Hi solidadvice4teens, I am not looking to start a fight. I am not a person who likes arguing. However, after reading your reply to my post I will not keep my thoughts about it to myself. Again, I am not replying to insult you in any way. With that in mind, first of all, let me tell you that in the past I have suggested to my current psychiatrist that she wean me off meds. She said exactly what you said. Was she right? Yes, for the most part yes. Adding onto that, at the beginning of your response you stated that you agreed with adviceman49. Saying that you are both right whether I like it or not. You both are PARTIALLY correct I say partially because you both assumed I was feeling mentally stable while on meds. There is a reason why I suggested to my psychiatrist that she wean me off meds. All those years I had been on them I never felt they truly helped me as much as they sedated me and I have been on loads of different cocktails of drugs. They have all been the same. They all dumb me down tremendously. Psychiatrists have tried prescribing me a smaller dose, changing the medicine altogether to a more "effective/modern" drug but the fact that I was drugged out, to the point of not knowing what I was really doing, on antipsychotics has never changed. Abilify was the last drug I was on and I do admit it was the most helpful one. Not 100% or even 80% either.(As my psychiatrist says the pill is the miracle worker, it does 80% of the work and you only have to do 20% of it). I was on it for four years and it was never the miracle worker my psychiatrist said it would be. Now, you also suggested I visit an emergency room. Why would I go to such an extreme? Doing that would surely result in me getting a 51/50. I have a tight work schedule, if I am gone for even 1 day without notice I would surely lose my job and if I told my employer to let me off the hook because I was in a mental hospital he would surely not sympathize. Not to mention how intense it would become at home with my own family members giving me looks of disapproval and disappointment or even amusement because of my mental "weakness". Adding on to that I was hospitalized when I was about twenty one twice in the time span of one month. I must say the psychiatrist there was horrible, HORRIBLE and the employee's were awful as well. They either hated their jobs or loved their jobs because the patient's crazy behavior entertained them. This is no lie, I got a rash on my face while I was hospitalized because a negligent nurse didn't tell me how to properly use a prescription acne face wash. Yet another thing that sparks my curiosity about what the psychiatry and drug industries true intentions are. Why would they give me a prescription for my acne when that has nothing to do with my mental health. Also, because I was put on so many drugs that had potential increased appetite/weight gain listed as side effects I was eating A LOT. I gained twenty pounds in ONE WEEK. That is ridiculously fast weight gain. They had no problem with serving me three meals in one sitting. That was extremely hazardous to my health. The way everything played out while I was there steers me into believing they were milking my health insurance for all it was worth. In conclusion, adviceman49 suggested I keep a note on my fridge to remind myself that I feel okay because of medications. If you took your time to read this which, I know, ended up being really long you now know that was never the case and also never will be. If I have managed to stay even slightly productive it has mostly been because of my own will. As a teenager I honestly thought they were helping me but I realize now that some of the craziest and most destructive things I have done in my life were done when I was on meds. I completely agree that my mind isn't average. Possibly even inferior and defective but one thing I don't agree with is psychiatry's approach to people like me. My last words may be shocking and insulting to either one or both of you: I am back on my meds. After all these years of being on if go off them my mind becomes too much to handle. It is bad when I am on them but worse when I am not. I hate being overly sedated. Most people see right through it and view me as slow and mentally impaired and I have never in my right mind told anyone other than family and psychiatrist's about my diagnosis. If anything those drugs that you refer to as meds. have done nothing good but turn me into their slave. I know 100% deep down that if the first psychologist I saw didn't order me to take drugs and would have stuck to therapies and counseling my situation in the long run would have been much better. I am not stating everything that has to do with psychiatry is bad but MOST psychiatrist's are and the pharmaceutical industry most definitely is.
I don't mean to be rude but I really can't remember answering your question before
All I can say is I hope you find someone or something that can help you
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?
Yes the police could help
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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again?
It's not your dads place to judge your religion but neither is it mind to judge your dad
If I was in your situation I would choose to worship in privet
I don't believe that any deity would wish someone to alienate their friends family
You and your dad seemed to both have A strong religious belief and my hope would be that you both find the time to sit down and talk about your differences coming to some sort of resolution
I wish you good luck
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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed)
From a technical point of view even anal penetration is losing your virginity however I'm inclined to feel personally that virginity is largely up to the individual to define
The question I think you should be asking is
Do you still view yourself as a virgin or not
Really hope this helps you feel less confused and conflicted
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
-Troubled
Wow umm
I always advocate compleat honesty in a relationship
Obviously she's not being honest but Maby if you take the furst step she'll folow.
You need to talk things through with her.why not sit doun and take time for a real heart to heart.
It's werth keeping in mind how vunrible being totely reliant on you may make her feel
I wish you both luck
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I am a 22 yr. old female who lives on her own in the US. I rent and live with my boyfriend of three and a half years. The guy I’ve been with has put me through hell in the last three years we have been together but I stuck by his side fearing that I would be alone. He has abandoned me several times even on our anniversary and I know deep down I deserve better. I go to school PT and I work FT. To give you a vague idea of what life has been like for me, I do everything- tend to his needs, clean up after him because he won’t clean up at all, buy all the food, he treats me poorly- has no consideration for my feelings at all, doesn’t acknowledge anything that I do, is jealous that I’ve got a better job than him, refuses to work FT, won’t help out at all around the house without complaining about it, he has no interest completing his college education, and now he’s asking his job to cut back his hours so he can play card games all day. I’ve asked him nicely to pursue counseling, offered to pursue counseling with him as a couple, and he is being stubborn about it. He thinks he doesn’t need it at all. He has been talking lately about quitting his job because he doesn’t want to be work for retail all his life, and recently, dropped the only class he was taking at college. He has Asperger’s so he sees the world a bit differently than you and I, but I’ll be damned, he’s very manipulative and super quick to create conflict if things do not go his way.
That said, I’m in a pickle and I’m growing very unhappy with him. My heart genuinely loves and cares about him and his overall well being but am I in love with him? I don’t think so. We don’t connect like we used to, I am not attracted to him anymore (been over a year since we’ve done anything sexual), and I do a lot of things on my own. I feel like he’s my child literally. Because his name is on the lease, I am reluctant to say how I really feel because I am worried it would create a mess of problems that I do not need at this time. I have been saving up for a down-payment on a house of my own and I’m very close to being able to get one. My goal is to drop him when the lease is up if things do not get better.
As silly as it is going to sound, I think I have found someone who I really enjoy talking to. I met him through eBay of all the places but we immediately clicked. We like almost all of the same things and we can talk non-stop for six hours. We have so much to relate to it isn’t even funny. He is attractive, a bit older, and he happens to live in Arkansas, which is very far away from New York, but I guess it could be worse. We are discussing meeting sometime this year presumably if all goes well. He seems like my other half and I get very giddy when I hear from him (sometimes anyway). Although I don’t know him as well as I would like to, I do have a strong gravitation towards this person and I’m not fully sure why exactly. Maybe it is because we are so alike. He is a college graduate and has been a dept manager at a retail store for five years. He was studying graphic design and has even done a few book covers for local authors. I find it impressive that he has done so much at his age. If you believe in Astrology, his sign is Gemini (air) and I am Leo (fire), it says we are highly compatible. He is highly skilled in many areas including photography and art. I could go on and on about how wonderful this guy is but I’ll stop it right there.
Anyways, I told him my disposition with my boyfriend a few months back and recently told him how I started feeling about him. I was scared to bring the topic up mainly because I wasn’t sure if he felt the same way but I also did not want there to be a relationship between him & I- at least not until I have successfully ended the relationship I am currently in and after he and I have met in person first. The more I have talked to him, the more I feel like I am falling for this person, but I will say this feeling comes and goes and fades away when he isn’t talking to me as much. I think I take it personal or something, assuming it’ll never happen and that he is not interested anymore. It sucks having a pessimistic mind. There have been spouts where this person just disappears for days and I grow concerned, I don’t understand why it happens and when I try to reach out, I don’t get any response back. He tells me there is something there for me but has forgotten the feeling of love. If you are genuinely interested in someone, you don’t do that to the person who has feelings for you.
Maybe my thinking is off or I’m taking way too much to heart so soon when I hardly even know this person. It has been a while since he has been in a relationship and while he has forgotten the feeling, what do you think this feeling could be? Did he just say that because he did not know what to say? Anyways, I can understand being busy but at least tell the person you are interested in or who is interested in you what is going on in your life so they know you are OK. If I stop talking to him, he does try to initiate conversations which confuse me. It seems the more attention I give him the more he runs away but the less I give, the more he comes back for more. He will on occasion send me text messages in the morning or call randomly to chat. And no matter how much that guy is on my mind or not, I do dream of meeting him when I am asleep even if he hasn’t been on my mind at all. I sometimes smile myself to sleep when I’ve talked to him and had a great conversation. But in these dreams, I am subconsciously trying to hide it away from my current relationship. I guess the conscious is playing a part. I’ve had maybe 2 or 3 dreams where I’ve come close to telling the person I am with now about this guy. I don’t believe in cheating and that is why I am stuck, I can’t move on until the relationship I am with is done entirely, but it seems I’ve felt alone for so long my heart is ready to love again. I’m worried of the situation altogether backfiring. I don’t know what to do. Do I have genuine feelings for this guy? Is this just a crush? Will it subside? Am I a complete nut-case? Am I putting things in my head that should not be there? Should I just stop talking to this person or view him more as a friend? What would you do in my shoes?
If i were in your shoes I talk to both have a frank discussion and though you may not be physically cheating neither are you being honest
To me the relationship you are in doesn't sound at all healthy and whether or not you enter a relationship with this other man you shouldn't forget the option to end your current relationship is still viable
Being alone isn't always a bad thing
I wish you the best of luck
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Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help
There should be a report abuse butten
You should use that
Goodluck
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Its been almost 3 years and they have had there good times and bad times but today i didnt talk to her because I didnt want to fight and when we spoke she kept fighting with me... I feel like dying because she is my life and i am so stressed out, what should I do?
There is no way to solve your issues without talking to your partner
She needs to know how you feel and much as we might wish it at times our loved ones can't read minds
Wish you the best of luck
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can i get pergrant if my boyfriends fuks me frm bckside hole without using condom
Technically yes you can
However it\'s exceedingly unlikely as sperm can only survive for a short time outside the boddy
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My friend found a baby kitten at her work and I ended up taking it because she couldn't. It looks about no more than 2 weeks. It can bearly hold its head up and shakes when it walks, its eyes are fully open and it fits in the palm of your hand. I have a bottle for it and it takes a few drinks then pushes away. How do you know how much to feed it? Do you know exactly how old it i? Do you know what I need to do for a kitten this young? Please help!!!
Just feed till your pushed away
You should get kitten milk
For a age you need a vet
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So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!
Firstly congratulations
I was given leaflets to fill out by my midwife and then just took them into the shops specified but it could be completely different depending on what country you live in. Signing up to bounty gets you some freebies to
Best of luck
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I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft?
Sorry but really not my area of expertise
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I have paid a sponsorer to sponsor me 14000$ but no w he doesnt pick the call nor call us.Every penny we gave him was hard earned money this man have cheated us what shall we do with this person if I am from NSW.
I dont have his address just bank details and phone numbers.
Can I just ask why did you have to pay him to sponsor you?
He's under no legal obligation though there is of course a moral one. Even so given that you have no written legally binding agreement I am not aware of anything you can actually do
I'm sorry and hope you have more success with other sponsors
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hi I'm 19 and my boyfriend said he wanted to try anal sex... The thing is that I never tried it before and I think it will hurt like reallllllly bad. I want to make him happy but at the same time I think that it could be painful :/ I don't know what to do because I love him so much and don't want to disappoint him. We have been dating for a year now. If you know what I could say to him, or any advice in general I would love it! By the way I love your column!
Thank you :)
I've got to say firstly that you should never do anything you're uncomfortable with.
whilst anal sex can be pleasurable it can also be painful to varying degrees and that differs from person to person. My advice is to talk to your boyfriend it sounds like you really love him and if he loves you just as much i'm sure he'll be willing to Listen and talk about it before you make any decision
Remember sex of any kined should be pleasurable for both of you
I wish you luck
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I got a job at buffalo wild wings and they want me to come in tomorrow to do an observation shift. Please help me out on what I should wear. For both my interviews there I wore some nice jeans and a nice shirt with flats.
Think about what the uniform is like and try wearing something quite similar
Good luck
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Hey!
So I have seen 2 west end shows in London and both were amazing. But its my parents anniversary soon and I want them to see a show-any suggestions?
(not we will rock you or westsie story)
well i'm not sure what's on at the mo but i'll give u a list of my ffaves and hope it helps:
billy eliot the musical. the storry of a yung boy from durum durring the miners strikes of the late 70s. the son of a miner and a dead mother he fought through the constraints of sursiatty and povitty to forfill his dream of becomeing a dancer.
war horse. the heart moveing tale of a horce and his boy (i cried)
blood brothers. the jonson twins, as like eachother as two new pins. they get separated at burth but fined eachother only for it to resolt in tradgaddy.
greace. i'm sure it needs no introduction.
romio and juliet. from the faitel loins of these two foes a pair of star crossed lovers take their lives.
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I'm not fat but I really want to go on a diet to lose a bit of weight around my thighs because I never gain weight in my middle section.. the thing is my mum will practically force feed me if she thinks I'm not eating enough. So what should I do!? Any advice on losing the most weight from your legs?
i wouldn't go on a diat if i were u. i'm not really fat but i've got big thighs. exisise not diat is the anser.
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Hi, my bf and i are planning to have sex and we are both very cautions about our decision and hence decided to take this safely. I wanted to know:
1) which birth pills should i take - the best quality ones?
2) How often should i take the birth pills?
3) Do birth pills affect the periods?
4) Is it safe - are there any side affects?
Any information on the birth control pills would be great!
Thx
hey. well furst if you're planning to have sex you should also use a condom.
you should see your doctor to disied what pill you should be takeing. there's some that aren't as good for yunger girls. there's one that is also used to treat acnie and a lot of others. what pill someone takes can vairry baced on things such as wate and age.
as far as i know all contriseptive pills have to be taken dayly at around the same time.
they work by increaceing the level of eastrigen in your boddy and so often do ifect peareods.
takeing contriseptive pills is safe for moast people but we're all difrent and it's best to check with your doctor. commen side affects inclood wate gane, mood swings and in some cases craveings.
i hope this helps
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I5/f. I'm a virgin and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i have no idea.
i don't judge anyone, it's not my place but i really hope the bit wair you say your a 5 year old is rong. to be honest i don't think you should be haveing sex just because your boyfrend wants you to and definatly not if you don't know the macanics of it.
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I am nineteen and a freshman in college, and the guy i hooked up with for five months is twenty one and a senior at my college. Basically, we were inseparable and had been hooking up both not wanting a relationship and had always communicated with eachother. After hanging out for five months, I became very attached and he decided that the best thing to do for us was to just be friends. Ever since that conversation, we have been hanging out constantly, doing way move fun things together like dinners and football games and i still sleep at his house in his bed without hooking up. I am in love with him. We have grown even closer through being friends, however I am very confused. He told me he can't be in a relationship because he is not quite over his ex who he was with for three years and he wants to graduate and have a stable job before he commits to someone. He also told me that I am one of his best friends & that he has never started a relationship with a girl out of friendship. He also said that even if he met his dream girl tomorrow that he still would have no desire to date her until he was ready in a couple years. Do you think that he is keeping me close because he wants to be with me but just isn't ready yet? Or is he just keeping me close because he wants to be friends with him?
honestly i'd like to think he feals the same for you as you do for him but that's because i'm a hopeless romantick. still the fact he lets you sleap on his bed and not the couch or sleap on the couch and give you his bed alone gives the romantick in me hope. but when you get doun to it the brootel truth of the matter is that the only ways you'll fined out how he feals is with time or by talking to him about it.
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