well if i were to describe myself i would say that i'm a fun loving kind of person that lives life for what it's worth.i love,laugh,live,cry,eat,and sleep.i try not to take anything for granted because life is so short and dear to us that every monent is speical.i refuse to judge those i don't know based on what others say and i believe that people can change for the better.i don't think anyone was ment to live alone without someone they love in their life.i believe that God looks after everyone if they like it or not,and got to hand it to the big man upstairs he does a good job.life wasn't ment to be perfect so i don't try to be perfect.i am what i am, i say what i feel, and do what my heart lets me to.this is me and i wouldn't change myself to fit anyones mold.i am Sara Renee(or Rae Rae as my friends call me)Elizabeth ________ S.two people in one, a secret writer,a secret lover,a baller,a sister,a daughter,a friend, and a person with a secret past i don't even know.wisdom is power and power is mercy and mercy is not weakness but strength.
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im 15 and i have a serious boyfriend.
but i really wanna experiment with girls.
me and my girl friend hooked up a while ago when we were drunk but that was just a dumb thing.
when i say i wanna experiment i mean like eating eachother out, strapons, etc.
i know i dont have feelings for girls im not bi or gay, but i feel like the sex part would be cool because girls know what they like.
what do i do about this.
is this weird or common?
i think about it all the time. (link)
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well...depending who you ask it might be a little weird to some people bc it's not really talked about a lot.some people might not have any problems while others might freak out on you.im 16 and i have friends who have the same feelings you do so i would say no it's not weird.your just wondering and that's pretty normal for someone that's young like you or i.
i hope i helped ya and if you have anyother question just ask or look me up on facebook under renee schwartz from lockport ny
bye
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Are friends with benefits really that bad?
This kid Dillon wants to have sex with me but doesnt like me as a girlfriend...If I have sex with him is it such a bad thing? (link)
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HELL YEA IT'S A BAD THING!!!!!!!!!!!!!Dillon is just using you for his needs!he's a man-whore and you deserve someone who respects you for you!DO NOT be his lil sex buddy bc for one that's really slutty and you better than that!
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I am 16/f and I am considering applying for an ROTC scholarship in college. I am hesitant to apply, however, because after I graduate from college I am obligated to serve 4 years (which could be part-time) and I could still take a civilian job but I really would not want to be sent to war. But I am looking for ways to help pay for college and millitary experience looks excellent on any resume. I really dont know what I should do. So if you could tell me your opinions, ideas, likes/dislikes, or just anything that comes to mind I would be so greatful! (link)
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i think it's great that your considering serving your country,i'ts the most noble thing one can do for his or her country and your parents must be so proud of you if you choose to follow through and jion.my oldest brother just joined the army to pay for college and he loves it.he doesn't really what to be sent to war be it pays 4 his schooling and he's happy to serve for his counrty.
but there are other ways of paying off college you don;t have to go in the ROCT.my advice is to talk to your parents or ppl you live with to try and find other ways of paying off student loans.but if you really want to serve your counrty and pay for your school than join.there is a good chance that your pay not have to go to war with the new elections comin,who really knows.but i strongly suggest you talk to many adults about this matter.
good luck and if you do choose to join the armed forces or any branch than the best of luck to you and God bless
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Hi everybody,
my ex-boyfriend (who I'll conveniently call S. now) and I dated for about two weeks about a year and a half ago.
I've had several other boyfriends after him, but he didn't have one. We still remained good friends, and a lot of our friends (we have the same friends) thought we were a couple, but we never were.
Now, the last few days, S. has been cuddling me more than usual, asking me if I was warm enough, said it was such a shame we weren't in the same class,..
And I think I'm starting to love him again. But I'm not sure, because my heart has recently been broken, and maybe I'm just so desperate for love that I'm seeing this as signs, when they aren't.
And even if they were, what should I do to let him know I'm falling in love with him again?
Thanks a lot if you can help me!
(I'm 14 and a girl, but I'm mature for my age, and he's nearly fifteen & we both live in Belgium.) (link)
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you said than after you 2 broke up he never got another gf and this is a good sign it suggest that he still hasn't gotten over you and this was almost two years ago.
to love is to risk not being loved in return and when your heart has been broken it's even harder to let anyone in.but is S's feelings are true and so are your's than i say do it!take a chance bc life's too short and if you really think this is love than why not?ya see falling in love is the gratest gift there is and it seems like hes getting really close to you bc he wants to be more than friends.
my advice is to tell him that your heart has just been broken so if he's just playing around than don't get back with him bc than you risk getting hurt again.your heart is the most valuable thing you posses and when you're in love your so vulnerable to getting hurt again that you should know if he's falling for you again or not.get the facts stright b4 you go out with anyone.good luck and i hope i helped you
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16/f
I have a friend, Christy, who I just became friends with over the summer. She would come over my house a lot with my other friend, Jake.
Now, Christy is friends with like 4 different groups of people. One group is people she used to be friends with before she moved here. Another group is people that are sort of popular, another group is this group of girls who I really wanna be friends with (this sounds retarded but it's a whole different story). The final group she's friends with are the people I hang out with. I don't even like most of them, which is why I wanna be friends with other people.
I was pretty happy that I became friends with her because 1) even making just one new friend is great and 2) maybe through her I can become friends with the other girls too. But right now I'm really upset. I went on vacation for two weeks (i got home a few days ago) and Christy texted me a bunch of times asking me when I was gonna get back home. So I thought, good, she still likes me and is interested in hanging out with me. When I got home I texted her and asked her if she wanted to hang out anytime soon. She didn't seem so interested, though.
Then I went to a friend's barbeque party and two groups were there: the group of girls I wanna be friends with and the group I'm already friends with that I don't like. Well, the whole party, Christy didn't talk to me once. Was she under pressure because all of her cooler friends were there?
She hasn't talked/called/texted me since. The party was two days ago. Since the party, my self-esteem has gone to the lowest level. I just feel so uncool. I feel like I'm never gonna make new friends that I like and I'm just gonna be friends with the annoying, immature, nerdy people for the rest of my life. School starts soon and I'm scared that she's never gonna talk to me again because I'm such a damn freakin loser. I don't wanna confront her about because we weren't that close anyway and I don't wanna lose her as a friend for good. What should I do?
Sorry so long, but I'm desperate for advice.
Thanks so much! (link)
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well first off you're not a loser.
and being friends with Christy shouldn't determine who you are and are not friends with.you're in high school so it's pretty normal for some of your friends to have many groups of different friends like Christy does. and just bc Christy doesnt talk to you for a couple days after you get back from vaction doesn't mean that she wants to throw your friendship away.
you don't need Christy to help you get more friends or to become closer with the group of people that you want to be friends with.you've made friends before you met her so you can make friends even after you met her.and think about what you like about christy other than the fact that shes one more friend that you have and that shes friends with people who are popular and people who you want to be friends with.what are some qualities you like about her?is she a good friend to you?can you trust her?does she respect you?
but most of all being popular isn't at all what people think it is.it's more of a burden and is not everything.if you want to have more friends and be some what popular just try being yourself and stop caring about who your friends are and if they are "cool" based on the "popular kid's" opinions.
"be who you are and say what you feel.because those that mind don't matter and those that matter dont mind."
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I was diagnosed with chronic depression a few years ago. My doctor and I tried quite a few different treatments, including medication and counseling, but it didn't help and the medication made me more suicidal than I already was.
So, I went off the meds and I was able to keep it under my own control for the past year, until recently.
I haven't been able to do much lately because I have felt so tired, I feel like everything is going wrong, and that there isn't anything here for me, but I know in my heart and my head that this isn't true.
I feel as though I am losing my mind over this and I can't seem to remember the little things, like conversations that I had with my bf just a few minutes before.
Or I'll remember something that happened 2 weeks ago and I'll randomly start to laugh or cry about it, however it made me feel at that time, I repeat that action.
I have no idea what to do and I feel so lost.
But I know that I can't take the medication again because of how it makes me feel and the extreme side effects that occur, so any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you. (link)
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i know i'm only 16 but for being so young i kinda understand bc i know or knew two people that are just like you.
someone that i love with all my heart has a similar situation and is suicidal at the moment.they go and see doctors and have meds to help take the pain away but, it doesn't help it hurts them.
a friend of mine that i loved.she toke her life bc she thought the world had nothing for her.
you may think that there's nothing left here for you but you're wrong.
i don't mean to sound so hard on you but if you were to take your own life just know that you effect everyone you've ever met in some sort of way.you hurt people who loved you but never told you bc they may be scared or stubburn.and you break the hearts of those that have loved you since the day you met them.
i would give anything to have my friend back or to just talk to her.everyday im reminded of the pain that i feel in my heart now that's she's
gone.
you may not understand this but to some people in your life you mean everything.and life without you isn't really living,bc to the people that love you they feel as if their heart will stop bc you stoppped your own heart.
ya see if you where to stop your heart,you would also stop someone else's.someone that you love.
SOO PLEASE PLEASE READ THIS!!!!and don't think that bc of my age i don't know what pain suicide brings.bc every day i feel it.everyday.the pain knows no end just where to start.
i loved her,and i lost her.please don't make the same mistake that she made.
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What is a physical because i have to take one to be in basketball (link)
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it's just a test that a doctor does to make sure you are healthy enough to play basketball.it's not that big of a deal everyone that plays sports ahs to take one before they can play any high school sport.i've had like 20 in my career it's no problem
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okay so i made a dumb mistake long story short
i had sex today and my boyfriend didnt use a condom.. i know we should have and i have had pregnancy scares lately where i think im pregnant because i end up missing my period but i guess my cycle just changed a bit bit now its back on track..
i use this online thing to track my period and it says like ovulation day and such this website
http://www.mymonthlycycles.com/
and it says that today i was fertile... and i had sex without a condom ah.. and im only 16 and i know it was a mistake so im not looking for a lecture i just want peoples opinions of if they think i have a high or low chance of getting pregnant.. i mean .. he pulled out and jizzed so.. i don't think any got in me.. (link)
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uummmm....yea well at least you know you made a mistake and there is a chance that you MIGHT be pregnant bc you had sex and it was without a condom even tho he pulled out.ya see before he's done there is per-come and that could make you a mother.my advice is learn from this and take more tests. you can't change what happened you can only perparefor the worst and except it.but there is a chance that you're not pregnant so don't give up hope.
Good luck and next time wait until you're ready to except the results (good or bad) you're 16 and having a kid in high school wasn't on your to do list.trust me i know bc im the same age and know girls that have kids when they are 17 16 and even 15.
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my whole life, i have NEVER ever been happy with how I look. Ive always been a bit over weight, not extremely, but a little. I'm like 5'5 and probably like 170lbs...i would really like to look alot better. I got distracted during the summer and screwed my diet. But everytime I start a diet and keep with it, it always dies, and I always get depressed about it, because I was doing great, but i just didnt want to keep up with it because i was too lazy, or distracted, or busy. And I'm really jealous, I can't really get guys, I talk way too much, but like every guy is only into "skinny" girls. I would really like to like my body and for who i am. And i used to do swim team, because its good for my health, but to be honest, ive been doing it for over 6 years in the summer and winter, and quite frankly, im getting tired of it. So I need exercises that I can do everynight that will help me lose weight effectively =] i'm trying to lose my belly more than anything though, and my waist, and my thighs lol. I'm busy with other activities during the week too, so I dont want a HUGE workout everynight, I'm willing to workout an hour a night..is tht good enough? And of course im gonna diet with the food and everything...I just dont want to let myself again, for the gizillianth time... (link)
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it's good that you want to get in shape and don't worry about he skinny girls bc they prob are not happy with their own bodies even tho they are fine just the way they are.if swimming is getting old for you try and pick up another sport or join a gym near your area.and working out an hour a day it good for you.most the time diets don't work so stop trying them they only make you feel more depressed than when you started it and that's not good.instead try cutting down on some sweeties and carbs. you don't have to go crazy and cut them out all together just take it one step at a time.workout and change your diet slightly eat more greens instead of carbs or sweets.
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Hi, I'm 16/m I just started at a new school. There is a girl in my Hist. Class that is insanely gorgeous. Like, you don't even know. Crazy gorgeous. Anyway, I don't really know her yet. I'd like to get to know her though. How can I break the ice? And don't tell me to just go up to her and tell her I like her. I know girls like confidence, but you have to at least know them A LITTLE before you start telling them that. So... help? (link)
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well you just started going to a new school that this girls has prob been going to for a longer time than you so she knows her way around.for exapmle she knows friends,teachers (good and bad) and school events that go on at the school.so you can always ask about sports,home coming,what teachers are good and with ones are bad,and what people do for fun.try and get involved in school events that she or her friends are in to spend extra time with her outside of your hist.class.and def ask about home coming bc most girls love it,there's dancing, football games with hot guys and friends,you might even have sprit week during home coming like many schools have.home coming also gives you a reason to hang out with her bc your new and don't really know anyone except her kinda.good luck and don't worry you'll do great
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why do atheletes take a ice bath? (link)
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because it feels soooooooooo good!it lets your body relax and after you strain your body from working out or playing sports
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hay.. ok so im 17 and im still a virgin. i broke up with my bf last year after goin out with him for a couple of monthes cos he wanted to have sex and i wasnt ready and cos my friends didnt like him.
but now i think im ready and i really want to have sex but i want it to be the right time and right person. i think about gettin back with my x so we can do it but i now it wouldnt work.
im scared that ill never find someone and that ill be alone for the rest of my life. i think iv just lost hope. wat do i do?
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you're only 17!you're sooo young and you're rushing into something that's so big.just bc everyone else is having sex doesn't mean you have to and i dout you're truely ready. you have your whole life to have sex why rush and maybe make one of the biggest mistakes ever?you made the right choice by dumping your ex bc he wanted to sleep with you and you weren't ready to.besides it sounds like he was a jerk and never loved or respected you.if he did love or had the least bit of respect for you he wouldn't of pressured you to have sex and he wouldn't of put you in that situation.tust me when i say wait until you have a husband that loves and respects you for you not your body.you're going to be an adult soon so demand the guys in your life to respect and to treat you as if you are their whole world.women that got anywhere in life don't just do things bc someone wants them to or bc everyone else is doing it.they think for themself and that's what you have to do.think what's best for you not him or any other bot you go out with.
and you will find someone to be with,just look for the guy that respects you for you not your body.you have your whole life to find Mr.Perfect so don't think that he left without you,bc he's prob just waiting.waiting to find you.so wait for him and both of you will be fine.good luck and DON'T RUSH!!!!
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So, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's really great. I love her and care about her and everything, but I have feelings for this other girl. This other girl is out of this world. We'll call my girlfriend J and the girl I like L ok? ok. Well L knows I like her, and L really likes me. I never see L though. But I get so happy when I talk to her. J pisses me off a lot of the time. We fight over everything. We tried taking a break, but it didn't work out. We missed each other. I care about J, but I have these strong feelings for L also. I don't know what to do. I can't bring myself to end the relationship because I don't want to lose J. J has become one of my best friends, and I don't want to lose that. At the same time, these feelings for L wont go away.
Can someone help me?
(Don't say to sort out your feelings, cause I sorted them up there. I feel confused. And no, who would you rather be with. I get that all the time from my friends.)
Thank you. (link)
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you said that you love J and breaking off your relationship didn't work so try and do it again.love is a powerfull word and feeling that doesn't just go away.girls like L may come and go in your life but you have to understand that this situation that you're in is testing your relationship with J.it's testing your love for her and that's hard to do through.ask your self if you can picture yourself with L and not J than think about what you would give up because your not with J anymore.ask your self was it really worth it?you left the person you love for the person you like not knowing if you will fall in love with her or if she will fall in love with you.
if i was you i wouldn't leave the girl that i love for the one that i like.you'll aways come across some girl that makes you nervous every time you see her or hang out.but those girls are a dime a dozen.i hope i helped
ps.love wasn't meant to be easy so don't think that your relationship with J is a hopeless
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Okay, well the guy that i like A LOT told this girl in my class he likes me and my two best friends which is horrible. One of those friends flirted with him a lot until i confronted her about it and then she quit a little but she still did it some. But anyways, she is really outgoing and i am kinda worried that because he might pick her because she always talks to him and stuff. I know she would never go out with him because she knows i like him and she is my best friend but just the fact. I'm not worried about the other one because she never flirted with him and always try's to give me private moments with him but the other one always pulls up a chair whenever it's me and him alone and he usually talks to her because he is super outgoing and likes flirting with other girls but that is just his personality. I just feel like i am in competition because i have never liked a guy this much before and i really want it to work out. I try to talk to him every chance i get but it's hard sometimes because i;m in class but i don't know what to do.
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dear me and my best friends,you're in a hard situation but you may have to test your friendship with both of your best friends.my advice is to talk to both of your friends alone and tell them how you feel.they're your best friends so you should be able to tell them anything like how you feel.but whatever you do... DON'T LET SOME BOY COME BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR GIRLFRIENDS!it's not worth it no matter how cute or hot this boy is,they are your best friends there will always be other cute guys but finding best friends that you can tell anything is hard to come by the trust that you and your friends have is priceless.~rae141307
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I really want to know who my ancesters were like really far back on my family tree and stuff. My mom has no clue really far back, and won't tell me the ones she knows though. Is there any way I can find out? I don't know their names (I oonly know my father's but I don't talk to him at all since the divorce) and I know my grandparent's first name and marage name (not my grandma's maiden name). No one will tell me anything but I really want to know mmy ancesters and no matter what I tell my mother, about having a right to know and all that, my mother won't tell me. Niether will anyone else in my family. Please help! (link)
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dear acesters,i know how you feel i don't know my family tree and i was never really told what i am or where my family came from, but hang in there.it sounds like your going through a lot with your family at the time with the divorce between your parents and they most likey are feeling a lot of pressure because of it.knowing who you are is always going to be important to you and your mom may feel like she has to just trying to protect you from everything including the divorce and your family.the subject "family" might be the last thing she wants to talk about during this time.so give it time, you do have the right to know but your mom may be waiting until she thinks your old enough to truely understand your family including your families past.but if you want there are websites you can try to go on and find out who your are try these sites www.GeneBase.com and Ancestry.com.you also may be able to find out info from old photos and te things written on the back of them.good luck i hope you hide out your past.~rae141307
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I have had way too many boyfriends to count. It's my problem too. Boys like me, and I like boys... but as soon as we start dating its like I pick out all their imperfections without meaning to. I'm now with my 12th or 13th boyfriend. He's really nice, but he never calls me or asks me out places, and when I call him or I invite him places, we never have anything ot talk about. He's kind of boring... I hate breaking it off with guys when they didnt do anything wrong. Is it my fault for wanting a certain type? Should I stay with him and see if things get better?
Thanks
Elise 15/f (link)
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Elise,it's not a bad thing to have a lot of boy friends at your age.I even did it when i was your age.Crushes come and go when you're young that's just how life is.But...picking out boys imperfections is not good but can be easily fixed.Everyone has imperfections you,me and every person you'll ever come across.The key to a strong relationship is to look past the imperfections,instead look at the good quailties this boy has instead of the bad.Try and remember why you went out in the first place and think of the good things he does for you.Every girl has a certain type of guy they like to date and going out with a bunch of boys is just one way to find what type of boyfriend you would most likely to be happy dating.Ask yourself does he remember things you tell him?Does he respect you,your family, and friends?Or does he make you laugh amd he's fun to chill with or to talk too.And one reason why he may not call you as much as you would like or ask you out is because he may be a little scared that he's not good enough for you.Calling you may frighten him and going out on a date may just freak him out.Next time you ask him to go out, go with a group of friends you both share that way there will always be something to talk aboutand he won't feel so much pressure.~good luck rae141307
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