My boyfriend & I have been together for almost a year. We haven't had any kind of sex, but it's getting to the point where that's the only place to go. I'm not ready and there's a few reasons still. I don't love him yet and I'm very self-concious. When we're in the mood and getting passionate, I really want to but I stop myself and feel like I'm teasing him. Should I really wait or give in to my temptations?
Wait. You'll be glad you did.
I can't even begin to tell you how fantastic sex is when you're ready and in love.
You shouldn't feel guilty for it either. You aren't teasing him if he knows where you stand on the issue. Just remember...he too makes the decision to get hot and heavy knowing it won't lead to sex.
If he cares about you, he'll support you and accept your decision to wait. If he doesn't, he just isn't the right guy.
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k so heres the problem. i like this guy..he likes my best friend as much as i like him which is ALOT! my friend said that i could have him cause she just wants to be friends with him but then him and her text message each other all the time. i wanted to know what the texts said so when she was in the shower i read them. he asked her when he was gonna get the first kiss from her and he called her beautiful and things like that. she replyed that he is gonna have to work hard to get and she called him sexy. she knows i like him. i liked him before she started talking to him. but one thing i dont get is why she still lies to me when she clearly knows that i know she is starting to have feelings for him. she send him the texts right when im sitting next to her. then on friday night me, her, him and his friend hung out. and i could tell that he liked my best friend ALOT! so i decided that if he really wants her im not gonna get mad over it even though i am jealous. but i could see that if they did go out then it really wouldnt work out just because there way too different. like she flirts with EVERY guy that she comes across of and he is one of those guys that like long relationships. so i think once he finds out what she is REALLY like then he wont like her. i feel really bad for saying this but idk. i just really like him. she and her bf just broke up last night so i think he is gonna ask her out real soon. but if they do go out i dont know how that would feel for me. i dont know.. what should i do?!?!?
ILL RATE REALLY HIGH =)
If feelings developed AFTER she became aware of the fact that you liked him, she might have just been afraid to tell you. One mistake doesn't make her a bad person or a bad friend all around. If she's a worthy friend to you minus this one incident, I would let it go. It's one guy. You aren't in love. Don't let it ruin your friendship.
Now I'm not saying that she is totally in the right. She could certainly be more understanding of your feelings (which she may very well be doing by not telling you about this...not the best way to do it though).
What you need to do is ask yourself whether or not you feel this friendship is worth it. If she makes it a habit to screw you over, I'd deeply question why you are friends with her to begin with.
There is always the option that you could talk to her about what you're feeling. She might not realize how bad you have it for this guy. If you open up a little about how you are really feeling about all of this, she might back off a little.
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i have this freind n well shes not pretty i no that mean but its true but anyways, this guy on myspace is like u r gorgeous you r hot n all this stuff n its a lie its this kid she met @ my freinds party n she doesnteven no him! she hasnt seen him since then n i dont want her to get hurt hes prob. just you no one of those dumb assses whos retarded. wat should i do? talk to her ab it? i juss dont want her 2 get hurt.
You have no right to get involved. Who are you to say he doesn't mean it? Not everyone shares in your concept of beauty. Get over it.
Sorry kiddo. I won't edit my response to accomodate your hypersensitivity. If you don't want an honest response, don't ask.
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(14/f)
What is the age ( or around the age) that you have to start getting your vagina examined by a doctor?
Can the doctor tell if you've have sex before? Would the excuse "I pushed a tampon in too far" work?
Are doctors allowed to tell your parents you've been having sex if you dont want them to?
Most girls can get away safely with waiting until they've become sexually active.
The doctor cannot tell for sure if you've had sex. For your own safety, do not lie about it. With the decision to have sex, comes the responsibility to keep your body healthy. If you aren't mature enough to do that, keep your pants on.
To answer the last question, no.
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My natural hair colour is a very dark brown but I've been dying it for about a year.
A while ago I tried to dye my fringe hot pink, but it went wrong so it was bright ginger. I tried to dye all my hair chestnut brown to cover it up but the front was still lighter. I dyed it again a few months later but the front was still lighter than everywhere else.
I really want to get it back to my natural colour but the only way I can do that is by growing it out or using a colour stripping solution. I've never used one before and I'm not sure how badly it will damage my hair. I have very thick hair and all the dye hasn't really affected it, so I'm not sure whether or not that will make a difference. Any advice or suggestions on a colour I could dye it would be welcome.
I'd suggest that you go to a salon and have them strip it and dye it back (bring an old photo of yourself with your natural color to give the stylist a better idea of what shade you're looking for). It'll cost you more money but that type of thing is much, much better left to professionals. Besides, if you mess it up, you'll have to go to a salon anyway.
Next time you're looking to dye your fringe...try bleaching it first to get the hot pink you wanted.
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Is it true that when you lose weight, whether its dieting, exercising, or even become bulemic or anorexic that the first place you lose weight is in your face?
No. Your face is just more visible and because of that, you're much more likely to notice the changes there first.
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OK Im a girl and I love guys, but there is this one girl at my school and shes bi and I think I really like her, but she basicly the only girl that I have feelings for dose that mean im BI too?????
No. I'm sure you probably just see a very real chance to experiment and that's where your interest is coming from.
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alright kids, well my teeth are horribly yellow, like, becoming greenish on the top of them. i know this sounds totally sick but what can i do to change this. don't say go to a dentist because my parents keeps forgetting. so what are some things i can do on my own for this?
You need to go to the dentist and have them cleaned and looked at. that will make the biggest difference. Get on your parents' ass about it. Show them your teeth if you need to.
Until then, make sure you brush them twice a day (tongue included). Do not overbrush and be very careful about over using whitening products. You'll actually make your teeth worse. Use a mouthwash (crest or listerine) between meals and after brushings.
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Hi,
I am a female from Canada seeking advice.
My bf who I have been with for 6 months is very controlling of me. We are in a semi-long distance relationship, we are still able to see each other a few times a month despite the short distance.
He gets upset when I don't tell him where I am going all the time, he gets upset when I am on the computer while on the phone with him and he uses the computer when on the phone with me, he even tells me to lay on the bed and turn off the light. He gets upset when I have to leave him for the bathroom or to say hello to someone in my res room. He considers me forgetting to call him when I promised very hurtful to him and compares me to his ex gfs and friends who do that to him. 3 months ago I OD'd and was hospitalized for depression and anxiety and ever since then he has been like this. I have tried everything from talking to him calmly about his behaviour and why to yelling at him to stop being this way and nothing has worked.
Is it just me or is it him? How do I make this bearable for myself? I still love him and don't want to leave him.
Please help!!!
Thank you.
If talking to him hasn't changed his behavior, then nothing will.
Why stay with a guy who knows that he's hurting you, yet does it anyway? Can't you see how irrational and disrespectful his attitude is?
His behavior should be a RED FLAG. If I were you, I'd get out NOW.
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This may sound a little stupid bit i dont know what to do. For what me and my friend did,we might of caused everyone in our school to get their myspace accounts caceled! It all happend when my friend made this fake girl named Alison a profile. She did it so this boy that is a total loser who is obbsesed with me could start liking her and not me anymore. He liked this "girl" Alison soo much that he gave her his adress,number, and wanted to meet her so he could take her out! Hez so stupid! What if it was like a 40year old guy!EEEWW! So he gave her(really me and my friend) his password and we changed his profile and wrote pretty funny stuff and changed his password,lol. Anyway,now he was obbsesed with her, and at school that is all he would talk about!Then oneday,he found out from someone(?) that she wasnt real! He was pretty mad and humileated(however you spell it) for a while, but then he got over it. Then oneday he started sending some pretty harsh things to my fiend because she is a little overweight and her sister found out and was SOOO mad. She sent him a message telling him that they(her friends) were going to beat him up,lol. The little wimp told his mom whotold the principal and now my friend is in trouble because she took the blame for her sis.But then, he mentioned the Alison thing and said my name!!! They are going to call my dad,afer he had JUSTseen all that bad stuff about myspace on the news!What the hell should i do!!! IR5s!!!! :0 &hearts he'll be so f****** pissed!
Not much you can do. You're screwed and hopefully, you've learned your lesson about picking on other people you consider less important than yourself.
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I'm constantly being made fun of because of my eyebrows. I've plucked them to death and now they're about half as short as they used to be. They're ugly and it's really hurting my self esteem. I've tried letting them grow back but they're just little sprouts and never actually form an eyebrow. They're scattered... so I shave them off. I hate this!!!! What can I do to have normal looking eyebrows? I've tried eyebrow pens but nothing matchs the color and it looks terrible having half only colored on with not a trace of hair. I don't want to bestuck like this for the rest of my life! Please help!
There's not much else you can do but use a pencil and let them grow back in. They're going to look ugly for awhile but don't reshave them because of that. If you overpluck, the hair will NOT grow back. Try going to a salon once they've come back in a bit and get them shaped.
You could always have your hair cut to add in a cute fring that will help in hiding them until then.
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I'm thirteen years of age, and now currently single.
My ex boyfriend and I have done quiet a bit for our age, and I'm not sure if people will consider me a slut if they find out.
We've done everything, not as far as sex or oral sex, but up to fingering, handjob etc.
I still love him, but I'm scared since we're not together, he'll tell some people what we did.
And I don't want to loose my rep. at school.
Today, he asked me to flash him over the webcam.
I said no, because he had a new girlfriend.
he got mad and blocked me.
Is it good I said no?
I still like him, what do you think i should do?
have I gone to far?
-lovesick
You did the right thing by refusing. He isn't respecting you or his girlfriend by asking and then getting angry at you for saying no.
You are not a slut. You did what you did because you cared for the boy you were with. There's nothing dirty of wrong about that.
Having gone through a similiar experience when I was your age, my personal advice would be that in the future, you try to slow down physically and pay more attention to the lighter part of a relationship. Having fun. Going out. That kind of thing. You need to get the basics of that first and you're just way too young to put yourself into a very serious relationship.
Just remember that often times, your body grows much quicker than your mind.
You're going to feel attachment to this boy simply because you shared so much between the two of you. It doesn't sound this boy is any good for you though so for now try to move on.
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well to really understand whats the problem is there are somethings your gonna need to know and i think it maybe confusing so just try to understand and i will also give you a ~5~
well i think my best frind is a lesb. but the thing is i think i am too and i think she likes me and i think i do too but i really dont kno i mean we both have had boyfriends and well i dont kno can you become a les. like awile after? but i think she was always one cuz wen i would spen the night at her house we would look at movies but like Not another teen movie and stuff like that, that shows naked girls and stuff and once when she was at my house we were waching a nother movie like that and even my causin who is a boy asked me if she was a les. and i said no but the other day when i went to her house she was rubing my leg and playing aound and i was too and at 1st it was kinda wird but then i got usto it and was ok i really dont kno whats going on but now like im haveing dreams about me and her toganther like both of us marryed (with other men) and us have somthing on the side i dont kno what to do cuz i think i like her too but the thing is what if shes just like really frindy i mean i kno her for a wile and what if when i talk to her about it she get creepd out i really dont kno what to do is this all in my head or am i really a les. i really dont wanna be but than again i think i like her i dont kno what to do how can i find out if shes really one and if i am one too please help thanks
will give you a ~5~
I'm wondering if maybe you see the opportunity to experiment and that is where your interest is coming from?
Sexual experimentation is perfectly normal. It doesn't mean you're a lesbian or bisexual. Sexuality in general is not black and white.
I'm betting that if you open up a bit to her about your confusion, she'll do the same in return. It could just be that she's not told you yet because she doesn't know how you will take it (that is, if she is actually gay/questioning).
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This girl(22) is my sisters best friend. Im 25. I know she has a crush on me. And i have a crush on her. So heres the deal. I want to play hard to get. Not the bad way. not to be cowardish. Just because. I am very shy. I want to know some real good flirting moves that are gauranteed to work. Im not the best at flirting so this may help me. soon i'll ask her out but for now what can i do that will make her feel attracted to me even more. Im anormal guy who respects women so im not trying to be rude. thank you to all those who respond
Just talk to her. Get to know her. There's no better way to seduce a woman than to give the feeling that you're genuinely interested in her on a level that isn't entirely sexual.
Look into her eyes, smile at her when you talk. When you feel more bold, lean into her a bit or touch her hand or face when you speak to her (as when you compliment her).
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ok well i just put on sunless tanning and like it worked but it looks orange sorta...but does the orangness stay orangge or does it like fade and turn into a tan....this is my first day i just put it on last night. so if anyone else had this problem plz tell me cuz i have a bonfire this weekend and i need to look good in a bikini
thanx
Everyone already told you how to get rid of it but to ensure that it doesn't happen again, make sure you select the correct color for your skin tone.
If you're very light, try choosing a medium tanner instead of a deep tanner (if this is what you did) and put only a small bit on. The point is to BUILD the tan over time. That eliminates the problem of streaking and appearing orange. Also, make sure your skin is moisturized (best to apply after a shower).
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okay. i have had my period for about two years now and it has always been regular. this month im about five days late so far. i have never had sex, but is it possible for me to get pregnant still?... when i suck my stomach in, there is a little lump there and like wehn i push on it, it feels funny... could i be pregnant?!
You aren't pregnant. Even if you were, you certainly wouldn't have a lump to show for it this soon.
Go see a doctor about your lump in your stomach. You can never ever be too careful.
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I'm very interested in Buddhism and I was wondering if anyone knew of any modern sites or books I could look into to learn more? Thanks!
Check out "Buddha In Your Backpack (everyday buddhism for teens)" by Franz Metcalf
It's a general introduction that'll ease you into the religion and sort of applies it to every day modern life. Great book even if you aren't a teen.
Also, read anything by Thich Nhat Hanh
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How do you know when your boobs have stopped growing?
Im 16 and my boobs seem to have been this size forever!!! Im a B.
Its annoying because everyone around me has huge boobs and im the only person with tiny ones.
If they have stopped growing can I take a pill to make them bigger??
Please help I rate high!
xoxo
You're only 16. You probably aren't done growing yet. Everyone grows at a different rate. Some stop in their teens. some in their twenties. It really just depends on the person. Just give it some time.
Until then, stop comparing yourself to everyone else and work on feeling happy about what you've got.
If their was a magical boob growing pill, we'd all have huge knockers.
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There is this girl i like at school and im not sure if she lkes me back i've asked her out twice and on the second time i asked her she said "...errr well not right now sorry" what is that supposed to mean plz help i rate 5s. btw this question would be better off answered by a girl
She's not interested.
Don't ask again.
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i hate my body. i feel so out of place around my friends, my 2 bestfriends have big boobs like b and c, i can barely fit into an A, and my 16th birthday is in 2 weeks, summer is coming and i will look so stupid in a bathing suit, a padded bra will do something in a shirt but not in a bathing suit, i dont want people talking about me, my self confidence is low enough, i dont know what to do
If people are going to make your breasts the topic of conversation, they're really failing in life.
Most of the time, you are viewed by others in the same way your view yourself. If you give off the vibe of no confidence, that will always make you a target. I learned that the hard way ;)
Comfort in your body can only come from you. Personally, I think smaller breasts are more attractive and feminine but that's just me. I think you should feel just fine about your size.
You're only 16 anyway. You have plenty of time to grow if that's what you're wanting. But until then, try feel GOOD about your body. Hold your head high. Tell yourself you look great. I know that sounds way corny but in time, it'll do loads for the way you view yourself.
Truthfully, if you open yourself up to people, smile, appear confident, your breast size isn't going to matter at all. Especially when the entire package is attractive and confident. You get what I'm saying?
No matter what the size people will talk because that's what they do. Don't let it bother you too much.
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