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Am I a loser?
Hello, I just turned 24 years old 2 weeks ago. You think I would be happy but I am not. I have never had a boyfriend in my life. I have never recieved and gifts from a man or even been out on a date. I have never even kissed a man. i remember when i was 16 my friends would laugh and me because i had not done ane anything yet. I thought i was a loser back then but now that I am 24 I don't think i am in the loser catergory any more. could it be that no one pays attention to me because I am over weight? (size 16) If that is true then why do I see girls who are way bigger than me with a boyfriends. Is there something wrong with me? Or am I just a loser?
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Guys can be judgemental sometimes. (So can girls, though.) It could have something to do with your weight. You just have to try harder then. Find a guy you think is really nice (not just hott) and flirt with him and ask him out. Or you could ask your friends to hook you up! Online dating could work, but make sure you wait a while for him to earn your trust and then meet him in a public area. If you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
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You're not a loser. But in my opinion I think your weight might have something to do with it. A lot of guys these days are cocky and all they care about is boobs, ass, and hottness. It's pretty sad but that's just how guys are. And usually if a guy doesn't think you're attractive, then he won't even bother dating you. Some guys arn't like that, but sometimes it's hard to find those kinds of guys.
I'm sure you have a really pretty face but the fact that your a size 16 may turn guys off. No offence. I think your best bet would be to lose weight.
Workout and go to the gym. Do crunches, situps, and maybe take a jog a few times a week. Be as active as you can and eat healthy! If you want to lose weight ask your doctor about a healthy diet for you.
But if you feel you can find a guy without losing weight, then go for it. Find a guy the same width as you and then there would be no reason for him to say no. Just listen to your heart and decide if you want to lose weight, or keep things like they are.
But in my opinion, if you're 24 and no one will go out with you, then in 2 years it might still be the same.
Best of luck and hopefully, Mr. Right will find you. Just keep praying to god that fate will bring you two together.
With all due respect,
Carmen.
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I consider you pretty lucky to not have gone through all of the risks that a lot of teens went through such as sex, and love, heartbreaks, or cheating.
I know you don't feel so lucky since you are an adult and still havn't really gone out with anyone, but this might have to do with your self-esteem. As a teenager, you and your friends believed that you were a loser because you weren't experienced in those areas, so you lived a lot of years thinking down on yourself because of this.
Being overweight doesn't mean that you can't feel attractive and can't be truly in love with someone you deserve. Like you said, you've seen all kinds of overweight people with boyfriend and girlfriends and they are happy. I think the root of your problem is maybe you aren't reaching out like you should. Maybe you go out, then come home and you're sitting at home just waiting for Mr.Right to ring your doorbell, and it doesn't work that way.
Do you have a lot of friends now? Find a friend that you can start going out with to places instead of moping around at home waiting for true love. Get 'Love Smart' by Dr.Phil and see what you can do to make your chances of finding the right one better. Start looking around for resources to begin dating someone. Ask a friend for a few pointers or to help you find the right guy. I wouldn't recommend the friends you had in High School that laughed at you instead of comforting you as some help.
There isn't anything wrong with you. There are a lot of men and women still trying to find their true love. Even some people who are dating at 24 will become single because of a break-up so they have to start looking again too. So, let yourself know that you aren't the only one waiting for the right person in your life.
-TheTeenGirl
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Honestly I think your weight might have something to do with it. If you're thin and pretty men automatically notice you so you can be as boring and quiet as you like. If you're bigger though you need something that makes you stand out from the rest to get noticed. Like you need to be loud, bubbly, funny and have a good personality. That's why other bigger girls get boyfriends. There's nothing wrong with you and you're not a loser. You just need to get out more and get noticed!
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There is nothing wrong with you, nor are you a loser. I myself went through school without ever having a boyfriend etc, and now I have a great boyfriend who I have been with for nearly 2 years. It will happen for you eventually. A lot of people try too hard to find someone, and I have found the trick is to not look. You could even try dating sites on the internet (although I would be VERY careful with that as you never know who you are meeting). Perhaps you are rather shy and don't have the confidence to approach a man... this could be a good way to make that connection.. but you need to up your confidence first.
Be patient, be yourself, and I'm certain that one day soon, someone will find you interesting.
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there definitly is NOTHING wrong with you! there is a guy out there for everyone, the hard part is just finding him. what you should try to do is become friends with more guys, once you are friends with a guy it is easier for them to start liking you. remember that guys like girls with confidence, so don't be let down by not having a boyfriend. if a guy thinks you are depressed, then they won't want to date you. be patient and i promise that i right guy will come along.
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. True, girls in many different shapes and sizes have boyfriends. Keep in mind that sometimes no matter how a girl's body looks, they can still act immodest. And that's how alot of girls get boyfriends, which is sad because acting like that is no way to get a boyfriend.
You should be proud that you have not done anything that you would regret. Most girls in highschool and college choose to do things that they will regret later in their life. Even if you haven't had your first kiss yet, you shouldn't feel like a loser. When you do get your first kiss, you will be happy that your first kiss had an actual meaning, unlike the kind of kiss you get when you're 14.
Myabe you just need to open up to new people. Really get out there to meet new people, and you may even meet a really special guy! Where do you like to go? Museums, concerts, the mall? Any of these places are great to meet new friends and guys that you might have things in common with. It's a good idea to go places and meet people because you definitely don't want to get into dating web sites where theres a lot of creeps and stalkers on them.
Also Don't feel shy about your weight, because your weight shouldn't stop you from being confident and open minded.
You are still young though, so don't feel like you have to rush yourself into any relationships.
-Johanna
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There is nothing wrong with you and you are most certainly not a loser. Size really does not matter. It is all about personality. You need to find your good qualities and that will give confidence. And when you find confidence in yourself other people will notice you.
I had a major weight problem in high school. I lost some weight but i never really noticed. I still thought i was fat. So I gave up. I realized I am a good person. I have a lot to offer. I try to help ppl when I can. I may not look like the models in the magazines but I realized I didn't need to.
Trust me it will get better. Have some faith in yourself. It will take you far.
Best wishes and good luck
Sassie
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