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Runing out of options!!!!
Okay so like me and my high school ex boyfriend are seeing each other on once or twice on a monthly basis since april 2014 ntil now august 2015 but before that we broke up twice and then startd speaking last year..Wen we together everything is so perfect i could see that he changed from how he use to be when we dated coz now he would be more of a boyfriend type,cuddling,holding my hand,gets excited to see me etc to speaking to each other almost everyday whole day eventhough we are just friends,he kept on hinting bout wanting a baby or asking me when am i gettin married or telling me that im showing of his property cause im wearing tight tops and yes we do have sex he would always say things like i can get attached to him or i can use hm for sex and he will save me if i had to die bt he wil die instead and he cand he can show me the world and i use to tell hm about all the guys who liked me or had a thing with and then he would gve me advice or tell me i should wear alot of clothes so they cant see anythng and he would tell me bout the girls who likes him and who he kisses...but now all of a sudden this month (august) it feels as if things have change like me drifting coz we went from speaking to each other everday to hardly ever speaking or just sometimes,and when me do chat he dont reply to me,bt he gets and reads the msgs and then replies whenever,i saw him saterday 22aug and i could see by his actions that he missed me as much as i missed him..i then send hm a few msgs to say thank you for the nice night but he ddnt respond and he always use to afta i saw him,i then send hm another few msgs and then he told me "such a tripper you are" yesterday i send hm msgs bt he ddnt reply again and then this morning i send hm a msg and then he's response was "Why so lastag lately" and then i just said sorry for being being so lastag and bothering you nd he mst enjoy his day,dont thnk he will reply anytime soon...a few weeks before i saw hm he just went missing in action well he was online and stuf just neva spoke to me and when i askd hm whats wrong he said he just feels like being alone lately and then we started speaking again almost everyday and then i saw him saterday and when i did it was nice as always cause i told him i miss him and then he randomly asked what im doing his thinking bout going home but thought about the woman who misses hm if i feel like seeing him so i said yes and then he fetch me.told me i dont love him anymore cause i dont greet or give him a hug..neither of us has moved on yet i asked hm if hes gna tell me if he has a gf one day and jhen he said probably yes but he dont think he will feel anythng for anyone anymore and he sometimes bring up old memories of us or ask questions like how do i think we would turn out if we had to meet for the 1st time or whats my favourite part bout wen 2gther or having sex cause to him the first kiss is always the best he asked me what do i want in a guy and then i tld hm i want some1 who knws what they want and do smallthngs like go to tha beach or park and then he told me he knws what he want and kissed me and the following week we went to the park..he even asks me if i can go shopPing for hm cause he dont have time and stuf...im so scared of losing him eventhough we not yet official,i love him so much if he dnt hear from me for a while eventhou i keep on sending him msgs he would randomly send a msg and ask if im still alive...but this month i dont knw why the sudden change why he dont wana speak to me anymore or reply to my msgs i miss him and i miss speaking to hm like we use to..my friends told me to let him go,just back off and if he cares he will show up again..its so hard not speaking to him i really dont know what to do i really dont cause i dont want to lose hm..it been a year and four months that we spending time together and we jst friends but wen we 2gther its like we are meant to be and to think we broke up twice before that ..do you think that therz a possibility he got tired of me or that he moved on and dont want to tell me..he has never lied to me before and when he hangout with his friends he would tell me cause the friday he told me he was with family and saterday before i saw hm he said he was suppose to do somethng with hs dad but hs not goin his rather going to chill smoke weed and play facebook poker and then i saw him the night and we smoked 2gther...i really ddnt mean to b a nuicense and bother him bt nw he alreadi thinks that i am..what do i do,i cnt eat or sleep..i dont wana loose him oot again..just dnt understand why the sudden change this month..why is he acting so,what do you think? The nli girl hs been seeing is me did he move on mayb! Did he get bored of me? If he wantd space why didnt he tell me" why dont he wana reply to my msgs and only does it weneva? Should i back of for a while and wait till he shows up and then wen i see him i should talk to him about it cause when he dropped me at home he said see you next time so im hoping that thers gona b a next time..I realy ddnt meant to bother hm and be lastag just wntd to speak to hm..mayb its my own fault or may im just tripping..need advice on what to that..what do u think bout this situation
Please help me why might he be acting so this month
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First let me say this: NEVER stop eating or sleeping over a frog. Eating is one of the most important activities a sow can partake in. And we all need our beauty rest.
Second, yes he is probably bored of you because you didn't challenge him! You slept with him without even being in a relationship. That is called being easy. It sounds like he is likely avoiding you because he has met someone else. You can't have sex with someone "unofficially" and expect it to last. This is a common mistake that many sows make. But, it's important to realize that if you have sex outside of a relationship, you are basically telling the frog that you don't need a relationship. Based on what I am reading, you do want a relationship. This means you have not been fully honest with this guy, because you have been giving him the impression that you are fine with sex outside of a relationship when in fact you want a relationship. Start being honest now. Tell him you want to date. See where it goes.
In all honesty, I doubt he will agree to date you after all this time, but you never know. It sounds like you have held him to such low standards for so long that he will probably not know how to step up to the plate and actually have a relationship. But, if you don't ask you'll never know. And more importantly, if and when he rejects you, you can finally move on with your life and get a real relationship. Oh and next time, remember that sex comes AFTER you are official.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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You both are stuck in a strange cycle. For some reason that you have not explained or do not understand yourself, both of you care about each other, at least to some extent, but are choosing to deny yourselves the chance to stay with each other for life. the way both of you talk, neither of you sounds ready to let each other go, no matter what silly stuff either of you say or do in the meanwhile. So both of you need to dig deep inside yourselves and ask yourself why you are not considering a life with each other? Whats holding you back? That is the mystery you havent shared with us so its quite impossible to help you any more than this.
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