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How old is too old?
Hey everyone. My name is Rachel, and I am fourteen, fifteen in June. I need help. Well, I have a HUGE crush on a guy at school. He's incredibly handsome, and hilarious. (My two need-haves, when it comes to guys.) But, here’s the problem. I'm a freshman he's a junior. He's 17 in May. It's not a problem for me, and he has a few Ex's in my grade, so it's not a problem for him either. But my mom is a whole other story. Well, I had transferred to my school at the beginning of the school year, and my mom had casually asked if I had any boys on the brain. I told her about... Well let's call him "T", and she said, "Well, you know he's too old for you, right?" I had no reply to that. That made me a little mad. I mean technically there's only a year in between us. ALSO, my mom and dad are married, and my mom is 42, my dad 48. Don't you think that's kind of hypocritical? I mean, I'm not being disrespectful, or I don't mean to be anyway, but I don't think that's very fair. If you ask me, I don't think T and I have that big of an age difference. But, if mommy says, Rachel does. If she tells me I can't date him, I won't, no questions asked. But if I convinced her otherwise and she said I could, I'd be content in doing so. So, lying and sneaking around is absolutely out of the question. But, I need a few tips on how to convince her that the difference isn't that large. Any ideas? Or even if you think the difference is big, give your opinion please! I will not judge or anything. Any advice will be accepted. Thanks~! J
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that isnt a big age difference at all like i know a ton of freshman that date juniors. what you should do though, is introduce him to your mom, and show her what a nice guy he is. hopefully your mom will like him just as much as you do. you have to prove her that he will be resposible and respect you and that he's a nice guy. just telling her probably wont work; invite him over one day or something and introduce him to your mom. if she sees that he is a good guy and will be good for you, then the age difference probably wont matter so much
hope this helps!=]
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The best thing to do is have them talk to each other. Go out to get ice cream, coffee, or something.
But I honestly thing the age difference is a bit too much at your age. If you were older, like 18.. it would be more okay to me.
She just doesn't want you to get hurt & I don't want you to either. It's just I had a bad experience. (I didn't get fooled into having sex. He ended up raping me.)
Just make sure you really know the guy!!
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alright, basically you should just tell your mom about how much you like him. also, if he talks very respectfully to her and tells her that hell treat you with respect and dignity then thatd be a great help. im 15, and ihave a 19 year old boyfriend. at first my mom FLIPPED but after he talked to her and stuff she was straight with it, she actually likes him a lot! i dont think love should be based on gender, age, or rules. so jus try to politely ask her about it, and have him talk to her.
good luck hun, feel free to message me if you need more help :)
x sweeethoney
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i think your mom is just scared of the guy, that he, been older, might be thinking about other things and that you are too jung to be exposed to those things, it's just your mom been your mom. So, what you need to do is just talk to her, say you like the guy, mention his good cualities, what you like about him, tell her that your not even sure your gonna date him, just are gonna get to know him better. I really don't think that the difference is that much, actually been with a guy older is better, really, normaly they are more madure and kind of valorate you better. Talk more to the guy, get to know him better and talk to your mom, and if things get seriously then bring the guy home so your mom get to know him better and then she would see that the age is not a problem. Hope this help you!
Malu.
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Im 15 and me and my boyfriend are 5 years apart. So I kind of have an idea what you are talking about. My parents dissaprove about this and make big deals all the time that im dating him but they know I love him!(: You just just tell her that hes a nice boy and that before shes going to be judgemental she should get a chance to meet him ; he could be a good guy (:
Shes probably going to say something like well why would a 17 want to date a 14 year old anyways? Just explain to her that she cant judge you guys being together or him without meeting with him and talking to him about his future plans and stuff. So she knows he's going somewhere with his life! Hope I helpeddd!
If you need anymore help at all im here ;;
send me a message so I can talk to you personally(:
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Your mom's probably not trying to be a hypocrite, she just wants what's best for you. Try explaining your point of view to her without getting angry & raising your voice. Point out the age difference between her & your dad, & ask her to just give it a chance to meet him & everything before she tells you no.
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