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My boyfriend beats on me.
im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?
**sleepiesheep**
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If I were you I would dump him imediatly. You do ont need someone who hurts you. The right man will come who you do love because of how much he loves you fro who you are and doesn't beat you. You don't need him if he is going to hurt you like that.
Hope that helps you
Love Meggs
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Your 13 years old hunny you shouldnt be hurt like that no one should you really should break up with him. Go get him some help anything! Tell an adult,teacher,police anyone that you trust. Im telling you break up with him.
<3 Brittany
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There is NOTHING you can do to change him, no matter how much love you give him or how nice you are. The best thing you can do is break up with him right now and never look back. He has NO right to do that to you. I'm sure everybody else has already said this, but really, it can't be stressed enough.
Since I've never personally dealt with it, I don't know what else to say except for that. If you want more information try: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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break up with this guy...QUICK.
i suggest telling an adult you trust or maybe even the police.
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Break up with him. Yea, you like him, but you can`t & shouldn`t be with some who beats you up. You need to tell your parents about this & don`t ever hang out with him again. It`s the right thing to do before things get way out of hand..
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If they aren`t love taps then you need to report this sweetie.. Tell your parents or try talking to him about it.. ♥Dez
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Get out of the relationship. Someone who loves you shouldn't beat on you. That's not love. Abusive people tend to be clingy, needy & controlling. Just, get out of the relationship & get him some help with a counselor because if he gets with another girl, the same thing is gonna happen to her. This relationship is no good.
&TiNA;
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that is physical abuse. get out of the relationship immediately, and even tell someone if it's that bad. there are so many other guys out there that will actually treat you right.
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Anyone that allows to be physically or emotionally abused, is very emotionally unstable, and has a low self esteem of themselves! Its only gonna get worse!
You are only 13. Youre too young to have a boyfriend, let alone one that beats on you.
Someone who loves you should never abuse you. Healthy relationships involve respect, trust, and consideration for the other person.
Abuse can sometimes be mistaken for intense feelings of caring or concern. Sometimes abuse can even seem flattering; actually excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all.
Abusive relationships get worse over time!! Emotional and verbal abuse frequently shifts to more over to threats or physical abuse, particularly in times of stress. Abusers are generally very needy and controlling; the abuse escalates when they feel they may lose their partner, or when the relationship ends.
Hun, you need to get out of this relationship!!!
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Ok well you could do many things.
1. you can try talking to him about it, it might help depending on the guy.
2. you can tell someone, if he does that to you, most likely he'll probably do it to other girls too, so if you get him help you will stop other girls from getting hurt.
3. dump him, if he doesn't listen to anything you say, or stop dump him. tell him you don't want someone who hurts you.
With all of these choices, you probably should tell someone. He needs help.
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Get rid of him he has no excuse to treat you like this. I know you realy like him but you realy need to get rid of him because he is not good for you! You should not have to worry about him scaring you. What about if he goes to far one day and realy hurts you one day? He needs to learn how to treat women and by staying with him you are letting him get away with hurting you.
Best of luck
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younggrandma answered Friday February 3 2006, 6:03 am:
Get out of this relationship now.
If someone cares for you, they do not beat on you. This boy does not even deserve a girl friend. You do not not deserve to be treated like this.
Dump him and tell everybody you can what kind of person he is. Including your parents. If he hurts you again, I don't care how young he is, call the police.
Here is a website for you to visit.
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Get out of this relationship now.
If someone cares for you, they do not beat on you. This boy does not even deserve a girl friend. You do not not deserve to be treated like this.
Dump him and tell everybody you can what kind of person he is. Including your parents. If he hurts you again, I don't care how young he is, call the police.
Here is a website for you to visit.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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Leave him.
Please go tp this site: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Or call: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
This sort of behavior almost NEVER gets better. It gets worse. In the year 2000, nearly 1,600 people in the USA were KILLED by domestic violence - and that's almost certainly an undercount.
And not only does it hurt you physically, it damages you mentally, too - people who stay in an abusive relationship for long very often get into NEW abusive relationships, even if they manage to leave.
So for your own sake, for the sake of the children you might have some day, leave him and call the police. He doesn't love you, because if he did, he wouldn't beat you.
You don't deserve to be treated that way. No one does.
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Hi Sleepieseep,
Unfortunately, you are experiencing a very serious problem at a very you age. The first thing I would say to you is that this is NOT your fault!!! The second thing you need to understand is that no good guy raises his hand to a woman, especially not a woman he cares for - ever.
You should run to the nearest adult you trust and tell them what has been going on, ideally this will be your parents.
There may be some wonderful things that you enjoy about him, but the fact that he hurts you negates all of them!
This problem should be brought to the attention of his family; it's not too late to make him realize that his behavior is unacceptable and needs to be corrected.
You need to like yourself enough to walk away from someone who doesn't like you enough or respect you enough not to hurt you. You deserve better!
Stay safe honey,
Gabrielle
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uhh...u realize im hurting also because of what you said. clearly the whole situation is WRONG. LOVE shouldnt hurt. i mean literally. you got to get out of this relationship. i know your feelings for him will always stay but he is beating you up! he has obviously a mental illness causing him to be violent. you are YOUNG! you do not deserve to get that kind of treatment early in your life, or probably ever. ladies are treated like a princess or a queen. they are fragile and respectable. hunny,chances are he wont learn from his mistakes if it is ignored or just passed by. want to look in reality, guys that are violent to their women stays violent till the end of time. yes it is sad but you got to step up for yourself and believe that you deserve better. believe that you need someone to nourish you; or even believe that you are so precious and full of self-respect that noone could make you feel inferior. you are a cheerleader, cheerleaders are condident and vivacious and full of fun.<i know because i am:)> thats why you need to get out of this relationship and make the most out of your teenage years. that is to have fun. you wouldnt want to waste your teenage years with his beattings ryt? :)
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