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making my 'friend' eat her words!
so i've been in this small group of friends for quite a while now and when this girl (let's call her lara) came into our group she automatically made herself leader. i've always hated her but all my friends just love her so i can't do much. i feel like she's stealing my friends because all they do is follow her... except me since i just can't stand her so i end up being left out. anything i do is never good enough and she's never happy for me. also she only talks to me when she needs something only. i was wondering if there's anyway to prove her wrong thinking she's cooler than me and that i'm just boring. so don't get me wrong please but i think it's time i show off my newly found talents (without looking like i'm doing it on purpose) i've already tried not telling her every single thing thats happening like i used to because she never did the same. oh i play the electric guitar and i dance hiphop. i'm sick of always being in her shadow so i guess what i'm asking is how can i make her eat her words... or thoughts? :p
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why care what she thinks. she seems like a waste of time. you clearly dont like her so what do you care what she thinks of you. do your own thing, hip hop guitar or whatever, but do it for yourself, not just to impress her. be yourself and just ignore her. enjoy your real friends company, they are the ones that matter to you. any energy you spend on this chick is a waste.
just rise above her, and dont give a shit what she thinks or does. that will probably bother her more anyways. the only thing that makes her a leader are her followers. so just keep doing your own thing. it will benefit you more in the end anyways
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Life isn't the movies.
Revenge schemes like this only work in the movies.
In real life, friendships shift and grow. The right thing to do to maintain your position in your group isn't to fight with her, it's to reach out to your friends and cement the bonds between you and them.
If you fight fire with fire, you are almost certain to look desperate. Everybody already knows you don't like her, and they expect you to be sour and bitchy about it.
Focus on being a good friend to the people you want to be friends with, and go ahead and disagree with her without being a bitch or a joykill.
If you keep over thinking this you'll only end up looking worse.
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