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i need to be myself
ok i always feel like i'm comparing myself to this girl at my school, shes soo pretty and she has an amazing bf. She has the cutest clothes and she is just really really pretty and i always try to be as skinny as her or as athletic and i always compare myself to her and i don't know what to do to stop myself b/c this is not me at all and i need helpp quick i'll rate 5s for any thoughts!
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Just be your self. You dont need to change... You just need to have self confidence.
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It helped me out when i was trying to be something i wasnt.
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Ava
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well there is ALWAYS the one girl at school that everyone wants to become. you will get over it sooner or later. and i know it sounds stupid but just try to be happy with yourself. because she prolly feels presure to always be that pretty and make sure she looks good. but you dont have to be presured. you can just be yourself. i hoped i helped.
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the best thing to do is just stop ignore her and look and focus on you. DO YOU. EVERYONE ELSE IS TAKEN!
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I did the same thing with one of my good friends who every guy wants and is perfect. But I caught myself, and you did to which is a good first step. You need to realize that people arent going to see you as a better person for being a clone of someone else. You have to let people like you for who you are, and if they dont then theyre not worth having as a friend.
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the best i can give you is don't worry about her. if you don't like being that athletic don't be that athletic. if your not as skinny don't worry about it. I've never seen you but i'm sure your just as pretty in your own way, there are so many different types of pretty.
just don't worry about her, do what you'd normally do without giving her a second thought. you'll get an amazing bf too, but the only true one'll come when you just be yourself
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Hmm that's a toughy. I guess we are going through the same thing. All I have to say is spend some time away from her. Take a few days to just chill at home and find the things you really want to do. It's okay if you do share the same interests as her...as long as you are well...INTERESTED. so if you do like some of the things she does don't drop them. You don't have to rate high. I'm just trying to help. Hope I did.
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hey! well your first step would be to find things YOUR interested in. like find your sport, or hobby. and keep in shape but dont compare yourself to her...that's her not you. you need to be you. dress in clothes that you like and i'm sure you will find the "perfect b/f too. be yourself b/c if you are your flattering self then who knows someone might want to be like YOU!
xoxo helpachick
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I used to have the same problem. I would compare myself to the hottest or most popular girl in the school who had the hottest boyfriends or whatever. But after a while, I started telling myself, "You know what, she may be hot or whatever everone else thinks about her, but I bet she has a sucky life on the inside. She has to keep up that appearance, and the way she acts or no one will like her at all." Here's something that I do as well, I take a sheet of paper or just make a list in my mind and write/think of all things that make me look hot, things about my personality that make me cool. Stop trying to compare yourself to her because in your eyes, you'll always seem lesser to her because it's what your mind makes you think. Start wearing a new style of clothes that shows off your figure, change your hairstyle, wear a new ype of lip gloss. You'll start to feel more confidence in yourself and guys seem to like that. I hope my advice helped you. If you have any other quiestions just email me at pinkbunny_112@yahoo.com
Love Ya! !
blue_bunny
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Ok well I am just saying to be your self because you never know who likes you for you and not the person you try to act like... always be yourself and you never know... that girl you are immatating... may want to be like you too....
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