I am a married stay at home mom. I have been helping friends and other people online for a long time, about 5 years now. I am always willing to lend an ear. Hopefully, I will be able to help you through your tough times.
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I just wanted to relay part of a conversation I had with a close male friend of mine on MSN the other day. I knew him before he moved away and I know he has feelings for me. Well I was telling him about a wedding I went to last weekend. I told him that I caught the bridal bouquet. He wanted to know what that meant so I told him it means I'm supposed to be the next to get married. Then he said "so what happens now"? I said" good question". Then he said "hopefully no one from (the city I live in)." My question is because he lives out of town and he said he hopes I don't end up marrying someone from where I live; do you think it means he is interested in being with me? (link)
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it could mean he is interested in you or it could mean he doesnt think very highly of the guys in your town.
Next time you see him on you should bring up the subject again and if he says something like that ask him what he means.
Good luck
Sassie
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how should it feel because i dont know when i masturbate if im actually having one or not.. (link)
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you would feel your muscles contracting
Sassie
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Kinda long....ill rate a 5
alright well about a year ago i started hanging out with this girl lets call her brooke. i was 17 when i started hanging out wit her and she was 14...well before i started hanging out with her i had soo many friends(not to brag or anything like that) i mean i was always out and always had something to do...well i used to be friends with this other girl before i started hanging out with brooke...me and this other girl stopped being friends because she got a boyfriend and then they got engaged and moved in together and all that crap...well i started hanging out with brooke and since ive been hanging out with her ive pushed all of my other friends away. Now brooke has a boyfriend. I mean this girl lies to everybody about everything and all she ever wants to do is get high. Now a few days ago me and brooke got into a fight and now were not friends anymore...i dont know what to do i mean i pushed everybody outta my life just to hang out with this one girl and now she doesn't wanna hang out with me anymore..im really stuck and i feel like i just wanna die...please help thanks! (link)
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Sometimes when we find a really cool person to hang out with we tend to push other people away. Now if your other friends are true friends they will understand and start wanting to hang out with you again. Besides it is never too late to make new friends.
I had a lot of friends in high school and then after we all graduated I ended up with one friend, a husband and a baby. She was single so we stopped talking for a while until she met her hubby and had kids then we started talking again. Now we are best friends and we really only have each other outside of our family.
I hope you realize it really isnt your fault that you started hanging out with "brooke" exclusively. You just simply found a friend you felt was worth your time. And your other friends just didnt really fit at that moment. So try to talk to them and see what they have to say. If they want an appology give them one and hopefully things will work out for you.
If they dont then you can always try to make new friends. And sometimes that turns out to be the best thing for us.
Good luck,
sassie
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I'm in tears right now. Okay, well I'm going out with joe, matt and bob are friends. Carlo is someone else who told be this:
Violin Rehearsal (5/8/06) "Joe says 2 [Bob] "Guess what, i got a gf." Joey says "Thats cool, is she a lunatic too? Joe says "Uh..Carlo do u think [me]'s a lunatic?" I say "Um..Sorta," Joe says "I no..(chuckles) shes also a f**n s**t that doesnt kiss anyone..(chuckles) Matt first says "Oo Joe, why do you say that about your gf?" I say " Yea Joe, what if i tell her?" Joe says"I was just being sarcastic, plus she wouldnt believe you.."
& I don't think he would say something like that, I know he likes me. No doubt, hes been at me since the first day of school. And its tearing me up. Even if he WAS sarcastic, that was pretty mean.
He's broken up with me 3 times before and he KNOWS that if he broke up with me again, that we're not getting back together.
What should I do?
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Do you really want to be with someone who could say things like that behind your back? I mean yeah my hubby and I say mean things to each other but we dont talk bad about the other one behind each others backs. If i say something about him to anyone I tell him what I say and he does the same.
If you really want to know what he thinks just ask him. Get it out of the way. Otherwise if you dont ask it will bug you for a long time. And if he admits it to your face then you can decide if you really want to stay with him and try to work it out or if you just want to give up and move on to hopefully someone who will treat you with more respect.
In my opinion he doesnt sound like he is treating you very good. And I wouldnt want to be with someone who didnt respect me. I really hope you find it in yourself to make the best decision for you. There are plenty of great guys out there and sometimes it takes a while to find the right one. Dont just settle for anyone.
Good luck,
Sassie
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22/F
I'm an extremely creative and unique individual and I need some career ideas. I've tried so many different things on I'm getting really discouraged. Nothing seems to "fit". I'm very artistic and thoughtful, I don't want just any old job. I'm not very intersted in going to a 4 year college. I would be interested in going for a 2 year degree. or any type of course work, trade school. But I could change my mind if the right thing came along. I know I don't want to do anything medical or anything related to mathematics, i've ruled that out for sure. This probably sounds ridiculous, but I have no direction and I'm out of ideas. I know I can't live off artwork. (link)
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Have you thought of going to a technical school? Like video programming or something in that field. If you like art find an art school. Or become a teacher and teach art classes.
I know there are many things out there now and it really is hard to decide. I am having that problem myself but then again I am just not ready to do it.
You just need to really find your one true passion and go for it. Sometimes that doesnt work and it can always be a hobby. If it doesnt work for you then find something you are really good at. If you dont have your heart in it nothing is going to seem right.
You will figure it out. Just take a deep breath and relax. Write down all the things you are really good at and all the things that make you happy when you do them. Then look around for classes in those areas.
Good luck,
Sassie
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My dream has always been to be an actress or singer. A few days ago I did really well at a huge audition and now have a call back for an "American Idol" type show in London. I am one of 200 people who will be filmed but only 10 will be featured on tv. The problem is that I have a younger sister who is getting married in America the weekend after the week I'm supposed to be in London and as her maid of honor I am throwing a huge bachelorette party the weekend before the audition. So because of logistics since I live in the UK right now, I would have to miss the bachelorette party which I am throwing. She is disappointed and my parents think I am an evil child if I do this. My family is the most important thing to me and I don't want them to hate me but I don't think they're being fair as this is a once in a lifetime opportunity at a big break. What should I do? (link)
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You really have to follow your heart on this one. A bachelorette is a big deal, especially to the bride. But sometimes you have to take chances.
I really understand your delimma. But if you do go to the audition and you are picked to move on your dreams might just come true. And your family will forgive you over time.
But if you go do the party and dont take your chance you might resent your family for making you choose them over your dreams. And never knowing what would have happened.
You honestly just have to do what your heart tells you to do. it wont be easy.
If it were me, I would go audition. And I would throw the party earlier than planned. that way everyone is happy.
Good luck
Sassie
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Well, I'm a horseback rider and I'm at the barn AT LEAST 3 days a week. Most of my barn "family" are the coolest people in the world, but there's one girl who I can't stand. A while ago, we were both at a show and I gave my mare on her lead rope to my mom so I could go get a brush. At the time, this girl's mare was no where near mine, but she had to get ready for her class so she led her towards mine. My mom didn't see the girl's mare and let my mare back up. Well, my mare kicks and she kicked this girl's mare hard. Luckily, her mare was fine, but my mare had a cut. My friend and I tended to it and everything was fine, but this girl won't let me live it down, even though I wasn't even there when it happened. The other day at the barn, she made so much fun of me and starting yelling at me to watch my horse's butt as she led her horse by. I can't ignore it because riding is my thing and as soon as anybody criticizes me for anything (except for my trainer) that has to do with it, I get offended. How do I deal with this without resorting to smacking her repeatedly and vicously with my crop? (link)
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Sometimes you have to be the bigger person. It sounds like she is being a bit childish. Obviously it was not your fault so dont let her insults get to you. You are not to blame, you weren't there. Just try hard to ignore her and when she starts in just act like she isnt there and keep smiling. And if your "family" starts talking about it set them straight. Dont let her bring you down. She is only one person. And at the moment you are better than her because you have not taken any action against her. Let her do her little insult thing. It will get old fast. Especially if you ignore her.
Keep your head up and keep riding.
Good luck
Sassie
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Hello, I just turned 24 years old 2 weeks ago. You think I would be happy but I am not. I have never had a boyfriend in my life. I have never recieved and gifts from a man or even been out on a date. I have never even kissed a man. i remember when i was 16 my friends would laugh and me because i had not done ane anything yet. I thought i was a loser back then but now that I am 24 I don't think i am in the loser catergory any more. could it be that no one pays attention to me because I am over weight? (size 16) If that is true then why do I see girls who are way bigger than me with a boyfriends. Is there something wrong with me? Or am I just a loser? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with you and you are most certainly not a loser. Size really does not matter. It is all about personality. You need to find your good qualities and that will give confidence. And when you find confidence in yourself other people will notice you.
I had a major weight problem in high school. I lost some weight but i never really noticed. I still thought i was fat. So I gave up. I realized I am a good person. I have a lot to offer. I try to help ppl when I can. I may not look like the models in the magazines but I realized I didn't need to.
Trust me it will get better. Have some faith in yourself. It will take you far.
Best wishes and good luck
Sassie
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I'm 16/f and my bf is 17/m. Sometimes he acts soooo immature and after a while it gets annoying.
The other day I was at his house and he was acting like a little kid making random noises, talking about burping, jumping around like his house was a trampoline, and making stupid comments about everything.
So I said, "Stop acting like a five year old and grow up. I swear you act like my little brother"
I guess that kind of upset him because he didn't really talk to me after that. And today, he had an away message up that said "'acting like a 5-year-old' with Mike hit the cell"
I don't know if I should apologize or what because I know I might have hurt his feelings but I feel like he needs to know that he can't act like that all the time. What should I do?
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Let me tell you when I first go with my now hubby, I was 15 and he was 17. And he was totally addicted to video games. Ok he still is. But when he plays he turns into a total kid. We have been together for 10 years and I still cannot get used to it. Guys just tend to do that. I have a saying though "I only grow up when I need to". Some days its okay to just let go and be yourself. And let go of the whole "what will people think of me if I.....". Because every now and again its nice to act like a little kid. Not to mention fun and relaxing.
And yes I agree with the appology thing.
All I can really say is try to be understanding.
Good luck with him.
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usually i always like somebody that never likes me back or they do but i dont find out until i stop liking them so ive pretty much had a bad love life and i thought it was crazy that any girl could get butterflies just thinking about somebody until it happened.... i really like him and i dream about him a lot and they're sexual dreams and i dont know what to do about it cus i heard some stuff about him like he gives head to hoes and he gets into too much shit w/ older dudes so i was like im not into that stuff but i keep on having dreams and i be real happy when i see him and i think he got a little tenderoni on the side and he dont wanna let me kno about it but we not really talkin but i wanna but i dont know if he feels the same way too cus he might have mixed feelings for me and i dont kno if i should tell him and look stupid or keep it to myself and just not let him kno and let it follow me for the rest of my life cus i neva got butterflies before... (link)
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Sounds like you are only interested in him because he is a "rebel" so to speak. You want to be with him because you think his life is fascinating. It might only be a crush. But he doesn't sound like he is really your type.
Sit down and think about all the qualities you are looking for in "Mr. Right" and write them down.
Then write down this guys good qualities and the bad ones too.
You might also want to know what the true deal is with this guy. It might not be what you truly want for yourself
Good luck
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I'm moving into a rental house and I was thinking I could REDECORATE!!! It sounds like fun but then its hard work. I dont know what style to choose but I dont want like "French, tropical, zebra print" or anything like that. What are some ways to redecorate? (In rental houses you cant paint the walls) Or a system that I could use for redecorating and moving things? Thanks for your creativity!!!! (link)
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I remember my first rental. I was so careful about what I did to the walls and the floors. I did eventually invest in some of that putty, looks kind of like playdoh. They sell it at walmart around the stationary/office supplies. I think it comes in white now. It holds pretty well and is great for pictures, posters, or any other light weight decoration.
Also you want to make sure the furniture is arranged to where you have enough room to walk. If placed just right it will open up the living room.
For the kitchen you could make your own magnets to go along with any theme you are thinking of. Stick them on the fridge, dishwasher or any other area they will stick.
Sounds like you are gonna have alot of work ahead of you but it also sounds like you are up for the task. I am excited for you.
Good luck
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i'm a 10th grader who's never had a gf before (pretty pathetic, but whatever). im really bad with asking girls out and whatnot. anyhoo, im really really good friends with this girl, shes a year younger than me, and we both tell each other everything. ive liked her for a little while, maybe a few weeks, but she tells me that she likes a senior in our school. now idk if she actually does like him, or if she's just saying that to cover up that she likes me, but we always hang out, we've never gotten mad at each other, we know everything about neach other, and we never get tired of hanging out (we've actually pissed her friends off once or twice cuz we hang out so much). anyway, what do i do? thanks (link)
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Ok get someone to be a go between and ask her if she would like to go out with you. That way if she just wants to be friends you will know for sure.
Or you could write it down and give it to her. And see what she thinks.
Good luck
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well to really understand whats the problem is there are somethings your gonna need to know and i think it maybe confusing so just try to understand and i will also give you a ~5~
well i think my best frind is a lesb. but the thing is i think i am too and i think she likes me and i think i do too but i really dont kno i mean we both have had boyfriends and well i dont kno can you become a les. like awile after? but i think she was always one cuz wen i would spen the night at her house we would look at movies but like Not another teen movie and stuff like that, that shows naked girls and stuff and once when she was at my house we were waching a nother movie like that and even my causin who is a boy asked me if she was a les. and i said no but the other day when i went to her house she was rubing my leg and playing aound and i was too and at 1st it was kinda wird but then i got usto it and was ok i really dont kno whats going on but now like im haveing dreams about me and her toganther like both of us marryed (with other men) and us have somthing on the side i dont kno what to do cuz i think i like her too but the thing is what if shes just like really frindy i mean i kno her for a wile and what if when i talk to her about it she get creepd out i really dont kno what to do is this all in my head or am i really a les. i really dont wanna be but than again i think i like her i dont kno what to do how can i find out if shes really one and if i am one too please help thanks
will give you a ~5~ (link)
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Sounds like you are going through an experimental phase. Which is normal.
To find out you could start by sitting her down alone and tell her you think you might be a les or bi. And see how she reacts. Then you could ask her if she has ever felt that way.
And if she says no and she gets a little freaked try to assure her you were just curious about it. And she doesnt have anything to worry about.
Good luck
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i have a really bad sore throat. it hurts a lot & when i swallow i can't stand it. my voice isn't gone, but its croaky sort've. when i breathe in er make my neck move a certain way, i get this really bad chest pain, sort've by my bra line in the center of my chest. i have asthma & that stinging feeling you get when you have it, it's almost like that but a bit different. i know it isn't asthma, but i'm not quite sure what it is. any ideas??
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I would talk to your doctor. It could be a reaction from a medication you are taking. Or it could be some other sort of infection. Definitely call your doctor or find and urgent care.
Good luck
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I'm thirteen years of age, and now currently single.
My ex boyfriend and I have done quiet a bit for our age, and I'm not sure if people will consider me a slut if they find out.
We've done everything, not as far as sex or oral sex, but up to fingering, handjob etc.
I still love him, but I'm scared since we're not together, he'll tell some people what we did.
And I don't want to loose my rep. at school.
Today, he asked me to flash him over the webcam.
I said no, because he had a new girlfriend.
he got mad and blocked me.
Is it good I said no?
I still like him, what do you think i should do?
have I gone to far?
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I think you did the right thing. You should never use your webcam that way nor talk to anyone on the internet about intimate issues. It sounds like you are not ready for sex. Which is fine. You have your whole life in front of you and when you are older and meet the right guy it will happen.
Trust me I was a teenage mom. And I met girls your age who got pregnant and had kids. So dont feel pressured its not all its cracked up to be.
As far as the guy goes. he sounds like he isnt worth your time. IF he has a girlfriend and is still trying to see you then you need to move on. You should block him!
And remember you are in control of your body. Never let anyone pressure you to do more than you feel you should.
As far as the rest of it goes I suggest you slow down and make sure the next boy keeps his hands to himself.
Good luck
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I am mad at my best friend. I don’t want to be but I am. She has a new friend that I don’t know I guess I like her and I’m fine that they are friends and all. But lately shes been ditching me for her other friend. We were supposed to hang out and she ditched me. she has ditched me twice in the last week for her. Now she is doing cheerleading with her, and before she started being friends with her new friend she used to tell me how she would never do it. shes changing a lot. I know I cant live without her because she has always been there for me and she knows more about me then I know about myself and vise versa. we are “not friends anymore” and its killing me. to tell you the truth all I really want from her is an apology and I guess we could move on, but I have a feeling she wont say shes sorry because she is the type of person who wont admit they are wrong. for the past two years she has been ditching me for her boyfriends and I haven’t done anything about it. Now that shes ditching me for “her new best friend” im really fed up with it and I did something about it, but it seems sooo wrong. (link)
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Sometimes when we have best friends who spend a lot of time together we tend to start acting, dressing, talking, etc. like them. And then someone else new comes along and they seem to be better because they are different. Sometimes the thrill of being different wears off and sometimes it is time to move on. Best friends do grow apart from time to time. Some times a little space is good.
I grew apart from my best friend for 4 years and then we finally started talking again. Only because her so called best friend tried to steal her boyfriend. So now we talk almost everyday.
I think you should just sit down with your friend and find out what is going on. And try to be understanding. Don't wait for an apppology because that my never come. Dont let the little stuff get to you. Just voice your opinion and if she feels she needs to move on to different circles of friends dont try to stop her. Because eventually she will need a true friend, someone she can trust, when things dont work out the way she had hoped.
Good luck
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my dog is scratching his skin like raw...I dont know why. It's gotten so bad that by his eye, he actually bleeds sometimes. Im really scared for him and it bothers me to see him with blood. I wipe it off, but I hate looking at the bloody tissue. He gets scabs now in that area. Why does he do this? COuld his nails be too long? Is there anything I can do to stop it? (link)
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it could be he has dry skin. A pet store should carry some products for itching. If you explain the problem they may be able to help you more. Or point you in the right direction to find a useful product.
I had a dog that had dry skin he required cortizone shots. But sometimes it does not require a shot only a topical treatment.
Good luck
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ok, how come whenever someone says a curse word, they say excuse my french/pardon my french etc...? i never understood it...I always hear my mom say it after she says a curse word. Can someone explain it to me? Thanks. i rate high for real answers. ♥ (link)
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I have always wondered the same thing until i came across this site a while back.
http://answers.google.com/answers/main?cmd=threadview&id=232360
It will answer your question.
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14/f
My Breasts have rashes around the nipples. I have NO idea why. What could it be from and how do I get rid of it? (link)
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It is probably harmless. Could be an allergic reaction to something. I would talk to the doctor and he could prescribe a cream to get rid of it. Rashes are not always serious. So dont panic. But definitely talk to your doctor he/she should be able to tell you the why and what.
Good luck
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Well i am a f/13 and i like this boy and i think he likes me too. We nonstop flirt and we always talk. Even one time we both left the classroom just so we can talk. Well i think that it is the cutest thing every time we talk and there are people around us he always wispers in my ear and tells me. He gets so close that my chest and his chest touch and he doesnt move he just stays there with our chests touching. I think it is so cute how he wants to get so close and wispers in my ear. So just to flirt with him and make him enjoy being around me I wisper back into his ear and push my chest up against his and get as close as i can and we just stare into each others eyes. it is so romantic. Doesnt that sound sweet? Then i dont understand why he wont ask my to be his girlfriend? Please dont tell me to ask him out because i never will? Please go it to details, thanks in advance. remeber i rate 5s for good advice,
j. (link)
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Maybe he feels the same way you do but he is too afraid to ask you out. Maybe you can get someone to be a go between and ask him if he wants you to be his girlfriend.
Good luck
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