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Heyy my names Julianne but a lot of people call me Jules. I'm almost 18 and a senior in high school. I made a column because I love helping people and its really easy for me to relate to a lot of questions because I've gone through a lot myself. I'm open to any question you have so feel free to ask me anything =]
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i do gymnastics four days a week will that stop me from getting my firt period?
I was in the same situation when I was younger. I did gymnastics a lot and my doctor said that it was the main reason why I was a "late bloomer". you will eventually get your period, but it will probably be later than a lot of girls..most likely not until high school.
omgg everyone is telling me that its soo bad to shave ''down there'' i dont know what to do.. helpp me and tell me what i can doo!
honestly just do what you feel most comfortable with. nothing is wrong or right. its personal preference. some girls like to shave just the bikini line for summer, some shave the entire thing, and some dont shave at all. its not bad to shave down there at all. its just hair like on your legs and underarms. but be careful if you do decide to shave because when you first start its really easy to get razor burn bumps so use a lot of shaving gel and lotion afterwards. and remember to make your decision based on what you want..not other people. its really no one elses business but your own. good luck :-)
A girl I know, but I'm not really good friends with, is having a pool party. She invited 3 boys, and I don't know any of them. I wouldn't care if they were there if it was just a regular party, and I have a boyfriend, so I'm not worried about any of that dating stuff. What I'm worried about is, that I hate how I look in my bikini. It's the only bathign suit I have, and I don't really want guys to see me in it. Especially when half the girls at the party, are anorexic bitches. I think it'd be rude if I didn't go, and I don't know what to do.
youre not alone in this situation. a lot of girls feel uncomfortable in a bathing suit in front of people.. especially guys. we all have things were selfconscious about..but the trick is to not let anyone know youre self conscious. youre beautiful. and you have a boyfriend already so it doesnt matter what anyone thinks of you. go to the party and just be yourself and have fun and dont even think about how you look because if you dont pay attention to it.. nobody else will. theyll be jealous of how outgoing and confident you are :-) good luck and just be yourself.
alright so, me and my bf have been together 2 months. . . im falling in love with him.. you may think oh thats really fast, but then again you cant help who or when you fall in love.. ok but i dont know if he loves me to.. my best friend tells me he does.. that it takes two people. and im scared to say it cuz i dont know what he will say back. . . so what should i do basically
if you really love him dont be afraid to tell him how you feel. say it to him when youre ready and dont worry about if he'll say it back or not. he will if he's ready. if he doesnt, it doesnt mean he doesnt like you or love you.. it just comes as a shock to a lot of guys to hear i love you. but youll never know how he feels unless you tell him how you feel. he might wanna say it to you too, but is afraid you wont say it back. dont be afraid to make the first move. be confident in what you feel :-)
i think that i'm kind of self conscious .. i didn't know where to put this under but i think im really self conscious about my body and my looks and stuff. so i dont know. but anyway .. how could i get rid of some of my self consciousness?
thanksss
you have to realize that everyone is self conscious, however, not everyone always shows it. you probably spend a lot of time thinking about how you look and what people think of you, well the truth is that those people that youre trying to impress are thinking the same thing, that they dont have time to be thinking about you. (which is a good thing). the key to not feeling so self conscious is confidence. be confident in what you have to offer, and focus on these good points. that way, you wont focus on your imperfections that make you so self conscious. if you look confident, people will see this confidence and wont see your self consciousness :-) its also good to just be happy and smile and laugh. if you set good vibes people will be comfortable talking to you. good luck.
ok.. me and my mom aren't really close... and like when she tells me stuff like oo i need to buy u a bra or sumtin like oo lets go bra shopping i get like embarrased and she does it like in front of people... so like my friends wouldn't care to come with me cuz they would buy there own.. but i mean iim only 13.. and ive got some boobs.. but im not sure wat size.... but they are like small.. i would be no bigger than a a cup.. .and in bikini size im a medium.. so liek maybe you can tell me by that wat size i am or like wat possible sizes are small....
this site explains how to find your bra size:
http://www.beinggirl.com/en_US/pages/questiondetail.jsp?ContentId=ASK120
i'm in 8th grade. We had to turn in our highschool schedules yesterday. i am in algebra right now, and i am going to take honors geometry. i get good grades in alg, but i'm always hanging on to my A. its never a very strong A. is this smart? or should i just take geometry? i like that feeling of being in higher classes.
and does anybody have a website that lets you know what classes you should take in highschool to become a nurse practioner??
thanks, i rate 5's.
I did the exact same thing as you. except, I was in algebra my 8th grade year and got 2 As and 2 B+s. I went into geometry honors and did not to well at all. I had a B the first marking period, but a D+ the next and dropped out after 1 semester. however, I did not take it seriously at all and didnt work nearly as hard as I should have. I also had sports everyday, so it was hard to stay after for help, and hard to finish my homework correctly. so heres my advice to you. highschool, especially any honors class in highschool, requires a lot more effort than middle school. you are the only one who decides what grades you get by how hard you try. if i had tried harder i probably wouldnt have done as bad. I think you should go into honors and try really hard, but if you still dont get it you can always move down to A level. in a way im glad i went into honors at first because if i didnt i would have never known if i could do it or not. now i know. you should find out. as for the courses to take to become a nurse, talk to your guidance counselor because every school is different. good luck :-)
the (gym) teachers @ my school begged my last year to join track, i went to a practice and almost died with the warm up (1/2 mile) and they are begging me again this year. they want to teach me to do the high-jump. i've been walking/jogging/running on my treadmill lately.
i would join track, but i don't like the fact of being with alot of other people && if i did high jump they would watch me
hey hun. I do 2 seasons of track and let me tell you its so much fun and you get to meet so many new people. but along with that does come the stress, especially with high jump (I do high jump too). but stress come with any sport you do, especially in high school. you just cant let it get to you. you sound confident in your running, and the training youve done on your own is good. if you dont think you can handle runing a lot, why not try sprints? and if your good at high jump, chances are youll be good at hurdles as well (i do those too ;-) ) as for high jump, what really helps me is to clear my mind right before im about to take my jump and pretend that no one else is there and its just me and the bar. i bet nobody watching you could even attempt to jump, so they have no reason to make fun of you. i really think you should try it out. if you like it thats awesome! if you dont, you can always quit, nobody can make you do anything you dont want to. but believe me, the best feeling is to be running and having everyone cheer for you and to feel amazing inside. :-) try it out, youve got nothing to lose!
I'm in sixth grade and I have a boyfriend. All of my freinds have held their boyfriends hands and I haven't! I haven't had a boyfriend since 4th grade and I'm scared 2 hold his hand! Should I just do it or wait for him 2 hold my hand or neither?
hey sweetie. I bet that your boyfriend is just as nervous as you to hold your hand. its one of those awkward things where you dont know how the other person might react. if you feel like youre ready to hold his hand and the moment is right, just go for it. try to not make a big deal out of it because you might catch him off guard. he'll most likely look at you when you do this so just give him a little smile. if he smiles back he probably wanted to hold hands just as much as you. theres no sense in waiting around and wondering when he'll hold yours, so just make the move first. you can do it :-)
Well i have brown eyes..and BLAH! i hate them..they are so dark and ..to me ..ugly!
all the gorgeous girls have blue eyes and i really wish i could have blue eyes..and im definately not getting colored contacts..my brown eyes make me feel so ..ugly. i always say to myself..if you were to have blue eyes you would be so much prettier..and i like this guy..but i think he likes his ex again..and what does she have? blue eyes. and i have brown hair..so on me i think it looks so ugly! i dont want to dye my hair blonde tho haha. on some girls brown hair and brown eyes is gorgeous..just not me. what do i do..my brown eyes are making me feel so..ugly.. =[
you have to realize that nobody is perfect. every single one of us has our imperfections and insecurities. you need to love what god gave you hun. dont focus on what you dont like about yourself. focus on your good assests. be confident that you are a very gorgeous girl and be proud of what you look like. the sooner you start beliving it, others will see your confidence and see past your imperfections. I've wasted so much time being depressed about a certain imperfection of mine, comparing myself to girls who didnt have this imperfection and wishing that i was like them. now i realize how stupid that was. im pretty sure nobody notices your eye color unless theyre staring at you. and trust me, guys dont notice a lot anyways. be happy that youre different. youre a gorgeous girl with brown eyes (not blue) and proud of it. thats what i wanna hear :-)
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Okay, May is my 8th grade dance. I am really small and have trouble finding a dress. I can't even wear a 00 without it falling off. I'm 4'9 and 72lbs. I have no idea what kinda dress its supposed to be. Can you show me some examples? And tell me places to get them.
But hold/on honestly I don't want to go I mean my mom is in the "8th Grade Dance Committee" and she's doing alot for this dance. But I have no date and don't want to go without one. Question is should I go without one. [I honestly think its stupid]
Also with hair and make-up. I have tan [not really tan] skin. Brown eyes with gold tint. And brownish-reddish a little longer then my sholders hair. How should I get my hair did?
So here are my questions:
1. Places to get dresses?
2. Pictures of dresses?
3. Should I go without a date?
4. How should I get my hair/makeup done? [pictures]
AND Any other stuff I should know. Tips and such. THANK YOU!!
1 - I recommend Macys. They have a teenage department with tons of cute dresses that aren't too extravagent and in a fair price range that come in smaller sizes for us petite girls :-) Also try delia's, they have teenage dresses that fit my younger sister whos about your size that are fit for this occasion. Deb is similar to delia's.
2 - http://www1.macys.com/catalog/index.ognc? CategoryID=18110&PageID=18110*1*12*-1*-1&kw=Party&LinkType=EverGreen
3 - For my 8th grade dance almost nobody came with a date unless they were boyfriend/girlfriend. I dont think you should go with one because thats more of a prom thing. Go with a group of friends because you'll definetly have a lot more fun. and you can also dance with a whole bunch of guys ;-)
4 - I got an updo with lots of curls for mine, but I would say half the girls got their hair done and half just wore their normally down. but here are some pictures. for your hair type and skin tone I recommend half up done curly.
http://hairstyles.free-beauty-tips.com/prom_hairstyles.html
as for makeup. nothing too out there. just excentuate your normal makeup with shimmer eye shadow, a little more mascara, darker eyeliner, and a shaded lipgloss. add a hint of blush and youre ready :-)
hey well i was wondering what all u alls views were on teens (well 14 yr olds) making out? is it to young, or not? and what about not going all the way like sex but..just a little ways? i just need to know what other peoples views are on this! please please please i'll rate high!! xo thanks
hey hun. in my opinion, youre ready when youre ready and only you can know when that is. if youre asking for my personal opinion I dont think its too young at all. its a good age to start experimenting and determining what kind of guys you like and practicing your kissing when nobody has all that much experience yet. I wouldnt do anything more than make out with a guy I wasnt boyfriend/girlfriend with because that should be with someone you really care about. of course wait until youre ready to go a little further once you have a boyfriend too. 2nd is good but maybe wait until youre a little older to go beyond. but its all about feeling comfortable and sure of yourself.
My Best friend, is honestly considering suicide. He's messed up so much in his life. He has cheated on his girlfriend twice, and he even cheated on me when we were dating and he messed up really bad during our relationship, his mom recently died while we were dating and i helped him so much and now, i dont even know how to help him hes so messed up. He does weed around 3-4 times a day he even goes to school stoned. I've tried to get him to cut back and even quit but its honestly useless. His girlfriend found about the 2nd time of cheating and totally bitched him out and wont even talk to him. He IMed me on Aim and tells me he's going to commit suicide and i've been trying to get him to settle down and talk through it i even left him a voicemail, and im just so scared he'll actually do it... PLZ HELP ME I DONT KNO WT TO SAY ANYMORE TO HIM...
THANK YOU IF YOU CAN HELP IM ON THE VERGE OF CRYING BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND I CANT TAKE ANOTHER PERSON DYING THIS YEAR...
--Kim
one of my really good friends was honestly talking about committing suicide as well a couple of years ago. when he told me i couldnt believe what i was hearing. it turned out that he had been experimenting with cutting too. he told another one of his friends, who happened to me my best friend. luckily she knew what to do and saved his life. he made her promise not to tell anybody for obvious reasons, and she did that for a while, however, she got really scared and wound up telling a physciatrist at our school. she immedietly began counseling with him and his dad (hes mom had also passed away) and soon enough he was better and living a much healthier life. youre doing the right thing by comforting him and trying to talk him through it and you should keep doing that, but if you love him as much as you say you do I would get help for him. tell an adult you trust as soon as you can because you dont want it to be too late. he might be mad at you after you spill his secret, but he'll forgive you once he realizes that you saved him from doing something very regretful.
ok, i really like this girl at school and shes the only girl ive like at my new school. i told a couple of my best friends that i liked her and it slowly spread throughout the class to her. her friend asked if i am going to ask her out or not and im really not sure because she has been known to dump boys after 2 days(thats the record for her) some of her friends said that shes interested in me but i dont want to get my heart broken like i did with my last girlfriend. should i take this chance
with love there's no telling what will happen when you put 2 people together. you just have to go with your instinct and not be afraid to take risks. being heartbroken is as much a part of love as love itself. so this girl has dumped boys after 2 days. well whos to say that that'll happen with you? if you truly like her as much as you say you do she'll be able to see that. maybe she tossed those other guys so fast because she knows what she wants in a guy and they didnt have it. if you dont take the chance with her youll never find out if you have what shes looking for.
Hello
I am a 15 year old. I'll be 16 soon.
I have been having my period since Nov. 2004.
I've had it every month from the 19th to the 29th
This month i didn't get it.
It's never been this late.
I got all the cramps, and the upset stomachs before it.
It just never happend.
My mom didn't get hers either this month.
This is the 1st time it's happend.
I WILL rate high.
THanks
I'm sure its nothing to worry about. it's normal for your period to be irregular during the first few years. sometimes it doesnt become fully normal until around 18. the first time i skipped a month i was a little freaked out too. but then it came the next month on time. as long as you havent had sex you cant be pregnant. so im sure its just because its irregular. as for your mom, im not positive this is the reason but i have heard several times that if youre around another woman or group of women (like a sports team) your periods become similar. my track team all gets theirs around the same time. that would be the only explanation i have for her. if you need more advice try www.beinggirl.com . theres a lot of helpful information there and an expert advice columnist ( ask iris ) good luck.
alrighty so i have this guy friend. and hes like my best friend in the whole entire world. no joke. and i really like him like alot. and my other friend whos a girl is his ex. and me and this girl are like really good friends. but when i told her that i liked him she totlly flipped out on me becuase she still liked him even tho she broke up with him. (i think she did it for attention but. whatever.) so then we were in a fight and shes like "havent you seen meangirls? EX BOYFRIENDS ARE JUST OFF LIMITS TO FRIENDS!" and i apologized over a thousand times. and then we made up and for like the past few months things have been fine. but then last night i was at a party with her && him. and she was like all over him. and then we got back to the girls house (it was a sleepover too)and she said she liked him. and i wanted to fucking kill her. she promied me should would never take him back or ever like him becuase she couldnt do that to me. BULL SHIT. so then last night she called him and was like "i like you alot." and before the girl who was having the party (the guys cousin whos my good friend) said he only liked her a little. but then he didnt believe her so i was sorta happy but then she was talking to him on the phone and i just wanted to kill her. she was being really mean and it just pisses me off because she knows how much i really really like him. and it would be weird to go out with him cuase hes like. my best friend. but still. im really pissed. and i wanna tell the guy how i feel. and same with the girl who is being a bitch. im not really asking for advice, but maybe you can help with soemthing? i dont know.
the girl who still likes him obviously can't make up her mind. she probably doesnt really like him that much but doesnt want any other girl liking him either. basically shes trying to make you jealous. dont buy into it. she doesnt own him and he should be able to go out with whoever he wants to. you should first talk to the girl and tell her that you thought it was really rude of her to do all of that in front of you when she knows you like him. and it was also not cool that she likes him again after she told you that she would never like him again. then tell her that since she said that you like him a lot and youre not gonna let her stop you from doing that. then its up to you to tell him how you feel so that he doesnt wind up going out with the other girl. if he knows that you like him he might like you more than her. but if you dont tell him how you feel about this he might make a mistake by going out with her again. if hes your best friend it should be easy for you to tell him how you honestly feel about not just him but the whole situation with the girl. show him the truth.
Well lately ive had low self asteem in myself. i feel like i have no chance with every guy i like. im starting too be uncomfy with things i was comfortable like being tall as i am [5 11]. Well now all i think is no guy would go out with me because im tall and black. iunno what to do but i hate feeling this way. i really need some good advice!
P.S last yr i wore lower cut shirts and flirted mroe and was more loud and guys liked me. i feel like i had to b slutty to get guys to like me. should i go bac to that or waht can i do to get the same result?
a guy should like you for who you are. not how you look or how slutty you are. but as much as us girls want this to be true.. most guys arent like that. yes there are some who are out there so dont give up hope. a little trick is to make guys think youre all that. in order to do this is by being comfortable in your own skin. if youre comfortable being you itll show and make you look confident. what makes a girl really attractive to guys is confidence. once youre confident you can talk to anyone and be fun to be around. dont put yourself down because you dont mold to the "perfect" image. there is no such thing. everyone has their good assests and their flaws. emphasize your good assests and nobody will notice the flaws or insecurities. you definetly do not need to dress slutty for a guy to notice you. make him notice you with confidence and just by being yourself. :-)
Im 15 and i drink. A lot. A few friends have commented but i tell them i could stop any time i want. Which i always believed. Thing is, i never want to stop. So i never know whether i can or not. Hense not knowing whether i have a problem. *sigh* I usually drink a bottle of wine in the mornings after breakfast (red: yum) then a beer with lunch. I then just have beers and lager etc for the rest of the day. I usually go through about 1 bottle of wine and 7 cans a day. I then have a bottle of vodka if my mates are round but if theyre not i just have a few shots before i go to sleep. Thats the weekends. On school days i have a few shots of vodka before i go to school and beers afterwards when i get home. I didnt think this was all that much. What should i do? I DONT HAVE THE WILL POWER TO DO ANYTHING. i like to drink. Thats all. Its not like im hurting anybody... thanks
if you keep up that schedule you're putting yourself at serious risk for illness at such a young age. alcohol is a drug and hun youre abusing it. not only are you an underage drinker, but youre drinking more than most people who are legal drinkers. not to mention youre drinking on days you have school. i would definetly say you are an alcoholic. alcoholism is a huge problem. it killed one of my friends mom. she came in from school and found her dead in her room with bottles of beer around her. that could be you anyday now if you keep up what youre doing. i suggest you get help from someone. tell someone you trust about your problem so they can help you find a way to stop it. you said your not hurting someone. yes you are. youre hurting yourself.
http://alcoholism.about.com/
okay so over the winter i got myself a little belly.. i mean i only weigh 113 pounds and im 16.. but i have like a gut and its not very attractice, i just want a flat stomache. I dont wanna run out in the cold because it hurts my lungs but i wanna get started now on fixing my stomach so its nice by summer. Does anyone know anything i can do like a certain cruch or sit up or take or diet pill or something?!?!
you definetly dont need a diet pill. that would be dangerous for you. youre not overweight at all, youre actually skinny for your age. but if you want to tighten up those abs i suggest an ab workout every other day and cut back on junk food. i do two seasons of track and we do ab workouts all the time. its not good to do it everyday because itll strain your muscles, which is why i suggest every other day at the most. make sure you do a continuous (no stopping) set. start out easy with 4 minutes. then work your way to 6. then eventually youll be doing 8 no problem. some of my favorites include 6 inches (lay flat on your back and raise your legs (keeping them straight) up and down but dont touch the floor.. come down 6 inches above the floor. do about 15 and hold on number 5, 10, and 15 for 10-20 seconds. another one is when you lean back as far as you can and put your hands together and move them from one side of your body to the other. about 60 times. the further you lean back.. the more it works. sitting against the wall is good for your abs too. see how long you can hold yourself up. i've got more if you need them! dont hesitate to inbox me for them if you want :-)
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okay...well i recently found out that im a lesbian...and the other day my friend (shes a girl and didnit kno i was gay) came over. we were working on our homework and then...it happened ...i koodnt control myself...i just jumped on her and we started making out and stuff....we went rlly far if u know what i meen and she said she had a great time but didnt want this to happen again,....i love her sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much and dont know what to do...any advice out there????????????????????
well if she didnt go into shock as soon as you jumped on her and kept going with you for a while i would assume she is also a lesbian or maybe she just wasnt sure if she was or not and wanted to experiment. shes probably not comfortable being out in the open about it and doesnt know how she feels because this happened so fast and she needs time to think about it. i would give her space for a few days and let her think it through before you talk to her about it. you need to clear this up with her and see how she feels. tell her how you feel about the situation and how much you like her. she might like you too, but is just scared. you need to make her feel comfortable.