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He's so immature sometimes
I'm 16/f and my bf is 17/m. Sometimes he acts soooo immature and after a while it gets annoying.
The other day I was at his house and he was acting like a little kid making random noises, talking about burping, jumping around like his house was a trampoline, and making stupid comments about everything.
So I said, "Stop acting like a five year old and grow up. I swear you act like my little brother"
I guess that kind of upset him because he didn't really talk to me after that. And today, he had an away message up that said "'acting like a 5-year-old' with Mike hit the cell"
I don't know if I should apologize or what because I know I might have hurt his feelings but I feel like he needs to know that he can't act like that all the time. What should I do?
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Yes, apologizing would be the first step. The second step would be talking to him and telling him how you feel. If something bothers you in a relationship, don't just ignore it and hope it's a "phase" bring it up when you are hangning out and let him know its bothering him. I bet he would rather have you tell him that that's annoying him than have you be mad at him every time he is acting mature and not even knowing it bothers you.... sorry... did that last sentence make sense? i don't know what else to say, just talk to him and let him know how you feel. :)
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Yes, apologize to him. How would you have felt if the situation was reversed & he had said that to you? If you're frustrated with how he acts, talk to him about it like adults. Don't say "it's annoying when you act like that, you need to stop", but something like "I feel ___ when you act like that". Just remember that he is how he is, & you can't change him.
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Don't apologize to him because he's an immature douchebag and you don't like that.
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well, if he would give you a chance to apologize then i say go for it. and like you said, he can't act like that all the time, so just explain that you like hanging out with him but sometimes he needs to act 17, and not 10.
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just tell him that your sorry and that just because you said it, it is only an opinion, and if he doesn't like it then he isnt a good bf
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In highschool most guys are immature. While it's not directly true that all girls have more maturity at a younger state than guys, most do. So yes he will be immature sometimes. Like Johanna said you need to expect that out of him sometimes but not all of the time.
Girls will show emotion a lot more than guys do. So you might have hurt his feelings and he may not show it in a way that you would. So consider that you have because even though you were very straight forward maybe comparing him to your little brother and telling him to grow up probably did hurt his feelings. Although he may realize that in a way you were right.
I'm not saying to apologize to him, that's your call. But to keep things from getting uneasy you may want to do that. If you do, try saying what the girl suggested because I think that is a really great way to say it. This way you're letting him know you're sorry for hurting his feelings but suggesting that he act his age at the same time.
<3 Shannon
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Let me tell you when I first go with my now hubby, I was 15 and he was 17. And he was totally addicted to video games. Ok he still is. But when he plays he turns into a total kid. We have been together for 10 years and I still cannot get used to it. Guys just tend to do that. I have a saying though "I only grow up when I need to". Some days its okay to just let go and be yourself. And let go of the whole "what will people think of me if I.....". Because every now and again its nice to act like a little kid. Not to mention fun and relaxing.
And yes I agree with the appology thing.
All I can really say is try to be understanding.
Good luck with him.
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Definitely apologize. He's 17, and I should think he'd be able to take a comment like that. But some people are kids at heart, and he obviously is. Maybe he likes to goof off to impress you or make you laugh, but whatever the reason, you need to talk to him because you can't avoid it forever.
Just say something like, "I'm sorry I made that comment about you being immature. I really like you for who you are, but sometimes I just want to spend some serious time together. I love you for who you are, but at times I wish you would be serious."
You probably know it's important to keep open communication in a relationship. So make sure you talk to him, and I'm pretty sure he'll understand. Remember that it may be hard for him to stop this childish behavior altogether. So soemtimes, expect him to goof off. If he does something totally unacceptable, confront him about it. Say, "I really wish you wouldn't do that." Hope I helped!
-Johanna
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