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he says im too clingy...
I am a 18 year old girl, and i have been dating this 20 year old. we have been together for 2 months and when we first started talking he wouldnt let me have a day to myself, he always wanted to be around me. All we do is party or after work one of us will go to the others house and we watch movies. Now that i started school in the mornings and i work in the afternoon i get to see him twice a week. last night at new years everything was fine, i wake up this morning and everything is fine and hour after he drops me off at home he says "we need to talk" and says that i am being too clingy and that im getting on his nervous. I see him twice a week how am i clingy??!!!??? I dont get it.
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Sounds like he's just trying to make an excuse not to be with you. You have other things going on and he can't handle that. Don't you dare give up work and school for such a loser. Because you are doing other things other than being with him, he's not willing to put up with you anymore. I say send him packing, there are plenty other men out here.
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20 year old men... not the most mature and calculated creature on the planet. You should consider this information while I'm telling what I know about scenarios like this.
A. 2 months isn't very long to be together, and it implies, to me, that you probably don't know him as well as you think you do. I've been with my 24 yr old for about 5 months and I'm still finding out precious little jewels of information about him that surprise me.
B. 20 year old men don't want to settle down, be serious and commit to someone. They think that they do, but they don't, and sooner or later their labido lets them know that.
C. 20 year old men also don't like admitting that they're complete assklowns that want to go sleep with everything. They enjoy hiding behind the illusion that they're mature, especially when dealing with younger women.
What I'm trying to say here, is that if you're only seeing him twice a week, at this point, and he's voting you're clingy, the most likely cause is because he's setting up to break up with you, make it look like it's your fault and then go bang whichever girl walks in front of him first.
There is an option B, though I find it less likely... that is that you're not telling us about the obsessive calling and texts that are making him feel trapped and suffocated. If you're doing this... and really you will be able to look down at your phone, right now, count up texts and phone calls and know if you're being a clingy psycho... then all you'll need to do is cut back and give the boy some space.
I'm still going with the first answer though. I will bet you, money, that he's trying to set up to leave you because he's a skeeze. I can almost guarantee it.
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