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ok well heres the thing, i like this one guy {lawrence} alot alot, and sometimes i even think more then just alot alot. so i thought i knew him pretty well. then one day his cousin and him were in a fight and his cousin told me that he was lieing to me about his virginity, and how he never lost it, he was just trying to impress me. and stuff like that. and i told his cousin that i didnt really care if he was a virgin or no, what bothers me is that he lied and stuff. so after that i just went home, and i didnt really care like i honestly didnt. so usually lawrence calls me like everyday just to talk or w/e or someitmes i call him. well for the past few days he hasnt called once. and then his cousin told me that he had told him that he told me about that whole lieing thing. and so now lawrence knew that he told me, so i was like okay maybe he thinks im mad at him. because lawrence knows that i cant stand people who lie.and so now he hasnt called or anything. and i just like want to call him. because i know if like i was in that situation i would have wanted him to call me to tell me he wasnt mad at me and stuff. but at the same time, i dont know...i just dont know why every part of me is telling myslef not to call him. hmm but yea help please =/
there is clearly a communication dilemma. usually this situation starts when we rely to 'she said/ he said' thing. so i think you should call him and say that you are not mad, and that you really dont care. dont worry, its just a call... it doesnt mean that you are spilling that you are head over heels with him. because both of you call each other before. so when you call him, you can ask him questions if the things you heard are true or not. it would be really nice if the situation can get clearer. ill bet, you'll feel good ryt after you cleared things up with him. :)afterall you had a great friendship with him, you wouldnt wanna waste it by miscommunication ryt?
So there is this guy and I like him a little && i think he likes me to .. we haven't kissed or even hugged or held hands or any thing yet but we still like eachother.
He's takin me out to dinner and out to movies and buying me things and stuff.. so im pretty sure he likes me..
Im not sure if i should go for it or not, because I dont know what i want if he is my type or if i want someone else...
Deep down inside i think i always run away from the guys that will treat me good.. but I just dont know if its right you know?
What do you think i should do?
heres what you should do. get a paper and a pen. then right everything you want in a guy from the physical characteristics to the personality. you should be focused; knowing what you want and dont want will make you feel better and feel confident in your own decisions.
most of all, really know him better. through time, you will know what his intentions are and if he loves you, dont deny him. dont runaway. because afterall, you really deserve a guy that will love you and take care of you. so while you are dating, enjoy those moments. it doesnt mean that you have to make a decision right away. take your time sweety. :)you need to know him better for you to make your own decisions. if you resist, you might not know what you are missing.
i'm 15, and i really want my nose pierced. my dad would not let me get it pierced, no matter how much i beg, no matter what. on the other hand, my mom said she would let me get it pierced, in a heart beat. obviously i'm not going to have my mom take me to get my nose-pierced, as my parents are still together, and i'm not going to have them get into a huge argument over some stupid little thing. so, since i'm kind of an idiot (haha), i've been thinking about piercing my own nose. i know my dad would make me take it out, if he saw it. so maybe piercing it, and then putting a flathead pin in, and putting a little concealer on over it would hide it? probably not. but what my main question is, is would piercing my own nose be really dangerous? i know that i could get an infection. but would it travel up to my brain and kill me? well, not so extreme, but could i really be putting myself in a life or death situation? if you haven't noticed from my other questions, i'm paranoid of everything. sorry.
thanks for any help that you could give me, though.
no it wouldnt kill you. :) but can have infections. and it aint gonna feel good. i had a friend who had a peircing in her nose. she didnt liked it at all. it can really hurt even when the hole was there a year ago. especially when cleaning your nose, uugh! you wont be able to do it properly because it hurts. plus, a hole in your face would only ruin your young and beautiful skin. :) yes, i know having it done may sound really really cool at this time, but you will regret it sooner or later. here's a tip: only veryyyyyyyy few guys like girls with nose peircings. :) and you did good thnking it might ruin your parents' relationship. so dont do it. :)
im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?
**sleepiesheep**
uhh...u realize im hurting also because of what you said. clearly the whole situation is WRONG. LOVE shouldnt hurt. i mean literally. you got to get out of this relationship. i know your feelings for him will always stay but he is beating you up! he has obviously a mental illness causing him to be violent. you are YOUNG! you do not deserve to get that kind of treatment early in your life, or probably ever. ladies are treated like a princess or a queen. they are fragile and respectable. hunny,chances are he wont learn from his mistakes if it is ignored or just passed by. want to look in reality, guys that are violent to their women stays violent till the end of time. yes it is sad but you got to step up for yourself and believe that you deserve better. believe that you need someone to nourish you; or even believe that you are so precious and full of self-respect that noone could make you feel inferior. you are a cheerleader, cheerleaders are condident and vivacious and full of fun. thats why you need to get out of this relationship and make the most out of your teenage years. that is to have fun. you wouldnt want to waste your teenage years with his beattings ryt? :)
I was at a restaurant having a couple of drinks with some friends of mine. Two of them were single, and the other were a married couple. I am also single. Well my one single friend asked me to talk about my uncle and his crazy wife for some entertainment. None of them know my uncle and wife, or have ever met them. They live in another state so I didnt feel bad making a joke about them. They ARE crazy (in my opinion). I wanted to make them laugh so I told them how last Xmas my uncle said infront of the whole family that if you saw his wife naked you would need therapy. Everyone laughed. Then I said in front of the group" well uncle jim if you hate your wife so much, why don't you divorce her"? His response was that he "couldnt afford it". Everyone at the table roared, everyone, that is except the husband of the married couple at the table. I think I'm the only one who noticed this, but his face actually went white and he looked like a deer had got caught in the headlights when I made the comment about asking my uncle why he wouldnt divorce his wife if he hated her so much. So my question is, was his reaction a sign that his marriage may be on the rocks? I've heard from my other friends that they have been fighting a lot.
I'll rate high!
yes, most probably their relationship isnt going very well. only people who are guilty or thinks exactly the same share a common reaction. :)and if you are thinking that maybe it was your fault that made him look terrible or sumthing, theres nothing to worry about because its not your fault. it was just a coincidence. :D
I'm a junior and on the prom committee with about 25-30 other people who cannot agree on a theme. Some of us want the traditional, formal, classy, starry, moonlit-looking, prom; but some people are trying to make it lame like a jungle theme. JUNGLE IS NOT PROMMMMM. how do i convince the rest of the committee that prom is a one-time deal and we want to remember it like it was all a dream?
A few of us girls decided on a paris-evening theme, with the dark city lit up on the walls and the eiffel tower, and that kind of thing so it's everything that any girl dreams prom would ever be.
No one in junior high or even elementary school dreams of their junior prom as being of a jungle or a luau. its just.. NOT prom material. I need to convince my fellow prom committee members just that. AND i need to convince them that it would be just as cheap as those lame themes would be.
Can anyone help me?! please.. its urgent. the next meeting is in 2 days. Thanks.
quick make a poll or survey or votation from people not in the committee.. make the majority of the student body voice out what kind prom they want. this way, the chances of having a luau or a jungle as a theme would be thin. hey! your are right! noone wants those to be themes on their first ever prom nyt!.. :)
my sister when i was little used to abuse me! and also when i was little my dad used to hurt my sister! and yell at her it's been about 7 years later and i have a problem......................
i hate when people yell! when someboody yells i kinda have panic attacks not that bad but like i start to loose my breath and i cant breath
and if somebody pretend hits me (like in a playing way) i get all nervous!
does anybody know whats goin on?
you obviously had a trauma because someone used to hurt you before. i used to get a little of that sometimes because i have been raised strictly. and i get punishments from belt-hittings. its ok, but if this panick attacks really occur frequently, then you should go see a psychologist. :) dont worry! you are not insane! its normal for kids and even adults who grew up from beattings. :)
14/f...so there was this guy who went to my school for the past 2 years but didn't come back this year. i liked him soooo much it was crazy and i flirted with him all the time. he liked me for part of the year last year and then stopped. everytime i think i'm over him i find myself liking him again. then, this year, at my friend's party, he was there but he didn't talk to me the whole time but we kept looking at each other and i found out he had a girlfriend. it was so awkward and ever since then even talking online is awkward and i don't know what to do because i want to be friends with him still even though i know it will never go farther than that but i feel like we can't talk anymore. what should i do??
tell him u want to be friends with him again. thats just it. be forward. but just as friends coz by the way you describe whats going on, seems like its going nowhere. move on hunny. :)have fun with your life as much as possible. :) find new guys, new friends and new expreriences. :)
i know you can do it.
A guy friend had told me that I had a good voice and had a lot of "talent". He started giving me voice and guitar lessons, and told me that one day he wanted to start up a band with me as the lead singer. We were getting along great, and both liked the same music (folk rock, like tom petty and neil young). Well for no reason at all he stopped giving me lessons. A couple of months later I found out from someone else that he had started up a band, and had a girl as the lead singer. I confronted him and asked him why he didnt invite me to join the band. He said that my voice needed too much training. Then I asked him if just me and him could work on my singing and he said no. So I did the only thing I could think of to keep singing, I joined a church choir.I've been told by the people in the choir I have a good voice, so I know I have what it takes to be a lead singer.My question is:Do I have a right to be upset with him? I think what he did was really mean. And why would he have told me in the beginning that I had a good voice if he really never wanted me in his band to begin with?
yes. you have the right to be upset with him. he literally led you on. it doesnt feel good being deceived huh?..anyway, there are plenty of people like that here in this world, all we have to do is be used to them. but dont give up without a fight. you did the ryt thing,you confronted him. anyway, look at the bright side. you had free voice and guitar lessons right??hehe.. :) you should know that its his band's loss that he let go of you rudely. its ok :) smile. afterall, you wouldnt want to be in a band with him ryt??!!.. i like that you sing with the choir now. its also a good training for you. GOODLUCK GURL!!
hey there! i know this may be a very common question, and i apologize greatly in advance....
There is this guy that I really like who is one year older than me,and have realized it after he seemed to have felt the same way for me too. He was always next to me, and whenever he's around (because his sister and I are friends) it gets incredibly awkward. What is contradictory is that on his profile, it says that he wants to meet his "special girl", and said that "this beautiful girl was on page 86", indicating the school yearbook. I soon found that he liked this girl, a senior. I don't understand... Why does he say that he likes this girl, but is always trying to sit next to me, and stares at me, but looks away? Should I just forget it?
I am a 15/f, and he is 16/male.
forget it. :) you obviously deserve better hunny. you deserve a guy who will look at you, and you alone. you desrve a guy who will be more than happy to show you off with his friends and family. you deserve a guy who doesnt simply flirt with you, but will be there for you through ups and downs. thats how i see it. i have been in that situation and it hurts ryt?... thats natural but it will pass soon. guys these age arent mature enough to handle a true lady. no, im not insulting the male species but thats the reality. :) hehe.. and for some reasons, i know LOTS of guys who do the same thing. they just like the feeling of having girls fall over them through flirting. hey, have fun also!! have fun flirting! play the game but do it your style!..take note, its only pure flirting. do attach it with feelings and emotions. have fun!
Hi, I am 15 and I will be 16 in March. My ex boyfriend broke up with me cause his parents were afraid he would get introuble with the law cause he is 19. We weren't doing anything sexual, is it still illegal to even date? I live in Michigan and I know the age for sex here is 16, but what about just dating?
Now he wants to wait till he moves out at the end of March or later to go back out. Cause he HAD to leave me or get kicked out of his house. Should I wait for him.. or move on? I really love him.. and he doesn't even know if we will ever get back together. I'm confused and heartbroken, any advice?
hmmm... i think a relationship wouldnt be able to grow especially if it is kept 'underground' without the knowledge of both your parents.
for now, i think you should move on. there is no use for a healthy and happy relationship if it is kept from our dear parents.
gurl, you are turning 16. You have to experience more of your life. you are young to be seriously heartbroken, move on and have fun.
for sure, this will hurt a bit, but in the end, you know you made the right decision. enjoy first! if both of you are meant together, then there is no doubt that your roads will cross again, no matter how old you get. make the best out of the present. there is this quote a frend of mine said: "if you want a very beautiful butterfly that will be yours and only yours,do not run after it. instead, open your arms and wait, for sure your own butterfly will come to you." :)
okay ima girl & i have 'pain' in the lower area. i'm not sexually active er anything. its kinda weird, like it almost feels like a cut er irritation & i'm not exactly sure what it is. i don't think its major as in going to the gyno. does anyone have any ideas what it is & if i should be worried about it er not??
see a doctor.. a physician or pediatrician..not necessarily a gyno immediately. they are the only ones who could know whats happening down there and how to treat it. self madication will not really do good. :)
i really like this guy. he had liked me but then he choose this slut who wanted to be his frist hook up instead of me, who actaully really likes him. He also leads me on all the time. i know he does it to me but then when he says things that are really cute i always fall for it and then he just leaves me. how can i get him to relize that im waayy better than her and that he would be better off with me??
this myt hurt if you read what my next sentence is but it is the what i see. FIND ANOTHer GUY. he isnt worth you love and affection. he chose the slut over you, then the slut goes with him. obvioulsy he is blind from the start. he didnt see the beauty in you. ITS HIS LOSS. we had the same situations b4 but im ok now because i know better. plus, you dont want to be just another notch in his bedpost. he chose the girl that he can screw easily. too bad. you have to agree with me, you want more from a guy than just sex. you will find someone who will like you from the start and will love you just as you are.
i got dumped for the first time last week. me and my bf had been going out for 4 months. it's been about a week since we broke up, and we have the same friends and free block at school. we end up hanging out and it's driving me crazy. he's loud and funny, always the center of attention. he's flirting with all these girls (who are my friends), and it just, well, hurts. i'm over him (this might sound mean but,) i hate seeing him happier without me than he was with me. prom is coming up and there's this guy, blake, who likes me, but i dont like him. and the guy i do like, carlos, is on a "break" with my friend, ana. what should i do to stop feeling so angry at my ex? and to find a prom date? should i go with the guy i dont really like, just as friends?
your ex is having a good time now, and YOU SHOULD TOO! have fun and live life. apparently, he has moved and you will too! and dont let him see that his "flirting" to other girls gets in your nerves. show him its OK! that it doesnt bother you anymore. gurl, you deserve a guy way better than him. :)
so if prom comes and you have noone special in your mind (do not include Carlos because this might trouble your friendship with anna), then you dont have to be with blake just for the sake of having a date. if you dont like him, you dont like him.thats all there is. dont force yourself. plus, being a stag has lots of advantages. because you can dance all the cute guys you want. hehe.. (note: lots of cute guys go stag so they can dance with all the pretty girls without having a consent of their dates). so its fun!
My best friend is a guy and i even dated him for almost 8 months but we broke and everything changed. He kinda went into this depression and started smoking and smoking weed. His mom recently died on Halloween, and it hurt him so bad. He usually goes to school high and im so worried he'll get caught and i'll never see him again. I've tried to talk to him about how its not ok and there are other ways of coping but all he says is that he loves mary jane... what do i do?!
Mary jane?..is she the new girl?.. anyway, since the both of you broke up, it means there arent or there still maybe some feelling between you. but what makes sense is that he is still your best friend. a best friends gott do what a bestfrend's gotta do! stay beside him no matter what happens. by doing this, he will sooner or later realize that you only want whats best for him. for some reason he'll know that without you telling him. stay close to him so that you could watch him. it is better seeing wrong things he do under your nose than not seeing it at all. ifever you are blaming yourself for what happened, dont. because you are doing your best to keep him in shape again.
i'd first like to say this is my first time getting back on this site for a long time and i looked back on my problems from before and this site has helped me one way or another somehow. well this time my problem is that its ether i have a problem with waking up so early because im a freshman in high school now.. witch would make sense except for the fact that i wasnt depressed at the begining of the year.. lets say the first nine weeks and a half.. i really started to notice it when my first high school boyfriend broke up with me. ever since then i cant become undepressed.. it seems like im doing it to myself.. well im trying as hard as i can to get threw whatever im going threw.. im getting my grades up so i can see my best friends more. (they all go to different high schools 6 of them!) um im also trying to eat more health because ever since the break up ive noticed ive been eating like a cow.. i gave up soda i think since summer.. and today i decide to give up choclate.. i had enough today to last me a life time.. anyway its a piece of cake to give up things like that for me.. even bread which is hard for other people.. well bread is the next step for me.. or pasta.. one of those well anyway i think u get the picture.. im trying to get everything good.. i dont know if anyone understands but i hope somone out there does.. well anyway i think im heartbroken and i dont know how to get over it.. i only went out with the boy for like a week and a half maybe 2.. but i liked him so much when i did.. at first when i was thinking of going for someone instead of him i thought i was breaking his heart.. it ended up that he broke mine..
i want you to know that you are doing a good job. seems to me like you are making a ryt decision for yourself. not everyone can face reality and do something about it quickly. i admire you. ;)
every person had experienced heartbkreaks, a lowering of self confidence. but its ok!... it is a part of being a teenager. what makes you keep stronger is by sharing ur concerns about yourself to ur trustworthy friends. afterall, thats why friends are made. to help each other out. self-help books also are really cool. this may not help you all the way, but it shows you the right path to go. sports are good 'forgetters of despair' also. :) having fun, will keep you from thinking about that guy.
hey, look in the bright side. there are millions of cuter guys out there!!...you dont have to dwell with only 1 guy (who moved on apparently). live life!! you owe it to yourself.
hey i was just wondering: what is the difference between ethics and morality? i've asked around, but people couldn't give me a good explaination, just said it was different. i looked it up and it basically said the same thing. if it is different, how is it?
ethics vary from diff. cultures and backgrounds. it is what people have cultivated like rules to show mainly respect, honor and dignity depending on the culture's own society.
morals are what every people innately know. it is what every human being's conscience dictates.
I Have been feeling depressed for almost a year now, and I have read nearly all the articles posted about depression, but none of them really help me. I took the first step of talking to a trusted adult, who was one of my former teachers. She tried to help me by calling my mom and referring me to different counselors. But this made my mom very angry. My mom refuses to let me see a counselor, and she is not allowing me to have contact with my teacher either. I don't understand why, but I think it's because my mom feels like I am placing blame on her for my issues. Now I feel so alone because I have no one to talk to. I want to call my teacher, but my mom would be very angry if she found out. What else is there left for me to do if counseling is not an option? I fear I will keep getting more and more depressed like I have been. Please respond to my question, I really need your help!
depression will diminish if you want to. it depends mostly on your decision. it is your choice if you want to start a new chapter in your life rather than dwelling on it over and over again.
frends are what always help us. if counseling is not an option then try to just talk with the people you trust. people who you know will listen to you is a good alternative. if you are a catholic, talk to your priest, if u are a christian, talk to a preacher...and so on. thats part of their job actually, to help people out. lastly, u could always talk to your dear mom. :)
ok i have this friend and him and i dated for a long time and well u see he had to brake up with me because his PO said so. ok so here is the thing i still want to be friends with him and i know he still likes me andi still like him but i know we could never be toghter again but when ever i talk to him my heart sinks like to the floor. what should i do
it is natural to still feel the love inside you. but the thing is, if he still likes you, he should make a move. it is only but a natural thing for a guy to do something about the situation. id he stays rigid and doesnt make a move, then probably he doesnt feel the same way you do anymore. its ok to cry if thats what you feel. but sooner or later, your feelings will diminish also.
you know you deserve a guy who wouldnt break up with you just because somebody said so.
p.s.: dont show him that ur crying over him, keep it discreet. stay strong. have fun with your friends, who afterall have always been there for you. that way, you wont think on and on about him because you are having fun yourself.
So my gf and I have been going out for a month, we are 16 years old, what should I get her????
I love her a lot and am open to all ideas!
I hate high!
Cya when I see ya,
Hebasquash
hmmm... a serenade with the cooperation of ur pals would do.
its always flatters a girl,and makes her appreciate your efforts more. its as simple as that. plus, a girl inlove would expect expensive things from her guy. its the simple things that matter.
my friend showered a few petals to where her girl walks everyday in the school campus. then one of his pals blindfolded and escorted her to where the other guys and the bf is. the escort took her blinfold and there she sees the bf and his friends holding roses. and they all sang their theme song while each of his frends gave her a rose.