of friends that have the same interests as you be open with them hangout with them outside of school. Invite them too the movies to the bowling alley(; Have fun with them. But because you are shy does not make you weird remember that! (:
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Well to start off...my best friend, who goes to a different high school than me, has...changed. I mean, she's still very nice and the most kind-hearted person I know and we've been BFFs for almost 6 years now. But, lately she's been doing bad things that she normally wouldn't do. Just a few days ago we were talking to each other on the phone (which we haven't done for almost a whole year now), and I asked how high school is going for her (we're both in freshmen year). She says it's going great and I'm glad she likes it...but what concerns me the most is that she started drinking and skipping a lot of days from school to hang out with her friends. I was really shocked and surprised because she always talks about not doing those things. But what really shocked me the most is that she now has another boyfriend (God knows how many she had when high school started) who she only knew for just 2 months...and she said that they're going to have sex next month...I don't know why she said next month, honestly. I was speechless when she said that and I was asking all sorts of questions of whether she should trust this "boyfriend" of hers and what if something horrible happens that could change her life. I got even more worried when she said that he's not that type of a guy and that he said to her that he'll still be with her no matter what happens. And just before I got to say something, she had to go and we both said our goodbyes.
I was thinking about this the whole day and she's still my best friend. I'm really really worried about her and I don't trust her boyfriend at all (and I haven't even met him), ESPECIALLY having the sex part...for god's sake their only in high school, right?! I still love her like a sister and I don't want to offend her if I tell her to seriously dump the guy because I believe that he's lying about being with her always.
All I'm asking is...what should I say to her without hurting her feelings too badly about this whole decision of hers, especially the stuff she's doing?
Greatly appreciated~ and thank you for taking the time to read this, I apologize for the length! =) (link)
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Well to me it sounds like in a month no matter whhat she is going to have sex with her boyfriend. All you can do is tell her what you think of this situation tell her that you are worried for her well being. Your trying to look out for her and make sure that she knows how big of a situation this is. Im guessing since you guys are freshman she is a virgin maybe you should remind her that 2 months is nothing and that she really has no idea what consequences come with having sex. Tell her that she needs to atleast be with this guy longer before she makes any rash decisions like this. You have to admit 2 months is pretty rash. Just tell her exactly how you feel. And about skipping school and drinking thats high school. Its probably a shock because you guys are freshman in middle school kids rarely drink. You have no control over her life. All you can do is explain to her how her decisions can affect her family her friends and herself!
Hope I helped(:
If you need anymore advice feel free to
let me know, Ill try and help some more
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Ive liked this girl for a really long time, all through school since middle school and now at the end of HS, but she doesn't like me back and i know this for a fact so why can't i let it go and move on? I try and try but something has a hold on me. What should i do? I know i should find someone else but its hard. (link)
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Maybe you should try your hardest and try and find someone else. I know this is going to be hard and im sure you have heard this before but there is other fish in the sea(: You have to tell yourself that she is not the only girl out there that you will ever really like. Your ending HS; you still have many many more years to go(: And after high school most people go their seperate ways anyway. There is another person out there for you , you just got to find her(:
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ok so blah im 16..
yesterday i went out with chris and we went to a 21 and over club and i got in.. so we were dancing then we left cause we were going to meet up his friends.. so it was just me and him in his car... we had sex in the back seat... i was a virgin... or am i dont know it was like 3 min long because his friend came to get us so he pulled it out quick... we didnt use a condom.. and he wanted to cum in me but obviously he didnt wanna get me pregnant.. so yeah, like what do i do? i really like him. and next week hes going up north California cause since he's in the marines he has to go train and he MIGHT go to iraq.. i dont know what to do.. i dont know if hes going to take me seriously..
i sent him a txt this morning saying
"was that a 1 time thing or what? this is the first and last time im going to ask you this so be straight up" and he hasent replied yet (link)
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Im going to try and give you the best advice I can. I lost my virginity in a back seat with a 18 year old and I was 14. Im still with him because he lives in the same town I live in. I see him alot and talk to him all the time. This 24 year old guy is leaving it doesnt matter if hes going to California or Iraq. He is not going to be where you need him which would be with you. He is not going to take you seriously you lost your virginity to him and he wanted to cum in you? And he didnt use a condom? Seems like he was just trying to get pleasure off you. Im not trying to sound harsh im sorry if I do. Im just trying to answer your question the way I see it. He didnt reply to your text message Idk how long it has been since you sent him the text message but chances are if it takes him more than 10-15 hours to write you back then dont expect a text back or a call. The only thing I can say is go on with your life text him in a week or two and just write something like Hey, I just wanted to see how everything is going. The age difference is 8 years chances are if you call him alot or text message him constantly he is GOING to think you are annoying and clingy. I would just move on learn and live(: Just try and be careful(:
Good luckk.
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okay so i was afraid to tell the guy im in love with.. that i'm in love with him!! well i did..
theres a big age difference.. but before i told him the news.. he told me that he loved me as just his best friend.. that he loved me as his girlfried. its been four years that we have been this close... when he told me he loved me i said please dont.. that i had convinced myself i didnt love him like that anymore.. but i came clean and told him that i loved him and that i always have and always will. then i said forget i said that because i didnt want to lose him but he said dont be afriad to say that!!!! he didnt say that he loved me back.. but he lives far away.. and he has a girlfriend... am i to late? should i just run to see him when i turn eighteen?? i dont want to lose him..but im afraid he will now that i said the words I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU!!
What do i do!!!!!!!!!!!!! i will never turn back on thoughs words.. please help me.. i wont lose him!
sincerely mickeyc! (link)
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Okay if I was you he cant be too great because hes saying I love you to you and dating someone else at the same time. No matter how you look at it he isnt being completely sincere to his girlfriend OR you. If the age difference is that huge than chances is he is experienced and hes having sex with his girlfriend. That really has nothing to do with it but I mean most likely that is what hes doing despite if he says he is or not. And also if he lives far away then what are the chances of you guys actually having a future anyways when you turn 18 by the time you turn 18 he will prob. be with someone and ready to settle down. Who knows? But I mean just watch out he lives far away who knows what kind of stuff he may do.
Hope I helped(:
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A couple of days ago my girlfriend broke up with me. She told me her parents found out about our physical relationship and didn't want us to be anything more then friends. We'll she didn't tell me at first and just started acting weird like pushing me away. She told me when they said we couldn't hangout outside of school (We hardly see each other in school since were not in the same grade) and she wanted me to stop walking her. So its only been 3 days since we last talked and i never stopped thinking about her and about what happened. Our relationship was never perfect we ran into a lot of problems but overcame them. The day after she told me i wrote her a note saying everything (how i felt about her). And i asked her if she wanted to pick up were we left when this blows over. And she told me that she couldn't make me wait. And that's all she said and that we can only be friends. I wasn't sure that she would say lets wait this out and we can text like we usually do every day. But if she were to say no lets just be friends i expected more. Because i thought we had more. I'm a good guy i never put any pressure on what we did i let her know if she felt uncomfortable at all to let me know. But her parents don't see that they probably think im like all the other guys that just want a girl for their body and don't really care about them. I wish they could see how much i love their daughter but i was always pretending to be a friend.
Im sorry for making this so long theirs so much more to say but ill cut it off here. I want advice on how to deal with this.
What do you think i should do?
What is she thinking about? She use to say stuff like I'll always love you and your a great guy and i cant believe i almost lost you (Something similar happened b4 and she's broken my heart many times). But when her parents say no she makes me think that it was all a lie or it doesn't matter anymore. I know we were in love but will she come back to me again?
"Empty" is how i feel without her (link)
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Im kind of going thru a situation EXACTLY like this; My boyfriends older 21 im 16 I love him to death and believe it or not he loves me. My parents put a restraning order on him but we are so much in love that that did nothing to our relationship. I mean I still see him my parents have no idea but I still do ; All im saying is this girl is just saying I cant make you wait, we can be friends. If she loves you the way you love her then her response should be I love you, I would want nothing more than to be with you so if you want to wait and we can wait till all this blows over then I would love to continue on with our relationship, something along those lines. You know? Maybe she doesnt want to piss her parents off and still date you. I dont know what kind of girl she is. But I mean if she felt the same way then she would be doing anything too still date you talk to you. She would be an emotional wreck. So I think personally you should just text her and say (her name) I love you, I will wait for you I want to be with you so I WILL WAIT if you want to continue where we left off when all this is over with then I will be right here. I want you to be happy so I will do whatever you want me too do. If she writes back we should be friends then thats what she wants you cant force yourself on her you know? Be friends with her this cant be easy on you knowing that but atleast you are still in contact sooner or later she might realize she misses you and wants to be with you. If she responds and says I love you and I want to be with you then you know that you guys will wait and that there may be a future for you guys(:
Sorry it was so longg(:
Good luck(;
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well i have been friends for this girl for like ever and we have been besties for this whole year untill this new girl moved here and "stole" her from me. it now seems like i have to complete with this new girl to stay friends.what should i do? i don't wan't to hurt her feelings even tho she's been hurting mine. she kees ignoring me and has been treating me really bad. i really need help right now cuz i don't want to loose this friendship. (link)
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I went thru this same thing ; I just let them do their thing. It may hurt you but eventually your friend will realize that she misses you and come back to you. I mean still be like us 3 should hangout, go out to eat ; see a movie(: Or something along those lines. Plan for all 3 to hangout. And then on night call your friend and just be like do you want to come over and you can stay the night and we can just chill at my house or something. She in most cases will realize she misses you and want to spend more time with you again. Give it time(:
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So there's this guy I like (let's call him A). He started hanging around with our friend group about a month and a half ago. The day we met, A talked to me quite a bit, made eye contact with me. The next day, everyone was saying that he thought I was really hot. However, he did have a girlfriend (G) at this point. One night after that, we were all out, a bunch of people, and it was dark and A came up to me and asked if I wanted to sit on his skateboard with him. Whenever someone asked him about G, he always acted really disinterested.
From then on, A would always smile and talk to me if he saw me at school, as well as high fiving me, staring at me a lot, and doing things like making me wear his hat. Out of school, he would always sit next to me, compliment my clothes and seemed really happy when he found out we're going to the same college next year.
Then, while I was away for a week, A and G split up. When I got up, he was the same, always looking happy to see me and hugging me all the time.
We went camping just over a week ago, and everyone told me A wanted to share a tent with me. There were actually four of us in the tent, but me and A did sleep next to each other. However, G made an appearance that night, and he did seem to talk to me less when she was around.
Then I went round his with a bunch of other people, including this girl (W), A hugged me and acted the same as usual, but I couldn't help but notice that him and W seemed pretty close. When I dropped obvious hints that I would have liked to sleep in his double bed with him, he didn't acknowledge them, and then W slept there instead.
A few days later, I was out and someone mentioned that A and W had had sex and there was something going on between them but it seemed to be a secret. It was this same day that A was constantly complimenting me, putting his arm around me and basically hanging out with me all the time. We were standing next to each other, and he just started playing with my hands and then he held my hand and didn't say anything. Later, I asked if anyone wanted to come to the cinema, A straight away said, "I'll go!" He asked who else was coming, and when I said I didn't know, he said "It'll just be me and you then." jokily. However, W showed up a bit later and then he didn't really speak to me that much.
The next day, although we didn't go to the cinema, we were both out and he kept apologising about not being able to go, and we kept making eye contact, like the kind you make when you both understand something that no one else does. But then when we were all talking, someone teased A about making a move on me (S), and A said, "No, I wouldn't make a move on S. Unless she wants me to." and then he looked me right in the eye and we just stared at each other while everyone else carried on talking :S
Later, everyone was ahead of me and A, we were walking and he put his arm around me, and then asked who I was going to prom with. I said I didn't know, and he asked me if I'd go to prom with him. Embarrassingly, I acted all shocked that he didn't have a date and asked him why he wasn't going with anyone. He said that he was going to go with G but then they broke up, and then he was going to go with W but if he did, everyone would think they were together, when they're not. So he wanted to go with me.
That night, he texted me asking if I wanted to go to the cinema the next day, just me and him. I said maybe, but then he didn't reply and the next day he still didn't, so I just went out and he did too and said that he thought I was gonna call, and then (in front of other people), "We're not gonna be alone now then..". Later he made me promise him I'd go with him sometime soon, and referred to it to someone else as "our first date."
A couple days ago, loads of people were round, and me and him slept in the same bed and we spooned and held hands all night, and my friend said he was staring at me all the time. But then the next morning W phoned him, and someone else was talking to her and said something about me and A, and A looked really worried. He also said that W thinks he fancies me, and then joked around saying "Because I do, just kidding". But then jokily said to me that him and W were just friends. Since then, we've been texting and he always asks questions, which means he must want to carry on talking, but then he always takes ages to reply.
He's always complimenting me, saying things like, "I really like the way you dress.", "I love your (insert item of clothing here)", "You look gorgeous.", "I think you're a lovely girl.", "Your hair looks nice." etc. and although he's a bit of a charmer, I havn't noticed him complimenting any other girls half as much. He always notices little things about me, and comments on them and asks me questions about them. He ALWAYS sticks up for me and helps me out and asks me about my interests.
I'm pretty sure he likes me, but the problem is know there's also something going on between him and W.
How can I:
get him to like me more?
move our relationship forward?
find out more about him and W
and, What do you think everything he's done means?
Please don't tell me to give up on him, because I've already decided I'm not going to do that.
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Hey that was long and king of counfusing with the letters, but ill try and answer your question the best I can(:
Alright it sounds like G is into you but it also sounds like W and G have a thing going on too. If I was you I would play hard to get. You said he takes a long time to text you back, starting now you should wait around 10-15 minutes before you text him back. I doubt G is just going to think your not interested in him, if anything I think it will make him more focused on trying to get your attention and in that case stop talking to W as much because he is so focused on whats going on with you. Dont over due it though, if G invites you to the cinema and you are free and want to go let him know that you can make it and that you would enjoy going but at the same time act 50% interested and 50% not interested ; most guys like a chase. If he comes up to you at school and tries and holds your hand just move it casually look at him in the eyes and smile. If he compliments you just say Thank-you followed by a quick smile(: And if you do want to text him one night if he doesnt before you write something simple like hey! Basically play hard to get. He will fade away from W because he is trying to get all your attention on him. Therefore he will be way more interested in whats going on with you. Leave him wanting more(;
Hope I helpedd!
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So for a dance i did my hair in curls and i really liked it but it took like an hour with a curling iron. I have long brown hair. It is straight but wavy in a few spots. I was wondering how i could get long loose curls in my hair, but like not scrunching it, or taking hours with a curling iron, bc i dont have a curling iron and i hate lots of hairspray. thanks! (link)
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if i was you i would just get curlers.
put them in like 1 hour before you leave
to whereever you are going. then take them out
when they are all colder and then spray some
hairspray in your hair. just so it sticks.
hope i helpedd. (=
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yeah i kno this prolyl is a stupid question
nyways
well my guy friends they most of them take me as a "sister"
is that better than being a friend?
closer?? (link)
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when i guy would say they see me as a sister. i would think it would just make him feel like he can tell you anything and he knos i wont judge him. he doesnt see you as anything past just as a Extremly good friend who he feels can trust you with everything. closer as love life i wouldnt think that would make him like you more then friends, if all of them see you as a sister. but thats my opinion.
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