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should i say it?
alright so, me and my bf have been together 2 months. . . im falling in love with him.. you may think oh thats really fast, but then again you cant help who or when you fall in love.. ok but i dont know if he loves me to.. my best friend tells me he does.. that it takes two people. and im scared to say it cuz i dont know what he will say back. . . so what should i do basically
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If you really love him then I think you should say it and not worry if he will because when he is ready he will do it. Even tho I'm sure right when you say it he will too.If he told your best friend he does then he really does. ♥
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Not fast at all (I only dated my boyfriend 1 month longer than you before we said it and 5 1/2 years later, we're still together). People are too quick to put a time stamp on love. If you feel it, you feel it.
if you don't think it would freak him out, say it. If you totally aren't sure of his feelings (as opposed to not being sure because you're nervous), then wait awhile and get a feel for the situation.
If it turns out that he doesn't say it back, it's okay. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. He just isn't ready to say it. Everyone falls at a different pace. But let him know it's okay with you. Otherwise, you might make him feel pressured to work at your speed.
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if you really love him dont be afraid to tell him how you feel. say it to him when youre ready and dont worry about if he'll say it back or not. he will if he's ready. if he doesnt, it doesnt mean he doesnt like you or love you.. it just comes as a shock to a lot of guys to hear i love you. but youll never know how he feels unless you tell him how you feel. he might wanna say it to you too, but is afraid you wont say it back. dont be afraid to make the first move. be confident in what you feel :-)
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well, if i were you i would tell him. i know how it feels to fall in love with someone, and kind of quickly. he said it first to me though, but we'd felt it longer before he actually came out and said it. so now that i think about it wait a couple weeks and really watch and listen to the way he treats you, and how he acts towards you and when you're around eachother. if it's clear that he feels strongly about you, then if i were you, i would tell him. sometime when it's just you two (or just you two in hearing range at least) and a moment when it wouldn't be totally random either. maybe sometime when he's bringing you home from a movie/date...if your old enough to where you go on those. or sometime over the phone, but i think in person would be best. best of luck and i think that if your best friend thinks he loves you, you will most likely have a good response from him when you tell him how you feel! xo helpachick
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With my experiences, I would wait longer to make sure everyone's feelings invovled are completely justified, before busting out the L word. You may feel like you love him, but just give it time. I thought I was in love with my ex boyfriend of 4 months, the only problem with saying things, is that they can be taken back. Be careful with what you say, because you/he may not mean them.
I would wait a little while longer, or whenever you feel the moment is right. In the end, it's your heart and your decision <3
--hope I sparked some thoughts for you
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