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do you think people who call themselves bi are more than likely to just be trying to ease into the "coming out of the closet" bit? like, they are actually gay/lesbian but are not ready to tell the world so just say bisexual?
i know some people are actually bi but just wondering what your opinions/experiences are.
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Keep in mind that everyone's opinions differ. I'm a lesbian, and I know a few people who claim to be "bisexual". However, I don't think "bisexuality" exists. Here's why: I've been gay long before I knew the meaning of the word; but when it started coming up in conversations of dating, as I got older, I tried to date boys. It never felt right, but nevertheless, when I began to go after girls, I'd told all my friends I was bi. When I came to terms with the fact that I was gay, I gave it up. This has also happened to a few friends, who have turned the other way. So, basically, being "bisexual" is sitting on the fence...It falls after a while, and you either go forward or back. Some people explore because they are bored or want attention, but that's another story. The people who may be confused, however, eventually choose one or the other. And it's always been that way. Then again, that is just MY opinion. Everyone makes their own choices, the only "right" ones, are the ones that make them happy. (:
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some bi people are having a hard time coming out of the closet, but a lot that i know just like to have fun and are sexually comfortable enough with them selves to experiment with the same/opposite sex. Some are bored of same sex affairs and want to spice their sex life up. Either way its all about there preference.
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im bisexual and happily goin out with a great guy. some people realize that they fully turn gay, but some people are really just bisexual. i dont get what the difference would be to come out that youre bisexual or gay...its still comin out of the closet either way.
im attracted to both men and women mentally and physically. i couldnt tell you why, how it happened, or whats goin to come of it.
dont judge people actually thinkin their gay. listen to what they have to say and believe it.
x sweeethoney
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A person's sexuality is evolving and fluid.
When a person calls themselves a bisexual, it is only respectful to believe that they honesty believe that they are attracted to either gender.
It's disrespectful and a little cruel to assume that a bisexual is:
On their path to gay.
Or just experimenting for a little while.
Either of those things MIGHT be true, but the person calling themselves a bisexual might not be ready to deal with either of those possibilities (and obviously, they might never even come up), and what they decide to call themselves in 5 years, or even next Thursday is none of your business.
Out of a respect for an individual, believe what they tell you. Ask for clarification of what a word means to them if you need it, but don't go around making these assumptions. They might be true of some people, but there are no statistics like 25% of gay 40 year old called themselves bisexuals when they were 16. Even if those stats existed, they'd be bullshit and basic human respect would still demand you listen to what a person tells you about themselves, and not try to turn them into a stat.
Lastly, and this is just my personal opinion, but I think it's actually a bit harder in this day in age to explain bisexuality to people then homosexuality. It's not a safe haven if you are worried about people's perception, so you don't really gain anything by making it a pit stop between gay and straight. You just end up with more people, making more judgements of you and with more questions. I believe that if you think you are gay, you say so, same goes for bi or straight. If you find out you might have been wrong, that's cool, and no one should give you flack for it.
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