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This is going to be my first time going to a homecoming dance and i am not really sure what to be looking forward to. I am not going with a date and i am afraid i am going to be the only one without one. Also what do i do on the slow songs???? do i just stand off to the side? thanks so much!
it is totally normal to go without a date. in fact it is often more fun and carefree because you dont have to worry about any one but yourself. just go, dance and have fun with your friends. homecoming is an awesome time if you make it one.
not sure what your school is like, but my school hardly ever played slow songs. maybe one if we were lucky, just because they want to cut back on close contact. however if they do end up playing one and you find yourself without someone to dance with, just go to the bathroom or go get something to drink. a lot of girls do this. slow songs are kind of like a break between all the fun fast dancing.
In 2 months I will be moving to Central America with my father. I'm going to be 19 in 4 months and I do love my country, how ever I just finally came out to all my friends and family here which was hard to do. And now I have to move with my dad to a place where queers and bisexuals and cross-dressers are not only frowned upon but killed. Every time I visit I feel out of place, I have quite a few body modifications; tattoos/piercings. My family such as cousins, aunts and uncles don't really mind I guess they got used to it by now. But everyone else stares at me like I'm some sort of freak. I'm very self conscious of how I look and I feel awkward trying to make new friends. Especially with the same sex since I'd like to have a same sex partner if possible. I just need some of the best advice possible, I don't like feeling insecure and anxious, especially since I'm moving with my dad is 'cause my mother disowned her crossdressing bisexual daughter.
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when you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, are you happy with yourself? sure every human being on earth has something on their body they would like to change, but overall...are you pleased with yourself?
if the answer is yes (as it should be), then why give two fucks what any body else has to say? why sacrifice an ounce of your happiness because of some passing glance from a stranger who does not matter. seriously, they DO NOT MATTER. your life will go on regardless of their view of you. at the end of the day it is you and yourself, no one else matters. live your life for you, not others. you can never fully please others, they will always have some expectation that you cant quite fulfill, and stressing about it will only hurt you. unfair , yes. i always liked the quote "what others think of you is none of your business." if they dont like you for you, fuck them, i guarentee you youll find people that do. they are the ones that matter.
now with your confidence and anxiety issues...i know this is said a lot, but it is a must to have confidence and inner happiness in order to have people to want to be around you. if you do not have full confidence, like majority of the population, then FAKE IT! no one will know the difference. others gravitate to people with a sense of confidence. who would you rather be around, the sad, self-loathing person, or the happy, proud person? your attitude matters folds more than your apperance. love yourself, and others will too. dont cut yourself out of life because of fear of being vulnerable. let me make this clear now, you will get hurt in life! people will say and think awfull things about you! put you down, make your feel like shit, and worthless. attack your looks, sexuality and overall being. most of the time with out hesitation. but....guess what....your still alive. you see? others can only hurt you as much as you let them (with words at least). always remember that those people that hurt, are the ones hurting. ignore what they say and think, because those that mind do not matter, and those that matter do not mind. surround yourself with loving kind people. trust that you will make friends. believe that you are worth the world. because you are.
now be smart as well. you said yourself that bisexuals are not very accepted where you are going. exercise trust when it comes to telling people your orientation. under these circumstances i would just be extra carefull.
if all my rambling hasnt helped thus far, look at it this way...if you had a daughter, a daughter you loved more than life itself. and she was going through the exact thing you are. your pargraph above was written by her...what would you tell her? what would you tell her to reassure her? to make her feel better?
love who you are, because why go through life any other way? some things you can not change, so move on. life goes on, as long as you let it and move forward.
i hope this wasnt too long and helped at least a little. i feel your pain and anxiety. every human being, regardless of what they look like, feels the exact things as you are feeling. its human nature. you are not, and never will be, alone. always remember that.
so i've been in this small group of friends for quite a while now and when this girl (let's call her lara) came into our group she automatically made herself leader. i've always hated her but all my friends just love her so i can't do much. i feel like she's stealing my friends because all they do is follow her... except me since i just can't stand her so i end up being left out. anything i do is never good enough and she's never happy for me. also she only talks to me when she needs something only. i was wondering if there's anyway to prove her wrong thinking she's cooler than me and that i'm just boring. so don't get me wrong please but i think it's time i show off my newly found talents (without looking like i'm doing it on purpose) i've already tried not telling her every single thing thats happening like i used to because she never did the same. oh i play the electric guitar and i dance hiphop. i'm sick of always being in her shadow so i guess what i'm asking is how can i make her eat her words... or thoughts? :p
why care what she thinks. she seems like a waste of time. you clearly dont like her so what do you care what she thinks of you. do your own thing, hip hop guitar or whatever, but do it for yourself, not just to impress her. be yourself and just ignore her. enjoy your real friends company, they are the ones that matter to you. any energy you spend on this chick is a waste.
just rise above her, and dont give a shit what she thinks or does. that will probably bother her more anyways. the only thing that makes her a leader are her followers. so just keep doing your own thing. it will benefit you more in the end anyways
No, not clinically depressed, I am not suicidal or anything to that extreme. It's just lately I feel like I don't matter, like whatever I do whether it is great or not ... it doesn't matter. I am a junior in high school. I am taking three college courses this year and it's getting stressful. My boyfriend me get a limited time to talk ( long and stupid story) and we aren't even talking the time allowed. It feels like our schedules are opposites. I went home and crashed yesterday, I slept from 6-8 and then went back to bed at 9 and woke up at 6. I was so tired when I woke up... you would think that much sleep would put me in a good mood. .. right?
Also I feel irritated and all the small things that shouldn't bother me, like how a friend talks a lot < but she's been doing that for a few years and it hasn't bothered me as much till now. ... I don't know what is wrong with me. How can I get more... happy? No doctors, no counselors, no medication...
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in the end true happiness can only come from you. you have to listen to yourself, and what your hearts telling you. you have the ability to make change in your life, since you are not actually clinically depressed. i hate using cliches and am trying to avoid them but i have to throw in a couple, take time for yourself. relax. regroup. you are obviously stressed and therefore irritated and tired. you may feel in a rut. these are all totally normal things. to deal with stress you really just have to rise above it. a lot of stress is unnecessary and created by yourself. instead of getting stressed, try and have a sense of humor about things. come to terms with the fact that what ever happens, happens, and a lot of it is out of your control. realize what really matters in life, and what will actually make a differnce long term. and overall just try to take a more positive outlook on things. im not talking rainbows and butterflies bullshit, just a more light postitive outlook. how you perceive things will determine your outlook. dont take shit too seriously. really. things can always be harder, and worse. give thanks for what you have and focus on those things. they are what is important in life. and for the rest of it, time takes care of everything, things work themselves out. just go along with the flow, with a smile on your face.
a good nights sleep and a little R&R never hurt either. eat a good meal and do something you enjoy, or better yet, do nothing! dont stress, your alright.
There was this girl let's call her Jessica. Jessicaa and I were best friends all of our high school years. We were glued to the hip and everyone at school knew we were like sisters. But when college started things got rockey for us. We drifted and soon she had a new bes friend. It hurt and stuff but I tried to let go. Jessicaa posted pictures of her new bff on fb, she introducted her bff to her parents and family(something she never did with me. I don't reaally know why). I saw how her and her bff started getting new college friends aand Jessica started doing the saame things her bff did. I felt replaaced and put down. Jessica was still hanging out with our commen friends but she wouldn't give me aa call or something. But recently she has started contacting me aagain. She told me she misses me and even that she loved me. Inside my head I waas like "how could she say she loves me? Love isn't ignoring someone. And we haven't talked in years, she doesn't know how much I've changed. It caaant be love" I don't know if I should let her back in my life. You seee Jessica and I are really different. She is of a differnt sociaal class, she's got the rich life while i can barly make ends meet, she's been the one to have more luck with guys then me, are religous beifs are different aas well. I don't know. Should I keep the contaact with her? Paart of me misses what we've had but aanother part tells me shell dump aagiaan, like nothing when she she finds someone better. I don't know what to do. What do you think?
If she did it once, she'll do it again. I dont want to make hasty assumptions but there is probably a motive behind her all of a sudden friendly reach-out. ask yourself why she is trying to be your friend right now. what is she going to get out of it? maybe her new friends fell through or shes not getting a long with them? whatever. like you said, if her feelings about you were actually genuine then she would have kept in contact with you from the start and not gone years without talking. it just seems fake on her part. forget all the little details and boil it down to its simpliest form: you had a close friend, she hurt you and replaced you. now she wants you back? where was she when you needed her?
i realize what you had in highschool was special, but neither of you are in highschool anymore. you have both changed, probably for the better. trust the fact that you deserve a true friend, not some fair-weather friend that comes around when convienant to her. i wouldnt be rude to her, but be carefull to let someone like that back in your life. you'll find yourself getting hurt again.
and if your still torn on whether to befriend her again or not, imagine you had a daughter who was in this situation. a daughter whom you loved more than life. would you want your daughter to have a friend like that? that may be your answer.
hope i helped
i think i have bulimia and im frightened of the fact that maybe in the future i might not be able to conceive. is there anything i can do about it? and one that does not involve taking drugs.
i was bulimic for about a year and a half. it started slowly and eventually creeped its way into my every thought. i was throwing up every meal i ate and would binge for the sole purpose of throwing it up. i was sick. i wasnt able to get over it untill i got to college and began playing my sport (D1). For me it was the constant exercise that made me tell myself that I NEEDED to eat healthy AND keep it down. if i hadnt i would not have made it past the first week of conditioning. i feel amazing now that food isnt on my mind 24/7.
you need to either get help or really really make some changes. most people cant get over bulimia without help. its just too hard. in my case i was able to get over it because of my situation, and too be honest i have never felt better in my life. if you want any more information about my journey please feel free to message me. i know personally how horrible bulimia is. and i got over it.
just always keep hope. always.
I don't want to go to school on Wednesday because I have this presentation that is due and I haven't finished it yet. I want to convince my parents that I'm really sick so they let me stay home from school. How can I do that? I really don't want to throw up because throwing up is NASTY. My best friend pulled it off once by wearing make-up that was too light for her and made her look pale and then squirted her face with warm water to make it look like sweat. Should I try that? Is there anything else that will make it believable? Please & THANK YOU
Okay so I start a couple days in advance. So sunday or monday mention that your stomach has been hurting you. Do the same on tuesday but kind of act like your pushing through the sickness to go to school because you don't want to go to miss out on school. Then wensday is when you've become so sick you can't possibly go to school even though you really don't want to miss it :) then thursday you start to feel a little better by going to school but still kind of acting like your just overcoming the sickness. And friday you can go back to normal and enjoy your weekend.
This always works for me because its more realistic. Most people (unless you get food poisoning) feel the sickness coming. When I would be totally fine the night before and then wake up on the day of some project due and randomly be all sick my mom would always totally know I was trying to miss school for a reason. You kind of have to get into to the acting of this whole thing in order for it to work.
Also wake up numerous times in the middle of the night to "throw up" or do the water trick like the person below me explained. And the morning of put something hot on your face or blow a hair dryer in your face to make it hot so if your mom feels your forehead she can't say "well you feel fine"
Good luck.
I read somewhere that lemon juice makes your hair grow. Is this true?
ive never heard that it makes your hair grow but i do know that it lightens your hair color.
things that are suppose to make your hair grow a little faster are head massages and head stands. this is because it increases blood flow to the scalp. or at least so ive heard.
So, I'm really slim and not looking at losing weight. I just want to tone up my body and get some muscles. Like arms, abs, butt, and legs. Any tips on what to do? Thank you! :)
workout more and eat more protein.
i would just start working out more. make sure you also eat more calories to keep you from losing weight while working out. the extra calories you are consuming should be protein, since protein builds muscle.
Alright. My boyfriend (Him eighteen, me seventeen, we've been dating for ten months) and I were at this party thing. Well actually you just drive up your car in this huge field, bring some alchohol and spend the night there. Kinda like camping. Haha it works out well. Anyway, pretty late into the night, people had already gone back to their cars to go to sleep but a few of us were still around a bonfire. My bf got into this really really heated arguement with this other guy, both of them pretty drunk. They've never liked eachother, some stupid football drama, and they were both getitng heated and probably were gonna fight but I was pretty wasted so my bf wasn't gonna leave me. We went back to the car and oh my god, it was the best he's ever been. It was like he took all his rage and put it into the sex and it was flipping awesome. Haha I don't know how to tell him that I liked how dominant and rough he was... Like what am I supposed to say?? I love doing you when you're pissed off?? Haha how can I put this to him the right way??
yeah i guarentee you he would love to here how enjoyable that night was for you. men love to hear that they pleasure their women. just like whisper it into his ear sometime and be like "you know, i think its really hot when you get all pissed like that" i think hes gonna like hearing that your turned on. i mean hes a guy for gods sake.
You know how everyones like "oh I want plump, pouty lips, it's soooo hot!" yeah. well I don't have that problem.
My lips are HUGE! Constantly swollen.
Ok maybe not huge, but big.
How do I bring down my dino-lips?
Hmm...do dinosaurs have lips?
You don't need to answer that last one.
But still...
RAWR
i have big pouty lips and i love it. when i was in middle school though i hated my big lips. now that im in college im so proud to have full beautiful lips. i dont know how old you are but my advice to you is to not do anything drastic. wait a couple years and grow into your lips. trust me, just embrace it. women inject god knows what into their lips to make them look like ours. i think its very unattractive when people have thin little chicken lips. thats just my opinion though.
and btw, your lips naturally deflate over the years as you grow older. im talking like middle aged when the skin starts to wrinkle. just embrace your lips. seriously i hope someday you will realize how lucky you are to have full lips.
This girl I met this year in school seemed really cool abd funny. So we started talking and hung out a few tines. She said she wasn't friends with any girls because she doesn't like drama & she doesn't go many places because of drama.
I had like ten friends over and she was one of them and she could not get into group conversation. Someone would be telling a story and she'd interrupt Abd try to have a seperate conversation. She was kind of awkward at this get together. Then the things she says are kind of rude. She wanted to go to this concert and asked ne to go, it was a band I did not like and it was also on my 18th birthday. I was like I can't go it's on my birthday and were going away for the entire day. She said something like "I can't believe your not fucking going with ne I can't find anyone else to go with me I can't believe your not going thanks a lot" I was like geez calm down. I just found that really rude. And then I just got a puppy and I texted " hey what are you doing tomorrow let's hang out you can see mally" she responded back "lol ummmm idk..come over see mally and then leave" like what the heck. And I sent that to two other people and they understood what i said any everything. So what should I do? Say something? Stop talking to her? What would I say?
yeah she sounds like a bitch. i can see why she doesnt have very many girlfriends. SHE seems like drama. i would just stop hanging out with her and talking to her less and less. this way you can avoid a confrontation which gurantee she would love one cause she seems like drama. you seem to have a lot of nice friends so you dont really need her. you saw her true colors. maybe someday in the future she will come around and act better but for now i would count her out of your life. no need to hang out with bitches.
Ok I keep seeing about it on here and it seems like a lot of people swear by it and others say it isn't true so I want to ask YOU: Does rinsing your hair in cold water make it shiny like they say? Honestly?
If it does is there a special way that you have to do it so that it works right?
Thank you!
i take cold showers all summer long because i love what it does to my hair. i never really noticed a difference to my shine but i do notice that it is way less frizzy and way softer. its also better for your hairs health.
so what i do is get hot (workout or just hang out in the sun) then come inside and turn on a cold shower and it feels sooo good. i love cold showers in the summer. its very refreshing. harder to do in the winter though.
What does it mean when a guy says he loves your innocence and fresh view life? Does it mean he likes me or not?
i think he means that he loves your innocence and fresh view of life. i wouldnt jump to conclusions saying that it means he likes you or not. i think when he actually tells you he likes you, is when he means he likes you. not when hes just admiring some qualities about you.
and as far as what he means by innocence and fresh view of life, i think he finds you refreshing in the fact that you are maybe a very optimistic person and he likes the way you view life.
I had sex over 3o times and still havent had an orgasm. Why is that?
yes i agree with the people under me. unfortunatly most guys dont know how to give a girl an orgasm. my advice to you: dont hold your breath on a guy thats going to make you orgasm, and just do it yourself. masturbation is a stress reliever after all.
What should i do if a guy that i like a lot smokes weed and asks me out?! :"(
weed is not a hardcore drug like heroin, meth, crack or anything. its better for you then alchohal and virtually any other drug because it is natural. i smoked weed my entire highschool career and held a 3.8 gpa, was the varisty starting goalie all four years in lacrosse and was apart of the community service club. weed does not define who you are. the lady under me probably "lost" her friend because her friend didnt want to be around her because she was such a cunt about her smoking weed. weed is not a terrible drug that rips apart families and lives and makes you homeless. its just not. thats why its on its way to becoming legal.
sorry about my rant on weed but i have been smoking weed my entire life and believe it is as harmless as drinking a beer in the evening.
so you need to not judge the kid on whether or not hes a pot smoker but more of his quality of character. is he nice to you? does he treat you well? he is respectful? those are questions that you need to ask yourself about the kid. not whether or not he smokes weed. because weed really is not that bad. thats why about 80% of the human population has smoked weed. its not heroin, just good ole weed.
Female. 15. 10th grade.
This is a story back from my years in the Jr. High (7th grade to 9th grade). People think my band director and I had a little bit of a strange relationship. I was close to him, everyone has their favorite teacher. He was mine. He was a sweetheart, he cared about his students but he was stern when he needed to be, he wasn't a pushover. I am now in the Sr. High band which is a lot more difficult due to competitions and all of the practices but one thing my Sr. High band director brings up a lot is how we weren't properly trained in Jr. High, which makes me think of my Jr. High band director. I didn't really think much of the way we acted in Jr. High but looking back on it, our relationship was kinda strange.
-In seventh grade I didn't really care what I looked like, so I wore my hair up a lot. When I started wearing it down and making it look pretty like curling it, my teacher noticed and said I looked different, that it was a nice change.
-If I was late for a class, the teacher would tell me to hurry but they would always ask me to do things for them, I would wind up being late but they would never write me a pass because they warned me to hurry. So, I would walk to the band room and my band director would write them for me. Every time.
-If I wanted to skip a class like gym or something, he would excuse me from the class by telling the teacher I needed to practice my instrument, we had a concert coming up or something.
-One day at sectionals, it was me, my close friend and my band director. He sat next to me on the right and my friend sat next to me on the left, two seats over, so it was him-me-empty seat-her. I kept trying this part that I couldn't get down and once I finally got it, I was really excited so I was like "yea yea! woo!" and accidentally put my hand on his thigh, in excitement. I know it was wrong now, thinking about it, I shouldn't have touched any part of him but it wasn't intentional, like trying to make a move, I was in seventh grade.. gimme a break. But he didn't look shocked nor move my hand, I moved it when I actually realized it was there.
-His office is right in the music suite hallway so he always keeps his door shut to keep the noise of the practicing instruments or chattering kids out. I would go into his office to talk with the door shut and the other kids would look in on us.
-He would know when something was wrong with me, because of the way I acted, I'm usually talkative and happy so he knows when something's up with me and he'd always ask or when I wasn't being myself in band, he'd look at me a lot to notify me that he knows I am not okay.
-He always called me my full first and last name and I would always tell him he can just call me by my first name but he never did. So, one day I said that I am going to start calling him by his first name and I did sometimes and he didn't seem to mind, when we were with other kids, though, he would tell me that his name was Mr. ___
-He had since had his first child when I left for the Sr. High and we had always joked that he was going to have a girl and name her after me and she's going to play the same instrument I do and he joked back he would put her up for adoption if she was ever as talkative as me. He doesn't joke around like that with other kids, especially about his family and such.
-He would be walking out of the band suite and I would be walking in to practice and say hello to him and we'd stop in the hallway and talk for a few minutes.
-He let me sit in on his music classes (if you teach band or orchestra you also teach music class) and sit in on his study halls.
-My mom said a few times "if you had this relationship with any other teacher, I would be worried.
Be completely honest, just don't scold me or yell at me if you think we crossed the line. Do you think we passed the student teacher boundaries? Why do you think that we did or didn't? Maybe he just favored me.. do you think he kinda liked me?
Also, he was 27 when I had him. He let me use my phone, when I had my phone out in his class, he would ask what kind it was and what provider then he would take his out. Everyday at lunch he would come over to my table and ask what I thought about the new songs he was picking out for band and asked what I brought for lunch.
I apologize, I know it's long but you seem like a genuine, honest person and I just need a good answer from someone. I know I was in the wrong for some of these but I didn't look at our relationship as anything more than playful, then. Don't get me wrong, he was a cutie, if he would have made a move, I wouldn't complain.
Thanks again!
Okay so this question has no definite right or wrong answer. In some ways i think he crossed the line, and in other ways he just seemed like a caring teacher. since your relationship never got physical and from what you told me, you never really saw eachother out of school functions, then i would say from a technical standpoint that no, you guys never crossed the line. but if you dont mind i would like to go into detail...
okay so you were young and pressumbly innocent. you had no alterior motives to hanging out with him. you seem to have saw him as a role model in a sense. these are the ways that i think he may have "crossed the line", or acted in a manner that was inapropriate.
1. He would bail you out of other classes. This to me is something a friend would do, not a teacher. you were a student, he should not have interferred with your education.
2. The fact that he acted like more of a friend around you when others were not around, for instance the fact that he let you call him by his first name and talk about personal topics like family. as an adult he should have kept some boundaries in that regard. the only reason why i feel like this was kinda out of line is because he only acted this way around you. he didnt do this with any other student. this shows that he obviously had more of a personal relationship with you. he should have acted more professional and more like your teacher rather then your friend. especially because there was such an age difference. its not like you were close in age and could actually relate on a lot of things. you were in 7th grade and he was 27.
Now he obviously favored you. There is no doubt about that. He took a strong personal interest in you. In some ways he seemed like just the "cool teacher", and everyone has one of those. ive had teachers in coaches that are really laid back with me and let me hang out in their classrooms when i was suppose to be in the bathroom. some of them even took personal interest in me and would ask how things were going in my life. but none of them ever let me call them differently then anyone else or let me into their life more so then any other person.
i do think he really liked you as a person. as far as sexually i wouldnt say so. he never made any moves or advacnes on you so your good in that sense. i just think he liked you as a person, and maybe saw him self as a father figure to you. you seemed like a really lively young girl so it wouldnt seem strange to want to be around you. i wouldnt beat yourself up over your relationship with him. you guys were never in the wrong with what you did. so he liked you more then other kids? as long as you never became sexual then i dont think you were wrong. he seemed like a cool guy who maybe didnt know his boundaries at times. you seemed like an outgoing little girl. i dont think either of you had alterior motives.
i hope i helped :) good luck with band!
i eat so little and i am not loosing any weight.
yes i know not eating is bad but its my only option
i have like 700 or under calories in a day and i feel bloated, and do not look skiin ever.
i dont understand why i am not loosign weight
i dont eat enugh to gian weight but i feel like i am!!
the key to losing weight is burning more calories then you are taking in. In order to lose weight you need to exercise. There is no way around it. You may be feeling bloated because the amount of salt you are eating. Salts cause you to bloat because they help you retain water. Watch your sodium intake.
I know you do not want to hear this, but i really think you are going about losing weight the wrong way. Starving yourself is not a good idea to lose weight because the second you start eating normally again, you will gain weight rapidly. This is because when starving, your body goes into "starve mode", so to speak. Starve mode cause your body to turn all food you eat into fat reserves. When you decide to eat normally again your body will want to turn all of it into fat because it is used to being starved.
The only full proof way to lose weight is simple. Eat in healthy moderation and exercise. It is hard and takes a bit longer, but anything worth fighting for it worth having. Dont drink soda, eat candy, junk food or any fast food really. Eat a good breakfeast to get your metablosim going for the day, eat lots of fruits and vegtables and just try to be all around healthy. Besides, being healthy is more important then being skinny anyways. whats wrong with some curves? :)
I also think you should work on your outlook of yourself. That can make all the difference. Good luck to you :)
So my moms is being ridiculous and not letting me wear eyeliner to school. I'm gunna be a sophmore ;'( and i do not even put hardly any on! she makes me so mad like i cant even have a discussion with her about it. She took it away out thin air. Like suddenly "u cant wear eyeliner" so my question is how can i make my eyes look good with out eyeliner. My style is kinda Vintage with a rock twist. WHICH IS WHY I LIKE A LITTLE EYELINER. shes so stupid. anyway my eyes are green and blond hair i would really appreciate it. plus "eyeliner" doesnt count as some black under the eye so if you could give me some tips on that. And i really like golds and warm colors THANKS A BILLION
Well I know if your mom took away your eyeliner you can always go buy more. But if you want the look of eyeliner with out actually wearing eyeliner you can follow these tips
Since you have lighter eyes and hair a little goes a long way. When I get tired of eyeliner (my fav is liquid) I sometimes use eyeshawdow and swipe it on as an eyeliner. For example use a black, or brown eyeshawdow that is highly pigmented (strong) and use a small angled eyeliner brush or any small eyeshawdow brush. With the brush just swipe the eyeshawdow on as if it were eyeliner, keeping close to the lashline. The more eyeshadow the more intense the look. You can play around with colors but I like darker ones when trying to imitate eyeliner. A great brand eyeshadow for this would be H.I.P.
Another tip when trying to simulate eyeliner would be to go more intense and full on the lashes. Pay more attention to really amping up your lashes by expiermenting with diffrent brands of mascara. If your feeling bold you can even go for fake lashes. Pick a brand of mascara that boosts the volume, length and curl of your lashes. This will make your eyes seem larger and even morer flirty. You won't even need eyeliner when you have big lashes.
Hope I helped. If not just go to youtube and look at all the makeup tutorials on there. There are hundreds of different videos that show you looks, tips and techniques.
Good luck
I am 14/f. I baby sit this 7 yr old little boy, and his dad was my dad's frat buddy in college so both our families are really close. When other people are around the kid is fine...but when I am babysitting him by myself, he becomes super toilet boy. He talks to me about the toilet. He puts stickers on the toilet paper. He throws things in the toilet, nothing big that would clog it but still...he even sits down on the toilet with his pants up but with the seat so he falls in and calls me in to fish him out. It's too awkward to tell my folks or his what he's doing, but I don't know how to deal with this crazy kid...what should I do? I make really good money for this btw and definitely don't want to lose out on that.
I don't think this is that big of a deal and would require parents to step in. He's just a kid. Kids do and say weird things. I know I did, and I grew out of it. He's 7, not 17. I don't think he's going to grow up to be a future serial killer or anything. Just let him be. For some reason he really like the toliet. Is that kinda weird? Yes. But not a big deal. I wouldn't think much of it if I were you. Just do your job and get paid. If you want to tell people so you can laugh about it, then that's more appropriate for the situation. And I would honestly probably do that.
Good luck with toliet boy