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Barn Snobs, Or Just Snobs In General
Well, I'm a horseback rider and I'm at the barn AT LEAST 3 days a week. Most of my barn "family" are the coolest people in the world, but there's one girl who I can't stand. A while ago, we were both at a show and I gave my mare on her lead rope to my mom so I could go get a brush. At the time, this girl's mare was no where near mine, but she had to get ready for her class so she led her towards mine. My mom didn't see the girl's mare and let my mare back up. Well, my mare kicks and she kicked this girl's mare hard. Luckily, her mare was fine, but my mare had a cut. My friend and I tended to it and everything was fine, but this girl won't let me live it down, even though I wasn't even there when it happened. The other day at the barn, she made so much fun of me and starting yelling at me to watch my horse's butt as she led her horse by. I can't ignore it because riding is my thing and as soon as anybody criticizes me for anything (except for my trainer) that has to do with it, I get offended. How do I deal with this without resorting to smacking her repeatedly and vicously with my crop?
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Well, when you say that you can't ignore her catty comments, it makes me wonder what kind of advice you are looking for.
I don't doubt for one moment that this girl is hard to miss or ignore when you are doing your one special thing. But she sounds like an immature brat who has nothing better to do than make fun of other people. In situations like these, you have to be the mature person and simply let it pass you by like the wind hitting your face.
When she starts to make her rude comments, just smile and hold your head up high and walk away. When you fight back, all it does is satisfy her immaturity. She wants you to be mad and upset so that she'll be happy that she hurt your feelings for the day. Now, I know that you are angry to the point of hitting this girl, but if you ignored it, when you get home you can beat up a pillow and pretend it's her until your anger is satisfied. What matters is that you make this girl think that you could care less of what she has to say about you.
There will be tons of times when someone makes you feel bad, but all they are looking for is a bad reaction to make them satisfied. What fun is it to make fun of someone and have them ignore you? None at all, you want to see them angry, you want to hear them fight with you. I'm sure you've teased a sibling or family member before, and it wouldn't be any fun if they ignored you.
Whatever you do, keep getting back on that horse.
-TheTeenGirl
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The next time she mentions this, tell her that if she is such a good horse person she should always approach a horse from the front, if that's not possible..you must let the horse know you are there before approaching from behind. So really, she needs to be watching. Horses and people don't have eyes in the back of their heads!
Don't get offended. Karma is a wonderful thing, just wait...someday she will get what she deserves. You won't need to do anything. Don't let one bad egg spoil your fun or your horsemanship.
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Sometimes you have to be the bigger person. It sounds like she is being a bit childish. Obviously it was not your fault so dont let her insults get to you. You are not to blame, you weren't there. Just try hard to ignore her and when she starts in just act like she isnt there and keep smiling. And if your "family" starts talking about it set them straight. Dont let her bring you down. She is only one person. And at the moment you are better than her because you have not taken any action against her. Let her do her little insult thing. It will get old fast. Especially if you ignore her.
Keep your head up and keep riding.
Good luck
Sassie
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