Almost eighteen...Darling, your life has not yet begun, and you wish to end it? Look, I'm not going to tell you that there's something wrong with you, or that you need to go talk to a doctor. There are support groups which are very good at assisting people who deal with suicidal thoughts and emotions. But that's not for everyone. Honestly, you posting your situation on here- whether you realize it or not- is a cry for help. I am very happy you have chosen to do so, as I know it is indeed a very difficult thing to do. However, I know what it's like to feel like you have nothing to live for. I've been there once before. What you need to do is be strong, and give yourself a reason to live. Find a new hobby, make some new friends, or even start talking to old ones that you haven't seen in a while. It's hard to go to a trusted adult, and it's even harder to talk to a stranger. But if you have a close friend that will listen, maybe you should talk to them about what's on your mind once in a while. It's hard in this case to tell you exactly what to do, because everyone is different. But I will tell you one thing: NOTHING is worth taking your own life. Keep searching, and don't give up. Planning something for the future is sometimes a very helpful technique. Picture in your head or write down a very detailed description of a possible trip you would some day like to take. Try to think of goals, and achieve them! You can do anything if you put your mind to it- including finding a reason to live.

Hang in there, kid.
- Elliott

Well....It all started when I was two...
Ha! Kidding (: You see, it's difficult to explain to someone, but it really is more of an emotional thing. When you're with someone, no matter who it is, and you feel comfortable with that person, it's easy to see if you belong with that person. IF that person happens to be another girl, chances are, there's an attraction between the two of you. I, myself have had feelings for women almost my entire life- even before I was old enough to understand what the term "gay" meant. Shocking? Maybe. But perhaps you just need time to explore your emotions, and figure out your own personal identity. I always tell people, "don't go looking for love, let love come looking for you," and I'm pretty sure that is the best advice I can give to you right now. Don't rush yourself into anything, and give yourself a little space, as well as time to think. Even experiment a bit, if you REALLY want to ;)

Happy hunting!
-Elliott.

Love is complicated. Especially, with the way you're making it sound. The thing is, you need to decide just how "exclusive" you want to be. From reading this, I gather that you would like your opportunity at this new boarding school to explore your dating and friendship horizons. Since you do you not know where exactly the boundaries are with your friend, the best thing you can do is ask him. Just tell him how you feel about the both of you attending different schools. Hopefully, you will see eye to eye and come to an agreement. It's always best to talk things through and know where you stand, so you don't have any problems. I hope things work out the way you want them to!

x Elliott

I'm a HUGE Twilight fan, so this one is easy for me (: New Moon has already been filmed, (AND aired to a selective few at Comic-Con 09') and will be aired nationally on November 20, 2009. I'm very surprised actually, that you haven't heard anything about Twilight recently. If you search anything that has to do with it on YouTube, you're sure to get hundreds of results, of interviews, sneak peaks, clips, pictures, and secret underground footage of New Moon (and Twilight, as well). Also, "Access Hollywood" and "E! News" always have new information and fun stuff to talk about!

See you at the premiere!

Hmmm...Well, it sounds to me that A has a thing for you. The context of that conversation is foreshadowing that maybe he "wouldn't mind dating you, either" (; It's great that you are very good friends, you have known each other for a while, and that you are completely comfortable with each other. Since you're the only one he told that he WAS looking for a girlfriend, it sounds as if he's hoping you will be the one to fill that space. My advice to you would be GO FOR IT, GIRL! And if you're nervous, just do what he does. Play the "secret" game, I'm sure you'll get somewhere!

Good luck (:

Well, from the way you tell it, it looks like you've got some confidence. That's super (: It's awesome that you can pick out specifics that are good qualities about yourself, regardless of how things are going. Just think, there are a lot of people who can't do that. Now, I'm certainly not going to tell you that you're too young for a relationship or go down that road with my advice. Instead, I'll give you my story. I'm 16 years old, and I had a girlfriend a few months before I turned 15. We dated for almost a year, then we were on and off for quite some time. We were absolutely perfect together, and I'm sure I was in love with her. But it ended horribly, and that led to some serious issues for the both of us. This is a very common story among thousands of teens all over the world, as you probably know. But, as I learned from experience, it's so much easier to imagine heartbreak than it is to deal with it. So, maybe, you should consider yourself lucky enough to be skipping all of that. Sure, it's great to have someone you're in tune with, but all great things must end. And I will tell you this, you're young, and you have plenty of time to find someone to be compatible with. And you shouldn't worry about "trying to hard", because really, you shouldn't have to try at all. Sure, you can go out and try to find love, but TRUE love always finds you. So don't get yourself down for being single. All it means is that the right one hasn't come along yet. Just keep being the adorable, charming young lady you've made yourself out to be, and it will all work out for you when the time is right. For now, just enjoy being single. It has it's perks!

Best wishes,
Elliott [:

Well, first off, look at it this way. You've been together for 7 months, now, and this could be a sign of things starting to get serious. I wouldn't rush him- or yourself, into anything. Take it slow, and passion will just take over. That's the best route to go! Now, for the rest of it, if he's telling you he thinks it is a good idea to wait until you become an adult, (in the eyes of the law anyway) then it's obvious he is trying to protect you from getting into trouble. That is a genuine thing for him to do, especially if he is ready. If this relationship is the most progressed either of you have had so far, then yes, it is possible either one of you can be scared. The first anything is always scary, because you can never be too sure how you, or someone else will react. Your best bet is to talk to him about whether or not you are both emotionally prepared and ready for things to go in that direction. Think how good the odds are of you both feeling the same way. If one or both of you are scared, it's probably best to take things slow for the moment. Just remember, the best experience you can get from doing something, is doing it when the time is right.

Okay, I'll start with this. I'm going to take a guess that you and your ex did not leave off on good terms? If so, then she's really just trying to mess with you. There is usually a good chance of being able to tell if a woman is "faking" an orgasm. If a woman is enjoying sexual intimacy, she will be noticeably wet. THAT, my friend, can only happen with enjoyment from sexual desire. So, yes, physical things like that can not be faked. Your ex is probably just telling you the sex wasn't that great either because she's having trouble getting it, or simply because she misses yours. Don't let it get to ya (:

- Elliott.

It's really up to you, sweetie. My last relationship started on the first of a November in '07, and we celebrated every month's anniversary. We ended up lasting a little over a year, but that's besides the point. Here's the thing: You don't necessarily have to have a different idea every time you celebrate an anniversary. Sometimes, just spending time together is more than enough celebration...No matter what it is you're doing! Here's something else to think about; The word "anniversary" means something different to everyone. For example, it is more common for people who are just beginning to date to celebrate their 2-and-a-half week anniversary, than people that have had more experience with relationships. People who are married might say an "anniversary" is the celebration of the DAY that they'd wed, while teenage kids, like me, might celebrate in months or years, and so on. The point is, how you look at it is up to you. Think of it as your own way of measuring time (:

Keep in mind that everyone's opinions differ. I'm a lesbian, and I know a few people who claim to be "bisexual". However, I don't think "bisexuality" exists. Here's why: I've been gay long before I knew the meaning of the word; but when it started coming up in conversations of dating, as I got older, I tried to date boys. It never felt right, but nevertheless, when I began to go after girls, I'd told all my friends I was bi. When I came to terms with the fact that I was gay, I gave it up. This has also happened to a few friends, who have turned the other way. So, basically, being "bisexual" is sitting on the fence...It falls after a while, and you either go forward or back. Some people explore because they are bored or want attention, but that's another story. The people who may be confused, however, eventually choose one or the other. And it's always been that way. Then again, that is just MY opinion. Everyone makes their own choices, the only "right" ones, are the ones that make them happy. (:

Well, hey i'm not a guy, but i'm a lesbian, so, same thing. I'll give you some advice. I have whats called by some a p.s.d. Its just a long way of saying that i make a design by shaving parts of it out...You know, like a line straight down the middle, or a heart, something like that. And i'll tell ya, my girl HATES it. She likes it better when i'm totally shaved, but it makes me feel so...Well...naked. Lol. But anyways, if you're going for the whole "virgin" look, being completely shaved usually gives off that sort of vibe, which some guys may find sexy. But, again, it really depends on the guy.

When i came out to my parents, my girlfriend and i were together for about 7 months. She came over my house and we were "celebrating". When my dad unexpectedly walked in, i was caught in the middle of kissing her. Now, keep this in mind, my father is without a doubt one of the biggest homophobes in the world. no joke. So, of course right away he freaked out and started screaming and told us to wait downstairs until her mom came to pick her up. It was devistating. When she left, he and my mom sat down with me and he fought with me about it. That next day, we talked again and he told me he loved me no matter what i did and that even though he disagrees with it, i would always be his daughter. My mom instantly accepted me and my girlfriend from day one, but thats a different story. Since then, its been about 4 months and my dad has been gradually accepting it one step at a time. Anyway, the point is that i had no idea how he would react when i told him. I feared the worst, and it wasn't nearly as bad as i imagined it could be..so i realized that when people say their parents' reactions when they come out are totally different from what you expect, they're right. I've also learned this however, you only really get one chance to tell them. The perfect time, and when it comes, you'll know it, and act on it. but until then, dont rush yourselves into telling anyone until you both know you are ready. And as your friends go, they will accept you as you are now matter which gender you like, if they really care about you, they wont judge you. Good luck, and i really hope it goes well!

Well at least you know it isn't healthy. Otherwise that would be the first step for you. But anyway, i'll tell you this, before i began dating the girl i'm with now, i was a very jealous person, so i kinda know what you're saying. The best thing for you to do, is look at this girl, and then look at yourself. Make a list and point out qualities about yourself that she DOESN'T have. I'm not saying you should bash her on paper or anything, but it sounds to me like what you need to do, is to see things in yourself rather than in someone else...

Well, see i dont know how well i'll be able to answer this, but i'll give you the best advice that i can. And i'll start by saying that everyone is different with sexual desire, so something that might work for me, might not work so well for you...Know what i mean? My advice to you would be to take some time out and watch some porn. I know it sounds perverted and maybe stupid, but i'm not saying to get off to it..I'm just saying observe what other people do, and try it out when you're alone...Believe it or not, it can actually give you some ideas. ALSO, keep in mind that fantasizing is very important if you want to get the most pleasure out of what you're working with. Try being creative, it's the most effective- TRUST ME ;]

When i was in the 7th grade, I used to cut...I won't get into detail about why because that's not important, but I will tell you this: My best friend, Michael found out what I was doing, and he asked me why I did it. So I told him it felt to me like it was the only thing i had control over, and doing it helped me to forget about what was bothering me. Thats when he told me the best piece of advice I've ever heard about this very subject: When you cut yourself, it makes you forget the emotional pain because it causes you physical pain instead...But it also causes scars. And when you look at those scars, they remind you why they're there, and you feel both the physical and emotional pain all at once. So really, there's no point to it. Him telling me that gave me the motivation to quit, but it's really not something you can stop doing over night. As you may know, it's almost like an addiction...For pain. You get urges when things go wrong, but here are some alternatives you can do instead that can help you quit slowly but surely.

When you feel like cutting:

- (This worked the best) Wear a rubberband around your wrist, and snap it.

- Draw a red line on your wrist with a red marker.

- Write a poem about what was bothering you.

- Light some candles and turn off the lights.

- *IMPORTANT* Get rid of all the instruments you use to hurt yourself / keep them out of your reach.
- Find a hobby to get your mind off of things.

With time and practice upon diverting your thoughts, you will be able to kick the habit whether it's next week or next month. Just keep in mind that you aren't the only one who doesn't know how to cope; different things work for different people, and that there are people everyday going through things you wouldn't have thought of outside the movie theater. Just remember "Rome wasn't built in a day."

I don't know what that is, but try searching it on google =]

Well, I can't quite place the exact quote you're looking for, but i have another that you might like that has the same meaning =]

"No love is ever worth your tears, and the only one who is, will never make you cry."

Well, think of it this way; my girlfriend and i have sex almost everytime we're together...BUT, this is because we don't get to see each other a whole lot due to various reasons. We've been dating for what will be 10 months in about 2 weeks. Here's why it's okay- The reason we do it is because we love each other, and that's one way of many that we show it. The most important factor is that our relationship is NOT based on SEX or LUST. It is based on trust, honesty, and happiness. Now, you and your boyfriend have been together for quite some time...And to really answer this question, you have to know what your relationship is all about. Do you both care about each other enough that you can do this sort of thing AS WELL as other things that couples do? Like, say...Watch movies together, or just plain hang out? Or is it the type where you only get together when you want to have sex? Because, if you base everything on sex, you'll have a problem. It's something to think about, but i hope you make the right decision.

Certainly "69" is indeed a number, but in english slang it is a sexual position as well. The best way to explain it is when two lovers pleasure each other with oral sex...Just at the same time.

I wish i woulda thought of that....

Well, for starters, it's okay to be nervous! I mean, come on who isn't when they get their first job? There's no way to tell what kind of questions they'll ask you, but the best you can do is answer with pride and honesty- this will show them you're really interested in working for them. But, most importantly, don't forget to be yourself! Wear a nice collared shirt and dress pants to match, and show them your worker-side! Who WON'T want an employee with enthusiasm? =]

Hey there everyone =]
My name's Elliott, and I'm here to answer all of your burning questions! And since I'm getting to know you, I think it'd be a good idea to let you know a bit about me. I'm just a 16-year-old girl, and a Junior in high school. I'd say with my story, I have some experience in answering many of high school's most common questions(See my Favorite Categories). Generally, I love to play the guitar and the piano. Writing, whether it be lyrics, short stories
or poetry, well, I've always had a passion
for it =] I'm News Editor for my high school paper, and Poetry Co-Editor for the magazine- So if you have any English questions, be sure I'm the one you ask! Haha (: If there's anything else you're curious to know, then just go ahead and ask! I won't bite, i promise [= Ask for my cell number too if you want, I'll share.

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