Wow. Its been a really long time since I've been on this name. I lost the password for this one and haven't been on this advice column for a while. My other one is ohxbaby. So yeah, I love giving advice, and if you like my advice just drop a question and I'll answer it A.S.A.P.
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Member Since: January 25, 2006
Answers: 35
Last Update: June 4, 2006
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heey everyone, my boyfriend just broke up with me and i have no idea how to handle this. i love his guy so muchh. i don`t know but i really need to get back with me. alright last night i was liek falling asllep at like 11 and i was waiting fo rhim to call me becuae his promised mee, and like at 4 he called me and he broke up with him i think he just was showing off to his friends but i know he loved me i absolutly know so. well, i cant sleep i can`t eat i can`tt do anything i love him foreever and alwasys and i need some help, or someone to talk to k thanks. (link)
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I went through the same thing with my boyfriend.
Some things that helped me:
Going out with friends, to the movies and such.
Even if it seems like you are to depressed, you will always have fun with you friends.
&& they were be there for you, if you want to cry they will listen.
Another thing is, do some type of sport or dance.
It will keep your mind off him.
What you DON'T want to do right after he breaks up with you, is talk to him.
It will just remind you of all the reason you loved him in the first place.
To this day I still love my ex, but I moved on. There will always be a part of me that loves him, but I don't think I'll ever get back with him.
He put me through a lot, and I wouldn't want to go through that again.
If you need someone to talk to about this, leave a message in my inbox. I would be happy to help you.
Or e-mail me at, sweetest_dreams24@yahoo.com.
I hope this helps.
Marta
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okay can you actually SEE sperm. i don't mean cum i mean like the actual sperm, like could you grab it. i thought it wasn't visible to the eye, but someone said you could like grab it!?
thanks!! (link)
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Okay.
Whoever told you can grab sperm was wrong.
Sperm are microscopic. You can't see them with the naked eye.
I hope that cleared things up.
Marta
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my parents are so quick to gudge anything about anyone. they make jokes about all my friends and make fun of everyone. OF COURSE NOT to their faces but to me. and its disgusting and it makes me really upset when they tell jokes about my friends or my boyfriend or just random people they see. its terrible, and i am NOTHING like that. and i know your gonna tell me not to worry about it but i am. what can i do to get my parents to stop??!!
(talking to them hasnt worked AT ALL!!!)
well thanks for taking the time to read this and please help me out!!
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My family is the same way.
I have always gotten upset and stuff when I heard them.
The best thing you can do if you have already tried to talk to them, is ignore them.
Don't let them get to you, they can think what they want about your friends and boyfriends, but don't let them sway your thinking.
I hated when my family did that, and eventually I just ignored them. It really helped.
I hope everything works out.
Marta
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Okay, so I was at this party one time, & this boy says that he likes me, & asks me out.
I had a BIG crush on him at the time, so of course, i said yes.
A few days later, he says that he was only kidding, & he didn't like me. He only asked me out because his friends dared him to.
On the last day of school, he asks me out... AGAIN. What am i supposed to do? Should i believe him, or not? (link)
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This is my opinion.
I think you should say no.
He def. doesn't deserve a second chance.
He played with you the first time.
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
&& even if he is sincere this time, he def. hurt you and messed with your head the first time, thats not fair.
Also, if its the end of the school year, than unless your planning on staying home all summer than there isn't really a point.
On the other hand, if you really like him, ask him if he is joking this time.
I hope this helped you out.
Good luck.
Marta
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My hairs about shoulder length, and layered. The lady wasn't supposed to give me layers, but she did, and I hate it. My hair is also too short, and I don't know what to do with it. I'm sick of pony tails or half ponytails, but the layers look bad when they're just straight ++ down, plus its too short to scrunch it. What should I do with it? (link)
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Well loose braids are cute, and if hair comes out its fine. I've seen a ton of girls wear their hair like that and its adorable. also, pinning some of the hair in the front back, so that only some of the layers show would work. Also, one braid in the back would look SUPER cute, and have some hair coming out at the front.
another thing you could do is curl it inwards like this http://hairstyles.free-beauty-tips.com/curly/layeredhairstyle.jpg
i think that looks cute.
i really hope this helped, i hate when people cut my hair all funky.
sorry if it doesn't, and i hope you find something!
Marta
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Okay so my boyfriend broke up with me not even a week ago, and we had all these plans for the summer and stuff like go camping, waterfall, etc. but he said we can still do all those things but as friends... I want some quotes that kinda tell him that hes going to miss what he had.. etc. so does anybody have any quotes that i could put in my profile that has to deal with all these "memories" were supposively going to make i guess im not sure how to word it but just like "oh your going to miss me sooner or later" or some quotes about doing things together in the summer as "just friends" please i'll rate 5's!! (link)
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I have a couple of quotes, since i just got a new sn i don't have ot many but here are some:
why do you spend all your time
watching life pass you by
hanging onto your pride
all that you can anticipate
hoping all your mistakes
will some how fade away....
we gave eachother up so eaisly
these silly little wounds
will never mend
i feel so far from where ive been
so i go...
and i will not be back here again
So go on
And sleep darlin
Why don’t you pretend we were just a dream
It’s cool baby
It doesn’t matter anyway
Well I’m so sorry
We got to the station a little too late
Such a shame
We just missed the train
I'm not sure if these are EXACTLY what you wanted. but I think their cute.
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i REALLY don't get this. there are [a lot of] people out there who cut, and say it's addicting. but doesn't it HURT? why would you want to do something again that hurt you? i heard that "it takes away the hurt from the inside" but i still don't get why people do it. it kina bothers me.. 13/f in case it matters. (link)
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It brings a sense of relief.
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OK, so here's the deal....
Well, I've been trying to break-up with my boyfriend for a little while but I don't want to hurt him. He REALLY likes me.I mean REALLY LIKES ME!! as in: gives me a kiss every chance he gets, he's given me one of his favorite necklaces, He's even talking about how he plans our future 2-gether! Another problem is, his mom and my mom are BFFs since his mom works at my mom's restaurant. I'm scared that his mom & dad are going to get mad at me because they know how much he likes me. I mean, he's a great guy and all, but I just don't feel it anymore. All the spark just went away. Please help.
Prettykitty77723 (link)
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You can't help who you do and don't like. I am sure if you explained that to your mom that she'd understand. If there is no spark you can't try and make one.
Some people click, some don't. He might be hurt at first, but explain to him what happened, that it wasn't him, you just didn't feel the spark. As for his parents, they probably will be upset, but I dont' think they would get mad. But than again I have never met these people.
Like I said, you can't help who you like and don't like. They should be able to understand that. I am sure they have be through the same thing at one time.
I really hope things work out for you.
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I need your help. I have been going out with this guy for five months now. He is a very nice person, he treats me well, and we have fun together.
The main problem is recently he lied to me. We were supposed to meet, but he did not appear. He claimed he was carjacked. He has keys to my house, so he went and took money and pretended the carjackers did it.
I want to forgive him but I'm not sure what to do. He asked for forgiveness and promised that this incident will never be repeated. Can I trust him again?
but i raelly luv him and i dont know what to do :(:( (link)
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If I were you, I would stay with him now. Since he hasn't done anything like this in the past. If he does something like that again, I would dump him.
What he did is pretty drastic, you don't steal from your girlfriend. You might want to find out if he or his family is in financial trouble and maybe thats why he did it.
Also, he could be stealing from other places. You probably should talk to him.
I hope everything works out for you, five monthes is a long time.
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can anyone give me the codes to make your font bigger and differnt colors thanks ill rate all 5's
[ xoxox ] (link)
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another way to make you font bigger is
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well i like or liked (i totally dont know what to think anymore? ) this guy named peter! and well i think he liked me back and he always smiled at me but i'm kinda shy so i never smiled back. so once in my bus he sat next to me and talked to me but i was in a bad mood and very mean to him! well not THAT mean but kinda mean lol so then he never talked to me again but sometimes he still looked at me. so i felt bad and i called him on saturday i was like
me: hi my name is cornelia can i please talk to peter
peter: yeah i'm peter
me: oh well hi its me you know that mean girl? uhm yeah so i just wanted to appologize for being so mean!
peter:uhuh
silence..
me: so is everythink ok again?
peter: uhh yeah
silence
me: ok than
silence
peter: bye
me: bye
and well that was it and it totally went wrong!and when he said bye it sounded like he didnt even wanna talk! i thought he would say like ok i except it or whatever but he said nothing at all? does he hate me now? i am really upset! i think he's gonna tell everybody now that i called him and then there all gonna laugh at me! but i dont get it! he even told me he loved me once (i was kinda mean then 2) but i tried to be nice now! he act like he didnt care! i need advice i'm really upset!!!! i dont wanna see him anymore and today ( i know its stupid so dont laugh) i even skipped school because of that cause i was really scared people would make fun of me cause i called a guy ( cause normally i'm like the person who dosnt even know what the word "love" means and i dont have any friends yet cause we just moved here so i'm alone than) im scared to go to school now and thats really weird! please help! oh and please dont delete this cause i really need advice and i dont wanna write the whole question over again.
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Well, it kinda sounds like this one kid that used to go to my school. He was just really flirtacious and would come sit with me and talk to me and stuff. I understand why you would want to skip school, but don't be scared of people making fun of you. If they have nothing better to do than w/e screw them. Plus if he actually takes the time to tell people that you called him to apologize, is he really worth getting all upset over? I don't think he was expecting the phone call, thats another reason he could've been silent. He is probably used to girls treating him like that or something. I don't know if this helped or not, but I hope it does.
Signed,
Extremely tired advicenator becuase its 7 in the morning
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i was wondering about codes, like codes to make text bigger, italicized, bold, and things like that. But the code that i reallyy would like to know is how to change the text color! SO, if anyone could give me that code or give me a site to get that code i would realy apreciate it :] Ill rate i promise!! (link)
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NO body put how to change the text. so this is the cold
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ok so for lent i'm promising myself to walk the dog atleast 1 a week, do 15 situps a day, eating healthy (tho i can never do it) and practice soccer and tennis whenever i can....what else can i do to get results....FAST?
please please help! i'll rate and comment....thanks. (link)
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Ok, well what I do is
50 sit ups
50 leg ups
30 push ups
than drink a bottle of water (it flushes out your system and makes you loose weight)
than I work with my arms with dumbbells
that are like 5o pounds
if you do this everyday, I sometimes see results within a week.
Hope this helps.
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im 13/f and i've just gotten my first boyfriend. He thinks of it as serious and so do I, he got me a dozen roses for Valentines and had them delivered to my 6th period class. I really like him and I wand to kiss him. I know this sounds incredibly stupid but does anyone have any advice because I'm really nervous and I don't know what to do and we're going to the movies saturday and I'm pretty sure he's gonna... (link)
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Before your first kiss its always nerve racking. But once it happens you feel so relieved and you want to kiss ALL the time lol.
When he leans in for the kiss, don't just sit there, kiss him back, if he starts to make out or w/e and your farely new at this, pull away. You can't be forced into something the first time. Don't move right before he kisses you because he'll think there is something wrong with him or you don't like him. Jus tgo with the flow, I know this is very vague ,but you can't really go step by step through a kiss because everyone is different. I really hope I helped. Just relax, everyone is nervous during their first kiss.
Marta
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so my boyfriend and i just had sex for the first time together...he was a virgin i was not...and we both love eachother and so we both decided we didnt want to have "kinky", "horney" sex...we wanted loving, passionate sex..so when we were having sex i expected it to be amazing...but i was kinda dissapointed cus i thought he would look at me , or telll me he loved me while we were doing it...but he dditn..he did not look at my face the whole time...and he didnt say he loved me once....was he just using me for sex..? (link)
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Most likely not, if he's a virgin hes really new at this and probably didn't know what to do. Next time just say it to him, and than he'll know that thats the tyep of stuff your supposed to say.
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Alright so me and my bf broke up 2 days ago but we are still basicly together nd tryin to fix things... the problem is I dont really want to i dont think. I dont know how I would be able to just end it with him without telling him straight out. Im not good with that sort of thing
People always tell me how i can do so much better and that he is just an ass and all this stuff But i dont think I can do better..
What should I do?
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I had the same problem.
I ended up doing thw rong thing, I waited it out until he didn't like me anymore. I realize now that was a bad choice because I had to wait a really long time, and I couldn't show that I liked anyone because I was afraid of hurting him.
You have to tell him flat out how you are feeling, if you don't he'll keep on thinking he has a chance with you and might not ever stop likign you.
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are so i recently got side bangs and i love them but they only look good if i wear my hair half up half down or up all the way or braids...they look bad if i wear my hair down cause i dont know..i have straight hair..does anyone know any other cute hair styless
ill rate high for tryin =] (link)
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You can wear your hair in one braid on the back of your head, but beware, this looks good on some people, on others it dosen't, so try it out the night before school to see if it looks good.
Also you can try to braid your hair (when dry) so there are lose waves in it, and leave your bangs straight, that would look cute. Also, if you are more sophisticated you can wear your hair in a regular bun, with a cute flower clip or something, I do that sometimes.
I hope this helps.
Marta
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I was going out with this guy cody for a while then we kind of drifted apart and didnt talk much so i told him i thought we should break up maybe and he said fine now he ignored me on yahoo wont answer my calls and avoids me at school then last night i stayed up for 1 1/2 hours begging him to take me back and he said he'll think about it but i couldnt believe how eaasy it was for him to just throw me aside like that but when we were together he was SO sweet he wrote me poems and always told me how much he loved me but then theres another guy ive kind of been telling about this and now i really want him too and we just click so fantastically you wouldnt even believe and hes so nice and so sweet but i just dont know who to choose i hate this cause i feel like im toying with them both but i do love them each i just dont know what to do if you can help id appreciate it thanx
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well he kinda has the right, you were the one who broke up with him the first place. I think he is just using that fact to toy with you and to prolong telling you her really likes you still, he wants you to feel some of the pain he felt after you dumped him. You can't blame him for it tho.
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I'm 13 and in seventh grade. one of my best friend has a boyfriend. her boyfriend told me that his friend liked me. i didnt even no who he was but then i got to no him and he is so cute and nice and always is making me laugh. i really like him a lot. just last friday we had a dance. and before i got there 2 of my friends went up to him and was like "do you like lor?"(me) And hes said "yeah but.." and then just walked away. when i got there they go up to him again (when im not with them) and was like "are you going to ask her to slow dance or something?" and he goes "i can't i have a girlfriend.." there just like "what? i thought you liked her" and hes like "i do i just have a girlfriend" so my friends tell me what happened and i got pretty upset but of course i didn't show it. i am so confused. but instead of dancing i was just with him the whole night. i like him so much and one of my friends was with me and there like "omg he is so going to brake up with his girlfriend for you he keeps flirting with you" and i wanted it to be true but i dont no what to believe. i saw his girlfriend.. but the only commmunacation they did all night was say hi.. they didnt even slow dance together. im so confused and i dont no what to do =[ please help. (link)
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I know everyone already said this but, tell him you like him, the worst that can happen is that he doesn't break up with his girlfriend. In that case, he's a jerk for leading you on, and for ditching his girlfriend for you in the first place.
hope this helps
Marta
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ok i have pretty big feet;
they are not out of the ordinary but they are kinda big.
size 11 in womens.
i am 13 years old. and in 8th grade.
everyone and i mean everyone
makes fun of my feet;
i also have bunions;
and everyone makes fun.
even people that are not even in my friendship 'circle' is like wtf?!?!
i always wear UGGS to hide them and stuff
what should i do
i mean the joking is ok, too my face.
but ppl are doing behind my back
and it hurts.
help.
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Caralyn!
You punk!
The only reason people talk about your feet behind your back is cuz their jealous. You can kick their ass*es (literally) haha.
You know I love you.
Don't care what others think
Cuz yeah...their dumb
mucho love sista
Marta
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