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Who do I turn to?
I Have been feeling depressed for almost a year now, and I have read nearly all the articles posted about depression, but none of them really help me. I took the first step of talking to a trusted adult, who was one of my former teachers. She tried to help me by calling my mom and referring me to different counselors. But this made my mom very angry. My mom refuses to let me see a counselor, and she is not allowing me to have contact with my teacher either. I don't understand why, but I think it's because my mom feels like I am placing blame on her for my issues. Now I feel so alone because I have no one to talk to. I want to call my teacher, but my mom would be very angry if she found out. What else is there left for me to do if counseling is not an option? I fear I will keep getting more and more depressed like I have been. Please respond to my question, I really need your help!
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Here's what I do when I get depressed...
1) you could fill that void by eating obsessively.
2) piss every1 off by ignoring them - have yur headsets from yur mp3 player on 24/7 in class, @ home, on the bus, @ work.
3) those cherry bombs down the toilet is always dimple-maker.
4) start experimenting with anything new; sex, drugs, rock n roll - what have you.
5) shoplifting is always neato!
6) Don't take everything so literally and serious. Know the sarcasm and irony in yur everyday surroundings like... say #'s 1 - 5 ? haha?
You smile yet? I know ya did. That was my ice breaker.
Okay down to business... I take it you must be in Junior high or High school, and I'm sorry you're feeling depressed, but I need to point out something very odd but serious about your situation...
You stated that your mother won't let you see a counselor. There's something you're probably not telling us - and the ball is bouncing off the walls.
People might tell you that counselors and shrinks are bullshit. Thats not true little byrdy. They are there for a reason. It's a profession for a reason, and you bet yur little heart they can help you - if you want to be helped. Now this thing with your mother still puzzles me - and since I only have a general comment from you about your situation... it seems to me that the only reason a mother might not want their own flesh n blood to seek proessional help is --- maybe they're afraid you might tell them something that may jeopordize something very important to them.
Nevertheless, I advise you to go and talk to your counselors at schoool. Try talking to your mother again about seeking help before you talk to someone. Tell her how you're feeling; if you're sad and unhappy, or feeling all alone and trapped. Cry your heart out to your mother for help first, afterall, your parents should be the first to know about any problem that you may have ok? It'll be all good -- problem may be just a communication gap.
Chin up and eyes to the sky little byrd...
you're on yur way to a brand new day!
~Infamous Trump~
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ok i'm goin to try and help you the best that i can. to start off i've been depressed for like 2 years, and i am on medication. some people say that medication really helps. well to me i think depressed people need to deal with their problems on their own. Who needs a counselor, when you have yourself. Trust me, i've been to plenty of counselors in my time and most of the time they're bullshit. they ask you the same things over and over again in different ways, like "how does that make you feel?" and stuff like that. but really getting over depresssion is all in your head. Rite now im actaully getting off all of my medication. and you know why? because i have the mentalitiy to get better. Its all in your head. If you think your depressed there are sites you can go on and do surveys and take test to see if you really are. But listen, you really need to be strong! if your mom won't help you theres really nothing that you could do about that. what could help relieve stress and maybe help you focus more on yourself is to try drawing or writing. Its a form of letting out your feelings. or even exercising and staying fit, it keeps your mind from thinking your depressed. im going to wrap this up. just breath relax and focus on your self. dont let people get you down. be happy about who you are because theres always somebody out there that has it 10 times worse than you, be thankful you are who you are. My aim is on my profile and so is my email feel free to contact me if you need to talk.. i'm here for you!
xoxo ash
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Does your school offer a free counselling service? Many do. If yours doesn't, perhaps they can point you in the direction of a local service that offers free and confidential emotional support to young people.
Your other option, counselling wise, is to research local/national free helplines. They exist for many subjects, and depression is a major area that people need support with. This call would be free and would not show up on your phone bill.
Finally, you could sit down and tell your mother exactly how bad you are feeling. She might be recognizing that she hasn't been a perfect parent, and you entering counselling would force her to confront her inadequacies. Reassure her that counselling is confidential, that she would not have to attend sessions (unless you both felt that was a good choice), and that you need the counselling to talk about you, not her - your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.
She may just need time to adjust, but she shouldn't hold you back from getting help for yourself. You could contact your teacher again, explain the situation, and ask her to not phone your mother. She may be able to offer other solutions.
Finally, contact your local health services and ask for a list of counsellors in your area - organizations and individuals. You should be able to find a local practitioner who offers sliding scales (less money for those who can't afford it).
Best of luck.
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Sometimes people aren't comfortable with the idea of something being wrong with their loved one. Your mom may be in denial. Try sitting down with her to explain how you're feeling and make sure she knows that you're not blaming her. Ask if she'll consider letting you see your family doctor. They can explain what's going on to your mom and help her to understand the options of treatment.
You might try talking to your school counselor. Explain the situation with your mom to the counselor so they understand that discussing it with her isn't going to help.
You can also try a youth crisis hotline. They're toll-free (so it won't show up on the phone bill) and available 24/7/365. 1-800-448-3000
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depression will diminish if you want to. it depends mostly on your decision. it is your choice if you want to start a new chapter in your life rather than dwelling on it over and over again.
frends are what always help us. if counseling is not an option then try to just talk with the people you trust. people who you know will listen to you is a good alternative. if you are a catholic, talk to your priest, if u are a christian, talk to a preacher...and so on. thats part of their job actually, to help people out. lastly, u could always talk to your dear mom. :)
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First, sometimes depression can be caused by what we eat.... eliminate soda pop, esp diet ones.... eliminate sugars and lots of flour products*(bread, pasta etc)..... and try to get enough sleep and exercise....eat veggies and fruits.... and try to get plenty of fresh air.... also give yourself quiet time for meditation or quiet baths or showers.... get away from loud noises and take walks and just do nothing.... I use to suffer from depression and when I cleaned up my diet it helped alot, I hope this helps.... don't give up.... if you access to a natural food store/health food store.... call them or go in and talk to them... there are some natural products on the market(especially some Chinese formulas)that actually help with depression....honest, I was married to a working herbalist and he saved my life several years ago...... I can give you his 800 phone number if you wish.... if you haven't any other resource closer to you.
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I believe that depression is something that you must overcome yourself. Though friends or counselors may help you get through depression, it's mostely something that YOU overcome yourself. One thing that really helped me get over my depression was taking in a really relaxing and time consuming hobby. Try ceramics, stitchery, drawing, etc. They all help express emotions and relieve stress.
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I know you don't want to go behind your mom's back but you realize that you're depressed and that you want help- that's the biggest step to take and not many people can admit that. you can't just ignore this.. I suggest you talk to the counsler at school- they're trained to do this. Ask your teacher at school if he/she can talk to the counsler first so it won't be too awkward talking to a stranger. I find it easier not to explain my problem, but to elaborate on it. Since we don't know why you're mom is acting this way, you owe it to yourself and your happiness to find help wherever you can get it. Good luck
peace
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Taking walks helps cure depression.
I guess you could always make your problem sound worse than it is.
You could also refuse to talk to her until she brings you to a counselor.
I've been there, it sucks. Just remember when you get out of depression, you remember why you love life so much.
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Mabye your mom is hurt because you didn't talk to her? Tell your mom that you feel really depressed and explain why. To her. Have a heart to heart. Then, later bring up the counceling (with her) again.
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Would mom let you see you regular family physician?
Honestly, unless you have a very extreme case, your regular doctor can be of help. If you need a different kind of treatment he can refer you to someone else.
Your mom may listen to a doctor. You can also let her know that whatever you are going through, it isn't her fault. :)
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