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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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That can be difficult, but God is with you. When you pray, ask for wisdom. The Bible tells us he loves granting that to those who ask. Pray for the wisdom to see opportunities he's given you as they arise, and wisdom to know how to handle those opportunities. Pray for the courage to actually use the opportunities.
Also, try talking to people you already know are fellow Christians as well. Ask people in your church how they spread His word. If you can get comfortable having a conversation about God with them, it will make it easier to do so with others. It takes practice, just like anything else.
God Bless.
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i have been confused about what i should be, i am a female that is more comfortable dressing in male clothes, i act more masculine then i do feminine however i do have certain female traits that keeping coming out (maternal - from when i was a step mum). i have been reading up and considering going through with a sex change operation. the only thing that is holding me back is i want kids and want to be able to conceive naturally. (link)
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Just because you feel comfortable in male clothing or have masculine character traits does not mean you're having gender issues. It means you're an individual who knows what you want to wear and what you like to do. Gender stereotypes are just that: stereotypes. I wouldn't go as far as a sex change, especially if you want natural children.
Consider the clothing issue logistically: men's clothing is more comfortable. Period. It's looser, it has pockets that are functional, and it has less pressure because you aren't being compared to every other woman you walk by. If you were going to a formal event, would you rather wear a gown or a tux? Who cares! You're comfortable doing what you want!! =D
I say keep your natural body, if for nothing else than the sake of keeping your children options open.
Most importantly: you were beautifully and wonderfully made in our Lord's image. Your body is perfectly how it's supposed to be. And our Heavenly Father loves you, no matter what you choose. But He made you as He did for a reason, and creating/deepening a relationship with Him may be the key to helping you find out what that reason is.
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Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help (link)
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Report it to the police without telling him first. That is sexual harassment. Keep everything written that he has sent you and be prepared for all that may come with that, but it's better if a few trained cops see it in their efforts to protect you than if it goes viral. Lesson for next time: don't take pictures you don't want spread around.
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I have registered for my 5th year for college and it seems as though I am not getting any financial aid money this year. What is going on? I filed my fafsa a month ahead of time. There was a verfication worksheet I had to do (which is suppose to be random, but I have done this for the 3rd time in a row) and I did it late, but that was after I found out that I can print my IRS transcript online, so I had to wait four weeks. 2 weeks because I accidently ordered the wrong one and another 2 weeks because I had them mail it to me. Still, that is not a good reason for me to NOT get financial aid because most of them are student loans. (link)
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You should speak with the financial aid office at your institution. I could make guesses, but they will have more information about your specific situation and will give you the most accurate information.
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I am a 22 year old female and I just contracted genital herpes about 2 months ago. I am taking daily medication for it, and always use condoms, and would never have sex with any present sores. I read that with daily suppressive therapy and condom use, there is about a 1-2% chance of passing herpes from female to male, including shedding.
If it is that tiny of a risk that I would pass it to my current partner, what is the point of telling him I have it? Also, 80% of people who have herpes dont know they have it, and therefore are not taking any medication, making it a lot less risky to have sex with me than just some random girl, especially with such a low percentage of me passing it anyways. So, without lecturing me, please give me a legit reason why I should tell my partner?? If you were in my shoes, would you?
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I would tell him. Trust is difficult to build once it\'s lost, and you telling him this may open a door for him to tell you if he\'s contracted something from one of the other girls he sleeps with. If nothing else, it may cause him to get tested for STDs, which would benefit you if he finds out he has something else that you don\'t want to catch.
The best way to maintain ~your~ personal health, would be to sleep with as few people as possible, and to only sleep with people who are not sexually active with others. I\'m not saying that you have to stop sleeping with your FWB, but a monogomous sex life is significantly safer. Because as far as STDs are concerned, you\'ve slept with all of the same people he has.
And if you both are truly as good of friends as you say, you/he should be looking out for each-others health and satisfaction, not your/his own.
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I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft? (link)
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I\'m not sure what Jays Journal is, but I\'ll do my best to answer your question.
This answer is based on my opinion, and I would recommend speaking with a trusted religious authority to get better detail.
My personal opinion is that magic is not real. But I\'ll answer for a hypothetical situation where it is, or if I am wrong.
From what I understand, any magic would be considered witchcraft and wizardry. It isn\'t necessarily going to send you to Hell, as Christ dying on the Cross and a person\'s acceptance of that and wanting Him to be in their heart is all that\'s really needed for salvation. (At least that is how the Bible was interpreted to me.) It is, however, a very scary thing that I would approach with great care.
If used for good, white magic, then I believe it would be the same as using your ability to sew for good. You can use a needle and thread to repair clothes, or you could use your spell. Same end result, you fixed something.
But power has a way of going to people\'s heads. \"If this is okay, then this slightly bigger thing should be fine. If that\'s okay, than the much bigger thing should be fine.\" Before you know it you\'ve gotten into the scary stuff, or you have lost the good intentions behind it. Black magic. You also run the risk of showing off, which can get you in trouble if you show off to the wrong people.
I recommend leaving it alone. I know it can be really cool and really tempting, but I don\'t see it ending up anywhere good. I don\'t think your soul is in jeopardy at this point, and being curious about it is certainly understandable. But I think the best way to keep yourself safe, and to keep from getting into more powerful magic than you are prepared to handle, is to stay away from it.
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so all the guy friends i have either have girlfriends or they're into me... i know that sounds really conceded... but almost all my guy friends have asked me out, and if i say no (which i always do) then things are forever more akward with us... so my question is, is there any way to keep all my guy friends uninterested? or atleast make thing un-akward with us when they are? (link)
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if they've asked you out or w/e, once you say no act like nothing ever happened. don't be any different. the sooner you go back to normal, the sooner they will. when you say no to them, do it in a playful way, like act like you think they're joking or something. i don't really know how else to help you, other than stressing that you need to just act *normal* around the ones that already have asked you out.
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iv'e been going out with this guy since x-mas. we're going out for valentines day but i seriously have no clue what to get him........he has lots of aftershave already so i didn't want to get him that i really don't want to get him clothes either.... i'm soooo stuck on what to get him.. his style is kind of gay because he knows what he likes... is there anything mutual that any guy would like that i could get him....
please reply soon so i can get it thanks so much
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get him a movie ya'll have gone to see in a theatre that he really liked, or maybe a CD that he's mentioned wanting. Maybe Pirate's of the Carribean 2...
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Okay. Tonight is obviously MARDI GRAS! & I live in the STL area which means ITS GONNA BE CRAZY down there. Im only 15 but my boyfriend is 18 and i really wanna go. He's going and obviously i wanna be there so he doesnt look to much. But how am i supposed to go? My mom is kinda strict and im thinking i should tell her because if I lie and tell her were goin other places and we get caught ill be in big trouble plus she'll want me home around 12:30. So should I just tell her? & Tell her ill call every 1-2 hours to check in. None of the people Im going with will have been drinking or will be drinking. That Im the only girl going with them and they wont let me out of their site. & if its a problem with Trust. Ive never gaven her a reason not to trust me neither has my boyfriend. So if she still doesnt trust us how is she ever going to if she doesnt give us a chance to prove that we can be trusted... or should I just lie to her?
WHAT SHALL I DO!?
Please get back to me by 4 30. Mideastern? --about 2 hours from the time this is submitted.
THANKS!
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i would tell your mom what you're planning on doing and stuff. don't lie to her because she will find out, and then when you want to go do something else she won't be able to believe you. trust takes years to build and seconds to break, so remember that. if she doesn't let you go it might not be that she doesn't trust you or your boyfriend, she just doesn't want you going out so late or w/e, but anyway, tell her the truth, because if you have that trust you have more freedom. really. i have friends that lie to their parents ALOT (not saying that you do, because you said you've never given your mom a reason to not trust you)and they NEVER get to do ANYTHING, which is where you'll be if you start lying. even once, because one lie leads to another and another and another.
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this is to the ladies
my boyfriend has been living with his best friend and he was mad on sunday when we were in church and me and his best friend think its on how close we are but he said its not that, but ne ways what shhould i get him for christmas i dont want to get him anything that would upset him i mean he hasn't lived with his family since halloween i dont know what to get him please i got to know something christams is like 5 days away (link)
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maybe get him a book or some cd's. that's not upsetting and he'd probably really like it. try to hint around and see what kind of music he listens to or something... hope i helped!
x's & o's
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ok i always feel like i'm comparing myself to this girl at my school, shes soo pretty and she has an amazing bf. She has the cutest clothes and she is just really really pretty and i always try to be as skinny as her or as athletic and i always compare myself to her and i don't know what to do to stop myself b/c this is not me at all and i need helpp quick i'll rate 5s for any thoughts! (link)
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the best i can give you is don't worry about her. if you don't like being that athletic don't be that athletic. if your not as skinny don't worry about it. I've never seen you but i'm sure your just as pretty in your own way, there are so many different types of pretty.
just don't worry about her, do what you'd normally do without giving her a second thought. you'll get an amazing bf too, but the only true one'll come when you just be yourself
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I have met a new friend on advicenators. Ever since I heard she was agnostic, I have wanted to show her the light of god. Were pretty good friends now. I am at a point where I could tell her apart a group. Anyway, she is super nice to me, and I do what I can to be the same to her. Anyway I have always thought that you could only find Jesus through a christian, and she has been like jesus to me. I am confused, but happy at the same time. Can you explain things to me? (link)
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I'm not sure how good my explanation will be, but i can give it my best shot.
It's possible to find Jesus in anyone, christian, agnostic, athiest, buddist, muslim, and any other person.
Continue being nice to her. Since she apparently knows your a christian she's gonna watch you, whether she means to or not. She'll look for how you act towards other people, how you react to certain situations or people, what kind of words you use, who all you hang around with, everything. I'm not saying be sugar sweet to everyone, or let people walk all over you, and I'm definitly not saying you can never mutter a cuss word under your breath, or telling you not to hang out with certain people cuz they're not 'fitting to your standards', unless they're gonna wind up getting you to do something you don't want to do or shouldn't do in which case don't hang around them. How you act could very easily determin whether or not she comes to Christ. Always keep this in mind. not just with her, but with everyone. The world watches christians. That's just how it is.
If she's agnostic she has a pretty good point. It's really not possible to tell 100% rock solid positive whether or not God really exists. That's why you have to have faith. You just have to believe. It is okay to question a little every now and then, as long as you continue to believe, knowing God will never give you more than you can handle. I have an agnostic friend, and to tell the truth i'm not all that sure myself just how to convince her that there is a God that loves her. She knows all about God and that some people believe in Him and that some people don't, and all the works that go along with it. She's set on not believing it and there's nothing much I can do, but let her know that I believe in God and if she ever has any questions I'll do my best to answer them. If I don't know the answer I tell her that and that i'll do my best to find out and get back to her on it. I don't let her being around stop me from talking about God. I believe in Him and she knows that me believing in Him comes with the territory of being my friend.
Don't treat her any different than anybody else. Just because she doesn't believe doesn't mean that she shouldn't be treated like everybody else. That circles back to the reactions to certain situations thing. The Bible says to love EVERYONE, not just those like you.
This is the best I can give you and I really hope it helped. Leave me a message and let me know if I did ya any good, but don't worry about ratings. Helping is all I'm worried about.
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wats sumthin good to get my gf for xmas..i think im gunna get her tickets to the blue man group and some perfume but if someone helps me wit sumthing better, that would b awesome (link)
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jewelry is always a plus! unless she doesn't wear it much. maybe a charm bracelet or a nice necklace. That's what i'd want my bf to get me!
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im 5 feet 105 pounds im 13 i have light brown hair almost blonde n its up to my shoulders i have really nice eye brows and i have brown eyes...is there any way to make me look better by wednesday (link)
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from what u just said u look alot like me. i'm 5 feet 4 1/2 inches and 14 though... i'm sure you look fine. be confident in your appearence. God made you look how he wanted you to look. You don't need to do anything to change it.
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im 13M and weigh around 150. and im thinking on going on a diet. and have every vitamen and mineral covered exept protien. ya see, protien offten travels with fat and i dont know how to get protien into my diet without eating fating food. any ideas
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if u want more protein, eat meat... it's rich in protein, just eat around the fat, that's what i do cuz i have to have protein in my diet for hypoglocemia, (the opposite of diabetes)
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When my boyfriend & I started dating, naturally things were a bit weird at first. Then we became more comfortable around eachother & it started to seem like it was more about touching then talking. Now we talk on the phone more since we're back at school & don't get to go out as much. The day before yesterday, everything was fine & we were having a great time on the phone but yesterday he didn't call me. I texted him & we had fun texting back & fourth but then when I signed on he didn't IM me. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (please don't be mean if I am, it's my first relationship). I'm hoping he's just overwhelmed by school because I really care about him & I would hate to think that I felt stronger about him then he does about me. What should I do?
xox kelly (link)
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I say don't worry about it, if he goes for days at a time w/o talkin to you there might be a problem but otherwise i doubt it's anything. Don't expect your bf to call you everyday. I'm sorry, but most guys don't once some of the newness wears off. If he signed on and didn't IM you he may have just gotten on to do some homework research and check his e-mail and didn't even pay attention to his bl or he may have noticed you were on but didn't want to get distracted until he finished what he needed to do. Don't read too much into it and don't worry about it. Trust me... this one's on experience.
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i don't know what to do... i'm wicked shy round boys, but when im with my friends, i can be loud any way, my friend....in another homeroom.... sits next to tha kid i like (she doesnt like him...likes his friend) and she is good friends with him. everytime i go into her homeroom, one of my other friends follows me and is sooo loud, and i am afraid that he thinks i am like that. i know what ur all gonna say....if he doesnt like your friends then he doesnt like you..... the thing is...ii would never be like that around my loud friends crush..i know him very well thats why! so sorry its so long, please respond!!
love...
TROUBLED LOVER! (link)
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I don't know if I can help ya much, but I'll try. Try to talk to your friend about it. Don't go up to her and say, "you're too loud. leave me alone when I go in there." or any thing. when you go in there say somethin' like, "Hey, I don't mean to be rude, but can you kinda tone it down a notch. I have a headache." or somethin'. In my opinion it wouldn't be lying, because it looks to me like she is your headache. in a way your calling her a name without her knowing it, but shh, keep it hush-hush. Or if she knows you like him, just ask her to be a lil' less loud when your around him. Ask her if she'd appreciate it if you were loud like that around her crush and stuff. If you use this approach, be sure to keep telling her stuff like' "your one of my best friends, and I don't wanna hurt your feelings, but..." and fill in the dots. as for your shyness, your gonna have to get over that. try and say hi to him or something to build up your confidence around him, but don't go any farther than "I'm so-n-so" unless he starts talkin'. then just keep it cool & go where the conversation takes you. It'll probably still be a while before there's a chance of dating, but even if you never date you'll have a new friend. hope I helped ya.
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okay well i reall hate living at my house..my mom has told me she dont want me here and my step dad has also i've been cryin for the past two nights and the only comfort i've had was my boyfriend he's the greatest well my friend toni wants to runaway and she one my best friends and she asked if i'd go with her...well i've gave this so much thought and i really want to but the reason i wont is cause of my boyfriend well he asked me to marry him and i said yes.. but he kinda felt bad after he told me cause he said he cant do it right now or anything cause were only 16..well i know were young and everything but my friend toni said we should run off and get married..though bout that also but i dont wanna do that then like get caught and his grandma or my mom can get it undone anyways which i know my mom won't cause she really could care less.. but like can anybody gimma advice on how i can try and stand my parents.. ill rate high if its good.. and i also need advice on if you think i should marry him.. i love him more then anything we been through alot together like his mother's deather me havin a miscarriage me havin my airway disease my mom losing her baby and jus a whole bunch of other stuff and i know he will always be there or atleast i think he will.. he hasnt gave up on me yet in the past year and a lil bit longer..and dont tell me im too young cause i know that but lota people get married young and things work out..much luv and thanks ahead of time for anybody who helps.. (link)
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Um, I'm only 13, so my advice might not be that great to ya, but I think you should at least wait till you graduate high school to get married. Then you'll be 18 or 19 and no one but you and him can undo the marriage. I think that you should not run away, and I don't think your friend Toni should either. As bad as things can be you should stay with your family and your church family and your friends. I should know, I've had a grand total of 6 surgeries, 3 of which were heart, and I'll have to have another heart surgery this summer. I've had a concusion, a ceisur, I have Hypoglosemia (the opposite of Diabeties), I might be anemic, and I didn't know my biological father until last March. It turned out he's the scum of the Earth, but back to your advice. I know it must be hard to not feel wanted, but think about how many other friends you have. Other friends that want to be there for you, and want you to be there for them. This may not seem like much, but I like you even though I don't know you. You seem really nice and sincere. If you don't go to church, or believe in God, I'm not going to try and pressure you, or tell you that you're wrong not to. All I know is despite all the hard times I've gone through, He's always been there for me, and my life is SO much better with God in it. For all I really, factually know, God doesn't exist, but I'd really rather be safe than sorry, and even if for some off chance that He doesn't exist, talking to Him, and praying to Him always makes me feel better, no matter what my problems. I know you might not take my advice, but please, at least try to pray about it. I don't care about ratings, I just hope I helped you. Thanks for taking the time to read a 13 yr old girl's speech. I really hope I helped.
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my boyfriend who i love very much broke up with me about 2 months ago, but we got bak 2gether 5 days later. so i thought everything was good. before we broke up he would always tell me how much he loved me. now we've been together for almost 2 months and everything for the most part is good. but he doesn't love me as much as i love him. and we're only 13 and havn't made out yet and we've talked about it and he really wants to and i do too. so i know he likes me alot. i just don't know why he doesn't love me...everything seems fine. i just don't know what to do. i feel really bad about everything...and i just wished he loved me. please help...i'm really confused...thnx in advance (link)
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Hey, don't sweat it. YOU'RE 13, you don't need a guy to love you to feel complete. After all there is your family, your friends, and a bunch of other people that love you. You don't need the love of a boy to feel complete. And about making out, I'd go ahead if you feel comfortable doing it. In you quest for his love, don't give TOO much of yourself away. Like can easily turn to love. Just remember you're 13, and you still have the rest of your life to make him love you.
I bet you can if you set your mind to it. If you do make out w/ him, don't expect him to love you for it. Sry if I'm harsh, but I've seen alot of my friends get hurt that way. I wouldn't tell him you love him just yet, unless you feel comfy doing it yet. Also remember, ONCE YOU SAY IT, YOU CAN'T TAKE IT BACK, NO MATTER HIS REACTION.
Hope I help ya.
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theres this guy who i met when i came to a new school.. he was really funny and wed talk alot.. except hes really perverted and every joke he makes deals with something nasty... i found out that he liked me and it totally ruined our friendship.. i mean i feel so uncomfortable around him because of the thoughts he has and the fact that he likes me just makes me disgusted.. he asked me to the dance at the end of the year and said yes.. cuz i thought we could go as friends.. but i found out that he STILL liked me.. i cant talk to him anymore.. what do i do.. should i like still go to the dance with him.. i dunno gimme some thoughts (link)
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Hey, like ushrodjeter7 said make it clear that you are FRIENDS. I would talk to him about it.
Tell him that you don't like him like that. If he has a problem with that, then that's his problem cuz he's the one missing out on you. If you don't feel comfortable around him, then I wouldn't go to the dance with him. If you do, stay with a group of friends. NEVER GO ALONE WITH HIM ANYWHERE! I was on my way into school last year, and this perve that I didn't even know came up behind me and touched me between the legs. I'm not saying this boy would do anything like that, after all, some guys just talk, but I wouldn't test it. DEFINITLY MAKE SURE IT'S CRYSTAL CLEAR THAT YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS. He might not realize he's making you uncomfortable, also. Just try and talk to him. If that doesn't work, I'd keep your distance.
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