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Just Not Talking to Me
16/f
I have a friend, Christy, who I just became friends with over the summer. She would come over my house a lot with my other friend, Jake.
Now, Christy is friends with like 4 different groups of people. One group is people she used to be friends with before she moved here. Another group is people that are sort of popular, another group is this group of girls who I really wanna be friends with (this sounds retarded but it's a whole different story). The final group she's friends with are the people I hang out with. I don't even like most of them, which is why I wanna be friends with other people.
I was pretty happy that I became friends with her because 1) even making just one new friend is great and 2) maybe through her I can become friends with the other girls too. But right now I'm really upset. I went on vacation for two weeks (i got home a few days ago) and Christy texted me a bunch of times asking me when I was gonna get back home. So I thought, good, she still likes me and is interested in hanging out with me. When I got home I texted her and asked her if she wanted to hang out anytime soon. She didn't seem so interested, though.
Then I went to a friend's barbeque party and two groups were there: the group of girls I wanna be friends with and the group I'm already friends with that I don't like. Well, the whole party, Christy didn't talk to me once. Was she under pressure because all of her cooler friends were there?
She hasn't talked/called/texted me since. The party was two days ago. Since the party, my self-esteem has gone to the lowest level. I just feel so uncool. I feel like I'm never gonna make new friends that I like and I'm just gonna be friends with the annoying, immature, nerdy people for the rest of my life. School starts soon and I'm scared that she's never gonna talk to me again because I'm such a damn freakin loser. I don't wanna confront her about because we weren't that close anyway and I don't wanna lose her as a friend for good. What should I do?
Sorry so long, but I'm desperate for advice.
Thanks so much!
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well first off you're not a loser.
and being friends with Christy shouldn't determine who you are and are not friends with.you're in high school so it's pretty normal for some of your friends to have many groups of different friends like Christy does. and just bc Christy doesnt talk to you for a couple days after you get back from vaction doesn't mean that she wants to throw your friendship away.
you don't need Christy to help you get more friends or to become closer with the group of people that you want to be friends with.you've made friends before you met her so you can make friends even after you met her.and think about what you like about christy other than the fact that shes one more friend that you have and that shes friends with people who are popular and people who you want to be friends with.what are some qualities you like about her?is she a good friend to you?can you trust her?does she respect you?
but most of all being popular isn't at all what people think it is.it's more of a burden and is not everything.if you want to have more friends and be some what popular just try being yourself and stop caring about who your friends are and if they are "cool" based on the "popular kid's" opinions.
"be who you are and say what you feel.because those that mind don't matter and those that matter dont mind."
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HAHA.. i never really noticed it before but above the box i type my advice into it says "your brilliant answer" soo hopefully i say something magical to help you out.. but from my experience in this situation is just crazy!
First off Why are you "friends" with people you dont like?
Secondly why make friends with this new girl that is soo cool just to boost ur popularity?
I'm only a few years older than you and when i was in High School I didnt have a set group of people i hung out with or got along with
Because i was cool with everyone because i was myself around them all
I'd sit and invite different random people to eat with me at lunch and offer them a snack pack
Now that i'm older i realized its the best thing ive ever dont.. is not obsessing about how cool i am because if your just yourself.. the people that think your cool will be your true friends.. and sometimes it takes one person such as yourself to show that to people at ur school and maybe all of these "fake" girls and such running around will stop putting on an act and be themselves as well and then you will see what i mean
Popularity isnt a gift
its a punishment
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