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Somethings wrong
14/f This will be long sorry...
Ok I feel horrible. Its more than just school I guess. But first off I haven't doing very good in school. I'm in 9th grade. And its so hard because I feel like I'm being pressured to know what I want to do in life and college and so on. I won't be able to go to a university or anything. I'm pretty sure of that. I wanted to go to college because I want to do good in school and I don't want to fail. The only classes I gave A's in is PE and Health. The rest are B's and C's. Except Biology and Math are D's. I'm surprised I haven't had an F. Even my friends are surprised. I mean I have great friends but its pretty much expected. All my friends get good grades and I don't know whats wrong with me. I feel like I can't amount to anything. Now my parents have been fighting and my dad almost left and I just don't know what to do anymore. I stay away from them and I don't really talk to my parents much anymore because I don't want to get into this. I have a boyfriend and its been a month since we've been going out and that's like the only good thing here. But I know I have lots of people that love me and I'm so happy about that its just thinking about all this other stuff is driving me crazy. And to be honest..like last year I did cut myself and like a month ago too. I know I shouldn't but I don't plan on it again. I try and find someone to turn to for help on this homework, parents and such and my friends listen. Its just I don't know how to deal with it. I use to get good grades in elementary school when it was way easier. I try and forget about everything at home because I fight alot with my brother and my parents so I have been trying to stay away from that so I've been focusing more on school and pushing myself so hard and its just so hard. Please help I'm so confused. I feel so loved though, its great. I mean by all my friends and guys and stuff. But I mean I'm not conceited just it makes me feel better. Thanks for reading this and thanks if you can answer this.
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For a young person going through difficult time at home, with parents fighting and possibly breaking up, I'd say you're doing amazingly well. You have alot of inner strength. That's hard to come by nowadays. Is it possible you're not doing well in school because of troubles at home? These things can affect everything we do in life and cause frustrations to come out in strange ways, like cutting. What you are experiencing is stress, and more stress than a 9th grader should have to go through. In this day and age, young people are going through different kinds of stress than when I was young, and it isn't easier, it's harder, because unfortunately, parental relationships don't necessarily stay together anymore. In my parents time, divorce was unheard of and the children, for the most part, always had a solid support system because both parents were in their lives. It's not always that way nowadays. It takes a super strong kid to get through this sort of thing, and judging from the fact that you have friends and family that love you and you are a happy individual, you have the ability to go the distance.
People will behave way they want to. If there is fighting at home that is affecting you, you should speak to your parents about it. Tell them that the fighting that goes on in the house is affecting you in school. Tell them you can't just turn it off when you walk into the classroom. Ask them for their help. You may just touch their heartstrings and get results. As for your brother, you could do the same with him, although sometimes siblings are less sympathetic. He may be going through the same stress as you, therefore, you could expect him to have the same tensions as you.
As for cutting yourself...please, don't do that again. Once you develop a habit of doing that, you may not be able to stop. When you feel yourself getting to the point that you are entertaining the idea, divert yourself to something constructive. Perhaps you could take up and instrument? Or a sport.
You must also realize that you are going to be more emotional in your teens. That's a fact of life. These problems are coming on at the worst possible time in your life...your teenage years. I promise you...this too will pass!
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Well first off you are not stupid and you shouldnt feel stupid. Every one goes through things like this and its not stupid. But you probaly just going through stress beacuse of the school and this is your first year of high school. I went through the same thing, my grades were low and they are usually high. But what i can tell you is that you just need to first relax yourself, when you feel like things are to much for you to handle just sit and a quiet place and relax listen to music or somthing. Also for the school thing high school is going to be alot harder, its another step onto life, you just gotta work as hard as you can. Study more, pay attention more and dont be so hard on yourself. And with the family problem thats something you just cant ingored even though you might try you just cant. You gonna have to talk that through with your family espically you parents. Tell them how you feel about their fighting and stuff. And last advice i wanna tell you is that all you can do right know with your life is to be strong and hang in there things will get better soon. Plus cutting yourself wont help at all, you need to express your feelings out. Talk to someone about how you feeling, and if its that serious than you should talk to your parents about it. :)
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