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break up....
i was in love...scratch that...i AM in love.. completely head over heels...and i know it wasn't infatuation, it was love. and to top it all it was my first love. this guy was amazing and treated me like a princess...like it sounds corny but i felt like i could fly when i was with him. we dated for over a year then like a couple months before we broke up, he just changed...he would blow me off to do absolutely nothing...then he dumped me because he said it wasn't fair to me, which i agree...but i have this hole in my heart and it won't go away...and its been 3 months since we broke up...
he also tells me he doesn't believe in love lasting forever. his parents are getting divorced so i could see where he's coming from, i think this is a big thing to do with it but i don't want to seem desperate for him back...but its so hard....i've already tried talking to him about it but it seems like he's made up his mind that he doesn't want to be in a relationship...advice? anything will help ...thanks.
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:/ been there, done thaat. it IS the worst feeling in the world having to let go of your first love, but the problem is .. you dont really ever let go. they're always going to be with you wherever you go. you cant just erase that person from your life automatically or erase the feelings that person gave you for over a year. its going to hurt like hell.. but not forever. the first 4 months after it happens are the hardest because all you do is think "what if..?" or "what could i have done differently?" or "was it all a lie?" and you're probably stuck on that and stuck on the memories.
but dont try to stop yourself from thinking about it; let it hurt. cry, scream, think, until you cant anymore. then you'll start to get better and thats when youll move on.
and what sucks about a lot of first love break ups is the fact that you cant change a persons mind no matter how hard you try. so dont try. i know thats hard to hear, but youre going to put yourself through a whole lot more pain by trying to get that person to realize what they lost. you are going to find someone who DOES think that love can last forever. you ARE going to be happy again. you are going to be in another relationship and you ARE going to find a person who wont leave you. but it will take time. so leave your past in the past, and stop talking to him for a while.. until your completley ready and wont fall back into the whole "i want you back" scenario.
trust me, just ignore him for a while, if he talks to you, then so be it. but just vent to your friends, talk talk talk and just take your mind off of things by going out and just having fun!
live your life :] hope i helped! if you ever need to talk, im here for you. just send me an inbox. xxo. good luck.
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It hurts there are times where anger is a huge emotion then being sad because the guy isn't with you. Its time for you to move on and but take some time to yourself. The heart will mend day by day and with the help of your friends. I love having guy freinds i can depend on who make me feel better about the situation. It can be really rough when you can't be with the one you want the most but in the end you realize it was their mistake and their loss. Sooner or later the guy will realize what an idiot he was with what he let go. Take sometime to yourself and hang out with friends! Good luck and Happy Holidays!
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Give yourself time to get over him. Some people take longer than others to get over someone they love. There are plenty other guys out there for you. Take some time for yourself. The right guy will come along in due time. But whatever you do, please, stop trying to talk to your ex. Let him be.
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Hey.
Well I was also broken up with a couple of months ago. It is rough, I know. But sometimes love fades. A relationship only works when both people want it fully, if not it just falls apart. I know that getting over your first love isn't easy. It's hard to imagine that there will ever be anyone like this guy. But the truth is, you will meet so many more people in your lifetime. There are endless amounts of people. The chances of you someday meeting someone that will love you and who you will love in return are really high!
Just think about it. He doesn't want a relationship and he may not change his mind for a long time to come. If you try to wait around for him, time will go by, and he may never come around. You don't have to stop loving him, but do realize that the more you allow yourself to experience life without him, the closer you will be to being able to be happy again. There's a whole life out there waiting for you and someday you'll get to experience a relationship again. We don't know what the future holds for us, but if we don't start living right now and trying to be happy, then when will we?
Take care. <3
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The best thing to do is give him space. He probably has it rough right now because of his parents divorce. Just let him know your there for him no matter what. But if he doesn't want to be back with you, you cannot push him, it will only drive him away. You will get through it, promise. Just stay strong, all in good time. Maybe one day he will realize what he lost.
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