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Worried
Well to start off...my best friend, who goes to a different high school than me, has...changed. I mean, she's still very nice and the most kind-hearted person I know and we've been BFFs for almost 6 years now. But, lately she's been doing bad things that she normally wouldn't do. Just a few days ago we were talking to each other on the phone (which we haven't done for almost a whole year now), and I asked how high school is going for her (we're both in freshmen year). She says it's going great and I'm glad she likes it...but what concerns me the most is that she started drinking and skipping a lot of days from school to hang out with her friends. I was really shocked and surprised because she always talks about not doing those things. But what really shocked me the most is that she now has another boyfriend (God knows how many she had when high school started) who she only knew for just 2 months...and she said that they're going to have sex next month...I don't know why she said next month, honestly. I was speechless when she said that and I was asking all sorts of questions of whether she should trust this "boyfriend" of hers and what if something horrible happens that could change her life. I got even more worried when she said that he's not that type of a guy and that he said to her that he'll still be with her no matter what happens. And just before I got to say something, she had to go and we both said our goodbyes.
I was thinking about this the whole day and she's still my best friend. I'm really really worried about her and I don't trust her boyfriend at all (and I haven't even met him), ESPECIALLY having the sex part...for god's sake their only in high school, right?! I still love her like a sister and I don't want to offend her if I tell her to seriously dump the guy because I believe that he's lying about being with her always.
All I'm asking is...what should I say to her without hurting her feelings too badly about this whole decision of hers, especially the stuff she's doing?
Greatly appreciated~ and thank you for taking the time to read this, I apologize for the length! =)
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Well to me it sounds like in a month no matter whhat she is going to have sex with her boyfriend. All you can do is tell her what you think of this situation tell her that you are worried for her well being. Your trying to look out for her and make sure that she knows how big of a situation this is. Im guessing since you guys are freshman she is a virgin maybe you should remind her that 2 months is nothing and that she really has no idea what consequences come with having sex. Tell her that she needs to atleast be with this guy longer before she makes any rash decisions like this. You have to admit 2 months is pretty rash. Just tell her exactly how you feel. And about skipping school and drinking thats high school. Its probably a shock because you guys are freshman in middle school kids rarely drink. You have no control over her life. All you can do is explain to her how her decisions can affect her family her friends and herself!
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