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Too young?
I'm thirteen years of age, and now currently single.
My ex boyfriend and I have done quiet a bit for our age, and I'm not sure if people will consider me a slut if they find out.
We've done everything, not as far as sex or oral sex, but up to fingering, handjob etc.
I still love him, but I'm scared since we're not together, he'll tell some people what we did.
And I don't want to loose my rep. at school.
Today, he asked me to flash him over the webcam.
I said no, because he had a new girlfriend.
he got mad and blocked me.
Is it good I said no?
I still like him, what do you think i should do?
have I gone to far?
-lovesick
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Nothing hurts more than seeing a thirteen year old do things that she shouldn't be doing with a guy.
You definetly did the right thing by not flashing him, but I think you refused for the wrong reason. If he hadn't had a girlfriend, you would have probably done it.
You have no idea how dangerous it can be to do these things with a guy whose not even your boyfriend, it's horrid. He can get mad enough to tell everyone what the two of you have been doing. If he got angry because you wouldn't flash him, then your fears will come to life in this situation. I think at this point, you should make the decision to quit doing things with this guy for these reasons:
-He isn't your boyfriend, so therefore, you aren't that close to him
-You are way too young
-He will eventually get mad enough at you to spread rumors about you
-You are basically doing 'friends with benefits'! Which isn't right
You have gone too far, but it's not too late to change your ways and save your reputation.
-TheTeenGirl
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You did the right thing by refusing. He isn't respecting you or his girlfriend by asking and then getting angry at you for saying no.
You are not a slut. You did what you did because you cared for the boy you were with. There's nothing dirty of wrong about that.
Having gone through a similiar experience when I was your age, my personal advice would be that in the future, you try to slow down physically and pay more attention to the lighter part of a relationship. Having fun. Going out. That kind of thing. You need to get the basics of that first and you're just way too young to put yourself into a very serious relationship.
Just remember that often times, your body grows much quicker than your mind.
You're going to feel attachment to this boy simply because you shared so much between the two of you. It doesn't sound this boy is any good for you though so for now try to move on.
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If you're scared to do it, then don't do it. Only go as far as you feel comfortable. If he has a girlfriend, he shouldn't want to be seeing you anyways. I think you did the right thing, and if I were you, I'd just move on. He doesn't sound like he's worth your time, especially if he's trying to pressure you into that. Find someone who respects you and your decisions! good luck
♥ Evy
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in my opinion, i think you have gone a little far but its your choice to do it so i shouldnt really say anything but when your ex said if you could flash him i thought you did the right thing especially when he has a new gf ..you should try moving on because since he has a new gf hes trying to get with you so basically hes cheating on his new gf and he might do the same with you if you end up going out with him again, so try to move on and you'll probably find a better guy than him! good luck!
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I think you did the right thing. You should never use your webcam that way nor talk to anyone on the internet about intimate issues. It sounds like you are not ready for sex. Which is fine. You have your whole life in front of you and when you are older and meet the right guy it will happen.
Trust me I was a teenage mom. And I met girls your age who got pregnant and had kids. So dont feel pressured its not all its cracked up to be.
As far as the guy goes. he sounds like he isnt worth your time. IF he has a girlfriend and is still trying to see you then you need to move on. You should block him!
And remember you are in control of your body. Never let anyone pressure you to do more than you feel you should.
As far as the rest of it goes I suggest you slow down and make sure the next boy keeps his hands to himself.
Good luck
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