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you know that guy chris, the one whos a marine and 24?
ok so blah im 16..
yesterday i went out with chris and we went to a 21 and over club and i got in.. so we were dancing then we left cause we were going to meet up his friends.. so it was just me and him in his car... we had sex in the back seat... i was a virgin... or am i dont know it was like 3 min long because his friend came to get us so he pulled it out quick... we didnt use a condom.. and he wanted to cum in me but obviously he didnt wanna get me pregnant.. so yeah, like what do i do? i really like him. and next week hes going up north California cause since he's in the marines he has to go train and he MIGHT go to iraq.. i dont know what to do.. i dont know if hes going to take me seriously..
i sent him a txt this morning saying
"was that a 1 time thing or what? this is the first and last time im going to ask you this so be straight up" and he hasent replied yet
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Im going to try and give you the best advice I can. I lost my virginity in a back seat with a 18 year old and I was 14. Im still with him because he lives in the same town I live in. I see him alot and talk to him all the time. This 24 year old guy is leaving it doesnt matter if hes going to California or Iraq. He is not going to be where you need him which would be with you. He is not going to take you seriously you lost your virginity to him and he wanted to cum in you? And he didnt use a condom? Seems like he was just trying to get pleasure off you. Im not trying to sound harsh im sorry if I do. Im just trying to answer your question the way I see it. He didnt reply to your text message Idk how long it has been since you sent him the text message but chances are if it takes him more than 10-15 hours to write you back then dont expect a text back or a call. The only thing I can say is go on with your life text him in a week or two and just write something like Hey, I just wanted to see how everything is going. The age difference is 8 years chances are if you call him alot or text message him constantly he is GOING to think you are annoying and clingy. I would just move on learn and live(: Just try and be careful(:
Good luckk.
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You have a number of concerns that you should not need to be having. It is very concerning that you are 16 and he is 24 as I am sure you are already aware.
As a 16 year old you cannot "please" a 24 year old. I do not mean sexually. I am certain you could have made him a very happy man. But as a 24 year old man he has eight years on you. He has theoretically finished high school, had a number of relationships, a number of jobs, 8 years worth of life experience that you simply have not had. He is in the marines and will possibly be traveling out of the country having even more experiences (many of which could be traumatically bad) and here you are still in high school hoping he is "taking you seriously".
I am sorry to say but if I were you I would not trust this guy. I would question everything he is saying to you because any promises he makes he likely cannot keep. He is living his life. His very adult male life as a marine being deployed! You are still in high school contemplating teenage things like going to the next dance, getting a job, a car, going to college and where, cute boys you may have a crush on or if a cute boy was looking at you.
You have probably heard that the older you are age differences are not as big a deal. This is true. If you are 22 and he is pushing 30 and you want to get together again it may work out. I can tell you with almost 100% certainty that there will not be a long term relationship between you and this guy. Please do not allow yourself to get hurt either emotionally or physically (or for live such as an STD or pregnancy) by giving in to your lust for this guy. You deserve more than this and certainly better than this.
Best of luck.
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well just seeing as how he was going away i dont really think you should involve yourself in any sort of "relationship" with this guy...you dont really know when you're going to see this guy again...as far as the txt, i think you came on a bit too aggressive, you should have tried to ease it in there...like for example "hey, about last night...im not saying i regret it, but was that something you wanted to do or was it just in the moment? should i expect it to happen again or was it just a one time thing?" try not to sound too aggressive...but its like i said, you shouldn't really involve yourself with this guy, he will be going away soon, and just doing anything with him will keep you wanting more and he wont be able to give it. Save yourself the pain and heart aches!
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Hi again,
I am glad that you turned to me again for advice.
From what you told me before in you last question, I thought he was going to be more responsible, but I see that he wasn't and he doesn't care about the consequences of his actions. It's not like you're going to turn him in, right?
All I can say is that I hope you don't regret what you did. I know it can be hard to resist temptation when you are really into someone. It's hard to resist especially when it's considered to be the wrong thing to do. It's sort of a turn on for someone his age to want you. I've been in situations like that, so I'm not scolding you.
I hope that you don't get pregnant, but you know it's possible. I don't want you to be hurt or bring you down, but I think the odds of him getting serious with you are slim.
He's 24 years old and for the most part, he got what he wanted from you. He's leaving, possibly for Iraq. His training is not going to give him a lot of time for any type of relationship. It is very possible that it is a one time thing and you won't see or hear from him again.
If he is a gentleman, he will be honest with you and tell you how it is. If he doesn't, screw him. Learn from it and move one. I honestly hope everything works out for you. You have your whole life ahead of you.
Good luck to you,
Ediemarie
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