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well i think my best frind is a lesb. but the thing is i think i am too and i think she likes me and i think i do too but i really dont kno i mean we both have had boyfriends and well i dont kno can you become a les. like awile after? but i think she was always one cuz wen i would spen the night at her house we would look at movies but like Not another teen movie and stuff like that, that shows naked girls and stuff and once when she was at my house we were waching a nother movie like that and even my causin who is a boy asked me if she was a les. and i said no but the other day when i went to her house she was rubing my leg and playing aound and i was too and at 1st it was kinda wird but then i got usto it and was ok i really dont kno whats going on but now like im haveing dreams about me and her toganther like both of us marryed (with other men) and us have somthing on the side i dont kno what to do cuz i think i like her too but the thing is what if shes just like really frindy i mean i kno her for a wile and what if when i talk to her about it she get creepd out i really dont kno what to do is this all in my head or am i really a les. i really dont wanna be but than again i think i like her i dont kno what to do how can i find out if shes really one and if i am one too please help thanks
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sometimes things like that are just a phase. you might not actually not be les, or then again you could be. If you are then there is nothing wrong with it, so i wouldnt worry too much.
As for finding out with your friend- i would sort of ease into the topic. Slowely. "dont you think angelina jolie's a hotttie lol?". yeah. good luck :)
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First of all dear just because she can maturely watch girls naked doesn't mean anything. She may think it's a natural thing and it doesn't make her feel weird because she has a girl body too. Just because she doesn't freak out on girls being naked doesn't mean she's a lesbian. I understand your confusion of what road to take. You know don't label yourself so quick. We all have attractions sometimes. Just because you may like your best friend doesn't mean your a straight up lesbo now. It sounds like you could be bisexual. But, as i said don't label yourself with it. If your in your teens definitely don't label yourself cause were now developing and trying to find sexual feelings for a gender (girl or boy). Just talk to her about it and see what she says like give examples like asking her "what if a girl was attracted to you?", or ask her this "be truthful....are you bi?" and if she answers yes then slowly ask her "do you like me???" And see where that goes. It's not like your going to marry her just try it out. Don't be closed minded on this you only live once!! Hope i helped!!
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It sounds to me like normal sexuality experimentation at this point. Almost all women have some sort of same-sex encounter at some point during their teens or early twenties...some even later. Feeling this way doesn't make you weird, or a lesbian, or even bi.
You're too young for labels. Don't feel the need to call yourself anything in regards to your sexuality...there's no reason to. However, if you realize that you are solely attracted to women at some point, again, there is nothing wrong with you.
As far as your friend...she's probably feeling the same things you are. Sitting her down and talking about it seems awkward to me. I'd think just letting things progress as they may would be a more comfortable option.
Take care,
Marissa
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I'm wondering if maybe you see the opportunity to experiment and that is where your interest is coming from?
Sexual experimentation is perfectly normal. It doesn't mean you're a lesbian or bisexual. Sexuality in general is not black and white.
I'm betting that if you open up a bit to her about your confusion, she'll do the same in return. It could just be that she's not told you yet because she doesn't know how you will take it (that is, if she is actually gay/questioning).
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Sounds like you are going through an experimental phase. Which is normal.
To find out you could start by sitting her down alone and tell her you think you might be a les or bi. And see how she reacts. Then you could ask her if she has ever felt that way.
And if she says no and she gets a little freaked try to assure her you were just curious about it. And she doesnt have anything to worry about.
Good luck
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