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I'm almost 16/f and yesterday i went over my friends house who's a guy and we hooked up. We only madeout and he went up my shirt but before we made out i was kind of teasing him by saying I was bad at making out and just stuff like that but when i eventually let him makeout with me it was kinda weird and I told him to rate me and he gave me a 5 which wasnt good. So idk i feel like im just not good at making out and i really want some tips on how to get better. cause every guy I makeout with does it differently so any tips? (link)
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OK when it comes to kissing you should first find out what kind of kisser the guy really is.You said it yourself that every guy does it differently.So Try not to like,shove your tounge down a guys throat who likes soft tender kisses and vice-versa.Always wear some type of chap stick that will have your lips super soft! Always start off slow and then work your way into the aggressive tounge stuff (If thats your thing). Hope I helped.Feel Free 2 ask Me any more Questions if needed.
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I am 19, female. For years it's been like this.. my parents are always criticizing me over everything. I was going out with this one guy for two years, and we were engaged. I lost my virginity to him at 18 while engaged, thinking we were getting married. Well, he betrayed me and broke my heart. Awhile passed, and I met this new guy. We're truly in love, and really feel we're the one for each other. We just had that sudden connection and bonding that is so nice. We are starting to get serious though. I am loving this situation between he and I.
Problem is, is my parents. I can never talk to them without them critizing me. They treat me like a child, making me do chores all the time, doing their chores, threatening to spank me all the time, force me to stay at home when I forgot to do a chore, and control where I go in my car. When I was out job-hunting a lot (I am laid off), I would need their gas credit card to get gas. Well, my dad would scream at me if he saw that I got a soda or two while getting gas. He'd yell at me when I got gas and forgot to inform him.
So now that my boyfriend and I are getting serious, I would like to tell my parents about the situation, and how I feel about him. But I am scared to because with my ex, they criticized me. I didn't even tell them yet that I am not a virgin anymore. Last night coming home from seeing my boyfriend, they wanted to talk to me about the "Sex talk." Mad because I am 19, and know what sex is.. but they think I know nothing about it.
Today, I cried because I wanted to tell my parents about some ants that got in my room. They yelled at me for that. I am sick right now, and they wanted me to clean. I have done most of it, and my dad checked up on me and saw I wasn't finished so he started yelling at me. Right when I tried to respond, he slams my door.
My mom used to be a severe alcoholic, now she drinks heavily once or twice a week (not sure if that's still considred alcoholism). When she's drunk, she triew to find me and she hits me, and yells at me. My dad doesn't drink, but he is stressed from having no job so he takes it out on me. My parents blame me for everything that happens in the house. If a diet coke is gone from the fridge, I get yelled at, and I don't even drink diet coke.
I can't tell them anything, I feel like a young child in this house. My younger sister gets to do what she wants. She smokes, and plays video games all day. My parents know and don't care. I personally prefer not to drink, smoke, or do drugs, I attend online college full-time, and I do spend my time on this advice column giving advice; but today I need advice myself.
I am trying my best to get a job, and leave.. my boyfriend is going to find a place after he gets home from Myrtle Beach which, and comes back next Sunday (not this coming one). When he does, and I move with him, I lose everything.. so I guess I am screwed. I can't move in with anyone else for that same reason, plus no one will take me in temporarily.
Please help me, and give me advice on this matter. I just feel broken and helpess, when I am trying my best to stay strong.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Me and you both are in the same situation...I have always been the one screamed at for no reason at all,beaten for the smallest reason of all while my others siblings have the time of their lives.And im a twin,so when one twin is treated better,it can be a pain.But you know what,Eveything that has happened to me when I was younger played a big role on who I'am today.And your problems will also become your strength.You have to be strong and keep your head held high.Dont let your parents get in the way of living your life.Just know that you are going through the things god wants you to go through so you can have a better TOMMOROW.He's preparing you for something wonderful and remember that he will never put you through something that you couldnt handle.Love yourself first.Its great that you are taking college classes and that you are looking for a job.You are gonna get your diploma and find a job that you probably never though you could get.And as for this younger sibling,we all have those "spoiled" brothers and sisters that cant seem to do no wrong.And really think About if you wanna actually move in with your boyfriend.You are so young and have your whole life in front of you and I would hate for you to lose who you really are because you wanna make your boyfriend happy.There's nothing wrong with makin him happy just make sure that you are happy in the process.And you know what,when I wanted to talk to my parents about how they were treating me I actually wrote a letter and left the house so they could read it in piece and came back later.When I got home my mom hugged me and apoligized.We both started crying.And from then on my mom respected me.As for those chores,at least when you get your first place you will be able to keep it clean and neat unlike that sister of yours who will forever depend on mom and dad.For encourgement,you need to listen to a song called believer by christina milian.I love it and every time I hear it,its makes me a lil strongeer.For what you go through,you truly are a champion.Let every one know that you're sometimes broken but never defeated. Best wishes to you sweetie and to your boyfriend..stay stong...~ladypink~
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hi!:) i'm the girl that asked the question about being more seductive.
i just need some ideas. like him getting to the point of fingering me and maybe to the point of even having sex.
i just don't want to like kiss his neck and then have him not make a move and be totally random, do you kind of understand where i'm coming from?
thanks(: (link)
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I so know were you are coming from. I had a boyfriend once who i have been dating for five months.I always wanted him to be the guy that took my virginity.So when we finally got the chance to have some alone time I couldnt think of no way to get him in the mood.And i wuz like why not just start sucking on his neck,give him a few hickeys.So i started sucking on his neck and you know what happened? Nothing At all!Poor me..I mean the guy said nothing so I guess I'm not a great neck sucker!Lol!But on a more serious note:I recently found out that guys like it for their"you know what"to be stroked.They also like it when you sit on top of them..you know that postion when you are "riding" them.And maybe some deep throat kissing would work.So just light some candles and let him know exactly what you want...In a sexy voice of course.Maybe licking and sucking on his ear will help.Hope i helped a little.
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okay so i'm 19 years old, female.
i'm trying to think of something really seductive to do to a guy. i know i want to straddle him and then put my hands up his shirt and feel his sides and stomach as i kiss his neck
but then, i kind of didn't know what to do after. it wouldnt be exciting doing the same thing like that for a long period of time.
any ideas? anything is appreciated (: (link)
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Hey,i wanna answer this with a question: What else do you plan on doing with this guy?
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So back in June, i hooked up with this boy my age that i just met that night. He goes to a different school, but we know the same people and had heard of each other before. We were all drinking at this one kid's house, and we were kinda meant to hook up cause everyone else there had someone to hook up with so it just happened. But we talked a lot and hooked up a lot and even a little more, like he gave me a hickey. And i'm PRETTY sure he asked for my number, but I don't completely remember. We were talking about hanging out and stuff, and he acted like he really liked me that night. The only issue is, he never talked to me again. It really hurt me for some reason, because I have this problem that whenever i hook up with someone I become attached to them for a little. But when I tell my friends that I'm upset he never texted me or said anything to me and we never hung out, they just say 'who cares, it's just a random hookup'. Like no one thinks its a big deal to hook up with someone and never talk to them again, but personally I hate that. It's the worst feeling ever. He sseemed like such a nice and mature guy and everyone said he was, but I just don't get what I did wrong. I was thinking into it a lot, and I was thinking maybe I gave him the wrong idea because he was trying to do more with me and i told him I didn't want too and he was like 'sorry, sorry'. and then we just went to sleep. And then i got up to go to the bathroom and instead of laying back down with him i layed on a different couch. And my one friend was saying this might have made him feel like I did'nt like him or something, but really I wasn't even thinking about it like it wasn't a big deal at all. And now to make matters worse, he is back with his ex-girlfriend. They were done for about 2 months before I hooked up with him, and the reason I knew it was okay was that my friend hooked up with him the weekend before me. I feel completely used and I just think that he is one of those boys who just wants to get some whenever he can, considering he hooked up with my friend the weekend before when they were drunk, so now i just feel like shit. And i've decided never to hook up with a random person again unless I know they will talk to me after. And he told his ex-girlfriend that he hooked up with me because she wanted to know everyone he had hooked up with since they broke up. Now i just feel like one of those girls who hook up with people's ex's as a rebound, and i NEVER wanted to be that girl. I"m the type of girl who's all about playing hard to get and not being needy to boys and being independant. I mean i don't really feel that way, but I try my hardest to act that way in front of guys. So something like this has never happened to me and idk what to do. I can't stop thinking about it even though i should of forgotten about him a WHILE ago, because he obviously never thought about me again. the thing that pisses me off SO much is that i'm the type of girl who is not easy at all, and guys know that. I've worked so hard on making that my image and living up too it, because for some reason my worst fear is being 'easy' or a 'slut'. so, i play hard to get , sometimes i even come off as a bitchy to guys, because i am so afraid of being used or getting attached. And i don't get it, it's like this guy for example, his girlfriend is SUCH whore, she is the biggest slut i've ever met literally and i'm NOT just saying that, i mean she probably has diseases. and i am not at ALL, guys know that if they want ANYTHING physically from me they have to actually like me, except this night was an exception.i KNEW it was a bad idea to let my guard down for once. but of course, all i would do is make out with him because i would never do anything more with a random guy.. (link)
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Hey,so here's the thing.Females should NEVER lose their selves in guys. As girls, we are weak to tall dark and handsome.lol.but on a more serious note. To answer your first question: No,you did nothing wrong.Since girls mature faster then men anyway, it only makes since that guys do little selfish things like not call or respond to calls.You are very special in your own way and one day you will meet a guy that thinks more of you then a random hookup.In the future try not to loosen up to guys that you dont know that well because you will get attached and it's very hard to break from someone that you really care about.Also,the moment that you realize that you have major feelings for this dude it would be best to tell him so he would know right off the back that you take him very seriously so he should do the same to you. Try to live your life and not get rapped up in dudes that dont act mature.And as for this ex-girlfriend,you are nobody's rebound at anytime.Know that you deserve respect at all times and that you are a great girl and that if he wants to do all that "EXTRA" stuff then he might need to find another girl.Hope i helped.If you have any more questions dont be afraid to ask.~ladypink~
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okay. so like a month ago, me and my best friend kind of got in a fight. me and her ex boyfriend were pretty good friends before they even started going out, but anyway..
my friends ex broke up with her and would call me every night talking about it - and id just listen, but in the process, i kinda started liking him. one night, he came out and told me that he liked me.. and i was like i like you too.. so he told my friend. she got shitty. and i tried not to hang out with him, but i did.. and regret it. i told her i was sorry and i know that i fucked up. but we're cool now. and i dont even talk to that guy anymore. it lasted like 2 days.
so now, my problem is that i like this other guy now. and she has been flirting with him like crazy! shes a flirty person, and it doesnt seem like shes doing it on purpose, but its making me mad. i dont wanna tell her because shell freak out and say its bullshit that i would think that about her. i like this guy alot, and i dont want her in the way - even though i kinda deserve it : (
what do i do????
sorry its so long..
thanks ♥ (link)
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Ok,here's the thing about boys you like and your good friends...NEVER mix the two.Trust,i have been there before and its not a good thing. Call me crazy but isnt it funny how when you tell a friend about the boy you like,he and she start to chat more and hang more? Well,every girl is entitled to a secret or just something for her self.We all have friends but now it's hard to tell who's a friend and who is just into themselves and want everything for their self as well.Honesty is the best thing in the world.Never bottle things inside of you sweetie. Real friends respect your opinions and feelings. Real friends wouldnt yell or curse or throw fits because it's a childish thing and not cute. So try something for me..txt,call,or even write a letter to this dude that you like and let him know how you feel becuase 9 out of 10, he may feel the exact same way about you.As for your friend,do the exact same thing.It may be scary but just know that your real friend will listen.If she gets angry or upset,let her know that real friends don't do that and it's not cool. In life we all need to learn to do things that we are afraid of to make us stronger. Have the courage to change things in your life.It may suck to lose a friend, but if it comes to that then just know that it wasnt meant for you guys to be friends. One of my old friends sound just like your friend and we parted ways for the exact same reason. It's not good to have negative people in your life or bad influence's and sometimes you have to let things go to be a better person.hope i helped and if you need any more advice,just ask anytime.Thanks for listening,~ladypink~
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