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What does it mean to be "together".....but not dating?
14/f
I'm going to boarding school in less than a month and am currently in a relationship with my "friend". We're "together" but decided to wait on dating. We had dated earlier during the first week of summer when we didn't know each other but have become really very close. We have admitted we loved each other and are fully commited to each other....but as friends. I'm confused because soon we'll be going to different highschools (me co-ed boarding school and him normal) and I'm not so sure what, I guess you could say, the rules or guidelines of a relationship like this are. I know we'll meet other people but does us being only friends mean we're supposed to be exclsive? I love him as a dear friend and more obviously but...(i'm not trying to be selfish by saying this)but am I really expected to be alone at a boarding school for four years? I doubt it, but we're "together" and I really don't know what to do or what that even means now that I think about it! I'm going away, although only 20 miles away, to boarding school and he's going to some other school. Please some advice would be great because honestly, I love him. I just don't understand what he thinks being "together" means. In fact, he's never even said it, it's all been implied which also worries me because that makes me wonder even more what he or what we both expect from each other. I appreciate any advice you can give.
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Love is complicated. Especially, with the way you're making it sound. The thing is, you need to decide just how "exclusive" you want to be. From reading this, I gather that you would like your opportunity at this new boarding school to explore your dating and friendship horizons. Since you do you not know where exactly the boundaries are with your friend, the best thing you can do is ask him. Just tell him how you feel about the both of you attending different schools. Hopefully, you will see eye to eye and come to an agreement. It's always best to talk things through and know where you stand, so you don't have any problems. I hope things work out the way you want them to!
x Elliott
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Hey.
I was having a similar issue with someone that I really care about. We were boyfriend girlfriend at one point but then had issues so we broke up. But after that, we both still loved eachother (as more than friends) and so it started turning into a relationship again but without the title. Kind of like you, together but not dating. It was bugging me for a few weeks because I wanted to know where we stand. The only thing that gave me an answer was to talk to him and ask him. I feel like that is the only way you will know for sure what exactly he wants or expects of you. And you can talk to him about what you want. That way no one is confused about what is expected to happen. And no one will be hurt later on because of a misunderstanding. I hope you guys work it out. Good luck <3.
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